Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 10/16/2006

Question
hi dr., ive sure you have seen plenty of them anyways my name is jared and im 16 years old and i want a good looking girlfriend really bad or a girl i can maybe just mess around with when i choose you know , anyways im a decent looking guy im funny, and nice and i dont know why im a failure with hot girls                                                          
im a virgin to which i hate my buddies say its because i dont talk to the hot ones enough and i dont but what can i do to maybe find a hot girlfriend that i will like or hook-up with a hot one my buddies are 18 and can sneak me into clubs they say the have hooked up with plenty of girls there oh yeah and my buddies arent any better looking than me and they get gorgeous girls. i hate this dr. please help me what can i do  

Answer
Hello Jared!

First of all, you're not a "failure". You just haven't learned how the game is played and you're still figuring out the rules. You're "in a process of becoming" and part of that process is learning what doesn't work.

If you really want the answers, I have two books that will give it all to you: "Being a Man in a Woman's World I & II" goes into every aspect of all of this. Frankly, I wish I had that information when I was your age! I had to spend many, many years getting my head kicked in until I finally learned what works - and what doesn't.

Also, don't think that you're unusual because you're a virgin at 16. I'll bet most of your friends are too - I don't care what they say!

So, the bottom line is that you simply need to get your game up to par. This *IS* a game, Jared and it has very specific rules, but those rules aren't obvious. You can either spend the next 10 years learning how they're played or you can get it all in a couple of books.

Just be aware, that the girls you're attracted to are studying this game every single day. Every book, article, movie, TV program, and even all of their friends are working to be much, much better at all of this than you are. Every year, they are going to be another 3 years ahead of you. Thus, you really want to get this nailed down as early as you can.

By the way Nick, this has absolutely NOTHING to do with how you look. You want a "good looking" girl, but girls don't think that way at all! Your looks won't help you here - it's your attitude and knowledge of the game that makes things work.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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