Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 10/26/2006

Question
My girlfriend and I recently took a break in our relationship... A few days ago things were going great and we talked about getting back together. She had a car wreck a few weeks ago and her brother was riding with her... She always thinks about what could have happened and how she could have killed herself or her brother. Her parents are not letting her get a car until she proves responsibility and can save up the money for one.. We talked last night and she said she wants to get back together but she is confused about thins, because she has so much going on... She is in high school and has dance practices, work in the evenings, and school to attend throughout the day. I let her know that I would be very supportive. Do you have any suggestions on what to do or how I can help her. We were madly in love before all of this and I don't want to lose her forever... Please help

Answer
Hello Cody!

You didn't mention why you took the break in the first place, but this may have something to do with getting back together. Have you and she worked out what caused the break in the first place? If not, it's going to continue to be an issue once the excitement of being back together ends.

In order for any relationship to work, you have to have time together. This is where you work on your relationship and make it grow. Since she's so busy (which you should be too), you may have to schedule this time. Be sure to give her time for other things besides you too - don't try to dominate her free time but make the time you do spend together quality.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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