How to Attract the Woman of Your Dreams/amor II

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Expert: Aaron Beck - 9/23/2006


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god bless you for your answer, I liked I hada had this wise advice when I was 14 but... The girl I like in the factory I work at is 27 and Black, I am 43 and married with two kids. I would like to meke her love in a discret way and enjoy being with her but I am terrible afraid to fall in love with her...we have gone out twice and she behave in a pueril way...I have given her several gifts (cheap ones) but she never calls me back...she never e-mails me...when she meet me in the factory she just say hi....My problem is that I fall in love inmediately and I am afraid to fall in love with her...I gor terrible jelous If she says that spant all night long dancing in a party...by the way...I have been told that you should have never been a girl's psycho
terapist because if so you will lose and not fuck her...I have also been told that you must listn her...her problems and try to understand them the same yhey look trough their glasses...but if I listen and she begins to tell me about other men I feel bad...The other day she left the factory in a big hurry and I inmeditely i thought she was going to meet a man she is interested in. Tha key is this: I must understand that she is a separted woman, who earns 4 times less than me, with an inferior charge in the factory, a free woman who I am not supporting at all, but I want she to feel crazy about me. That is absurd...but this is the way I see this.
She never calls me up, the other day (twice) she did not come to the place we would meet at, anyway the following day I gave her an small gift. I do not do what to do.. perhaps I am obssesed with her I she has noticed this, because I have told her waht I feel in a so directly way.
The other day I took her to the theater with her 6 years old kid but she did not suy thank you in any way...
what could I do my good friend?
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Aurax,

I think I have already answered this question??

You have to be the leader, especially with this woman since she is younger and not as rich.

As far as falling in love with her, I do not know what to tell you, I think your therapist is better equiped to advise you in that regard.  If you do have sexual relations with her, you are very likely to become emotionally involved as well.

Let me know how it turns out.

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Aaron Beck

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Co-author of How to Introduce Yourself To A Woman (and seminar by the same name) and Meeting Women: The European Method. I have worked with thousands of men to meet the women they are most interested in.

For many men, approaching women is so stressful and so anxiety-inducing that very often they simply don’t do it -- certainly not as often as they'd like.

The solutions are often surprisingly simple, usually requiring just a slight shift in perspective and a little technique.

I will answer most questions about meeting women but I concentrate on the initial approach phase because that seems to cause the most problems. Good Luck!

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In addition to the two books (How to Introduce Yourself to a Woman and Meeting Women: The European Method), I've held several dozen seminars (in the U.S., the U.K. and Germany) on meeting and dating women. I have worked with over 10,000 men (directly or through my publications) in this area.

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Bachelor of Science, Electrical Engineering; Masters, Applied Game Theory, PhD (candidate), Empirical Psychology.

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