Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 11/26/2007

Question
Well i made a big mistake. i got with this girl two summers ago. i met her from my 2 freinds. I liked her alot. Then one day i broke up with her. i was kinda forced into it by my friends. So then the words came out of my  mouth. I was so depressed almost in tears. the next day i almost fought my friends i was so mad. then i just couldnt get over her. every other girl i tried dating gave me crap. so i guess this is some kind of karma to me. {IDK} I recently typed her a letter and sent it to her. it let her know how i feel and what had happend. she replied "Jordan! this is reall sweet. the truth is i don't know that much about you and i just can't love you like that. i think your a great guy and i like that you can show your sensitiveness, but i you're right...i have found someelse i love very much.but you are awsome and you deserve to finda great girl at your school that you can see everyday and get to spend time with.but we can be friends and i miss you, me, chelsey and mandi all hanging out and having a good time. hopefully we can chill this summer sometime when they come bac. thanx again for this jordan. It made me smile a lot." Then i had wrote her back saying "
its just when i broke up with i didnt meen it. i was forced to by all of my friends. when you went home i almost cried. the next day i almost fought all my friends i was so sad and depressed. but when we broke up my world whent to crap. really it did. every girl i dated treated me like crap, they used me they got me jumped and stole from me. its just......
your the only one i think about because you treated me best out of all the girls i dated. and i just miss you. i just wish i can just go back to that day. i would make it right and kiss you lol. wow this is hard writing to. i just wish i wouldnt of did that because my karmas hitting me pretty hard. i'm almost sheeding a tear writing this. but i'm glad you found someone. i..... just wish.... i was still woth you." then she replied "
this is really heartfelt but the truth is i don't believe you about your friends..you told me it was cuz we did not see eachother n a bunch a other crap.this is sweet but even if it was cuz a your friends then i m glad we broke up cuz if u cared that much bout wat they said..and the way u did it outside all in front of everyone..says alot bout u..but i believe that ur a good guy now but n i know ur sorri but it woulda ended one way or another anyways. but thank you for being understanding" then i said "well...... idk what to say. but i hope your happy..... and just think twice be4 u let any one go. and that summer i was just very moody i may of not of ment it. but i'm sorry. but if you need anything i got your back. anytime. could be for advice or to talk. i'll be there for you. .........
and now i dont know what to do i'm so confused. can you please help me or tell me what i should do please it would meen alot. p.s sorry its so long  

Answer
Hello Jordan!

So, now she's punishing you for hurting her, huh? It's too bad you sent that first letter - and the second. You might have had a chance with her, but your groveling has just confirmed that she's on the right path. In fact, she obviously feels good that you're hurting!

Jordon, I don't know what you want from me - some magic spell or something? Relationships are fragile things and if you don't take care of them when you have them they just go away.

Right now, you're feeling the loss of it all and I'm afraid you're going to have to get over it and move on. She's actually glad you're hurting because you hurt her. She's not going all of a sudden change her mind because you hurt!

Also, the reson you're getting dumped by other girls right now has nothing to do with karma. It's about you still being stuck on your ex. You've got to get healed over this so that you can move on. Stop sending her letters and stop seeing her as the one that got away. Start seeing her as the petty little girl she is that is revelling in your pain!

You might also find some help in an article on my website. Go to http://beingaman.com and click on "Self help". From there, select "Miscellaneous articles" and read the "34c Deprgramming Miracle Cure".

I'm sorry your hurting, but you've got to get over this. The girls you're meeting and dating deserve it and so do you.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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