Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 2/23/2010

Question
Hi Doc,
  Im in my early 30's and guess you can say a late bloomer.  I have a blind date set this weekend.  I mean i've talked to this women via phone but never met. Shes a bit younger at 23 but says she prefers older guys.   Shes also a real Feminist and very opinionated which is going to be fun.  Ill probably piss her off in the first 5 minutes.  Anyway shes mentioned that a lot of the guys shes met the past year were either skeevy or boring and too closeted.  Which brings me up to my question.  Do you have any tips on how not to be considered boring?  I think im good at asking questions to getting her talking about herself and her own ideas.  But me, I can be tough to read and not overly expressive.  I can hold a conversation but being aggressive and making the first move is something that definitely needs some work.   Any advice would be great.

Thanks

Answer
Hello Chris!

I don't know this girl, her beliefs or anything about her. I can't tell you what she finds "boring" or not any more than I can tell you what YOU find boring.

If you're asking me what women find attractive in men, that's an entirely different question and far too large for this forum! I've written entire books on this subject (which you should read by the way).

I also don't know what you mean by "being aggressive" or "making the first move". You already have a date with her - isn't that a "first move"?

Best regards...

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