Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 9/6/2006

Question
Hi...my name is Jason and I'm 18 years old. My question is concerning
a women and my friend, John. I met this girl through my friend, and
have become attracted to her a lot. She also is attracted to me and not my
friend. But my friend thinks he has a chance with her, no matter what
happens. I had sex with this girl and my friend found out and he was
pretty pissed off. I apologized, thinking of the only reasonable thing to
do. He said he was done with her, and the next day, he is still trying
to get with her! I really don't understand his motive, but I don't
care. If he wants to keep trying to
get something that he can't have, I'm not going to stop him. But, the
girl still wants me. She called me last night and asked when I was free.
She wants me to come over to her house and "hang out." When my friend
found out about us, I apologized and asked him how he wants to settle
it. I really like her. We have a lot in common and there is so much to
talk about with her. She is a very relatable person. Me and her have been
flirting with each other for a year now and just recently, (within the
last three weeks) had sex. She doesn't talk about relationships, much
at all. She's one of those women that wanna have fun, and I don't mind
it being me. I plan to move farther with her and go to her house today.
But if I tell John, I just don't think he would understand the whole
situation. He is the kind of guy who isn't too smooth with the ladies.
This woman is amazing though. She's experienced in the bedroom and knows
how to please a man. She is wild and I love that in women. I don't
wanna waste an opportunity to spend time with someone that I'll remember
forever. So I guess the main questions are should I enjoy myself on this
wild ride of a women? Or should I just sit back and watch John get
rejected various times? I know John is my friend and he will always be
around. But this woman is a catch that many men have tried and all have
failed. Now that she wants me, I just don't think I'm gonna turn her
down....Thank you.

Answer
Hello Jason!

Whenever possible, it's better to work this out beforehand, but in this case you tried and he just isn't having it.

He's already told you once that he's going to back off but didn't. You've appologized for the situation and that's it. I'd suggest that you continue to pursue her and expect that he's going to have to understand. Once you and she are together solid, it'd be best to have another talk with him and have HER explain that you two are together.

Finally, send him to my website so that he can learn "the game" and he can be back at it again with someone else.

The rule is "bro's before ho's", but sometimes you just can't make it all work.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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