Expert: PracticalHappiness.com - 1/2/2007

Question
Hello there.  Well, I'm not sure whether my question falls into the right category but I'll ask anyway.  Before starting my story and asking my question I'd like to say that I don't really get it.  So here goes.
I'm 17. There was this girl I used to see at the public library each Saturday and she comes to sit in front of me each time.  She had no idea that I was interested in her as she is rather shy in nature, until that day when I messed it all up.
 That particular Saturday, I really wanted to talk to her, sort of having a first contact like asking for a pen, something like that.  But then she noticed that I was eyeing her which sort of surprised her at first but nevertheless kept up the eye contact.  2 hrs later she started packing up her things to leave and by then I was getting really frustrated by the fact that I had not made any move.  The eye contact was still on.  Then she  left and I had still no moved an inch.  It was then that I messed it all up(well, not really tough).
 I got out, walked to her up on the street and began the conversation directly.  I know you may be laughing right now, but that's what I really did.  100% jerkish manner.  She was totally surprised and confused and when I noticed that, I excused myself for what I did, turned and walked away as quickly as I could.
 But what I really don't get is that the next week she smiled at me!  Well, she did not look at me directly and smiled but she smiled anyway when she saw me(that's what my friend told me as I was looking away at that time).  Then she began walking in front of me frequently like she loved it that I was eyeing her.  The next week I acted indifferent as she was making a lot of noises just to get my attention.  This sort of calmed her down the following week.
My question:  I know that she was attracted to me as her body language response was positive, but what I don't get is how is it possible?  i mean, stopping her in the middle of the street beginning a convo out of nothing is unsocial.  Hope you can answer me.  Thanks.

Answer
Hi, Rahmat. Thanks for your question. I am actually not surprised by the girl's response at all! It was very, very romantic! Why would you think otherwise. Surely, staring at someone for two hours is likely to freak them out and make them think that you are either some stalker, pervert or an insecure joke, but hey - most guys don't go beyond staring and you were different!!!! Getting out there and talking to her requires balls! And it's very, very romantic! Many love movies have that exact scene that you had recently. Surely, it startled her at first because she didn't expect it, but since she already liked you before (girls don't maintain eye contact otherwise) and by the time she "digested" what happened, I am sure it moved her in a great way!!! She was very flattered and charmed by your act. It wasn't jerkish at all! And your shyness and the whole awkwardness of the situation indicates its genuinity. Sure you are supposed to be afraid and nervous. If you weren't, it wouldn't look serious.  

Talk to her!!! Now you have a great ice breaker  - when you see her, start a conversation with making fun of the whole thing and of yourself. Say something like: "I was surprised you didn't call the cops on me..." or something like that. Now you guys have something to talk about. Go for it.

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