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I'm 13 and she's 3 1/2 months younger than me. I love this girl at my school, but I am too shy to really talk to her. What should I do to win her heart?
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Dave,
Introduce yourself to her. It's easier than you think.
She knows who I am, but all i do when i see her is look at her,and my heat pumps. And i don't know if she feels the same way about me. Is there any way to tell?
Dave,
Often the thing that a girl find the most attractive about a boy is that he is interested in her in the first place. She is not just going to see you and say, "Hey, I like that guy. I wonder if he wants to be my boyfriend?" That's not how it works.
I told you before that you have to at least let her know that you are interested in her. I know that it is very, very difficult to do that when you really like a girl but you have to do it. Until you make some effort to let her know that you are interested, she can never say "Yes!". At your young age, shyness is always an issue but there is no other way and the good part is that if you work on it right now (at age 13), your relationships with girl will be so much easier in the future. It's like studying for a test; you don't want to do it but you feel so great when the "A+" grade comes back.
The only other thing I can suggest is that you get someone else to tell her that you like her but sometimes that can backfire and leave you in a worse situation than where you started. In other words, you'll feel more shy if you get someone else to tell her (and she says "no") than you will if you do it yourself.
Sometimes it helps if you initially approach her in a group so that it's not one-on-one. That way you can talk to other people and not have to be alone with just her.
Write back if you need to.
AB
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Aaron Beck
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Co-author of How to Introduce Yourself To A Woman (and seminar by the same name) and Meeting Women: The European Method. I have worked with thousands of men to meet the women they are most interested in.
For many men, approaching women is so stressful and so anxiety-inducing that very often they simply don’t do it -- certainly not as often as they'd like.
The solutions are often surprisingly simple, usually requiring just a slight shift in perspective and a little technique.
I will answer most questions about meeting women but I concentrate on the initial approach phase because that seems to cause the most problems. Good Luck!
Experience
In addition to the two books (How to Introduce Yourself to a Woman and Meeting Women: The European Method), I've held several dozen seminars (in the U.S., the U.K. and Germany) on meeting and dating women. I have worked with over 10,000 men (directly or through my publications) in this area.
Education/Credentials
Bachelor of Science, Electrical Engineering; Masters, Applied Game Theory, PhD (candidate), Empirical Psychology.
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