Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 11/7/2006

Question
My ex girlfriend is thinking about going back out with me.. We had been dating for almost 2 years... We are both looking for the excitement to get back into this relationship... the other day we were in church and she kept pinching my arm.... How can I flirt with my ex..... Please give me some tips or ideas to show her I want to get back together, but that will also make her think of me and want me back even more? Thanks so much..

Answer
Hello Cody!

Ok, I'll help you, but first consider this: why did you break up in the first place? What caused the breakup? Most couples breakup because of some problem or tension and this usually happens during a fight. Have you two solved whatever problem you had that caused you to breakup?

If you haven't, you need to know that it's going to happen again. You and she are going to get back together again and after the exitement wears off, you'll be right back to where you were when you broke up! Just be aware that you need to get this fixed as part of your "agreement" to get back together.

Ok, here's what you need to do: treat her like your bratty little sister!

Yes, I know that doesn't seem like it says, "I really want to be with you" but trust me, it'll push all the right buttons!

When she pinches you, just look at her calmly and say, "I'm going to call the police on you and then they'll arrest you and I'll laugh at you." Or when she says something that seems rude (but joking) just say, "does you mother know where you are right now?"

Now, here's the important part: don't back down! Don't say, "Oh, I'm just kidding" or "I didn't mean it" or anything like that! You have to really stick by your guns here as this sort of "challenge" is going to really make her interested and she'll just turn things up until you both have to be back together.

You'd never do this with your buddies, but trust me, it works like a charm with girls - especially if you pull it off without making it a big joke.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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