Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 6/15/2010

Question
how can i win her hear? here is more info

I am just trying to find the Perfect girl and my friend asked out this girl because he thought she was hot and she said no because she didn't know him so then he asked if she would let him get to know her and she said yes so they got to know each other over the next two and a half months and the whole time they didn't meet up once and then they dated but they didn't date just because he thought she was hot he found out that they had A lot in common and now they have been dating for almost a year and they are a perfect couple so i am wondering if you think that i should do the same thing but i am wondering also if i should introduce my self the same way by just asking her or by becoming friends and if we become friends how do i introduce my self because this will be someone ive never talked to before also i am 13 and i don't want any short answers i want a long serious answer explain exactly how i should go at this im not saying that im looing for the perfect girl im saying that i want to know how i should start a conversation and tal to someone and how should i get to know them so dont tell me theres no perfect girl thats not what im saying

Answer
Hello Jagan!

What's the matter? Are you allergic to periods (".") or something? Jagan, this is one long run-on sentence and it's almost impossible to know where one thought ends and another begins. Perhaps that's the real problem here: you don't have any clear thoughts, you're just running in place and not getting anywhere.

First of all, friends and girlfriends are VERY different things. You can have either one or the other but not both. If you go for being friends first, that's all you'll ever have.

If you go to my website (http://BeingAMan.com) and click on self-help, you'll find my FAQ's. There, you'll see some articles on how to start conversations.

What you're asking for is for me to train you via this one message. It doesn't work like that. If you want training, I suggest you read my books. What I can do here is answer specific questions for you.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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