Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 8/14/2010

Question
QUESTION: i am 22 years old and there is a girl in our building and she used to come in our compound to hang out with her friends and then i flirted with her by looking at her and she too responded me well and after 1-2 weeks i got very serious about her, i mean my love for her got very intense [i know its not love] but we never talked to each other, we just looked at each other, and she also was very much into me, and this continued for about 3-4 months and after 3-4 months i felt she was loosing interest in me so to regain her interest i thought i would flirt with another girl to make her jealous so I flirted/looked at another girl who was my main targets friend but when i was flirting with this girl, my main target was not present there and then my main targets best friend went and told her that i was flirting with this girl and after this she stopped coming to the compound and she started ignoring me, and after few days i made an extra effort to show her that she is the most special one in my life and i liked  her a lot by going to meet her when she goes to the college and classes everyday and because of this she thought that i fell madly in love with her because i didn't see her for many days and i was missing her so she started to use the same strategy to make me fall madly in love with her by not coming to meet me [i came to know about this by one of her friends].
SO, there is 2 problem now and the problems are:-
1] she thought that i was flirting with another girl
2]and she is thinking that i will miss her if she doesn't comes to meet me

so how will i solve this problem?

ANSWER: Hello Ajay!

Losing interest in you after 3-4 months? You think?

OF COURSE she was losing interest in you! She did everything she could to get you to finally make a move! So, what do you do? You try to play her and it backfires - as it absolutely had to.

Ajay, you have so many problems here that my answer is no: I can't help you get her now. There is just far too many problems and EVERY ONE OF THEM has to get straightened out! You can't try to throw more tricks at her and think it'll ever work. It won't.

You need to get whatever it is in your head fixed BEFORE you can ever have a shot any any girl from this point on. This one is long-gone. You need to get the hurt over with so you can fix this internal problem and then go find a girl that you DON'T play like this.

Her only choice now is to dig in her heels and the more you try to move her the harder she's going to dig in. You've given away all your power, proved that you have no real game (only "tricks"), shown her you're insecure, fell "in love" when you didn't even have a basis for it, tried to make her move when it wasn't even her job (it was yours and she damn-well knows it) - all while making her realize you have some very severe problems.

I don't have any more tricks for you. You've destroyed your chances here. Get healed. Learn how to handle women the RIGHT way and move on.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
President/CEO
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Remington Publications
BAM! TV
818.334.8826
http://beingaman.com
http://beingaman.tv
Publishers of "Being a Man in a Woman's World I & II"
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---------- FOLLOW-UP ----------

QUESTION: hey you idiot, first go and learn the basics things like
"how to talk". And then become an expert, if you are not an
expert i mean if you are not qualified enough to answer
peoples problems then don't become an expert in this
website. People come to this website to solve their problems
and not to get a rude answer from idiots like you. you said
in your answer that "She did everything she could to get you
to finally make a move" but i didn't disclosed anything
about what SHE did so how can you guess if she had made any
move or not? IDIOT. you yourself are using the "tricks" to
make yourself seem like a qualified person for example  your
profile says you are a president. haaaaaa, president of
what? president of public toilet? YOU get healed you idiot.
The way you talk proves that you are an ordinary school drop
out immature kid pretending to be a qualified person, and  
you say you are a president haaaaaaa. I have given you "1"
ratings in every department because there is no "0" ratings
in the drop down list. you said "i dont have anymore tricks
for you" as if you have given me all the tricks that i used.
What is your problem man? i think you consult a doctor
first, you really have some problems. i think you are
jealous of me because i being just 22 year old, i had the
tricks that YOU didn't know about. your ego got hurt ah? i
dont want to solve any of my problems with you now so GET
LOST

ANSWER: Don't go off on me little man. YOU are the one that fucked things up here - not me - and you did so "royally".

This is even more reason why this girl should NOT be with you! You obviously have some very serious personal issues to deal with.

If you're smart (and that is REALLY in question here) you'll go look in the mirror instead of blaming me for your own insecurities and get to work on fixing those.

Here's what I know (as an "expert"): you're going to go from failed attempt to failed attempt until maybe you find someone that you really don't want to be with anyway (totally by accident) but settle because you can't find anything better and then you're going to screw that up as well. She's going to dump you for being a jackass (which everyone now knows you are) and you're going to be devastated again.

It's time to grow up. Your only "trick" is thinking you have any game at all at 22 years old.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
President/CEO
~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.
Remington Publications
BAM! TV
818.334.8826
http://beingaman.com
http://beingaman.tv
Publishers of "Being a Man in a Woman's World I & II"
Producers of "BAM! TV"


---------- FOLLOW-UP ----------

QUESTION: ok ok sorry, actually i was very disturbed and angry when i
saw your reply thats why i abused you, i wrote that second
msg in the night and when i woke up in the morning and read
your reply again i have realized that i have overreacted,
there was nothing to get angry. So sorry for that. i think
it could be because you said that "its long-gone" and "you
have destroyed your chances here", and that made me upset
and angry, so sorry once again.

Answer
Hey Ajay!

Apology accepted. Thanks for being a REAL man - and a stand-up guy - and accepting responsibility.

Huge respect, man.

Now, get to work on that game. There's no reason why you should have to suffer from these mistakes in the future. It's not just you that gets hurt here - but the great women that could benefit by getting to know you.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
President/CEO
~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.
Remington Publications
BAM! TV
818.334.8826
http://beingaman.com
http://beingaman.tv
Publishers of "Being a Man in a Woman's World I & II"
Producers of "BAM! TV"