Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 6/9/2007

Question
Hi,

thank you for great advices on dating and approaching women.  I have a question myself.

A year ago I met a beautiful girl in a gym. I showed her how to do one of exercises. Then we started communicating at the gym .. .at first it was only a way to rest and spend time with nice girl. she always told funny stories and some of them were ones I didn't like a bit. I liked her but some details was keeping me from falling in love with her. So we were just communicating a lot few times a week. After a month or more we started communicating everyday... in a gym and after that through Skype. Then I understood that she had become more than just a girl I know.... at first I didn't want to be a lover to her but it changed I saw all of qualities I like in her. We were good friends then...very good.. she trusted me I trusted her. I decided to tell her that honestly and said that she was more to me than a friend. She said no, she was a bit confused. But said that we can be only friends.. didn't say anything why... then later i wrote her a love letter saying I'll always be there for her and i will try to forget her. We were friends for some time more then a month .... and we got into an argument  and I was mad at her she was bit mad on me. and i decided to  disappear. for 4 moths we weren't communicating never saw each other.. I thought of her a lot .. and i wrote her an apology and we are again friends... but as I see I still love that girl freakin lot... and I'm now thinking what to do: stay very good friends with her or try to conquer her.. but since she already said no there probably is no chance of doing that.she is 21 year old blonde and hot one.. very popular and I am 19 year old guy not a great looking one, but trying my best to improve. I also need to get my confidence somehow up ....
so what would be your advice to me.. I forget her a nd move on ???

Thanx a lot

Answer
Hello Tom!

Go to my website (http://beingaman.com) and click on BAM TV. From there, take a look at the short video on "being friends". It's going to give you an idea of what you need to do if you want to try to move things forward. You should also read my FAQ's on the website under "Self Help".

Honestly Tom, I think you should move on. You've already made a ton of mistakes with this girl and it's going to be even more difficult to fix them. It's so much easier to meet other great women that trying to hang on to someone that doesn't want what you want is a huge waste of energy.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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