Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 2/24/2007

Question
"I believe some people used to do this thing {defense mechanism} to
hide their true feelings.Like a girl being courted by a guy,usually some
girls will not show any signs of interest to the guy.

Can you give me all your knowledge about this behaviour and how to deal
with it,if im about to court a girl,how can i tell shes playing hard to
get by doing this mechanism and how should i deal with it?thanks a
lot,

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.How should i tell to my Bestfriend that i like her,knowing she seems to be in love with one of my friend?I know its not wrong to confess your feelings to someone who is not yet married,And i know its not yet too late for me,but what can i say,Can you give me some useful lines if ever im about to tell her?
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Hello John!

If I actually gave you these "lines" I wouldn't be doing my job! A line is going to get you absolutely nowhere - expect right where you are - or less.

You've become her friend but now you want to change that since she's interested in your friend? What about him? Is he really your friend or not? Is he interested at all in this girl? If he is, you have no business (as his friend) trying to jump the line in front of him. If he's not interested, you have another; far better, option.

Ask your friend to help you. Have him approach this girl for you and tell her that she should be dating you and that he's not interested in her. If he's really your buddy, he'll be more than happy to help you here, and this will give you the best shot you have with the girl.

In the future, DO NOT make any girl you're interested in your friend first. Otherwise, you'll never be anything else to her.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
President
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Remington Publications
818.334.8826
www.beingaman.com
Publishers of "Being a Man in a Woman's World I & II"  

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Hello again John!

Let's see here. What you're asking is for me to write out every work of all of my books, e-books, CD's, DVD's, articles, interviews and research right here for right now.

No, I don't really feel like spending the years upon years it work take to do all of that. However, you CAN have all this knowledge even without me doing this. Go buy my books and read them! Then, you'll have everything you're asking for.

John, asking such a thing is VERY rude and disrespectful! Do you really think that all these answers are just a paragraph away? They aren't. I've spent over 20 years studying all of this - and I'm still learning!

Further, no this isn't a "defense mechanism" on her part. What you're really saying is that you believe she is saying she likes your friend in order to get to you. Well, if you really believe this, then just go ask her out on a real date - she'll jump at the chance if it is.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
President
~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.
Remington Publications
818.334.8826
www.beingaman.com
Publishers of "Being a Man in a Woman's World I & II"