Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 12/6/2007

Question
Hi Dennis,

I recently confessed to a girl hoe much I like her..I haven't got an answer from her yet....and I am not sure how to handle this situation. I haven't brought it up or asked her about it...I am just acting cool...but deep down it's killing me....I need your advise...not sure what to do...Please help me with you expert advise.

Thanks,
Jonathan

Answer
Hello Jonathan!

I've received multiple copies of this question. I hope you're not just blasting it to everyone on this group. That's rude and it shows that you don't really care about the answer - or the person that gives it to you.

In fact, you DID get an answer: even if she was interested in you she's not now because you confessed your feelings to her. Don't EVER do that!! Here's why:

When you do this, it's because of two reasons:

1) You don't have any "game" and thus, you don't know how to move things forward with the girl. Telling her that you like her just confirms this in her mind and tells her that you're not "relationship material"; and,

2) You did this hoping that she'd just go all gooey over you and say, "Oh Jonathan! I love you too!!!" and then, she'd do all your work for you and you wouldn't have to take any risks.

This is a hard lesson to learn, but you've got to learn it sooner or later: this is a coward's way out and she, I; and now you, know it.

Don't expect her to come back to you and tell you she's interested. She's trying to figure out how to avoid you now, not date you.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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