Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 12/13/2006

Question
i have been proposing this girl for the past two years and she always says no. but she is the only one i can love in this world. how can i make her accept my proposals

Answer
Hello Clifford!

First of all, you're never going to get through a brick wall. As long as you honestly believe that she's "...the only one I can love in this world..." you're almost insuring that you'll never get any further with her.

You need to understand that while you believe she's the only one you can love, in fact, she's only one in many, many thousands - perhaps even hundreds of thousands - according to my calculations.

This girl is special to you, but there are many, many more. By believing that she's the only girl you'll ever love, you're putting far too much pressure on yourself (and thus, her) to succeed.

You didn't tell me anyting else about your relationship with her. Are you dating? Are you an exclusive couple? Why won't she agree to marry you? I don't really have enough information to give you a resonable answer; however, know this - as long as you honestly believe that she's the "only one you'll ever love", you're actually increasing the likelihood that you'll never have her.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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