Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 9/11/2007

Question
Hey Doc i got a couple questions to ask...
i've seen a lot of your answers and i gotta say i'm a little confused. for example, why should i tell a women to give me here number than to ask her? Does this really work on women? also, how do i ask a women out in a way that will give me the most confidence? my last question is, are there other things that i can tell a women to do, that increase my chance of "the women i'm telling", to say yes.  the last sentence was a little confusing. anyways i would very much like to hear you answers. thanks, eric

Answer
Hello Eric!

The reason you tell a woman to give you her number rather than ask is done for a couple of reasons:

1) If you ask, you take the risk of getting a "no". Then what do you do?

2) By knowing what you want and expressing it in a direct, clear way, you're telling her that you're going to be the masculine energy in any potential relationship with her.

Now, keep in mind that I'm not saying to demand what you want, simply to expect that you'll get it. See it as the mutual benefit it is. In fact, you're giving this girl a great chance to get to know a great guy! By telling her to "write down her number" rather than asking, you're helping her get past her own insecurities and initial reluctance and expressing your masculinity at the same time.

Often when I do TV or radio, I'll ask women; either the hosts or the audience, the same questions: How would you like it if I come up to you and start talking and after a while, I say, "Hey, give me your number so we can do this again some time" and then I go about describing a scenerio where I call them up tell them when I want to go out with them, where we're going and even what to wear.

At first, everyone is shocked, but these women constantly say the same things: "I'd *love* it!" They'd love it because it speaks directly to them and their needs as women.

Does this work? Let me tell you how well it works: sometimes, I'll meet a cute girl, talk to her and get her number only to later find out she's married or engaged! Now, I don't date committed women, but the point is that it's so powerful a technique that women just respond to it regardless of their situations!

You don't ask women out to get confidence. You learn the techniques that work which GIVES you confidence and then you use that confidence to get what you want.

I think I've already answered your last question. In short, "everything".

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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