Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 6/5/2007

Question
QUESTION: There is this girl I really like, but
A) Im not sure if she likes me, shes certainly friendly and nice, and we have rubbed up against each other by 'accident' and she didn't seem to mind
B) If she does, I know I am perfectly able to screw it up.
Could you give me some advice on how to ask her out, and not look like an idiot?
Thanks

ANSWER: Hello Dennis!

A) It doesn't matter if she likes you too. You can create interest in women.

B) You're also perfectly able to make it work!

I don't know your particular situation, but in fact, it doesn't matter. If you haven't met her by name, just walk up and say, "Hi, I'm Dennis - what's your name?"

Then, when she gives you her name, talk about something related to the context of how you met. For example, if it's at work, talk about how she enjoys her job. If it's at school talk about how she likes her physical ed. teacher. If it's through friends ask her how she and her friend met, etc. The point here is to build some minor rapport and connection.

Finally, you want to end things a little too early. Just say to her, "Hey, it was nice to meet you. Let's do this again some time. Write down your phone number and I'll call you."

Notice how I didn't ask her? I didn't say, "Hey, can I call you sometime?" I *told* her what I wanted her to do and assumed she'd do it.

Could it really be that simple? Yup! Sure is!

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
President
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Remington Publications
818.334.8826
www.beingaman.com
Publishers of "Being a Man in a Woman's World I & II"

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QUESTION: I also thought of something else; Is there any way that you can think of if I can find out if she's seeing anyone wthout directly asking someone?

Answer
Hey Dennis!

It doesn't matter if she's seeing someone else or not.

Let me ask you: what if you were Brad Pitt. Do you think she'd turn you down because she was seeing someone else? Of course not. It's not about him being a celebrity however. It's about him having something she wants.

You have something she wants too. She doesn't want to be alone the rest of her life - she wants to spend her time getting to know a really great guy. Guess what? You're a really great guy! All you need to do is to let her know this by approaching her!

What you're hoping for is the perfect situation where she's already attracted to you and she's just waiting for you to approach her and then she does all your work for you. Dennis, that's not how the game is played and the sooner you get over hoping for it the sooner you're going to start having the success you deserve with girls.

Don't give the issue another thought and just approach her already! If she says that she has a boyfriend, just say, "So what? Let him get his own date. You've never met anyone like me and you're going to be sad that you didn't get to know me earlier. Now, write down your number."

Just remember what I said before about scripts! The point is to never worry about boyfriends. They are a non-issue - unless YOU are the boyfriend! Then, it's a BIG issue!

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
President
~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.
Remington Publications
818.334.8826
www.beingaman.com
Publishers of "Being a Man in a Woman's World I & II"