Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 9/2/2006

Question
hi im joe im only 14 and i want to aska girl out but if she says yes were would be the best place i was thinking the movies but then wat kind of movie.

and if i just ask her to the movies and we go r we then considered in a relationship or do i still have to ask her to go out with me

thanks  

Answer
Hello Joe!

Going to the movies isn't a good first, second or third date. Here's why: you need some "face time" with her in order to work your charm! If you go to the movies (or a concert), you eliminate that option.

A much better choice would be to go on a picnic somewhere nice and quiet. Bring along a board game or some cards and you and she can play while you talk.

You're not in a "relationship" until you both agree to date each other regularly. At some point (and this isn't always clear), you start telling each other about your days, how things are going, how you're feeling about things, etc. You support each other and actually root for each other to do well.

This is also when others start to see you as a "couple" and you now have a relationship.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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