Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 12/19/2011

Question
QUESTION: I recently met this girl in college a month ago and i think i have a crush on her. I want to know if she likes me back but i'm not sure. Ok i asked her out for lunch to which she accepts so today we both went to Pizza Hut. During lunch we spoke about various topics (backgrounds, birthdays, music, serious family history, show pics of our family), we lightly teased & mimic each other. We ate / chatted for nearly 6 hours in Pizza Hut(3:15pm - 9:30pm) which i think is a good sign. After, we walk home together and i realized i lost my right glove so she kindly offers me her gloves, even though i didn't want to take hers. As we walk home in the cold we both sing together & talk some more, then she says her hand is cold & she touches my face, she also slaps my arm and she tickles my body (i told her i'm ticklish) so i guess there was a lot of physical contact. When we reach her home, i suggested we meet up during the christmas holidays & she agrees and suggests a place we can eat at,then we both hug each other and i said i would contact her soon.
This all happened today and i really like her, but i'm wondering if she likes me back? I'm clueless with girls so any advice would be appreciated.

ANSWER: Hello Dan!

Yes, she likes you. Now, start treating her like a girlfriend and guess what? You'll be starting the new year with a new relationship.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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QUESTION: I saw the girl again today briefly, we spoke for 10 mins and talked about random stuff. There was more physical contact, e.g I teased her slightly n she put her hand on my face n pushed it away in a joking manner.She even called me a cute sl**.  I asked when should i contact her to meet up in london & she replied “im free anytime”. Thats another good sign isnt it?
What should i do next? Does she think of me as potential "boyfriend material"?

ANSWER: Hello again Dan!

Yes, this is a good sign, but you HAVE to stop asking her things like this. To her, it's like asking for permission to ask her out!

Don't do that. Instead, decide what YOU want and simply do that. She'll be thrilled, trust me.

As to what to do next, consider that you're just "dating" right now. That means you go out and do things together on a somewhat random basis. If you want to turn this into a relationship, you need two things:

1) Habit
2) Expectation

Habit is simply a habit you have between you two. For example, you might see each other 2-3 times a week and go out to do things together. When you get into the habit of spending free time together, you have the first part.

The second part is expectation. For example, when you both expect to spend important days and events together. When you expect to be together on birthdays and holidays and when important events happen in your lives.

When these two things are in place, you're in a "relationship". Thus, that's where you want to begin moving things now. Set up a pattern. She's told you she's available "anytime". In other words, she's ready for this.

There is one more thing - you need to escalate the physical side. For example, if you haven't yet, kiss this girl already!

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
President/CEO/Executive Producer
~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.
Remington Publications
BAM! Productions
818.334.8826
http://beingaman.com
http://beingaman.tv
Publisher of "Being a Man in a Woman's World I & II"
Producer of "BAM! TV"


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QUESTION: I'm seeing the girl again on friday, but she said her best friend could come along too. WHY would she bring her best friend with her!? It spoils the scenario doesn't it?

Answer
Hey Dan!

Absolutely it does and you do NOT want to do this. She's likely trying to keep distance between you and herself by bringing this other girl with her. Further, you're going to wind up paying for BOTH girls.

Don't do that. Just tell her it's rude for her to invite the friend and cancel the date.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
President/CEO/Executive Producer
~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.
Remington Publications
BAM! Productions
818.334.8826
http://beingaman.com
http://beingaman.tv
Publisher of "Being a Man in a Woman's World I & II"
Producer of "BAM! TV"