Expert: PracticalHappiness.com - 12/19/2006

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so if it works out I bought this Christmas card for her that sings "feliz navidad" and I plan to give it to her if she kools down. if not, i shouldn't give it to her?

i really like her alot

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I have this kind of acne problem which I think she might not find attractive...

also, would she get annoyed?= if I talked to her? coz people asked her about why she's mad at me Like my friend, Alex he told me she said she's mad at me and that she can hold a grude on someone for a LONG time

What do I do if I'm not prepared to talk to her and she pops outta nowhere like she always does...

I have school in an hour

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Ok. Im a freshman at PHS. I find myself not attractive.
Not unattractive but just not attractive like those guys in the O.C. show.

There's this girl. I met her at the school orientation.

I had 5th grade with her but i couldn't tell who she was until my friends told me. I never talked to her back then. P
I didn't like her at first but now I like her alot.
People say we make a cute couple.

We never get to really talk. Sometimes we do.

I made her a cake for her birthday and she told me that what I did was "cute" and gave me a hug. Then we ate the cake. aha..

We took pictures and hung out a bit. We had like a little party.

I put a picture of me&her on myspace and this guy that she likes alot saw it. He likes her too.
He was trippin like
"oh you and that one dude is going out huh?"
He was saying I put "I love you, I love you" on the picture but all I put was "me&sandy". So i changed da picture

Now she's mad at me because of that.
She's kinda ignoring me. I gave her time and its been a week and she hasn't talked to me. We pass by each other alot at school and she doesn't say "hi" to me anymore.
She just looks the other way.

What do I do so she'll stop being mad?

How do I talk to her now?



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Hey, John. Thanks for your question.

First of all, stop comparing yourself to those vanilla guys from O.C.  There represent just one way of attractive looks - one way that more and more girls find cliche and boring, so don't worry about not looking like them.

With regard to your situation, you have an opportunity to show an incredible confidence which is very attractive, by stopping her when you see her and talking to her in a nice yet firm manner.
"Hey, how is it going?" "Why are you ignoring me?" - don't sound angry - sound curious.  "I like you and I would hate to have any misunderstanding between us. Is it about that photo?"

I am sure she is waiting for you to make that kind of move and she is upset that you don't.  

Go for it - you have nothing to lose.

Finding out is better than continuing to wonder.  

I hope I answered your question. If not, please follow up, and if you found my answer helpful, please take a moment to rate me on this site.

Thanks.

Arkady Itkin
Author of Best Selling Audio Programs on approaching, meeting, and attracting women at www.practicalhappiness.com
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Don't worry about what she says and what other people say, John. Just go up and talk to her. Give HER one more chance. If she is being hostile and a b-tch, then screw her. Next time she talks to her, show your strength and pride and brush her off as she did you.  
But chances are, she will soften up once you, YOURSELF, COME AND TALK TO HER. Just do it. If anything, it will be an interesting experience.

Thanks.

Arkady Itkin
www.practicalhappiness.com

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That's a good plan, John. If she doesn't cool down, don't hesitate to move on. I know it's obvious, but guys need to be reminded once in a while that there are there women out there, many of whom are quite exceptional and fun.

Thanks.

Arkady Itkin
www.practicalhappiness.com