Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 8/21/2010

Question
QUESTION: Hello
I don't know how to understand that a girl is interested in me when she see me first time?  I mean some signs are clear to understand like smiling but there are some others that I don't know.
Thanks

ANSWER: Hello Mehrdad!

Frankly, there are many "signals of interest" from the smile, to touching herself to twirling her hair in her fingers to her body posture to even how she looks away from you.

The far, far more important question however is why you think this is of value? That answer is: it's not. Any small signal of interest is enough to create attraction - a much more important thing.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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QUESTION: thanks for respond
yes much more is important; in workplace, university or parties its easier to do more but in street you get the sign and what should we do? what should we say?

Answer
Hello again Mehrdad!

No, you don't get these signals on the street. There simply isn't enough time. One or even two "go signals" (from my book, "Being a Man in a Woman's World II") isn't enough to signify real interest; let alone attraction.

But then, you don't need that anyway!

You CREATE interest from your approach. Many guys actually create fear from their approaches too! You need to learn how to approach properly to create this interest up front. Once you do that, it's a simple means of building rapport and connection to then wind up with attraction.

This is a simple formula - and any guy can do it! The key however is to build those skills:

1) Learn how to approach
2) Build rapport and connection
3) Learn how to recognize attraction, and
4) Close for what you want.

Don't think you have to have attraction first - you don't.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
President/CEO
~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.
Remington Publications
BAM! TV
818.334.8826
http://beingaman.com
http://beingaman.tv
Publishers of "Being a Man in a Woman's World I & II"
Producers of "BAM! TV"