Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 6/19/2010

Question
QUESTION: Hey Tim!

1. Power is the perceived value you hold among others.
2. No. Confidence is belief in yourself and your direction.
3. Partially. You have a SENSE of what's funny.
4. Yes, but just being yourself isn't enough - you have to be your BEST self - and be able to communicate that.
5. You EXPRESS your masculine side - and know what it is.

You TRY to be the guy you THINK is what girls want. The problem is that they want something different than you think.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
President/CEO
~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.
Remington Publications

www.beingaman.com
Publishers of "Being a Man in a Woman's World I & II"

I have to make a new question, too many followups :(

But I have a good/great 4/5 of the top 5. According to what other people (including adults) tell me:
1. They say I am amazingly intelligent, and I have a better chance to have a great future than 99% of the people they know.
2. I believe in myself 99.99%, I have been told that my confidence turns into arrogance on occasion. (Not sure if this has anything to do with it) I have not cussed and will not cuss, there are many times I could easily cuss, but I don't, because I believe its better.
3. I laugh when others laugh, and I can make almost any person I talk to laugh. Unless they are emo/gothic and refrain from laughing.
4. This is my basis of living! I have absolutely no problem doing this.
5. I may just be a little feminine, but I used to be called gay cause I was so feminine. But I play the toughest high school sport, wrestling, is that conveying my masculine side?

As I've said before. I don't try to be anything, I am what I am. I may wrap the words in a way that fits who I am, but I don't change myself to fit the words.

ANSWER: Yo! Tim!

This is turning into an argument. Ok, fine. You're perfect in every way possible and it's not you, it's the rest of the world that is screwed up.

Here's my last attempt: throw away everything (and I mean everything!) you think you know and start from scratch. You're too arrogant to even see you're ignorant.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
President/CEO
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Remington Publications
BAM! TV
818.334.8826
http://beingaman.com
http://beingaman.tv
Publishers of "Being a Man in a Woman's World I & II"
Producers of "BAM! TV"


---------- FOLLOW-UP ----------

QUESTION: I realize this is turning into an argument...

I'm sorry if I'm being arrogant, I'm just like that. I know I'm ignorant, or else I wouldn't come here. I am just giving what you say adapted to me, not saying I'm perfect or anything. I may come off like it, but I know my flaws, and I know I'm not perfect. I just wanted to ask somebody knowledgeable about this. I want to have a relationship, but I have no idea what I'm doing wrong. I put my best self out there, and from everything I've heard and read, my best self fits most of what girls want.

I thank you very much, you are the fourth person I asked, and the only one that didn't say they couldn't answer the question. I'm giving you 10's in everything. But I want to ask one last question.

Do women ever think "He's too good, he must be fake." at all?

ANSWER: Hello Tim!

The problem is that every time I tell you what's up, you tell me how everyone else or yourself or your dog or whatever says otherwise. If they're the experts, feel free to listen to them and you don't need to waste your time writing to me.

Think of a blackboard that is totally full with calculations, doodles, scribbles, etc. There's no more room there for anything of value. That Tim, is your brain. You don't have any room for REAL answers because you've filled it with half-truths, misunderstandings and downright falsehoods.

Now, take an eraser and clear the board and start all over again from scratch.

You see, you're going to find that people will try to fill your blackboard with all sorts of things - very little of which is of any real value.

They'll tell you things like "just be yourself" and "eventually some girl will see what a great guy you are", etc. The problem is that these are just "feel-good" pieces of "advice" and don't really help you with anything. You have to resist this sort of thing cluttering up your blackboard, or when some real advice comes along you'll have absolutely nowhere to put it and it'll get lost to history.

No, women don't think "he's too good" they START with "he must be fake". This is where the problem you're having with girls begins.

Get our your eraser.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
President/CEO
~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.
Remington Publications
BAM! TV
818.334.8826
http://beingaman.com
http://beingaman.tv
Publishers of "Being a Man in a Woman's World I & II"
Producers of "BAM! TV"


---------- FOLLOW-UP ----------

QUESTION: Ok, again I thank you.

And I lied (I guess >.>), I have another question now.

After a girl thinks "he must be fake" how do you get out of that? I may have an idea but as you said, forget all that, so you will most likely get alot of basic questions from me.

Answer
You start acting - and BEING genuine.


Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
President/CEO
~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.
Remington Publications
BAM! TV
818.334.8826
http://beingaman.com
http://beingaman.tv
Publishers of "Being a Man in a Woman's World I & II"
Producers of "BAM! TV"