Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 8/31/2007

Question
Hi, I had a question about how to approach a particular girl in one of my classes.

To start off, I am a freshman in college and first saw the girl I am interested in on my first day of class when I sat about a seat away from her. However, I wasn't able to approach her as someone was sitting between us and everyone was dead silent, being the first day of class.

Two days later, I came into the same class and almost arrived late. It just so happened that I chose the closest seat available, without knowing the girl that I had saw before was occupying the nearest seat.

However, I wasn't able to start up a conversation as class started right as I plopped in my seat.

So, my question is, if I sit next to this same girl the next time I have class and make an approach, will I be seen as a creep, even though I haven't sat near her on purpose. I also know she has noticed me both times, as we made eye contact each time.

I really want to get to know her, but am wondering if I should wait, as it might seem weird that the same guy is sitting near you three times in a row.

Any Advice would be appreciated.


Answer
Hello Trevor!

First of all, I'm glad you're trying to make a move right away. Many guys wait and wait looking for the perfect time - which never comes. It's important to move when you get an opportunity.

Don't worry about where you sit in class. Frankly, you're there to learn. You can always connect with her before or after class - even in the hallway if you see her. Just walk up and say "Hey! You and I have [class] together. What's your name?"

If you see her before class and you sit by her, you can do the same thing, but don't always try to pick seats close to her. THAT will come off as creepy.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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