Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 1/31/2010

Question
Hey, Me and My best friend are really close, we know everything about each other accept she doesn't know my true feelings for her.

i really really like her and have done now 4 ages, my best friend has a boy friend but she never spends time with him and hes just using her but she cant see that.

any good tips how to get her 2 fall 4 me?, i no she must have some feelings for me as we have done stuff 2 gether before.

Answer
Hello Tom!

So, he's using you just like she's using you? She doesn't get attention from her boyfriend so you give it to her and that way, she doesn't have to feel alone when her boyfriend isn't around. The problem is that you're doing everything you can do to prevent any sort of relationship!

Tom, here's the reality: it's extremely unlikely that you are going to turn her into something more than a friend at this point. It does get done in rare instances, and every time I tell some guy that, he starts thinking "Great! I have a chance!" No Tom, you likely don't.

I'm not trying to burst your bubble here, but I want you to understand that you've already screwed yourself by becoming her friend. Girls don't date their friends! In fact they have a mechanism built right into them to prevent it!

I know you're not going to believe me, so I want you to go to my website (http://BeingaMan.com) and read my FAQ's. You'll find them under "Self Help" - the button on the left.

There are three articles there that will help you.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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