Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 9/13/2006

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Thank you for your kind answer but how do you explain that she come when I invite her anyhwere?
the problem is that she never tells me thnk you. A friend of mine told me that I should cultivate this woman in order her me to get his confidence and I should wait a litlle more time to get her interested on me by sending her poems trough movil phone...what I have noticed is that she is not a cultured woman but anyways I her a lot but my problem is that I am afraid about falling in love with a woman who is not in love with me
thank you from your answer here from caracas

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Hello again Aurax!

Simple: she's enjoying what she's getting. That doesn't make her feel obligated to give you want YOU want.

If you doubt this, I suggest you try a little experiement. The very next time you see her - go kiss her on the lips. If she's interested in you the same way you're interested in her, she'll respond positively. If not, she'll push you away, then you'll have your answer.

I'm afraid your friend is wrong here. Many men want to believe that if they just do enough nice things for a woman, she'll somehow fall in love with them. That's not how the feminine mind works! Women are all about attraction and chemistry. These are very difficult things to create and you can waste a very large amount of time, money and energy trying to do so when in fact, it'll never happen.

Try that little test and whatever reaction you get, use it as your answer. If she isn't receptive to you now after all you've done for her, she never will be. Go spend that effort on someone else.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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