Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 10/18/2006

Question
Dear Mr. Neder,

I am a 24 year old guy that honestly has never really had a serious relationship, I sometimes feel maybe I'm not good enough or attractive enough. But to be honest I get compliment's from women all the time that I'm very attactive. I try to talk to women my age but get the same negative and honestly not any good conversation.
I speak to alot of older women whom I can talk all day and night too. There's particulary one women that I'm sort of interested in she is very older, she very much flirts with me and I too do the same. In my mind though I know nothing serious can come from a relationship with her.
Then here's another question I meet a girl who bartends at a local club, I tend to always sit alone and just order myself drinks, one night this bartender decides to just sit and talk to me all night just attending the customers then returning back to me, I proceed to introduce myself and she says, "Yeah! I know you your name is Luis". Now mind you I have never spoken to this girl before, I proceed to ask about what she does on her spare time and I come to find out she is interested in the same field of work I'm in. I decide to ask whether she goes out and say if she has a boyfriend and she says, I'm actually not into dating I'm alittle impatient when it comes to dating. This just made me feel like, Luis don't even try. Please if you could give me some advice on what to do in these sort of situations I would be very greatful.

Sincerely,

Luis aka Confused

Answer
Hello Luis!

Man! Do I talk to a lot of guys in your exact situation or what? These are great guys - they're good people, hard working, interesting, smart, etc., but they can't get a date. That should at lesat make you feel like you're not alone.

Luis, this has absolutely nothing to do with being "good enough" or "attractive enough". This has everything to do with your attitude and education. Trust me on this one - I used to be exactly where you are now! Having been there, I can really understand what you're going through.

Here's the good news. There's an answer, but you're not going to find it at the end of a bar or at the bottom of a beer glass. You need to get your education about women straightened out. Great women are all over the place, and frankly, you do them no service by not knowing how to approach them, talk to them, build rapport and connection and get phone numbers, dates and sex. Women benefit by YOU learning how the game is played! Right now by denying your own education, you're effectively preventing women from getting to know a great guy - you.

Don't do this to yourself!

This is a huge subject and it's impossible to give you all this knowledge via one - or 100 emails. I strongly urge you to go check my website. There's a ton of resources available to you to really get this fixed once and for all. All you need is to learn how the game is played, and simply to play it.

Trust me Luis, you can do this - I know because I did it too.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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