Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 9/25/2009

Question
i'm 23yrs old guy and i've been with a lot of girls about 15 girls since i started love(proposing) while i was age 15.my problem is by the time i reach 21 i've been raped by a 28yrs old woman who have 2kids.i was having a(1)girl friend at that time.that woman come to me several times and telling me about how much she love me but i refused because she was old for me and she got kids but she was separeted from his man(divorced).she was having a lot of money ,she used to give me and still i refused her cash.she kiss me every where while i;m washing tv with her.even if i tell her not to come to my room she just come in.one day she come in while i was outside and take the key off my door by the time i get in she smile at me and lock the door .i thought that is a joke and she through the key out side the window and take her dress out and reveal her asset on me.i was su angry and try to sreen but she was having a gun and i keep quit u know what gun is a pain or grave.everything she was saying i did.she fucked me the whole night giving me blow jobs until i was weak,weak.tommorrow she cried and tell me did u know that i'm the only woman in the world i love u and she gave me lot of money and said don't arrest me because when i come out you will be a grave i trust her.she was having spare key that woman is the beautiful woman her beviour towards to me was not good.she gave here number phone every contactfor her even where she work i got contacts.later that week she moved out of the residents and she gave me money again because people saw me the way i react when i see her.i'm university student and i'm staying off campus.i don't know that is love or is the quenceqences of staying off camp or she was using me or she have a certain natural felling about me.i was worrying about may be she gave me HIV/AIDS but i tested many times i di'nt find anything.since that time i dont have passion for any lady on the street i hate girls now even my mom use to ask me what happed to you my boy no one knows only me.i try to sleep with my girl friend but i wa'snt have any felling for her even now i don't have girlfriend even if they try to hello at that side i dont have felling for them.and i use to find that woman in town several times when i'm there and she tread me so speacial.what can i do toget my life back to normal.when my friends talk about there girl friends i ignore them because my mind is not on them.that woman she 's not from my country and i can't love her she is old respecting my culture as well is important and she 's not my type.what can i do.please help me i'm stressed

Answer
Hello Kenneth!

This is a very severe situation. You need to seek counseling right away - don't wait. Your university probably has someone available for you to talk to.

Don't wait - do it right now. This isn't going to get better by itself. You need to get some help for all of this.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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