Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 11/3/2007

Question
QUESTION: I have been talking to a girl that works in my building, we kind off had that chemistry going. She calls me periodically and i do the same, she even wakes me up so that we get ready for work and all. Always trying to see how i am doing and very caring. One sunday she just stopped calling me, i called her so many times and she didnt pick up. In other to find that she had her phone on her i called her from a restricted number and she picked, i hung up. So monday came the same thing happened and then on tuesday i called her through a restricted # and she picked up. We talked for a while and i asked her what was happening, she respnded giving me some flimsy excuses but told me about whats she is going to do and asked about me.
I am hazy in the sense that how will she just change 360 degrees after we had some cool and electrifying moments. Please help me

ANSWER: Hello!

What likely happened was that she got tired of waiting for you to make something happened and she has moved on.

To be honest, I thik you've totally lost her. If she won't take your calls, you may have nothing to work with. Even though this just happened recently, it's probably been going through her mind for quite some time. She's been wondering why you won't ask her out or at least do something and now believes you're either a coward and are weak or that you simply don't know what you're doing.

Either way, you've lost a ton of credibility - and power - in her eyes.

I suggest you go to her (don't call her or text her or any other equally-weak thing) and say, "Look, I don't know what happened to you but I'm not going to lose this chance. Clear up Friday night [or whenver] and I'll see you at [whatever time]."

You're going to have to take some initiative here and be bold about it. Don't ask her, TELL HER! You already look pretty weak in her eyes, you don't want to further that belief.

If she refuses, you're going to have to take this away as a powerful lesson for the future. The window with women isn't open forever.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
President
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Remington Publications
818.334.8826
http://beingaman.com
Publishers of "Being a Man in a Woman's World I & II"

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QUESTION: i think you are right but sir this is the twist. We have only seen each other for 2 weeks and after the first week of seeing each other i asked her out to the movies and dinner, she agreed first hand and then told me later on that there was no one to take care of her child. Ok i was compassionate enough to say that lets do this next week. She agreed happily.  It was the end of the second week she started acting funny by not picking up my calls.

Answer
Hello again!

There are 1001 different possibly reasons why she's doing this. You need to ask yourself if you really want to play this game or not.

In my opinion, when women start getting flaky the answer is easy: NEXT!!!!

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
President
~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.
Remington Publications
818.334.8826
http://beingaman.com
Publishers of "Being a Man in a Woman's World I & II"