Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 7/14/2009

Question
How do u attrick women when u have two kids, seems like their scared
away or only want tell me how to raise I don't know what to do.

Answer
Hello Bryce!

Dating when you have kids can be something of a challenge. Frankly, it's not as much of a problem for men however as it is for women. Very few men want a ready-made family. Women tend to be more flexible with this however.

You can't exactly hide your kids however. If you do, you'll look like you're ashamed of them - not a good thing for any relationship. On the other hand, that shouldn't be your lead-in either:

"Hey I have two kids! Want to date me?"

The best bet is to not make them a big deal. Mention them in passing as you're getting to know someone - maybe on the first or second date for instance.

Obviously, you have to make sure the kids are handled if you're going to date. Don't expect your date to babysit. This is part of showing her that you're both grown-up enough to have a relationship and to not make your family any sort of burden on a budding relationship. What you'll find is that by trying to impress you, she'll also be trying to impress the kids.

By that time, you're in!

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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