Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 2/8/2010

Question
Hi i am a boy, hardly reaching 16,i like a girl,she is my tution mate. Since i know her i m unable to talk to her. When she come against me i can't even be able to just say a hello! To her. Please tell me how can i start conversations with her? Will she ever accept me in her life. I really love her so much and cant concentrate on any thing else except her. Help me to know her my feelings.

Answer
Hello Shivam!

First of all, why are you giving away all your power to her? You "love her so much"?? How can that even be real - you don't know this girl?

You see, by giving away all that power, you also give away the very tools you need to get to know her! This is a choice you make - not something that happens outside of you.

Meeting girls is simply a game - nothing more. You don't know the rules to the game and thus, you aren't doing well within it. In fact, it's really easy to start a conversation with someone, but you have to control your need to give away everything up front. This is about self discipline. If you don't have this, all you can do react - not move forward in a planned, controlled way.

Here's where you need to start: go to my website (http://BeingAman.com) and click on "self help". From there, read my FAQ's about starting conversations. Then, take back that control and focus on what you want to do - to talk to this girl and get to know her.

Stop giving away all your power just because you have no skills. They are available just for the asking.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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