Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 2/11/2010

Question
so im a college guy who has this crush on this girl..we've been friends since november and she knows i like her because i always flirt and i asked her out the second week we knew eachother..she said no because she wasn't ready for a relationship..so i asked her out to the movies to valentines day on valentines day and she said yeea...what should i do when we get to the movies?? and am i TRAPPED in tha friend zone FOREVER!!???

Answer
Hello Tayon!

I don't know if you're trapped yet, but if you don't make some moves here, you're going to be.

What separates two people that are dating from two that are just hanging out as friends? Simple: connection - both emotional and physical. That means that you need to engage her emotionally (don't just try to entertain her - ENGAGE HER by finding out about her and letting her find out about you on much deeper levels) and connect with her physically by touching (even accidental is good), holding her hand and kissing her.

Up until now it looks like you've been building a friendship - not a relationship. That's a huge mistake that if you don't get turned around is going to force you to have nothing more with this girl.

Also, ignore the things she says about not wanting a relationship. That's pure garbage. Of course she wants a relationship! This is simply misdirection. Watch her actions instead. They say everything her words do not.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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