Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 12/12/2006

Question
Alright theres this girl who I see three times a week. I really like her, and I really want to kiss her.yet i don't want to mess it up. I really want to share my first kiss with her. I've went out with her once before and now recently I've become more attracted to her. how to I approach her?, Get her to want to kiss me?, It seems like shes interested but I'm not sure, should I figure that out first? Were real great friends right now like at this hang out I was sitting down watching a football game with kissing her in mind and she and her friends sit on the ground next to me talking and laughing real load cause things I would say to them. I guess that would be flirting. Right? thing is I was thinking about kissing her that entire time.What should I do?

Answer
Hello!

So, what you really want is to get her to do all your work for you. You want some magic spell or pick-up line or incredible sentence to just make her jump into your arms and kiss you so that you don't have to take any risks at all. You're looking for the "sure thing".

Forget it. That's not how it works.

Here's the rule of first kisses: they aren't "given" they are "stolen". Here's what you should do, (and yes, YOU have to do this - she's not going to do it for you no matter what you say or do):

Take her aside by saying you have to talk to her about something important. Then, when you're alone just walk right up to her, push her (gently!) against the wall and kiss her. Make it linger just a little too long and don't shove your tongue down her throat. Make it passionate, not sloppy.

Then, slowly pull back from her, look her right in the eye, smile at her and walk away! You're going to leave her head spinning!

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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