How to Attract the Woman of Your Dreams/I can't get close to people!

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I'm in my twenties and i can't get close to anyone. I've really liked this girl for a few years but I can't talk to her. Every time I try, I can't think of anything sensible to say.

I believe she would like me if she could get to know who i really am. I've talked to her about movies and her job but that's all I could think of to talk about.

I wanna let her get to know me, but when I'm around her I don't know how to approach her. I've never been good with words and i don't know how to talk to her.

Please help me! How do I start and carry on a sensible conversation with her?

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Hello Brandon!

I teach guys a number of ways to approach women. The point of the approach however isn't to just make contact and run away. It's supposed to go somewhere. That "somewhere" depends on your goals, abilities, etc.

The most important thing you do when you talk to someone you're interested in is to build rapport and develop connection. That's how you turn interest into attraction.

While there are many ways to do that the easiest is to use "context". Context is simply determining the answer to a question: "What do she and I have in common at this time, in this situation at this place?" The answer to your question is the "context" of your approach.

You obviously have tons of context with this girl as you've talked to her before. The next step now is to build rapport and connection with her. This involves more than simply learning her history however or unloading yours on her. It's about finding commonalities; things you like and things you don't like.

In order to do that you need to learn how to ask the right questions in the right way.

Go to my website (http://BeingAMan.com) and under the Articles like you'll find my FAQ's. There are a number of linked articles on the approach and how to learn to communicate well to create rapport and connection.

Best regards...

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I am the author of the books "Being a Man in a Woman`s World I & II" and "1001 Places and Techniques to Meet Great Women" and 11 others. I`ve spent the last 20 years studying the art and science of every aspect of relationships, dating and sex, and have answered over 30,000 letters from readers from all over the world. I'm able to answer literally any question regarding dating, finding and approaching women, sex, getting phone numbers, setting dates, what to do on dates, how to set them (and make sure she shows), dealing with dating problems, conversion from dates to relationships, etc. Check my website at: http://beingaman.com for much more. If your question is particularly sensitive you can email me privately and securely at: dwneder@beingaman.com.

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Having helped over 30,000 people with their issues, I'm certainly qualified to help you with yours. I don't take the "feel good" approach at all. I'm direct and that comes from experience and research into what really works.

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