Expert: PracticalHappiness.com - 12/30/2006

Question
I quess what im trying to find out is how I should go about trying to attract a women and to actually have a relationship with her.
A bit of background
During high school I tried to ask out 5 different girls over the 5 years in high school. I thought I was in love with each of them and told them this, each time getting turnded down and each time sinking lower and lower into a lack of self-confidence and self-esteem. The last girl I asked I really believed in myself that I could quite happily be living with her for the rest of my life and when she turnded me down I just gave up on myself trying to find a girl, I didnt belive that I knew what love was anymore and I gave up on women. That was around the 18 of 17 and for quite some time I did not really talk to any new females that I did not know, only friends of mine.

I am now 22 and still have next to no confidence in myself. I cant even go out to a bar with friends or anywhere public to have a bit of fun. The only thing I can think about is finding a partner and sort of distracts me in everything I do. Also have not a great look (Im quite tall and skinny looking, not really muscular at all, and not your James Bond type of bloke either).

I guess the next problem is if I was to ever find a partner I seem to lack a lot of confience in another area which is sex. Im actually to tell the truth quite freaked out about sex, ok the male side of me wants it bad, but Im scared shitless about it. The main areas I worry about are getting her pregnant (Like I want to be a Dad, but not just yet), getting STDs (even wearing protection would not stop me worrying), being able to do all the stuff I have read (I have already made myself think I should be able to do a lot of this stuff first time and I think I will fail at that) and the last finishing way way to soon.

As you can see Im quite a confused and worried 22 year old that really just wants to find that special someone, but does not know how to and then how to actually get through a relationship when it becomes more sexual.

Thanks for any help

Answer
Hey, Braden. Thanks for your question. As someone who was in your shoes and came a long way toward success in dating, I believe I can help.  So, first things first.

1. If anything, you should treat your past failures meeting women as valuable lessons - lessons that tell you that you CAME TOO STRONG! And coming too strong is not a good idea! It works in movies but in reality, telling a girl who doesn't know how she feels about you makes her feel too much pressure, awkward and even scared. So, whatever happened is not a surprise at all. It's the only thing that should have happened.
YOU ATTRACT WOMEN BY SPENDING TIME WITH THEM AND SHOWING TO THEM YOUR POSITIVE QUALITIES AND NOT BY TELLING THEM HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT THEM.

2. With regard to confidence - a lot of people and sources out there will suggest some quick fixes for you, but I urge you to not waste time on those easy fixes. Like in everything else in life - real problems that develop over time require real solutions. Confidence is more than good pick-up lines, nice clothing or muscular body Confidence is a state of mind, self-perception and genuine belief in that what you are and who you are is desirable to women.  

To get there, you need to understand what women find attractive and what they find repelling. And you are already on the right track since you recognize that you have a problem and are ready to do something about.

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