Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 2/17/2010

Question
Hey, my name is thomas, and there is this girl that i really like, but i`m unsure if she likes me back. She has stared at me sometimes.....for example....recently she stared, and, when i looked at her, she began to laugh and sort of giggle. She often spends the weekends at my house, to hand wit my sis, and is basically a part of the family (although i think of her in a different way, obviously). Anyways, when we`re watching tv, she`ll usually sit right beside me.

And one tme, when there was no seat available, she actually scooted back on the bed so i could sit there. One time when i had went to the store, and came back (she was in the hallway leading to the outside door of the apartment) and opened the door, she almost immediately started randomly dancing. I just said 'what are you doin?', with a bit of a smile'. Also, one time, at my house, when i was near the stairs going to the basement, she seemed to purposely bump into me.

Also, she often finds reasons to touch me as well. For example, the other day when she first came ova the house, she walks up (i was on the computer) and asks me "does my hand feel cold?" (it actually felt very warm, despite the temperature outside), while placing her hand on my cheek. She also playfully hits me in the head when she walks by most times.

Also, recently, when she was on a diet (not exactly starving herself) because she thought she was a bit fat (although she is 'thick', but in a good way...kinda like nicki minaj, except a bit more chubby in the upper area), though i think she`s beautiful. Anyways, i told her (on myspace) that she shouldn`t do that, and that she should eat more, particularly because sometimes she had been complaining of stomachaches. Anyways...she actually listened to me.

She usually always tells me over myspace when she`s about to eat, or have eaten, and i also found out she saved my message to her, where i stated she should start eating more, adding that i think she had a nice body, and that she might lose it. Anyways.....does she like me?....I`m not sure....because sometimes it seems as if she doesn`t.

One more thing to add. She generally laughs at basically every joke i make......though they are a bit funny....but, she seems to laugh at just about every one of them. For example, the other day, i was making fun of my lil sis, and she basically laughed at every come back i said.

Answer
Hello Thomas!

Yes, she likes you. It's often very difficult to tell with most girls because they are experts at keeping their real feelings hidden in an attempt to get you to make some move, but...

You need to understand something about girls: it doesn't matter if they like you or not. You're not usually going to get such a clear signal from them. That's important because if you wait around for them to show you some sign, they'll be gone before you figure it out.

Even more important is this: you can CREATE attraction if you know how. You shouldn't worry about whether a girl likes you or not. It's enough that YOU like HER and should already act on that. Life only gives you so many opportunities and if you don't take them, life seems to stop giving them to you.

Now, with this girl...

You need to pull the trigger here. It's extremely low-risk, trust me. The very next time you see her just say, "I barely know anything about you. Let's get together next weekend and go have some fun." Then, plan something simple like a picnic or hitting the mall and window shopping or whatever. Don't pick a movie or concert - you need some face time with this girl.

Tease her a little and treat her a little like your bratty little sister. Have fun with her, hold her hand and kiss her! These things will all lead to something more.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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