Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 5/18/2007

Question
Dear Dr. Neder,

There is a girl at my school who has always loved me until this year. We have been really good friends but it started to die out. I could never find the problem. She played basketball and many other sports and became very popular with all the guys and a lot more of the girls. She seemed to forget all the great times we had. I believe this is the perfect girl for me but I have no clue what I should do to attract her. She has been acting all strange around me and ignoring me for weeks at a time. But the weird thing is i can tell she still stares at me and will try to cover it up. I will for one week out of about 3 stay good friends out of the 2 years i have known her. And she now is interested in another person that is a complete jerk. I have no clue, again, what to do. Could you help me?

Thanks
John Queen

Answer
Hello John!

First of all, go read my FAQ's on my website: http://beingaman.com under "self help". You need to understand this friends thing and how it is working against you.

Next, you need to decide what you are - and what you want to be with this girl. Are you just her buddy or do you want more? If you're going to be her friend, you have absolutely nothing to say about the jerk. Frankly, once you've made your opinion clear, as her "friend" you have nothing more to say about it.

Also as her friend, you have to realize that she's going to meet other guys and you're going to start losing time with her. If you were dating her you wouldn't want her to be spending time with other guys either.

I suggest you go read my FAQ's and see where that takes you. Just realize that friendships between men and women rarely work out in the long-haul because interests often get in the way.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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