Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 6/7/2011

Question
QUESTION: Hey doc, Jake here. ah shit I can't figure out what's going on here with this girl I just met. I got her phone number a couple weeks ago she's a waitress very attractive blonde. We texted bak and forth seldomly so I didn't think she was really interested but a few days ago she was texting me frequently wanting me to go to the pool with her and her Sister I go and we have some beer lay by the pool have great time we later meet up with my friend who goes with us back to their place to drink and play beer pong we're having a great time and at nights end we even slept in the same bed she even told me she liked me we kissed
Cuddled even fooled around a little bit. I don't want to come on too strong but I'm into this girl doc, she's been flaky lately not texting or  calling what should I do? Thanks, Jake

ANSWER: Hello Jake!

You haven't given me enough information here. WHEN is she flaky? What happens that prompts that? Are you saying that she doesn't contact you after YOU contact her first or are you waiting for her to call you? How long has this been happening? Have you seen her since that day??

Best regards...

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QUESTION: She can be distant at times yes like not text back. last night i called her no response, but this morning she asks me to the pool and she made the comment to her sister that she thinks im all about sex. i didnt say anything at first but when we were in the pool i explained to her that im attracted to her and that im not just talking to her for sex, I also told her that i liked the way things were going and wanted to further this attraction and not ruin it by her thinking im all about getting laid. doc what i really need to know here is what are some helpful tips or advice you can give me to get this girl to show her hand. i cant read her i think shes into me. But when i mention us in a dating type of way or talk about us in general i dont get a response it could be too soon but where should i go from here. Jake

Answer
Hello again Jake!

This is an excellent lesson to learn right here, right now. The reality is that you can't get this or any girl to show her hand. Women are notoriously good at hiding these things. You're not going to change that.

She actually told you that she was interested however. What the hell more do you need? A gold-embossed invitation??? Come on here! She's already played her hand far more than most girls would. Stop asking for the moon and shoot for the stars instead.

What you want to do is forget trying to get her to be, act or do something and do it all yourself. Just know she's interested and start treating her like your girlfriend already. It's not "too soon".

Call this girl up and just tell her you need to see her this coming weekend. Make some plans to have a real date. Stop waiting for her to make all the moves. It's your job - and she knows it. Trust me.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
President/CEO/Executive Producer
~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.
Remington Publications
BAM! TV
818.334.8826
http://beingaman.com
http://beingaman.tv
Publishers of "Being a Man in a Woman's World I & II"
Producers of "BAM! TV"