Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 11/18/2007

Question
1) How can i approach women who are receptionists and i am a delivery boy dropping of a package? getting phone numbers, setting dates, what to do on dates, how to set them. What conversions on dates can I strike up?


2)How do i stay out of my own head long enough to be there for a woman? I always seem to screw up a relationship by not calling her or staying in touch.

Answer
Hello Peter!

1) Just the same way you do it anywhere else. Forget "lines" first off. They don't work. After you've seen a girl a few times, you already have plenty of reason to get her name and speak to her for just a few moments. You can build rapport very quickly with these girls and since they're workingk, use that as an excuse to end the conversation and get her digits. Just say, "Well, we're both working so I don't want to get you in trouble. Here, write down your phone number and I'll talk to you after work some time."

Easy, simple and proven effective!

2) By setting up a "relationship plan". This is a plan just like your career plan or your workout plan or any other plan you make.

Consider that dating really is a "system". You have to build her interests and keep them high. You do this by escalating - growing - things over time. You also realize that if you don't keep that balloon floating in the air and it hits the ground, you're out and someone else will be in. This is just as much about protecting your turf as it is about growing that lawn.

Every relationship is different so you can't use a single plan to work in every case. You have to gauge your girlfriend's reactions and adjust yours accordingly. It's a subtle dance, but by simply being aware of what's happening - and your own involvement and investment in it - you'll be able to build any sort of relationship you want.

The key is to be active and involved, not passive. CRAFT your relationships, don't just let them be inflicted upon you!

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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