Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 5/13/2010

Question
QUESTION: Hello doc,

         I met this girl at a boutique recently when i was getting a girt for my mum. She was working at the boutique. She looked really good and i wanted to get to know her. I did talkt o her abit, but it was merely about the blouse i wanted to get. I asked her for wad size she would wear. She told her size and then asked me whether i was getting it for my girlfriend. I told her no it was for my mum. She laughed. And then she told me that if the size wasnt right i could still go back and change within ten days. And yeah the size wasnt right and i am going to go back. Yes i know whatever happened between us was merely customer-salesperson talk. But i want to get her number when i go there the next time so that i can start talking to her more and hopefully get her to be my girl. So what should i do? Please help me.. Thanks!

Darren

ANSWER: Hello Darren!

I hope your mum liked the "girt".

What you do here is use her job as a reason to move forward. It's actually very simple. Just say that you've enjoyed meeting her but you don't want to disrupt the business. Say "Here, write down your number and I'll call you some time next week so we can get together and do this again."

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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QUESTION: Hello once again doc,

         Sorry for the spelling mistake, i meant gift haha. But i want to ask, isn't it abit weird to ask her for her number like when i have only seen her once? Don't you have to know her at least abit well for her to be confident about giving her number? Moreover i dont think she remembers me.. So izzit really okay if like after changing the blouse i tell her that i dont want to disturb her while she's working but i want to get to know her better or sumthin like that? What would be a good thing to say so that it wont seem weird to her? Do girls really give away their numbers so easily?


Darren

Answer
Hello again Darren!

Yes, it's weird if you're trying to hide the fact that you're interested in the girl. On the other hand, how is hiding all your intentions and interest ever going to get you what you want in this world???

No, you don't have to know her any better! That's what dating is all about! You're trying to hold your dates before you even have one! It doesn't matter whether she remembers you or not. You can go in there and say, "Hey there! I remember you from the last time I was here. You seemed kinda nice. Are you nice or was that just an act?" (This will come off funny if you play it right.) Then, you can go into how you don't want to get her in trouble at work and that she should write her number down and you'll call her sometime next week, etc.

Yes, girls give out their numbers that easily - if they feel a good reason to do so. Digits are the keys to the door of dating!

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
President/CEO
~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.
Remington Publications
BAM! TV
818.334.8826
http://beingaman.com
http://beingaman.tv
Publishers of "Being a Man in a Woman's World I & II"
Producers of "BAM! TV"