Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 6/13/2010

Question
hi , iam 26 year guy, but i look cute from face and having average physique,doing job, i proposed a girl of 18 years of age, who was close to me , my mom and her mom are best friends, i use to send mails last 6 months , we were good friends, but when i proposed her, she told that she treats me as her cousins, she is 2 cms more height than me.what should i do i love her very much? Pl, she is very cute and naughty.after proposal i convinced her to be my friend but not  a cousin, she agreed to be my friend but at a condition- if i remove such feelings for her.what should i do?plz guide me.

Answer
Hello Pavan!

First of all, you've got to get this notion that you're in love with someone that you've never actually met and spent any real time with (in person) out of your head. That absolutely is not the case. You don't love her, you don't even know her.

Second, you've waited way too long here. 6 months of email? You've killed off your chances with her! When you get that "cousin" or "brother" or "friend" thing from a woman, it's game-over. You have no chance of turning this around now!

Here's what you need to do: you need to end all communication with her. You need to delete her email address, remove anything you have that reminds you of her and get healed so you can meet someone that you can REALLY fall in love with. Then, don't spend 6 months - or even 1 month - emailing back and forth. Meet this girl and start to build something REAL.

Everything you think you feel right now exists only in your head. Sorry, it's true.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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