Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 4/29/2007

Question
I wanna fuck my girl (4 months) in the pooper but don't know how to ask.  i have stuck a finger up there and she has tolerated it but didn't seem too turned on but not turned off either.  any way to ease into (no pun intended) the situation?

Answer
Hello JJ!

Women aren't stereos. You can't just twist a few knobs and stick your finges in a few holes and have everything just "work". You need to build this up. Here's a suggestion, the next time you're going down on her (eating her pussy), try this:

First, TAKE IT SLOW! Let her build up to everything and really get comfortable and horny. This might take 5 minutes or more, but trust me, it's good exercise! She should be on her back for this.

Next, use your tongue to not only stimluate her clitoris, but also her vagina, the lips over her vagina and her asshole. It needs to be wet anyway before you enter her again, so this is the time.

Return to her clitoris with your tongue, and after a few moments, CAREFULLY push your middle finger (not your first or "pointing" finger into her - you'll see why in a moment) into her pussy first - not her ass.

Next, turn your hand plam-toward-the-ceiling and with your finger in her pussy and carefully curl your fingers. If you're in about an inch to two inches, you'll notice an area at the top of her vagina that feels slightly differently from the rest. It's slightly hard and may have a lot of ridges to it. That's her "g-spot" and is the source of some incredible pleasure for her. You'll notice pretty quickly if you've found it.

After a few minutes of this, she's going to get VERY wet and will moisten your middle-finger pretty good. So, slip your second finger out of her, and CAREFULLY insert it into her ass while your still licking her. Put your first finger back into her pussy at the same time. This is a lot of stimulation going on so you want to make sure she's really ready for it.

As she continues getting more aroused, you can move your fingers in and out of her and actually bring her to some very intense orgasms this way. She's going to begin associating her orgasm with the sensation in her ass because it's so sensitive.

Once she's comfortable with this and you have her really aroused, you might try inserting a second (very wet) finger into her ass. Remember, your johnson is far thicker than your fingers. She has to stretch enough to take you there - and associate it with sexual release - in order for her to feel comfortable with this.

Now, once she's fully satisfied you want to back off. I know you want to get into that exit, but now is the time to talk to her about it. You don't just shove your dick into her ass and think everything is going to be great - you need her "buy-in" on it. Not only will this give you huge points, but it'll also help you get repeat - possibly many repeat - performances.

Explain that you'd like to try anal sex with her and since she's obviously enjoying it (how could she not?) and that you're going to be really slow and careful with her, she could really like it. It might add a great new dimension to your sex.

Now, here's a few additional tips:

1) Trim your nails. Nothing's worse than having some scraggely, dirty, ragged thing shoved up your ass!

2) Use PLENTY of lubricant. In fact, you should get yourself a case of water-based (NOT petrolium-based) lub since the ass doesn't produce it's own lubrication like the pussy does; and have it ready.

3) Get her used to and comfortable with the play BEFORE you try to introduce woody!

4) Make sure you go SLOWLY. That's the key here. If you hurt her - or worse, tear her - she'll stop things before they even get started.

5) You might try adding toys to the mix before your dick. For instance, they make toys that are specifically for the ass - dildoes, plugs, vibrators, etc.

6) Once you put ANYTHING (fingers, dicks, toys, etc.) into her ass, they MUST NOT go back into her vagina until after they've been completely washed and sanitized. That'll create an infection that's very hard to get rid of.

JJ, I've known women that were so into ass play, they'd rather do that than even having sex. It's all in how you approach that third input. Good luck!

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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