Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 7/19/2010

Question
hi doc, i have been having this doubt for a long time. How do get things started between you and a random girl u dont even know? My prom is coming at the end of the year.. My friends have been saying they have their targets set and want to have sex with their different targets at the end of post prom. I want to also but is it so easy to have a sex with a girl just like that. Very often my friends say its all abt playing the game. What is that game then? How do you 'play'? What should i do because i want to have sex with a girl frm my skl before i leave. Pls help me out by telling me what i shld do. Thanks alot doc! - Bent

Answer
Hello Bent!

Yes, it's easy if you know how. The challenge is that there are a lot of steps along the way.

I call this "conversion". For instance, you "convert" the first time you see a girl into an approach. You "convert" an approach into building rapport and connection. You "convert" R&C into a close (for digits, dates, sex, etc.)

You also convert all along the way. For instance, you "convert" those digits into dates, dates into sex and sex into relationships. Each of these conversion steps have their own methodologies - and most have more than one.

Now that I've made it seem complicated, let's try to make some of it easier. Your friends are right - it IS about the game, but more specifically it's about LEARNING the game. If you've never been in it before or you have no teacher, your only option is to learn it by trial and error. Not a very good choice.

On the flip side, you don't really have to take that long or suffer the beating that comes along with it. Instead, you can read my books and discover every aspect of the game and how to play it like a pro if that's what you want. Ahhh...the student becomes the teacher!

Let me give you at least something to start with.

First of all, remember that the prom itself is a ceremony. You spend all sorts of money, get all dressed up, have your picture taken, drink terrible punch, eat lousy food and dance a little. Trust me, nothing is going to happen at that point.

Where things happen are at the after-prom parties! THAT is where you want to focus your energy!

In fact, I often recommend that guys don't even go to their proms! Let some other dumb guy that doesn't know any better spend all that money and do all the work only to bring you their girl at the party where you really work your magic.

This is where people are likely going to be drinking, partying and hooking up. It's also the easiest place to make your play.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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