Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 10/13/2007

Question
Hey, I have a question about this girl I've been eyeing for the past few months. I've noticed that she has been looking at me whenever we are in the same halls, and in the one class we share at campus, I notice that she tends to look at me about 3 times each session or so. I'm really attracted to her, she's very cute, nice and intelligent. I also think she might like me not just because she tends to look at me alot in our class, but once in the halls, she practically rammed into me almost violently when she was walking with a friend of hers. She said "Oh, sorry!", but the hallway wasn't crowded at all! Makes me think she did it intentionally. Also, I walked by where she and her friends hang out (I'm assuming their lockers or something.). Claudia (the girl I like) wasn't even looking at me, but her friend saw me. I think she may have said something to claudia, because in less than 2 seconds after her friend saw me, Claudia turned around and looked at me.
I know it isn't your exact specialty to tell me if she likes me, but everyone in that category is "on vacation" so it would be great if you could tell me so also, but the main reason I listed all of those encounters was because I wanted you to be able to give me the best possible way to approach Claudia after all of these situations. It would be great if you could tell me if she likes me, and what action should be taken. I'll be in your debt!

Jason

Answer
Hello Jason!

Well, it makes me feel all warm and tingly that you actually picked me to answer your question just because nobody else was around! Thanks!

The eye contact is a sign of some interest - not a great one - but at sign nonetheless. You need to go talk to her right away especially if it's been a few months. What are you waiting for? Someone else to go over, meet her and take her off the market so that you can't?

What you need to do is to approach her already! Do it the very next time you see her regardless of where (well, if she's walking into the bathroom, that might not be a great choice, but everything else is!)

In order to approach her, use context - what do you and she have in common between you? For instance, if you have a class together or even have lockers close by that's all you need. You can even use the fact that you go to the same school together - the reason for the approach really doesn't matter. If she's with friends, you can even walk up to the entire group and start talking to them, but the approach is slightly different. You want to engage the entire group - not just the girl you're interested in.

Go to my website (http://beingaman.com) and read my FAQ's about this under "Self Help".

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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