Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 10/4/2007

Question
I am in love with a women who
is a friend( for 2 years ), but she has a bf
she is going to marry--what should I do?
I don't want to lose this friendship--if I tell her
I am in love with her, the friendship is over.

Answer
Hello Jim!

So, what are you going to do then - sit around while she gets married and hope that she comes to realize what a great guy you are and gets divorced so that she can be with you?

Jim, holy shit! Really!!! What the hell are you thinking???

You've been this woman's "friend" for 2 years and nothing has happened. Now you want to tell her how you feel hoping that she'll end her marriage?

NO, NO, NO, NO, NO!!!!!

This is NEVER going to work. You've already killed off your chances with her by becoming her friend! Do me a favor and to watch the short video on my website (http://beingaman.com) about "friends". You'll find it under "BAM TV". Do that before you read on...I'll wait....

Ok, did you watch it? If you didn't - go do it now....

Jim, women don't date their "friends". Every guy has the chance of turning a women into a friend or a girlfriend, but you have to choose which one. You can't have both. Women will even let you do this!

You've chosen the friendship and effectively eliminated the possibility for anything more.

What you need to do now is to come to that realization and see how many other great women you missed your chance with while you were standing in line for her.

Stop this madness! Let her get on with her marriage and YOU get on with your life! Go find someone you CAN have a real relationship with and stop holding out hope on this one.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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