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How to Attract the Woman of Your Dreams/Questions Answered by Expert Dr. Dennis W. Neder
| Subject | Date Asked |
| Please help me with her. | 1/25/2012 |
| Q: Good Day sir, I would like to ask for help, about this girl. I first notice her when my cousin ... A: I have absolutely no clue what you're waiting for here. If you're waiting for some sign or for the ... | |
| First Encounter | 1/18/2012 |
| Q: Dennis I got to talk to a couple of girls, got phone numbers and started a rapport. But after a ... A: The first problem you're having is that you're starting the rapport phase way too late. You need to ... | |
| Getting back with an old fling | 1/12/2012 |
| Q: I was hoping that you could give me some good advice on the situation that I am trying to deal with ... A: Of your 3 reasons, only one of them is about you. Even more, it's not specific enough. WHAT now ... | |
| Getting back with an old fling | 1/9/2012 |
| Q: I was hoping that you could give me some good advice on the situation that I am trying to deal with ... A: In my second book, (BAM2) I talk a bit about getting back with an ex. However, I don't get into it ... | |
| How do I break my shell, and tell her that I think she is the most Beautiful Being in the world? | 12/27/2011 |
| Q: I understand that a response takes big effort, and I most respect your time into this matter. I am ... A: First of all, stop telling yourself you can't talk to women. You CAN do it. You simply lack a little ... | |
| Does this girl like me back? | 12/19/2011 |
| Q: I recently met this girl in college a month ago and i think i have a crush on her. I want to know if ... A: Hey Dan! Absolutely it does and you do NOT want to do this. She's likely trying to keep distance ... | |
| old crush | 12/18/2011 |
| Q: For the past couple weeks I have been focusing my attention on this girl I used to work with. We ... A: First of all, let's examine those "emergencies". Think about this: over the last 12 months, how ... | |
| Does this girl like me back? | 12/16/2011 |
| Q: I recently met this girl in college a month ago and i think i have a crush on her. I want to know if ... A: Yes, this is a good sign, but you HAVE to stop asking her things like this. To her, it's like asking ... | |
| dating | 12/16/2011 |
| Q: you see theres a girl called strawberry and weve been friends for over a year and a half. I moved a ... A: Neither do I! The only one that knows why she's not responding to you is her. You should send her a ... | |
| Does this girl like me back? | 12/16/2011 |
| Q: I recently met this girl in college a month ago and i think i have a crush on her. I want to know if ... A: Yes, she likes you. Now, start treating her like a girlfriend and guess what? You'll be starting the ... | |
| dating | 12/15/2011 |
| Q: you see theres a girl called strawberry and weve been friends for over a year and a half. I moved a ... A: She's called "strawberry"? Sounds like a real fruit. I kid, I kid! ;) If you've moved away too ... | |
| In love with my best friend's sister | 11/30/2011 |
| Q: This topic is fairly common so I apologize for throwing it at you but I could use some guidance. I ... A: So, let me get this straight. * Your best friend doesn't want someone he knows and trusts to date ... | |
| A question on a man's qualities | 11/29/2011 |
| Q: Neder In your book "Being a man in a woman's world I", you write that one of the important points ... A: No, that's not what I mean. Your perspective is about control. Mine is about leadership. Let's look ... | |
| wanted help | 11/25/2011 |
| Q: Namasthe,sir iam from INDIA my problem is i fall in luv with a lady doctor last year she sometimes ... A: You've told me almost nothing I need to know in order to help you. You aren't in love with her - you ... | |
| Help! | 11/21/2011 |
| Q: Well see i met this girl at a coon hunt back in January. And well i was like lightin struck and well ... A: She's 20 years old and her dad won't let her date? What in the hell is going on here? Is she going ... | |
| breakup question | 11/16/2011 |
| Q: me and my girlfriend have been dating for 8 months and the last few months our relationship has ... A: So, let me get this straight: SHE decided that you two were going to stop having sex, stop being ... | |
| The great pathway | 11/9/2011 |
| Q: Neder My relationships with women have not been successful. They usually followed a certain pattern: ... A: You have no idea how often I hear this exact same story. It's sad, not just from the effects it has ... | |
| What should I do? | 11/7/2011 |
| Q: I'm a high schooler, and this is definitely when relationships start to heat up. I really like this ... A: DO NOT tell her you like her!! Marcus, I fully understand why you want to do this, but trust me, ... | |
| Etiquette | 11/3/2011 |
| Q: Can you offer some suggestions of what to do when for no rhyme or reason someone in your family or ... A: It depends on whether it's a one- or two-time event or if it's habitual. If it only happens once or ... | |
| 10/25/2011 | |
| Q: .thanks in advance for your help. I saw this really cute girl on facebook and sent her a friend ... A: First, let me tell you what NOT to do: Don't: * contact her expecting her to fall in love with you ... | |
| How to get the girl I really like | 10/21/2011 |
| Q: My name is Alex, I live in Mexico and I'm falling for this girl I met her in my job and quickly ... A: Of course she's afraid of you. Instead of actually moving things somewhere, you tried to pull the ... | |
| Get my Ex Girlfriendf Back | 10/21/2011 |
| Q: My ex girlfriend am I were going out for one year last six month we ware. I intimate .She often ... A: Hey Sean! Of course she's in your mind 24/7. You're addicted. You need to break these unhealthy ... | |
| how to purpose?? | 10/13/2011 |
| Q: i love a girl. she is 3 years older than me. Now we just talk sometime only. She is not very good ... A: Ah yes. The #1 most common question I get from men from India. The old, "I'm in love with her and ... | |
| bad date | 10/3/2011 |
| Q: i sold something online. this woman buys it, shows up at my doorstep, drop dead gorgeous. we stayed ... A: Here's what happened (and what should have been your first question): You tried to hold your dates ... | |
| Passing by pick up | 9/28/2011 |
| Q: I just had a pretty general question. How do I go about asking for someones number who is basically ... A: In fact, this is actually incredibly easy. You can even get digits from someone you pass on the ... | |
| Girlfriend before deployment ? | 9/25/2011 |
| Q: I am expecting to deploy in 10 months. I am looking for advice on how to utilize my time between now ... A: First of all, thank you for your service to our country! I guess the real question isn't about ... | |
| Get my Ex Girlfriendf Back | 9/24/2011 |
| Q: My ex girlfriend am I were going out for one year last six month we ware. I intimate .She often ... A: No, she won't change. This is a pattern for her life. All this is going to do is to cause you to ... | |
| Get my Ex Girlfriendf Back | 9/22/2011 |
| Q: My ex girlfriend am I were going out for one year last six month we ware. I intimate .She often ... A: Do you really want this girl back? Seriously? You must love pain because that's all this girl will ... | |
| in love with my best friend | 9/17/2011 |
| Q: well ive read over alot of your answers to people and 2 b honest im not expecting to hear any good ... A: No situation is absolutely "hopeless", but this one is pretty close. Normally, I'd just tell you to ... | |
| How to get close to girl I'm attracted to | 9/10/2011 |
| Q: Dennis W.Neder, Firstly I just want to thank you for an answer you gave me before. It took me quite ... A: So, instead of doing what you should have done (what I told you to do) you tried to hold your first ... | |
| Why doesn't my girlfriend say 'i love you' on the phone? | 9/8/2011 |
| Q: Everyday, my girlfriend and I speak on the phone for about 30mins because we go to different ... A: First of all, what are you doing in an LDR??? Are you really telling me that there are no girls at ... | |
| Tough Question | 9/4/2011 |
| Q: What if a guy has a female best friend, should his partner be ok with it? A: As with most things, it depends. Your partner (lover) has the right to not have their relationship ... | |
| How to get close to girl I'm attracted to | 9/2/2011 |
| Q: Dennis W.Neder, Firstly I just want to thank you for an answer you gave me before. It took me quite ... A: Obviously, I don't know answer I gave you before, but I'm often left having to deliver bad news. ... | |
| Damped | 8/30/2011 |
| Q: How can u bring back the love on a girl whom just damped you for a few months,and how can u make her ... A: "...more than expected..."? By whom?? I don't know the circumstances of any of this. You're ... | |
| Plague of shyness | 8/28/2011 |
| Q: Nader, Since I am 59, there's too many details to go into. But although i have no overt reason ... A: First off, I'm not at all surprised to hear that your therapist isn't helping you break through any ... | |
| In a tight spot | 8/21/2011 |
| Q: Recently, I have gotten into the habit of asking women out everywhere I go. For instance, a few ... A: Here's a learning question for you: what does a girl really mean when she says "no"? Answer: it's a ... | |
| In a tight spot | 8/20/2011 |
| Q: Recently, I have gotten into the habit of asking women out everywhere I go. For instance, a few ... A: That's actually a great habit to be in! I only wish you'd learn how to do it right rather than ... | |
| Help for my friend | 8/10/2011 |
| Q: Now I am asking this question for a friend of mine. I have gotten help from you in the past that ... A: I'm sorry - I don't do "pass-through's". If your friend needs help, he needs to come here (or go to ... | |
| getting the digits | 8/10/2011 |
| Q: There is this girl at my college who always catches my attention. I have spoken with her briefly a ... A: "Appropriate"?? Seriously Cody? What's appropriate for you then? Some engraved invitation? Stop ... | |
| Hair Looks Conflict | 8/6/2011 |
| Q: Dennis ! I have prolonged my exceeding shoulder length.But now Some of my Friends are saying " It ... A: Here's the problem you have: which women? Some women like long hair and some don't. It's neither a ... | |
| Dateing | 7/23/2011 |
| Q: I really like this girl but I'm in the friend zone. I have been in the friend zone for 3 years. I ... A: It sounds like you've gone from interest to obsession. That's a lot of your own power to give away ... | |
| Your book and my reality confusion | 7/18/2011 |
| Q: I have read many of your articles, as well as your BAM. I like them. I have also read some other ... A: First of all, I see a problem with your questions. You aren't going to be able to match up the ... | |
| Is she playing games? | 7/16/2011 |
| Q: I have this friend that I have been quite taken with for a long time. We've known eachother for ... A: Yes, absolutely she knows you still have feelings for her. It's those very feelings that she's using ... | |
| new girl | 7/6/2011 |
| Q: I just went on a trip to tahoe for the 4th of july weekend. I met a group of girls (three of them) ... A: The answer depends on how tight you are with the group. In other words, if your association with ... | |
| touchy feely women. | 6/16/2011 |
| Q: Neder, How can one successfully reciprocate to a touchy feely person. I often feel that there is ... A: In my books, "Being a Man in a Woman's World I & II" I discuss a number of "communication models". ... | |
| Puzzling | 6/13/2011 |
| Q: Dr. Dan, I am puzzled by the actions of my co-worker. She is one of the prettiest women I've ever ... A: I'm not "Dr. Dan". I think this was meant for someone else. Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder ... | |
| Playing hard to get? | 6/7/2011 |
| Q: Hey doc, Jake here. ah shit I can't figure out what's going on here with this girl I just met. I got ... A: This is an excellent lesson to learn right here, right now. The reality is that you can't get this ... | |
| How to appear more confident with girls? | 6/7/2011 |
| Q: For the last year i have been trying to improve myself physically. During this time i have been in ... A: You keep using the S-Word ("shy"). Dan, you're not "shy", you're scared and that's a very different ... | |
| She seems to have moved on? | 6/7/2011 |
| Q: A girl that I liked started to like me back after she got a boyfriend. While her boyfriend was at ... A: You missed the point completely. This isn't about changing HER attitude at all. It's about changing ... | |
| How to appear more confident with girls? | 6/6/2011 |
| Q: For the last year i have been trying to improve myself physically. During this time i have been in ... A: I absolutely don't get your question here. Are you asking how to avoid the attention? Are you asking ... | |
| Playing hard to get? | 6/6/2011 |
| Q: Hey doc, Jake here. ah shit I can't figure out what's going on here with this girl I just met. I got ... A: You haven't given me enough information here. WHEN is she flaky? What happens that prompts that? Are ... | |
| She seems to have moved on? | 6/5/2011 |
| Q: A girl that I liked started to like me back after she got a boyfriend. While her boyfriend was at ... A: Two years George? Really? Two freakin' years??? What in the HELL are you waiting for? I hope you've ... | |
| Hot smart girl=lonely? smart handsome=lonely? | 6/2/2011 |
| Q: In a previous article you said the uneducated man is lonely. I understand why you believe that and ... A: Hey! The very best place to start is with the two books, "Being a Man in a Woman's World I & II" ... | |
| Hot smart girl=lonely? smart handsome=lonely? | 6/2/2011 |
| Q: In a previous article you said the uneducated man is lonely. I understand why you believe that and ... A: Five types of chemistry: intellectual, emotional, spiritual, physical, sexual. As to how to build ... | |
| Hot smart girl=lonely? smart handsome=lonely? | 6/1/2011 |
| Q: In a previous article you said the uneducated man is lonely. I understand why you believe that and ... A: Your second message (please always try to consolidate these if possible): ... | |
| insensitive and disloyal Girl | 5/31/2011 |
| Q: there is a girl in our church who used to look at me and i also used to look at her. she is a singer ... A: Your fault: not going for what you wanted when you had the chance. You made excuses instead of ... | |
| Can this Work Doc?? | 5/24/2011 |
| Q: Hey Doc, I've read alot of your work and debating on getting your book since I'm a "New Reader" if ... A: Hey Marcus! Lo, that I wish I COULD prevent all of this! That's why I do my TV and radio shows, ... | |
| Can this Work Doc?? | 5/24/2011 |
| Q: Hey Doc, I've read alot of your work and debating on getting your book since I'm a "New Reader" if ... A: You know, I take no joy in delivering bad news or in being right about these things. I'm sorry ... | |
| Trying for this girl on facebook | 5/24/2011 |
| Q: The situation is that, after graduating from school I wa bored so i checked out certain girls from ... A: Let's be totally and completely honest here, ok? You want to continue using Facebook not because ... | |
| Can this Work Doc?? | 5/24/2011 |
| Q: Hey Doc, I've read alot of your work and debating on getting your book since I'm a "New Reader" if ... A: What's the "debate"? Either you want to learn these philosophies (the "BAM Philosophies") or you ... | |
| Trying for this girl on facebook | 5/23/2011 |
| Q: The situation is that, after graduating from school I wa bored so i checked out certain girls from ... A: You were right about the "virtual failure". That's all it would have been. Unfortunately Facebook ... | |
| Does this girl possibly like me ? | 5/20/2011 |
| Q: I'm a guy at university & hav liked this girl i see in the library. For months we would just make ... A: Yes, there's a possibility she may like you. Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder ... | |
| Addicted to Attention? | 5/6/2011 |
| Q: I knew a woman over 10 years ago. We did many things and had a lot of fun together. To make a long ... A: No, you shouldn't contact her again. You need to get healed over this woman so you can fix this ... | |
| You gotta be kidding :O | 5/5/2011 |
| Q: What kind of doctor cusses out people who are coming to you for help? Seriously get a life. Colt A: What kind of player spends his time critiquing professionals on something he obviously knows nothing ... | |
| Addicted to Attention? | 5/2/2011 |
| Q: I knew a woman over 10 years ago. We did many things and had a lot of fun together. To make a long ... A: Let's get this straight here: you're attracted to her physically, but I'll bet absolutely nothing ... | |
| A Slight Problem... | 4/24/2011 |
| Q: I am in a tough spot. I have been interested in this girl for a while now, and need some advice. We ... A: Yes, her reaction wasn't desirable - because YOURS wasn't right. Expressing an interest in someone ... | |
| Help | 4/22/2011 |
| Q: We dated a while ago but she said she didnt like me anymore but i really like her. She sometimes ... A: Here's the most important lesson you're ever going to learn in your lifetime about girls: watch ONLY ... | |
| Is ugliness the reason why I can't get a date? | 4/10/2011 |
| Q: Im 23 5'6 and weigh 183 pounds. It seems like no matter what I do girls always reject me, I tried ... A: There have been a number of researchers that have answered the root of this question. I'm one of ... | |
| How to attract a smile from a woman or smile at... | 4/3/2011 |
| Q: I grew up in India and had quite some situations that locked out the Real-ME...at 40+ I still only ... A: You're going after entirely the wrong things here Greg. That's why you're not building interest in ... | |
| how to get my girl back? | 3/28/2011 |
| Q: I went out with this girl and she broke up with me to go out with this other guy. and i really liked ... A: First thing you should do is to start dating other people. Nothing is so compelling to a woman as ... | |
| Still in love with previous employee. | 3/22/2011 |
| Q: I am still in love with a previous employee, who quit two months ago. I still think about her all ... A: I don't know what you're asking me here. Do you want to know if you should pursue this? Do you want ... | |
| Attraction | 3/19/2011 |
| Q: Neder, Last week I scheduled a meeting with my male admission representative. I didn't dress ... A: That seems like a lot of personal information from an admissions representative. By the way; a woman ... | |
| Asking this german girl out eventually | 2/18/2011 |
| Q: Im in highschool and i want to ask this girl out but i dont know how, never had any experience and i ... A: Congratulations on deciding to stop being shy! That's a huge step and I'm very proud of you for: a) ... | |
| Very little time if any time. | 2/16/2011 |
| Q: Greetings Dr. Neder I am a college student and i request your assistance. In one of my classes ... A: Simple: ask for it. Do this: write up a quick note before you get to class. In the note just say, ... | |
| Advice | 2/11/2011 |
| Q: I've recently met a girl at work that I'm interested in and we hit it off immediatley. We started ... A: First off, you're going to have to sneak around until you get things going. Bringing this out into ... | |
| Talking to a girl on facebook | 2/3/2011 |
| Q: recently i added this girl on facebook. She was my ex schoolmate and i managed to chat with her ... A: Simple: just send her your digits (private number - don't post it on her wall) and ask her for hers ... | |
| what's the next step | 2/1/2011 |
| Q: I hope you can help because everyone else is either "maxed out" or "on vacation" The background ... A: Hey Tony! No thanks Tony. You obviously already know everything and obviously did absolutely ... | |
| what's the next step | 1/30/2011 |
| Q: I hope you can help because everyone else is either "maxed out" or "on vacation" The background ... A: So, you just wound up with me because nobody else better was available to answer your question? Wow, ... | |
| Girl I Really Like | 1/17/2011 |
| Q: My name is Chris and I'm 23 years old. There is a girl that i have known through a friend for about ... A: You're welcome - go knock her socks off. Literally. Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder ... | |
| Girl I Really Like | 1/17/2011 |
| Q: My name is Chris and I'm 23 years old. There is a girl that i have known through a friend for about ... A: I'm absolutely on your side here. The worst things in life are those that we never took the time or ... | |
| Alone Forever? | 1/16/2011 |
| Q: I have a problem with my appearance. I’m not very good looking at all. I have acne and I’m kind of ... A: Let's be absolutely clear here: your confidence issue is the problem, not your looks. It's your lack ... | |
| How to aproach on facebook | 1/11/2011 |
| Q: There is this girl i recently saw on facebook. She's really pretty. I feel like getting to know her ... A: First of all, don't get your hopes up. The likelihood of this turning into something is very, very ... | |
| Attracted to a girl in a serious relationship. | 1/10/2011 |
| Q: I am student and attracted to a fellow sudent.Sadly she is already in a realtonship with a guy in ... A: What the hell???? Mario, come on here. Do you seriously think you can get close to her WITHOUT ... | |
| How to get to know a Playmate? | 1/8/2011 |
| Q: This is gonna be a strange question. There's a Playboy Playmate, who I have met once at a ... A: Decided to go it alone, huh? Why in the hell would you want to be her "friend"? That's a total ... | |
| girls | 1/5/2011 |
| Q: ok this is how my story... i was really popular at my old high school and i am very picky with the ... A: First of all STOP THE TEXTING ALL THE TIME!!!! This is absolutely going to KILL OFF any potential ... | |
| How to get to know a Playmate? | 1/4/2011 |
| Q: This is gonna be a strange question. There's a Playboy Playmate, who I have met once at a ... A: Actually, this isn't as strange a question as you think it is! I actually get similar ones pretty ... | |
| i am lost | 12/30/2010 |
| Q: So if you know a women for four months now and she still tells you she doesn't"at want a boyfriend ... A: Well, changing the situation isn't wrong, but the way you have to do it is very different than ... | |
| I screwed up... | 12/30/2010 |
| Q: So, I met this girl when she moved into the apartment next door with her sister. Everything started ... A: Yes, you're right. That was a SUPER bad move! What was she supposed to do with knowing that you ... | |
| Girls | 12/20/2010 |
| Q: You see I've met thief girl and i have always thought she was beautiful and i even told her that ... A: "Thief girl"??? What, did she steal your heart? ;) You've already made a huge mistake here ... | |
| Need help with this girl | 12/18/2010 |
| Q: I recently added this girl on facebook. She was in my school last time but we never got the chance ... A: So what are you looking for, some magic pill or something? You're going to need some context to ... | |
| Need help with this girl | 12/18/2010 |
| Q: I recently added this girl on facebook. She was in my school last time but we never got the chance ... A: You absolutely, positively MUST stop using Facebook as your "dating vehicle" like this! Guys do this ... | |
| how to this girl i like to like me | 12/8/2010 |
| Q: school but she is in a different class from me i really do like she is all that i think and i can ... A: Ok, here we go again! Sean, if you don't have the courage to approach her, what can I do for you? ... | |
| How to get things started | 12/7/2010 |
| Q: I have a query. There's this girl in my skl who is very goodlooking. I wasn't really attracted to ... A: Hey Akash! Of course there hasn't been anything between you - you haven't created it. You've been ... | |
| How to get things started | 12/4/2010 |
| Q: I have a query. There's this girl in my skl who is very goodlooking. I wasn't really attracted to ... A: "Rush" into asking her out? You're way, way late! This isn't a rush at all. As I mentioned before, ... | |
| How to get things started | 12/4/2010 |
| Q: I have a query. There's this girl in my skl who is very goodlooking. I wasn't really attracted to ... A: Why in the hell did you wait until after school was over - your absolute best chance to meet her - ... | |
| How or can I get 10's? | 12/1/2010 |
| Q: Let me say this as short as posible. Theres is this grl @ work which I would love 2 get to knw and ... A: Here's the problem: you've already blown it with the girl at work. You're not going to turn her ... | |
| How to date as an older woman? | 11/28/2010 |
| Q: Dr Neder, I'm 49 years old and pretty good looking for my age, with great legs and just a little ... A: You have a lot of issues going on here. Let me try to sort it all out. First of all, let's deal ... | |
| How to get her attention and Love? | 11/22/2010 |
| Q: I feel very frustrated right now because I am in a relationship where everything used to be fine. ... A: This is where things get more difficult. The problem is that you obviously have no role-model to ... | |
| How to get her attention and Love? | 11/22/2010 |
| Q: I feel very frustrated right now because I am in a relationship where everything used to be fine. ... A: I agree. They are excuses. There are two things you need to do in order to turn this around. First ... | |
| First Move | 11/19/2010 |
| Q: I need some help. This is the situation. I live in England and there is this girl in my class, we ... A: Ok, there are a number of mistakes here. Let's fix those first. Don't look for something "slick" to ... | |
| problem with ladies | 11/8/2010 |
| Q: I am a college and There is this girl who always asks about me i really like her but i dont know ... A: Go to my website: http://BeingAMan.com and click on "Articles". From there, read my FAQ's. It talks ... | |
| how to get a girl of my dreams??? | 11/3/2010 |
| Q: how to get a girl of my dreams ??...i am chatting with her through internet...how can i attract her ... A: You say, "Let's get together" and then you set the date. Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder ... | |
| Please help i met the woman of my dreams | 10/30/2010 |
| Q: I wanted to start by saying thank you in advance i have read a few of your post and i think your ... A: The mistake many men make is thinking they have to have just the right line or approach or whatever ... | |
| above emotion women | 10/26/2010 |
| Q: i have met a women who is above emotion,is it normal i feel acoldness as she is above emotion,is ... A: Hey Jef! This is wrong on so many levels, I can't imagine where to begin explaining it all! ... | |
| above emotion women | 10/25/2010 |
| Q: i have met a women who is above emotion,is it normal i feel acoldness as she is above emotion,is ... A: That's garbage and sounds like misdirection to me. Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder ... | |
| above emotion women | 10/22/2010 |
| Q: i have met a women who is above emotion,is it normal i feel acoldness as she is above emotion,is ... A: I have no idea what you mean by "above emotional". If she's cold to you that means she's ... | |
| How to deal with the break up as a man and win her back | 10/19/2010 |
| Q: free of charge (nowadays it's rare). I will try to be as quick as possible. Two months ago my ... A: Hey Charis! You're absolutely dedicated to getting me to help you screw up, aren't you? I can't be ... | |
| How to deal with the break up as a man and win her back | 10/18/2010 |
| Q: free of charge (nowadays it's rare). I will try to be as quick as possible. Two months ago my ... A: Seriously? Is that all the self-respect you have? Getting revenge like this isn't going to hurt her ... | |
| How to deal with the break up as a man and win her back | 10/18/2010 |
| Q: free of charge (nowadays it's rare). I will try to be as quick as possible. Two months ago my ... A: Considering what you've told me about this girl, I have no idea why you'd even want her back. I'll ... | |
| Approaching Advice | 10/17/2010 |
| Q: My name is Daniel. I don't really have much confidence or experience in the dating field. I tend to ... A: Tips? Tons and tons! First of all, let's deal with the boyfriend issue. EVERY girl has a ... | |
| I'm in love with my best friends sister. | 10/10/2010 |
| Q: Dr Neder. I have an issue and I wanted to ask your advice. I have been in love with my best friend's ... A: You don't tell her that you have feelings for her or that you have had for any length of time. The ... | |
| negativity | 10/7/2010 |
| Q: Whenever I meet a great girl, I always slowly start focusing on her flaws. I try not to do this but ... A: Actually, it IS voluntary. You simply haven't figured out yet how to stop it. The mind is a ... | |
| giving out numbers | 10/4/2010 |
| Q: Can you please tell me why women give out their numbers so freely, but when u txt or call them to ... A: First of all, let's be clear here. Girls won't give you their numbers just to get rid of you. They ... | |
| girls | 10/2/2010 |
| Q: I seek tips and advices on how to make girls like me. I want to be seen as Alfa male. How should I ... A: You'll learn all of this through my books, "Being a Man in a Woman's World I & II". See: ... | |
| In Need of Help | 10/1/2010 |
| Q: I have been in a relationship with the girl of my dreams for over two years now I am 27 she is 21. ... A: You have two problems here: this is a long-distance relationship and this girl is totally ... | |
| How cant I get this girl. | 9/24/2010 |
| Q: My name is Joe, the question I have is how can I get a girl for a relationship! I've hooked up with ... A: Yes, I fully agree - you don't know what girls want! You can't use high school or college as a ... | |
| How cant I get this girl. | 9/23/2010 |
| Q: My name is Joe, the question I have is how can I get a girl for a relationship! I've hooked up with ... A: First of all, you're mistaken about what women really look for in men. MEN look for the things ... | |
| HELP WITH GIRL | 9/21/2010 |
| Q: hey guys, im a junior in high school. i need some help with the ladies so i would prefer advice from ... A: I'm not a girl, 16-18. Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder President/CEO ... | |
| Winning back a girl for the thrill | 9/17/2010 |
| Q: I really want to tell you this directly, in less than a hundred words, but this isnt really ... A: Here's the problem: it's not Charlotte you're in love with. It's some ghost you've created in your ... | |
| Next step? | 9/15/2010 |
| Q: Dr. Neder, First, a little background... I met a girl about a month ago and the night we met we ... A: Yes, manning-up is exactly what I'm suggesting you do, but you have to be smart about it. You could ... | |
| Next step? | 9/15/2010 |
| Q: Dr. Neder, First, a little background... I met a girl about a month ago and the night we met we ... A: Don't blame the ex. Even if the call DID happen, he had absolutely nothing to do with it. Obviously, ... | |
| Shock | 9/1/2010 |
| Q: I was perusing the section that you are listed in and the first person I read had problems got and ... A: Who exactly are you with - the profanity police? Do you think it's your job to peruse the internet ... | |
| very apprehensive | 8/30/2010 |
| Q: I am interested in this women, but i always hesitate, we are of different race, i find myself ... A: Do you know what they say about someone that doesn't know what they don't know? If not, go look it ... | |
| how to know a girl interest in me? | 8/21/2010 |
| Q: I don't know how to understand that a girl is interested in me when she see me first time? I mean ... A: No, you don't get these signals on the street. There simply isn't enough time. One or even two "go ... | |
| how to know a girl interest in me? | 8/17/2010 |
| Q: I don't know how to understand that a girl is interested in me when she see me first time? I mean ... A: Frankly, there are many "signals of interest" from the smile, to touching herself to twirling her ... | |
| trick went completely wrong | 8/14/2010 |
| Q: i am 22 years old and there is a girl in our building and she used to come in our compound to hang ... A: Hey Ajay! Apology accepted. Thanks for being a REAL man - and a stand-up guy - and accepting ... | |
| How to focus and deal with options | 8/13/2010 |
| Q: I have this issue of how to focus and deal with rejections. I go to a gym regularly say twice a ... A: 1. Women are NOT hard to understand. You simply don't know how they think or work and worse, you're ... | |
| trick went completely wrong | 8/10/2010 |
| Q: i am 22 years old and there is a girl in our building and she used to come in our compound to hang ... A: Don't go off on me little man. YOU are the one that fucked things up here - not me - and you did so ... | |
| trick went completely wrong | 8/9/2010 |
| Q: i am 22 years old and there is a girl in our building and she used to come in our compound to hang ... A: Losing interest in you after 3-4 months? You think? OF COURSE she was losing interest in you! She ... | |
| winning back her feelings | 8/9/2010 |
| Q: Dr Dennis, What i have to say, could take a while, but i'll shorten the story as much as possible ... A: I'm going to waste my time and put it to you straight and you're going to completely ignore me. I'm ... | |
| about a girl | 8/8/2010 |
| Q: i am loving a girl . but she is with another one how can i fix that up A: You've given me absolutely nothing to go on here. What sort of answer can I give you? Best ... | |
| steps to take | 8/3/2010 |
| Q: I am falling for this girl big time and she is also catching on but I am afraid that it might not ... A: Amrinder! How can I possibly advise you? You haven't told me anything about your situation. All I ... | |
| Girl Problem | 7/30/2010 |
| Q: Hey, I am 18 years old and going to be a sophomore in college this fall and I haven't had a ... A: Your friends aren't exactly right, but they're on the right path. You don't need to be an asshole to ... | |
| How to attract a girl | 7/19/2010 |
| Q: i have been having this doubt for a long time. How do get things started between you and a random ... A: Yes, it's easy if you know how. The challenge is that there are a lot of steps along the way. I ... | |
| from old friend to girlfriend | 7/16/2010 |
| Q: Hey, im in a bit of a pickle. I've thought about how to approach my problem but i just cant decide ... A: First of all, you do have other options. For instance, you can simply walk away and forget her ... | |
| dreams | 7/12/2010 |
| Q: Dennis my name is Chris and I've been on this website before. today i had a dream of a good friend ... A: Dream interpretation is anything but an exact science. The reality is that we just don't know much ... | |
| one more thing.... | 7/8/2010 |
| Q: This really helped a lot. I am also starting to realize that I only need a couple of guys interested ... A: Why would you never call a guy after a date? What sort of dumb rule is that??? Are you afraid that ... | |
| follow-up | 7/3/2010 |
| Q: I am emailing you because I have a very big problem. I am a very attractive, smart 26 year old woman ... A: Hey Abigail! Well, I'll agree with you on this point: dating in the mid-west and other parts of the ... | |
| Girls | 7/1/2010 |
| Q: Im 13 i want a girlfriend but i homeschool and never go any where but walmart can tell ... A: If you're going to meet girls, you're going to need to be out around where they are. Walmart is one ... | |
| What do i do after getting a girl's number ? | 7/1/2010 |
| Q: I went out shopping today, and whilst my friend was outside smoking, i was looking and trying out ... A: DO NOT SMS HER!!!!!!!!!!!!! Dany, texting KILLS OFF potential relationships! Please don't do this. ... | |
| Dating woman/picking up woman | 6/30/2010 |
| Q: I am 28 years old and a pretty succesful young man. In general, I don't have a confidence problem, ... A: First of all, this is probably the most common question I get from guys. You're absolutely not alone ... | |
| Crush of love | 6/30/2010 |
| Q: m Indigo. I have a crush on a girl recently who studies at the same college as i do. I haven't ... A: She's not "that kind of girl"??? What kind of girl is she then? Does she have a penis or ... | |
| Too good?: Followup | 6/19/2010 |
| Q: Hey Tim! 1. Power is the perceived value you hold among others. 2. No. Confidence is belief in ... A: You start acting - and BEING genuine. Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder President/CEO ... | |
| Too good?: Followup | 6/19/2010 |
| Q: Hey Tim! 1. Power is the perceived value you hold among others. 2. No. Confidence is belief in ... A: The problem is that every time I tell you what's up, you tell me how everyone else or yourself or ... | |
| Too good?: Followup | 6/18/2010 |
| Q: Hey Tim! 1. Power is the perceived value you hold among others. 2. No. Confidence is belief in ... A: Yo! Tim! This is turning into an argument. Ok, fine. You're perfect in every way possible and it's ... | |
| Too good? | 6/17/2010 |
| Q: Ok, I have seen the MOST sex-oriented, the MOST annoying, and the MOST nerdy people in my school get ... A: Hey Tim! 1. Power is the perceived value you hold among others. 2. No. Confidence is belief in ... | |
| Too good? | 6/16/2010 |
| Q: Ok, I have seen the MOST sex-oriented, the MOST annoying, and the MOST nerdy people in my school get ... A: Again, you're taking the information you're getting, running it through your own filter in order to ... | |
| Too good? | 6/15/2010 |
| Q: Ok, I have seen the MOST sex-oriented, the MOST annoying, and the MOST nerdy people in my school get ... A: "Everything a girl could want"??? Everything YOU THINK a girl could want. That's the problem. You ... | |
| how to win a girls heart | 6/15/2010 |
| Q: how can i win her hear? here is more info I am just trying to find the Perfect girl and my friend ... A: What's the matter? Are you allergic to periods (".") or something? Jagan, this is one long run-on ... | |
| How do I get This girl of my dreams? | 6/14/2010 |
| Q: I am 22 years old have about a year left of college and hope to go to law school. There is a young ... A: Holy crap! Seriously? You've know this girl for 2 YEARS, played your hand and then threw it on the ... | |
| Break up | 6/14/2010 |
| Q: I had been with my partner for 6.5 years and the last 3 years of the relationship were tough times ... A: There are others out there who you will feel even more for; especially if you can have a REAL ... | |
| Break up | 6/14/2010 |
| Q: I had been with my partner for 6.5 years and the last 3 years of the relationship were tough times ... A: First of all, consider this: a long-distance relationship isn't a "relationship" in the first place. ... | |
| she told that she treats as cousin. | 6/13/2010 |
| Q: iam 26 year guy, but i look cute from face and having average physique,doing job, i proposed a girl ... A: First of all, you've got to get this notion that you're in love with someone that you've never ... | |
| getting a | 6/4/2010 |
| Q: So i met this girl a few weeks ago at work. i visit different car dealerships every week and she is ... A: Hey Mark! You walk up to her at work and say, "I'm going to get to know you better! Let's have a ... | |
| seen as abrother | 6/3/2010 |
| Q: i wish to attract a woman as alover and i always get awoman as a sister,ie woman always treat me as ... A: You become a woman's brother because you start off that way. You meet them and start acting like a ... | |
| How should I approach her? | 6/3/2010 |
| Q: I have a question, but you should have a little background information. I'm 21, live in the ... A: Ok, how many mistakes do you want to make with this one girl? First of all, her "status" is ... | |
| getting a | 6/3/2010 |
| Q: So i met this girl a few weeks ago at work. i visit different car dealerships every week and she is ... A: And you think that cowardly act makes things better? You ran up and threw your number at her??? You ... | |
| getting a "gift" | 6/2/2010 |
| Q: So i met this girl a few weeks ago at work. i visit different car dealerships every week and she is ... A: Wow...let's see if we can find another dozen ways to completely ruin anything between you and she, ... | |
| Confudes and need help | 6/1/2010 |
| Q: Hey Dennis my name is juan i'm 22 yrs old i need more clarity in What To Do When A Woman Tells You ... A: What you did wrong was not going for something when you had the chance. Can you make it better? ... | |
| what is my ex up to? | 6/1/2010 |
| Q: ok where do i start... me and me ex have been best friends our whole lives. we were nextdoor ... A: What about not taking it far enough and boring her away? Is this really what you want - her ... | |
| Playing Hard to Get | 5/30/2010 |
| Q: I just have a couple of general questions about girls. The first question I guess deals with the ... A: The "other side" is bullshit. Here's why: 1) What's the difference between some girl that plays ... | |
| Is there a chance to get back with her? | 5/27/2010 |
| Q: I'm sorry if I'm sending this message twice, but i think theres a problem with my other eamil i sent ... A: First off, I think you handled this pretty damn well. I'm glad you went to phone rather than ... | |
| asking a girl out | 5/23/2010 |
| Q: I am a girl of 22, and I was reading some stuff here to try to understand what men think about ... A: Yes, yes, I hear this all the time from women. Yet, it continues to work over and over again! I also ... | |
| Was this a bady way to approach a girl ? | 5/22/2010 |
| Q: I'm a guy in college and there is a girl who i like. I spoke to her very briefly since i heard her ... A: What in the hell are you embarrassed about? You got to know this girl and offered her a nice time ... | |
| Was this a bady way to approach a girl ? | 5/21/2010 |
| Q: I'm a guy in college and there is a girl who i like. I spoke to her very briefly since i heard her ... A: GREAT FREAKIN' JOB DAN!!!!!! I'm very proud of you! Here you are moving things ahead by engaging ... | |
| Is there a chance to get back with her? | 5/20/2010 |
| Q: I'm sorry if I'm sending this message twice, but i think theres a problem with my other eamil i sent ... A: I agree - that was a pretty cold, cowardly act to dump this on you via Facebook. Pretty low stuff! ... | |
| I really like this girl | 5/18/2010 |
| Q: i really like this girl at school and we are in the sme math class but we don't sit near each other. ... A: You don't have the guts to ask her out? That's fine, I'm sure someone else will then. Even in ... | |
| I really like this girl | 5/16/2010 |
| Q: i really like this girl at school and we are in the sme math class but we don't sit near each other. ... A: You need to ask her out to do something fun. However, when you "ask", do it intelligently. In fact, ... | |
| i need help.im in love... | 5/15/2010 |
| Q: 2 weeks age my cousin triped to us.it was first time i saw her & i felt some thing about her.but at ... A: There is nothing "respectful" about trying to fool yourself. I know this hurts, but you need to come ... | |
| I really like this girl | 5/15/2010 |
| Q: i really like this girl at school and we are in the sme math class but we don't sit near each other. ... A: Appreciate my help with what? Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder President/CEO ... | |
| Was this a bady way to approach a girl ? | 5/14/2010 |
| Q: I'm a guy in college and there is a girl who i like. I spoke to her very briefly since i heard her ... A: She started ignoring you because she hoped you'd have moved things forward and you didn't. You ... | |
| i need help.im in love... | 5/13/2010 |
| Q: 2 weeks age my cousin triped to us.it was first time i saw her & i felt some thing about her.but at ... A: It sickens me how your country filters and oppresses this stuff. Off the subject I know but I just ... | |
| How do i approach this girl | 5/13/2010 |
| Q: I met this girl at a boutique recently when i was getting a girt for my mum. She was working at the ... A: Yes, it's weird if you're trying to hide the fact that you're interested in the girl. On the other ... | |
| How do i approach this girl | 5/13/2010 |
| Q: I met this girl at a boutique recently when i was getting a girt for my mum. She was working at the ... A: I hope your mum liked the "girt". What you do here is use her job as a reason to move forward. It's ... | |
| How to approach this girl | 5/13/2010 |
| Q: I asked you a question a long time ago. But i dont know if you would still remember so here it is.. ... A: Too bad you didn't copy my response - it's far more important for context here. Don't mix business ... | |
| what should i do? | 5/11/2010 |
| Q: i need some advice on dating or starting a relationship as i have not been in one. i have known a ... A: You get indignant. You see this as the slap in the face it is. You get angry both at her (20%) for ... | |
| what should i do? | 5/10/2010 |
| Q: i need some advice on dating or starting a relationship as i have not been in one. i have known a ... A: Absolutely not! Do NOT do this! In fact, you need to wake up here and see what's really going on. ... | |
| How do i approach a girl ? | 5/2/2010 |
| Q: I'm a 19 year old guy studying at college in UK and there is a girl who i've seen around at the ... A: "Hey! You know, I didn't get your name last time we talked." Go read my FAQ's on my website: ... | |
| question about women | 5/2/2010 |
| Q: I met some girl and we seemed to hit it off really well. I've been less shy recently and I figured a ... A: Yeah - that's right. What did you want me to do; slobber all over you? Ok: Oh Guy! You're really ... | |
| question about women | 5/2/2010 |
| Q: I met some girl and we seemed to hit it off really well. I've been less shy recently and I figured a ... A: This is all about creating value - something you're not doing. You THINK you're creating value but ... | |
| How to win back the girl i like | 5/1/2010 |
| Q: well i just wld like to give you abit of background info before i ask my question.. I have been in ... A: Everything! Confidence, security, safety, rapport and connection, direction, passion and especially, ... | |
| How to win back the girl i like | 5/1/2010 |
| Q: well i just wld like to give you abit of background info before i ask my question.. I have been in ... A: No. You helping her will only be about you giving to her - and her taking from you. Let me guess: ... | |
| relationship | 4/29/2010 |
| Q: i have a girl in my class she knows i like her we are friends but she wont tell me if she likes me ... A: Yes, she WON'T tell you if she likes you. That's not her job - and she knows it. It's YOUR job to ... | |
| How do i approach a girl ? | 4/28/2010 |
| Q: I'm a 19 year old guy studying at college in UK and there is a girl who i've seen around at the ... A: First of all, this girl isn't going to laugh at you for talking to her. That's just your own fears ... | |
| Hey | 4/28/2010 |
| Q: What’s up I’m Steven age 19 from NY, OK so it all started back when i was 12 in middle school and i ... A: Hmmm...is there something you're doing wrong here? Hmmm...let me think.... Yes, there's something ... | |
| Is the ball really in my court? Is this just a game or is she likely to come back for good? | 4/22/2010 |
| Q: Ok Well I have spent most of the day reading other peoples stories and pain about there breakups and ... A: First, it's obvious that you're sending this to everyone on this board. That's rude. You're not ... | |
| question | 4/20/2010 |
| Q: I hope that u will be well and good. I want to ask some questions which are very important for me, ... A: 1. No, this is not a phobia. A phobia is an intense and persistent fear that affects multiple areas ... | |
| Pls what nxt can i do | 4/19/2010 |
| Q: I've asked this question sometimes before but there is an addition.I am 18. There is this girl that ... A: Of course she only said "ok". What else was she supposed to do with that??? You have very likely ... | |
| Is she playing hard to get | 4/12/2010 |
| Q: I need your help in finding out whether this girl whom I am interested in is playing hard to get or ... A: OF COURSE she doesn't respond! You may as well have just slapped her right in the face! Further, ... | |
| ma love | 4/10/2010 |
| Q: there is a gal in ma class vv much preety , attitude ... we use to see each other in our class ... A: I sincerely hope that's an English class because you don rite vry wel! It's so rude to write to ... | |
| how to attract | 4/9/2010 |
| Q: Sir I want the answer of a question written below which is very important for me. Please answer the ... A: You've waited a year to get this fixed? That's a long time to wait! Is this really what you want to ... | |
| Previous question | 4/8/2010 |
| Q: I'm going to ask you for a big favour, You were right you had answerd the below question already ... A: The response is below. Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder President/CEO ... | |
| How to approach a girl | 4/7/2010 |
| Q: I was in love with a girl some time ago.. We could have actually got together initially when we ... A: I can't tell you what sort of impact your contacting her had. Only she knows that and I don't read ... | |
| love | 4/5/2010 |
| Q: How can i start a conversation with a girl and how can i finish it? A: You start a conversation using an "approach" and you end it using a "close". In my books, "Being a ... | |
| what do i do ??? | 4/5/2010 |
| Q: who is soft and gentle and kind and i love everything about her and she knows it, her sister and all ... A: Your email address is hidden on this system and thus, I can't email this to you. You can write to me ... | |
| Increasing her attraction | 4/3/2010 |
| Q: Hey Doc, I've been talking to this girl for a few months, and I really think she has the most ... A: Some reality: she realizes what you don't. This is obviously a long-distance situation (since you ... | |
| Is she playing hard to get | 3/30/2010 |
| Q: I need your help in finding out whether this girl whom I am interested in is playing hard to get or ... A: Wow! It's rare that I see someone working so hard to destroy something they wanted! Sangeeth, ... | |
| I dont knw what to do! | 3/28/2010 |
| Q: I am 18. There is this girl that i like. I think she is the ideal girl 4 me. We were mates in high ... A: The exact time to tell her your feelings: when you're already a couple in a relationship - not ... | |
| i just don't get it | 3/22/2010 |
| Q: I'm naturally a very nice guy. it's just the way i am. my roommates girlfriends are always telling ... A: The key to getting these things fixed in entirely in your belief system. You want to believe in ... | |
| i just don't get it | 3/21/2010 |
| Q: I'm naturally a very nice guy. it's just the way i am. my roommates girlfriends are always telling ... A: Hmmm...these girls all tell you what a great guy you'd be for a girl - but not for them. Doesn't ... | |
| Getting the first date | 3/19/2010 |
| Q: So I asked her dad if I could ask her out and he said no I am thinking about asking again this year ... A: Why go after a "no" with TWO people? I have no idea why you asked her father instead of asking her ... | |
| Words or lines | 3/18/2010 |
| Q: What lines must i say when i want a chick everytime? A: There are no "magic words". If there was, I'd be out of business because everyone would only have to ... | |
| Are girls interested in me ? | 3/16/2010 |
| Q: I went to a Persian festival party last night and during the time there, i noticed many girls ... A: From your description it's very hard to say. These girls (and guys!) could be interested in you or ... | |
| Locker buddies | 3/12/2010 |
| Q: I like a girl but she has a bf the worst part is she has a locker right by mine like touching mine & ... A: Please help with what? Getting a new locker somewhere farther away? I'll be you could just ask. If ... | |
| Touching A Woman with Confidence | 3/5/2010 |
| Q: Hey Doc, I read over some of your answers to past questions. Great stuff. My question pertains to ... A: Let's see if you still agree after reading my answer to your question! Actually, the answer is ... | |
| My plan to win her back | 3/3/2010 |
| Q: Well i recently kind of fell out with this girl i have liked for one year. I suppose she was having ... A: Don't do this. Think about it: what do you really hope is going to happen here? That she swoons, ... | |
| Pls i need your help. | 3/2/2010 |
| Q: There is this girl i like. But the problem is that For the past 6 mths,we have graduated from ... A: You DON'T impress her! That's a huge mistake in and of itself. What you're trying to do is to make ... | |
| Pls i need your help. | 3/2/2010 |
| Q: There is this girl i like. But the problem is that For the past 6 mths,we have graduated from ... A: Forget it. This girl isn't interested in you, she's avoiding you, you've taken way too long to do ... | |
| I'm madly in love with this girl and i dont know what to do =\ | 3/1/2010 |
| Q: Hey there. Well, I don't have much experience with girls mostly because I'm VERY shy and have very ... A: Huh? You don't think you "openly show it"? How can you not? If you feel these things, trust me, they ... | |
| I'm madly in love with this girl and i dont know what to do =\ | 3/1/2010 |
| Q: Hey there. Well, I don't have much experience with girls mostly because I'm VERY shy and have very ... A: First of all, why are you show and lacking in self-esteem? These are things that you can fix. Why do ... | |
| Hi I would like some advices concerning asking a girl out how I have secretly had feeling for years. | 2/26/2010 |
| Q: I’m very confused of what I should do next and not very good at flirting or reading women’s signals. ... A: Wow - you sure have a lot of fears! The worst part about all of this is that those fears cripple you ... | |
| Dating Advice | 2/23/2010 |
| Q: Im in my early 30's and guess you can say a late bloomer. I have a blind date set this weekend. I ... A: I don't know this girl, her beliefs or anything about her. I can't tell you what she finds "boring" ... | |
| Attract a girl | 2/22/2010 |
| Q: i love one beautiful girl.she is proudy also. she is my neighbour.from last 1 month.i want to ... A: Ok, so ask her out already. Is that really your question?? Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder ... | |
| Where to put hands when talking to a girl | 2/21/2010 |
| Q: Dennis W. Neder, I'm happy that you volunteered to answer the questions men have. I'm now a ... A: First of all, you need to get over this misconception that you're "shy". In fact, you aren't. You ... | |
| does she like me? | 2/19/2010 |
| Q: hey i have recently moved into a accomodation hostel at university, and have met a girl, i have a ... A: First of all, no. There's no "test" you can give her to prove she's interested in you. Girls are ... | |
| Does she like me as boyf material? | 2/17/2010 |
| Q: I'm 18, just started university. I met this girl on the net and we met up for coffee as kind of ... A: You were placed in the "potential boyfriend" category. That's why she wanted her friends to meet ... | |
| Does this girl like me? | 2/17/2010 |
| Q: Hey, my name is thomas, and there is this girl that i really like, but i`m unsure if she likes me ... A: Yes, she likes you. It's often very difficult to tell with most girls because they are experts at ... | |
| the woman of my dreams and now of my heartache | 2/12/2010 |
| Q: I fell in love with a woman 6 yrs ago and kept silent even though she married a questionable man. ... A: I'm sitting here shaking my head. Do you know that this is the 11th question of this exact nature ... | |
| i dont know what else to do | 2/12/2010 |
| Q: i am interested in this lady and i have made my intention known to her but she just wont accept ... A: Here's what you do: move on. You've made a ton of mistakes here, but that's not the most important ... | |
| FRIEND ZONE | 2/11/2010 |
| Q: so im a college guy who has this crush on this girl..we've been friends since november and she knows ... A: I don't know if you're trapped yet, but if you don't make some moves here, you're going to be. What ... | |
| Tips & Tricks on talking to girls and building confidence | 2/10/2010 |
| Q: Hey Doc, With Valentines Day coming up lately I have been noticing like most single guys how much ... A: It depends on where this mythical woman is, how you have contact with her and how you can approach ... | |
| Tips & Tricks on talking to girls and building confidence | 2/10/2010 |
| Q: Hey Doc, With Valentines Day coming up lately I have been noticing like most single guys how much ... A: Frankly, V-Day sucks when you're in a relationship or married too, but I digress. To your ... | |
| How can i propose a girl | 2/8/2010 |
| Q: hardly reaching 16,i like a girl,she is my tution mate. Since i know her i m unable to talk to her. ... A: First of all, why are you giving away all your power to her? You "love her so much"?? How can that ... | |
| Should I meet her when I have a scar on my face | 2/8/2010 |
| Q: The problem sounds abit trivial but its bothering me so hope you can help me. I met a girl 2 years ... A: If it's bothering you there's nothing trivial about it. You might want to check with your ... | |
| i really like her but dont no wat to do | 2/7/2010 |
| Q: Hey Dr.Dennis, my names Dave, and I'm 15 and a sophomore and i have a major crush on a girl named ... A: Wow - that's pretty arrogant! Who are you to say whether you're "good enough" for her or not? That's ... | |
| on chatting!! | 2/3/2010 |
| Q: Dennis W.Neder :) I'm now about to have a girl's email-address, I love her so much, I've seen her ... A: Let's start with where you want to go here. I'm assuming that you want more than simply having email ... | |
| Landing the Dream Girl | 2/3/2010 |
| Q: Dennis, I met this girl while hanging out with a bunch of my friends. We talked for a while and ... A: Don't be confused by her waiting for 3 days. It was because she saw you as a rude, insecure jackass ... | |
| i love her but she hates me | 2/2/2010 |
| Q: i fall in love with her but i have done mistake after some day then onwards she doesn't like to talk ... A: If you've done all this to piss her off, what are you hoping I can do for you - turn that around? ... | |
| Love Hurts | 2/1/2010 |
| Q: Okay there was this girl (A) I met and I had the biggest crush on her, well the day i was gonna be ... A: Wow Zach! Did you get some list of possible mistakes to make and are checking them all off? You ... | |
| How to get my best friend to like me | 1/31/2010 |
| Q: Hey, Me and My best friend are really close, we know everything about each other accept she doesn't ... A: So, he's using you just like she's using you? She doesn't get attention from her boyfriend so you ... | |
| How to approach a girl | 1/27/2010 |
| Q: I just received advice from you earlier about the need to date other girls as well and not only ... A: Yes, there is something of a template and a set of rules, but they are far too extensive to explain ... | |
| How to continue my pursuit for love | 1/26/2010 |
| Q: Well here i have my own story. Its a long one and different one but i will summarise it for you. I ... A: Hey Nesan! You didn't really bother to listen to what I told you did you? You're about to get your ... | |
| How to continue my pursuit for love | 1/25/2010 |
| Q: Well here i have my own story. Its a long one and different one but i will summarise it for you. I ... A: Well, first of all, don't give her the bracelet. All you're (still) trying to do is to buy her love ... | |
| How to continue pursuit for love | 1/23/2010 |
| Q: Well here i have my own story. Its a long one and different one but i will summarise it for you. I ... A: There's only one way that relationships ever get built - in person. If you've been trying to create ... | |
| Shall I give up? give her space or continue to pursue her? | 1/22/2010 |
| Q: Hey, I really like this girl, she is completely different from anyone I have ever met and she is ... A: Texts, confessing your feelings, giving her unearned gifts, agreeing to ridiculous terms that she ... | |
| Introducing myself to the girl of my dreams. | 1/20/2010 |
| Q: All I know is her name age and that shes a bit younger then me. Her names Rebecca and shes truly the ... A: Slow down there tiger! You "must be with her"? What if you're not? You have "...an inner hole that ... | |
| Give up or Keep trying to win her over | 1/10/2010 |
| Q: So, I've been talking to this girl for awhile now. Everything was going right, we got with each ... A: No. You let her go - and start dating all her friends. You do not become her friend because; ... | |
| love | 1/8/2010 |
| Q: okay my names boom its what they call me and i'm kinda big and very scary looking for a 16 year old ... A: Most of the really big guys I know are also the nicest. They have to overcome that initial ... | |
| Huge crush on a beautiful girl at school | 1/6/2010 |
| Q: I want to give a girl some flowers (I grew some daffodils) because I have a crush on her, though I ... A: Really Ryan? Is that all you want - just to give her flowers and nothing else? Come on here, let's ... | |
| Personality vs looks | 1/3/2010 |
| Q: Does personality really triumph over looks when it comes to attracting a women? I'm 20 and I've seen ... A: Yes, it really does. However, it greats more pronounced as you get older. My own research and a ... | |
| What's my strategy? | 12/31/2009 |
| Q: So last August I was at a friend's BBQ, hot August day and everyone was just chilling in a very ... A: Dude. What do I do here? Do I go ahead and set you up to crash and burn or do I give it to you ... | |
| Asking a girl out on a data | 12/27/2009 |
| Q: .. I've seen this lovely girl a couple of weeks ago and I want to take her out on a date but I ... A: Why in the hell did you just get her email address when you had the chance to get digits??? No, ... | |
| I love this girl | 12/26/2009 |
| Q: I live in Los Angeles. I love this girl more than anybody I've ever loved before. The only problem ... A: As though you don't have it tough enough, let me guess - this is a long-distance relationship, ... | |
| Trying to get a girl... Hahhahaha | 12/21/2009 |
| Q: I really like this girl at my job... We both have the same position and she knows who I am. The only ... A: "Hahhahaha" ?? What's so funny about trying to get this girl? If you're this scared about ... | |
| how to make a girl love me back. | 12/18/2009 |
| Q: sir, iam a p.g student.i had ... A: You must go find another girl. Suriya, why would you spend all this time and energy trying to ... | |
| Funny or serious | 12/18/2009 |
| Q: I am 24 and there is this insanely attractive girl that works at the same mall I do. I work as a ... A: I teach a large number of approaches, but the simplest and quickest is called the "context ... | |
| Ignoring | 12/12/2009 |
| Q: Hey Doc, it's Brandan here again. Through the past questions I had, I understand what you mean, but ... A: I UNDERSTAND ALREADY! No amount of asking me the same question over and over again is going to ... | |
| I want her to notice me again. | 12/10/2009 |
| Q: Well, there was this girl. The most beautiful girl I have ever seen. She's also smart, funny, ... A: If you barely speak to her it means you're not making the effort. You have as much (frankly, more) ... | |
| Ignoring | 12/9/2009 |
| Q: Hey Doc, it's Brandan here again. Through the past questions I had, I understand what you mean, but ... A: No, it's not going to scare her or make her feel weird - unless you do something else to cause that. ... | |
| Confessed too Early | 12/9/2009 |
| Q: this is Brandan, and I'm currently 15 years old. I have a crush on this girl that I already ... A: Hey Brandan! First of all, you've got to get control over your own thoughts. Brandan, thoughts are ... | |
| Confessed too Early | 12/7/2009 |
| Q: this is Brandan, and I'm currently 15 years old. I have a crush on this girl that I already ... A: You're very welcome. Now, go turn that new information into something really great: with a new, ... | |
| Confessed too Early | 12/6/2009 |
| Q: this is Brandan, and I'm currently 15 years old. I have a crush on this girl that I already ... A: Actually, it's "Dennis". Have you ever heard the saying "Talk is cheap"? Well, it is. The rule is ... | |
| I want her back.... | 12/3/2009 |
| Q: I'm only 16 and yesterday a girl broke up with me after only a very short time of being together. ... A: What do you want me to help you with? I can't make her not leave school and I can't make her change ... | |
| Honesty. | 11/26/2009 |
| Q: Helo, I did research about a year ago about not being a nice guy. Worked OK so far but, I got ... A: You're thinking "all or nothing" here. Extremes aren't what you're going for. You're looking for ... | |
| Honesty. | 11/26/2009 |
| Q: Helo, I did research about a year ago about not being a nice guy. Worked OK so far but, I got ... A: I'm not at all clear on what your issues are. You're "too honest"? Nope - no you're not. Nobody is ... | |
| huge crush with girl i cant stop thinking about | 11/19/2009 |
| Q: im 15 and usually im the type of guy to get on with his studies and work. i live in england and im ... A: Your looks have very little to do with your success with girls. On the other hand, if you give away ... | |
| ? | 11/15/2009 |
| Q: Dr. Neder, I am 20 yrs old and in college. My friends always seem to get girls and go home with ... A: This is simply a skill like any other. You don't know how the game is played and thus, you have no ... | |
| Freshman year, a girl at my University, I want to confirm a few things, seek a bit of aid as well. | 11/14/2009 |
| Q: To begin, there has been this girl I've been eyeing for quite a while, I just figured out the body ... A: Whoa there a minute big guy! What in the HELL do you care if she "knows" you like her??? Wait - ... | |
| Atraction | 11/13/2009 |
| Q: i really like this girl at school, but how to i get her attracted to me? A: Hmmm...that's a toughie. How about dressing up like a big box of chocolates? If she likes chocolate, ... | |
| girls and rejection | 11/12/2009 |
| Q: two questions here, 1:how do you prepare or practice for getting the phone number for 10s and 2:how ... A: 1) I'll answer this in a minute. 2) Why do you give a shit? Here's the reality: EVERY GIRL has a ... | |
| Any chance with her? Sorry for the length. | 11/11/2009 |
| Q: Ok, so I was seeing this girl who I really like. It was like love at first site to me. We went on 6 ... A: Hey John! Yes, a generic email would be fine as long as your communication with her doesn't ... | |
| Any chance with her? Sorry for the length. | 11/10/2009 |
| Q: Ok, so I was seeing this girl who I really like. It was like love at first site to me. We went on 6 ... A: a) Yes, the mom can be used to your advantage - possibly. However, I see this working against guys ... | |
| Question about approaching women | 11/8/2009 |
| Q: I've never being in any relationship for about 2 years now. I know why, but I don't know how to ... A: You have only a couple of problems here - and both are relatively easy to solve. Let me say this: at ... | |
| Consistant Strikeout | 11/4/2009 |
| Q: I've always wondered why desirable girls seem to pass me by for the pretty boy types. Here's an ... A: Glaring at women is necessary for your occupation??? Hmmm...I think I want YOUR job! Let's deal ... | |
| I have tried everything, what now? | 11/3/2009 |
| Q: first for some prefacing, I will refer the girl as K. And another boy as E. I met K last April. ... A: Here's the summary of your situation: you want this far more than she does. You're convinced that ... | |
| How do I get her to respond - 10,000 miles away? | 11/1/2009 |
| Q: I met a girl 5 weeks ago and everything in the world seemed right. Something about her made me feel ... A: First of all, how are you EVER going to have a "serious relationship" if you and she are 10,000 ... | |
| How to get a girl | 11/1/2009 |
| Q: I like this girl that is in my grade. We are both in 10th grade which i feel helps alot. The ... A: Let me get this straight: you were "fine" with her turning you down and you "respected that"??? ... | |
| I don't know what to do with my crush | 11/1/2009 |
| Q: The thing is that there is this girl i've met since we were in kindergarten.I am in 7 grade ... A: Why, oh why didn't you move on this when you FIRST had the chance? When you first noticed her ... | |
| How do i tell my sister's best friend that I like her? | 10/31/2009 |
| Q: I have know her her for about 2 years, she has had no boyfriends, is still a virgin, I don't even ... A: So if I understand your question, you want to impress her by seeming older than you are. First of ... | |
| How do I get this girl to like me again? | 10/30/2009 |
| Q: There was this girl who liked me a little while ago. I didn't know her at the time but after a few ... A: The problem is, she didn't "like you" in the beginning. She simply enjoyed the attention you gave ... | |
| How to win the heart of the girl i really like | 10/28/2009 |
| Q: I've been in love with this girl in my school for about 8 months already. Initially, she just broke ... A: Hey Chris! Well, you absolutely don't want to believe what I'm telling you so, sure, go ahead and ... | |
| How to win the heart of the girl i really like | 10/26/2009 |
| Q: I've been in love with this girl in my school for about 8 months already. Initially, she just broke ... A: In many ways. Let's just take a look at one example: when you tell a girl how you feel about her, ... | |
| How to win the heart of the girl i really like | 10/26/2009 |
| Q: I've been in love with this girl in my school for about 8 months already. Initially, she just broke ... A: No, you no longer have a chance with this girl. You've totally destroyed any chance you might have ... | |
| Help Pelase Dortoc | 10/25/2009 |
| Q: So heres the story: Im a junior in high school and there is this stunning girl who I know who, if ... A: First of all, NO WOMAN is "out of your league". She's just a freakin' girl! If you believe she's out ... | |
| The first meeting! | 10/21/2009 |
| Q: Hope you're fine and thanks again for you respond. Well, you know, some parts of your answer were ... A: I'm afraid that if you don't copy the original messages, there's no possible way for me to remember ... | |
| Playing hard to get | 10/21/2009 |
| Q: Dennis, I met this girl, at a Salsa class and we connected instantly. In fact she initiated ... A: You should respond now. 3-4 days is enough, but 5-7 isn't out of line either. Here's the deal: you ... | |
| Question | 10/21/2009 |
| Q: Neder. I live in London England and I've discovered over the last few years that women who you'd ... A: I've "hunted" in almost every large city you can imagine and I never see this sort of reaction. It's ... | |
| Playing hard to get | 10/20/2009 |
| Q: Dennis, I met this girl, at a Salsa class and we connected instantly. In fact she initiated ... A: Oh, these sad, ridiculous games women play! All of this is very calculated on her part - and trust ... | |
| Hello | 10/20/2009 |
| Q: Dennis W. Neder I live in a country that boys and girls are separated from primary school to the end ... A: You live in a country where that separation hasn't always been the case! What you're asking me is ... | |
| Question | 10/20/2009 |
| Q: Neder. I live in London England and I've discovered over the last few years that women who you'd ... A: Why are you waiting for eye contact in order to approach. When you get it, that's great and you ... | |
| how to attract women | 10/16/2009 |
| Q: I am in my third year in college. Last year, I been briefly talking to my consuelor about sexuality. ... A: Hey Edward! Yes, you do because if you don't do something today, tomorrow will be exactly the same. ... | |
| how to attract women | 10/15/2009 |
| Q: I am in my third year in college. Last year, I been briefly talking to my consuelor about sexuality. ... A: Oh, I see. You don't just lack education, you're also lazy too. You want everything spoon-fed to you ... | |
| Girl behavior is a like a sinister mystery novel | 10/15/2009 |
| Q: Doc, I have a couple scenarios to run by you. The first was a test, I believe. I was dating this ... A: First, a couple of points: You don't deal with her depression. She needs to get it handled through ... | |
| Girl behavior is a like a sinister mystery novel | 10/15/2009 |
| Q: Doc, I have a couple scenarios to run by you. The first was a test, I believe. I was dating this ... A: I had to laugh at your subject line! Yes, I know that sometimes women seem "sinister". In fact, they ... | |
| how to attract women | 10/14/2009 |
| Q: I am in my third year in college. Last year, I been briefly talking to my consuelor about sexuality. ... A: First of all, you need to get over this notion that you're "shy". When people say that they ... | |
| girl at school | 10/14/2009 |
| Q: So I'm 17, almost 18 and a senior in high school. There is this pretty hot junior girl, apparently ... A: There are literally hundreds of approaches, but the easiest, and frankly, the best is the "context ... | |
| approaching women | 10/14/2009 |
| Q: I'm 16 and I've been interested in this girl for quite some time now but we haven't really had much ... A: Did you read the FAQ's? It talks about a method to approach her call the "context approach". That is ... | |
| Messaging tips | 10/13/2009 |
| Q: I would just like to ask. How do i know when to text a message to engage a girl in a conversation? ... A: This one is simple: NEVER, EVER, EVER! You should NEVER use texting to open a conversation with ... | |
| girl of your dreams | 10/13/2009 |
| Q: i used to hang out with this girl and began to have feelings for her. at an event her ex came up to ... A: So, if you don't know how she'll deal with things, why are you assuming the worst? Why not assume ... | |
| plz help. crush | 10/12/2009 |
| Q: "hey im david. im a sophmore in high school and i have a major crush on this girl in my school and i ... A: No, you wouldn't get laughed at. EVERYONE is afraid of rejection. Your defense is an obvious one: ... | |
| approaching women | 10/12/2009 |
| Q: I'm 16 and I've been interested in this girl for quite some time now but we haven't really had much ... A: First of all, at 16, let me say that you're on the right track here. Communication skills are ... | |
| The Girl of my Dreams | 10/9/2009 |
| Q: I am a junior in highschool and theres this girl in my chemistry class that ive liked since my ... A: Hell Justin! Ok, so let's analyze this a little deeper: You've been interested in this girl for ... | |
| Attracting the perfect gal | 10/8/2009 |
| Q: i m in luv with this gal for the past 3 months but i m not sure what she feels about me. We meet ... A: No, I don't think it will last. Long-distance relationships never work out. There are far too many ... | |
| Girl problems | 10/7/2009 |
| Q: Ok, me and this girl are really close friends and i really like her but she has a boyfriend in the ... A: Yes. Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder President ~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~. Remington ... | |
| Girl problems | 10/6/2009 |
| Q: Ok, me and this girl are really close friends and i really like her but she has a boyfriend in the ... A: Why did you tell her? In the hopes that she would come back and say, "Oh! Dylan! I feel the same ... | |
| Girl problems | 10/6/2009 |
| Q: Ok, me and this girl are really close friends and i really like her but she has a boyfriend in the ... A: Stop being the surrogate boyfriend. In fact, you're just a place-holder until the guy she really ... | |
| What can I do? | 10/3/2009 |
| Q: There is a young woman in my classes in university, and I have never met someone like her. I know I ... A: Hey Marcus! At what age? It can happen at any age and depends on the woman. Some never get it. It's ... | |
| How to attract the girl i like | 9/26/2009 |
| Q: I think you would probably have forgotten me. Here is the link to my previous question. ... A: Why are you worrying about things that haven't even happened yet? Why are you making up things to be ... | |
| I dont know is the have some feeling to me ? | 9/26/2009 |
| Q: Sry, Dr, my english is not good, coz i'm a asian. I need ur help. The girl who I met is a white ... A: First of all, you absolutely HAVE TO get off the texting!!! Texting makes you take all the emotion ... | |
| How to attract the girl i like | 9/26/2009 |
| Q: I think you would probably have forgotten me. Here is the link to my previous question. ... A: Unfortunately, it's been removed from the server. Yes, when you get back to her, set the date for ... | |
| Girl in Bio Class | 9/26/2009 |
| Q: So there is this girl in my biology class, the first few classes it didn't seem that she even ... A: I think she likes you too, but I don't know what sort of help you are asking for. If you want to ... | |
| please i'm fraustrated | 9/25/2009 |
| Q: i'm 23yrs old guy and i've been with a lot of girls about 15 girls since i started love(proposing) ... A: This is a very severe situation. You need to seek counseling right away - don't wait. Your ... | |
| Female friend I like who I thought liked me | 9/23/2009 |
| Q: I met this lady about 4 months ago and we chatted over the Internet for awhile through e-mail. A ... A: Seriously? You'd be "happy" to have her friendship if that's all she'll give you? Seriously? Is that ... | |
| Girl I like Ignores me | 9/22/2009 |
| Q: so it all started like this... There's this girl i like from church and this summer we went to ... A: Hey Jack! My question to you: why are you worried about things that haven't happened? Stop ... | |
| I dont know what to do... | 9/22/2009 |
| Q: There is a girl at a school which is next to mine.I fell in love with her i think...Could you please ... A: That's actually a very huge question! I can't possible give you everything you're going to need ... | |
| We go out but she has a distance boyfriend | 9/22/2009 |
| Q: This is rather a long question...am 30 n she is 23. I met this girl through my ex-gf, who her ... A: Hey Athi! Yes. If you go out as "friends" you become friends and women simply don't enter ... | |
| how to back my love | 9/21/2009 |
| Q: she was married and she is in the border of divorce.i am working abroad and she is in my ... A: Please stop doing this to yourself. You have focused all your energy on this one rude idiot. What's ... | |
| How to get the girl i like | 9/19/2009 |
| Q: Well there's this girl i like whom I have been friends with for about eight months.Initailly when i ... A: Hey Morgan! Your exams are the perfect reason to give her distance right now. She's not going to ... | |
| How to get the girl i like | 9/18/2009 |
| Q: Well there's this girl i like whom I have been friends with for about eight months.Initailly when i ... A: The feminine mind is one of the most powerful forces in the universe. In fact, she can do more to ... | |
| How to get a girl back u already had.. | 9/17/2009 |
| Q: Okay i am currently a senior in high school. I have had the biggest crush on this girl all through ... A: Here's a reality that women HATE me to tell you guys: women want to be the ones to chase, not to BE ... | |
| How to get the girl i like | 9/17/2009 |
| Q: Well there's this girl i like whom I have been friends with for about eight months.Initailly when i ... A: Oh! How often I hear this story - guys that have great chances with great girls only to blow them by ... | |
| a girl makes drives me crazy!!!! | 9/16/2009 |
| Q: look....she is a very pretty girl,she has some children acts..but i love her sooooooo much,the ... A: Your question is too vague for anything but a very generic answer: find out what she wants and needs ... | |
| how to back my love | 9/15/2009 |
| Q: she was married and she is in the border of divorce.i am working abroad and she is in my ... A: You have two major problems here: 1) You're long-distance, and 2) she's a manipulative and ... | |
| Girl I like Ignores me | 9/14/2009 |
| Q: so it all started like this... There's this girl i like from church and this summer we went to ... A: Yes, you still have a chance. I can't tell you how good or bad a chance you have however. It depends ... | |
| i like her but does she like me | 9/14/2009 |
| Q: hey i have a very difficult situation iam 13 and i know this girl called alex she is very beautiful ... A: She likes you. If she didn't she wouldn't have told you she wanted to go out with you. Best ... | |
| Girl I like Ignores me | 9/14/2009 |
| Q: so it all started like this... There's this girl i like from church and this summer we went to ... A: You think you haven't done anything? My friend, you've committed the cardinal sin (pun intended) of ... | |
| We go out but she has a distance boyfriend | 9/11/2009 |
| Q: This is rather a long question...am 30 n she is 23. I met this girl through my ex-gf, who her ... A: First of all, there is no "right time" to tell her about your feelings for her. If you do that, ... | |
| girl problems man :( | 9/10/2009 |
| Q: ok, plz dont make fun of me for any reason at all, thanks. Im in the 9th grade and i really like ... A: Don't make fun of you???? I'm not making ANY promises here! You have to step up and take your ... | |
| Is there still hope to bring back my love | 9/8/2009 |
| Q: I've written to you about two months ago about my girlfriend of more than a year who wanted a ... A: Here's what's going on: When you told her "no" to the break you gave her real hope about having a ... | |
| HEEEELP! | 9/6/2009 |
| Q: Hey there Dr. Neder, I'm going to go straight to the point here, iv liked this girl for about a year ... A: Wait a minute here. If you and she are going out (as in a "date" - NOT "hanging out" - that's what ... | |
| What should I do? | 9/3/2009 |
| Q: Neder, I'll try my best to explain things in a nutshell for you. I've liked this girl alot at my ... A: Wow - way to play it cool. In fact, "cold" is a better word. So now, here's what she REALLY knows ... | |
| this girl | 9/3/2009 |
| Q: today i got this girls number while i was talking 2 her. i was wondering if you could anser a few ... A: First of all, damn-good job!! You got her digits. I'm very proud of you. I know that doesn't seem ... | |
| Propose a girl | 8/29/2009 |
| Q: Recently I had a crush on a girl who happens to work in the same company with me.But we are in ... A: Here's the problem: you went right in for what you wanted (normally a good thing) but had absolutely ... | |
| this chick | 8/28/2009 |
| Q: hey im a senior in high school and i just talked to this girl a lil bit in class today and i asked ... A: Writing something generic isn't going to get you many points. I don't know her and I can't tell you ... | |
| this girl | 8/24/2009 |
| Q: i wanna find a way to talk to her or get her to notice me or something but idk how. most stuff ... A: What you're asking for is what so many guys ask me for - the sure, magical thing that will make her ... | |
| Help | 8/23/2009 |
| Q: Hello Im Adam Cavanagh i have had so many relationships but feel so wierd i really like this girl ... A: So, what you're really asking me is this: "how can I impress this girl so much that she falls in ... | |
| I need help | 8/18/2009 |
| Q: Neder. My name is Aaron im 25 years of age and ive recently met this girl she is 22 and her name is ... A: I love the idea that you're trying to conserve energy here by not using any punctuation whatsoever, ... | |
| i need sum help and advice, plz help | 8/17/2009 |
| Q: hey doc my name is adam, ive been talkin to this girl for about 2 months now. her boyfriend broke up ... A: Why in the hell would you tell her exactly what you DO NOT want only because you think that's what ... | |
| close friend to girlfriend | 8/16/2009 |
| Q: I've known this girl for many years (more than 5 years) by now. We have been chatting online since ... A: You know that you have probably ruined your chances with her, right? All this on-line stuff and ... | |
| Giving time and space | 8/12/2009 |
| Q: I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for a year. Her parents and sibling like me and my ... A: Hey Elvin! No, you weren't too harsh with your methodology, but keep in mind that you need to make ... | |
| Giving time and space | 8/11/2009 |
| Q: I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for a year. Her parents and sibling like me and my ... A: Your posture? Absolute resolve to get what you want just the way you want it. Thus, you're going to ... | |
| hey dr help me out plz | 8/11/2009 |
| Q: im in need of ur help doc..im kinda stuck with this woman im beginnin to fall for..she and i both ... A: You absolutely do not want to leave this in her hands to decide. If you do that, not only will she ... | |
| Giving time and space | 8/11/2009 |
| Q: I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for a year. Her parents and sibling like me and my ... A: You're making a classic mistake that many men make. You think that by treating it as a non-issue ... | |
| Dating Advice | 8/10/2009 |
| Q: Doc, I am very close with a wonderful woman who, like me, is in a long term relationship. We are ... A: It's unfortunate, but often, what women say and what women do are at odds. I constantly hear women ... | |
| How to win the girl i like who has a boyfriend | 8/8/2009 |
| Q: I've liked this girl for about 3-4 months already.Initially when i got to know her, she was really ... A: Hey Bobby! There's only hope for you if you'll do what you have to do; and frankly, I'm not sure ... | |
| In the depths of despair against all logic | 8/6/2009 |
| Q: Neder. I have unexpectedly fallen incredibly deeply in love with one of my new employees that is ... A: To be frank; I wouldn't call what you have "beautiful" at all. I'd never wish this on anyone. I'm ... | |
| How do I get my ex attracted to me again? | 8/5/2009 |
| Q: My ex and I have been separated for almost a year and were together for over 3 years. I ended up ... A: You haven't given me much to work with here, but I'll give you some generic ideas on what you can ... | |
| In the depths of despair against all logic | 8/5/2009 |
| Q: Neder. I have unexpectedly fallen incredibly deeply in love with one of my new employees that is ... A: Frankly, what I fear is that it CAN happen again! In fact, it very well might with many other women ... | |
| Q | 7/31/2009 |
| Q: I am single 34 years old male. I recently moved from USA to Greece for work, and I will stay working ... A: If your cousins don't want to give you her number, they aren't going to do it. This concerns me. ... | |
| Between a friendship and something more | 7/31/2009 |
| Q: I've known this girl for about a year now and I like her a lot. to cut a long story short I've lost ... A: Let's begin with confidence. Most people mistakenly believe that confidence is something you own. ... | |
| ONE WAY LOVE | 7/30/2009 |
| Q: how are you doing today? I hope that you are doing well! Well I’m going to get to the point. You see ... A: I don't know what advice you want to give me. Anything logical I tell you is just going to be a ... | |
| How do I get her? | 7/30/2009 |
| Q: I'm nineteen and I met this girl of the same age a year back in 2008. She was a waiter and I was a ... A: Ok, let's deal with this first: you DO NOT "love" this girl. KC, you don't even know her regardless ... | |
| I like this girl but don't know what to do pleas help. | 7/24/2009 |
| Q: Her parents and my parents are very good friends so I have known her for a little less than a year. ... A: It'll also be awkward for her if she turns you down. There are a number of problems here. First of ... | |
| Woman Help | 7/22/2009 |
| Q: Ive just met a girl that im extremely interested in, i dont know if she likes me back, and i dont ... A: It doesn't matter one lick if she's interested in you or not. You can create interest and ... | |
| How to win the girl i like who has a boyfriend | 7/21/2009 |
| Q: I've liked this girl for about 3-4 months already.Initially when i got to know her, she was really ... A: This is a common misconception that most guys carry. They think that they have to be in the girl's ... | |
| How to win the girl i like who has a boyfriend | 7/20/2009 |
| Q: I've liked this girl for about 3-4 months already.Initially when i got to know her, she was really ... A: Frankly, you may have totally missed your chance. You needed to move things forward when you had ... | |
| I think I found the woman of my dream | 7/20/2009 |
| Q: This is my first time writing an email to you, so please excuse me for lack of formality. I have got ... A: Wow, you're sure giving this woman a lot of power over you. Let me ask you (rhetorically): do you ... | |
| Minor help bro | 7/17/2009 |
| Q: Im in high school and during the summer Im in camp with this girl. How can I get closer to her. ... A: First of all, go to camp and have a great time. Make a lot of friends - don't focus all your ... | |
| Will she trample her own heart? | 7/17/2009 |
| Q: Neder I am a 30-year old male. I think you can help me. After an unsuccessful marriage I have ... A: Why would you accept such a risk? Here's the problem: you've put all the power into her hands and ... | |
| Friend zone | 7/17/2009 |
| Q: well first im 16 years old, and i want to figure out how 2 get the woman of my dreams. I knew this ... A: What makes you think she has you in the friend-zone. Are you two hanging out like friends (instead ... | |
| Will she trample her own heart? | 7/16/2009 |
| Q: Neder I am a 30-year old male. I think you can help me. After an unsuccessful marriage I have ... A: Since you're a religious man, let me tell you a story: An old man was at home when it started ... | |
| Friends n more | 7/15/2009 |
| Q: Well doc, we've bin frendz fr 7 years now...bt we lost touch in the middle for about 3 years. 3 ... A: You need to absolutely stick by your guns here. You are clear on what you want and you have to avoid ... | |
| How do I attrack when I have two kids. | 7/14/2009 |
| Q: How do u attrick women when u have two kids, seems like their scared away or only want tell me how ... A: Dating when you have kids can be something of a challenge. Frankly, it's not as much of a problem ... | |
| Attracting | 7/14/2009 |
| Q: Sorry 2 disturb u again & again on same matter.Sir,i've already askd abt kissing my girl frnd.1 more ... A: Hey Soorya! You're trying to use tricks again. Think about this: is that really the sort of ... | |
| Attracting | 7/14/2009 |
| Q: I love a girl deeply.She too loves me.I'm VERY VERY eager 2 kiss her.But she says everything after ... A: Exchanging a marriage for sex not only is completely unhealthy but it absolutely never works. Think ... | |
| Whats wrong with me? | 7/14/2009 |
| Q: Mr. Neder, I am a 24 year old college guy in Alabama. I would consider myself to be in the top 3% of ... A: Here's the problem: you think that holding a conversation is about impressing a woman. It absolutely ... | |
| Attracting | 7/14/2009 |
| Q: I love a girl deeply.She too loves me.I'm VERY VERY eager 2 kiss her.But she says everything after ... A: Huh? She "loves you" but won't kiss you and is only willing to trade marriage for kissing? What ... | |
| How can I reveal my feelings to a girl I like without chickening out? | 7/12/2009 |
| Q: Hey there. I met a girl a week ago and she is really amazing. I'm a friendly guy, I get along with ... A: Hmmm....and you think *I* got it wrong? Look David, if you know better what you're doing than me ... | |
| A girl i like.. | 7/10/2009 |
| Q: Ok, so theres this girl i like. We talk normally and i'm a good friend to her. But a few days ago i ... A: The very first thing you need to do is end things with this "friend". In fact, he's no friend of ... | |
| cheat sheet | 7/10/2009 |
| Q: I'm trying to compress some of the concepts you've discussed in BAMII around modalities and ... A: Unfortunately, your email address was stripped from this message. You'll have to write to me ... | |
| does she like me | 7/9/2009 |
| Q: i have a friend who lives in a different city 3 hour away but goes to school an hour away and i go ... A: Nice story. I have absolutely no idea if she likes you. Just because someone asks you if they're ... | |
| approach method | 7/8/2009 |
| Q: Hey Dr. D I've asked you some questions in the past that worked, you told me about like the ... A: What you're thinking is that you walk right up to her and ask her for her number - which you won't ... | |
| friends or..? | 6/30/2009 |
| Q: .my story begin severalyears ago with this girl//at first we became friend,really close one.but then ... A: I'm afraid I don't read minds. The only one that knows why she wants to go out with you she her. I ... | |
| HELP in full | 6/29/2009 |
| Q: Advertisement You are here: Experts > People/Relationships > Dating > How to Attract the ... A: Flowers? Let her earn them. When she does (by being worthy of a gift and I can't possibly tell you ... | |
| HELP cont | 6/29/2009 |
| Q: and although the advice was helpful as again friday and saturday we ended up not being able to keep ... A: I get many, many hundreds of these questions every single week and have answered over 30,000 of them ... | |
| Getting the one! | 6/29/2009 |
| Q: I have fallen for this girl. But I don't think she knows I like her, and I'm not to sure she likes ... A: The real question is why did you let things become "just friends". It's YOUR job to move this where ... | |
| How To Impress a Unknown Girl on Orkut | 6/28/2009 |
| Q: I have been to Orkut for over an year now. Most of the friends in my profile are the person whom I ... A: That is a HUGE question that would take me weeks to answer! There isn't a line or some magic bullet ... | |
| Amazing girl | 6/28/2009 |
| Q: so I'm taking this girl on a date in a couple weeks. (she is a busy girl) i know her from work. i am ... A: There is NO girl out of your league Mark. Don't ever let yourself think that. It sets you up to do ... | |
| Deprogramming | 6/27/2009 |
| Q: Dr. Neder. I'm having a problem finding that deprogramming guide on your website. I desperately ... A: Hey Dan! No worries. Go to: http://BeingAMan.com and click on Self Help. Next, click on ... | |
| She's the girl i want | 6/26/2009 |
| Q: Yesterday i was at the mall and i saw the most beautiful girl in my life working in the food court. ... A: Wow, you have so many mistakes going on here, I don't know where to begin! First of all you have ... | |
| HELP | 6/24/2009 |
| Q: right introduction out the way, Basically in march of this year i split with my fiancee of three and ... A: Here's the problem: you're listening to her words and ignoring her actions. Her actions are telling ... | |
| How do I approach this girl? | 6/23/2009 |
| Q: I have read some of your responses to some of the questions asked here, and I think that you will ... A: Simple: boldness. Stop using all your own pre-conceived ideas about who she is and what she ... | |
| Please help me! | 6/22/2009 |
| Q: i met a girl about 3 months back at the university. I came from a breakup in a 5 year relationship ... A: Who cares what her ex-boyfriend did or didn't do? More to the point, were you right there to see it? ... | |
| How do i get the girl of my dreams? | 6/21/2009 |
| Q: i feel a little strange doing this but i really need help.I have known this girl for about 5 years ... A: Ok, let's get this fixed first: you don't love her. You don't even know her. What you're in love ... | |
| Please help me! | 6/21/2009 |
| Q: i met a girl about 3 months back at the university. I came from a breakup in a 5 year relationship ... A: Of course she's avoiding you now. What else can she do? She was hoping to find a man (where she ... | |
| A female friend | 6/21/2009 |
| Q: A friend of mine and I have known each other for about a year, just as friends. We have dated once ... A: Wait a minute. This is a "mutual friend"? Does this "friend" know you like this girl? How close ... | |
| answering machines | 6/19/2009 |
| Q: Is it ok to leave a message on a voicemail about setting a date? I get this from time to time... ... A: First of all, congratulations on reading my books. Most guys come here and expect "progressives". In ... | |
| little help | 6/19/2009 |
| Q: Neder I just need a little help. I don't really have a problem getting girls. And first off let me ... A: Women are notoriously good at keeping their real agendas hidden from you. They do this for a number ... | |
| atrracting a favorite girl | 6/15/2009 |
| Q: i saw this girl in my county,and liked her.i'm a little shy approaching her.my friend knows her and ... A: First of all, let's be clear here: you don't love her yet. By believing such a thing you also give ... | |
| Woman of my dreams | 6/14/2009 |
| Q: I met this girl 11 years ago when I was a freshamn in high school never spoke to her.Found her on a ... A: No, you shouldn't tell her. What do you hope to gain - that she'll tell you that she's in love with ... | |
| How do I win the Love of my Life back ? | 6/8/2009 |
| Q: Neder, I'm in serious trouble, because I have acted like a total idiot with my women. I have ... A: You have a number of huge problems going on here. The first problem (and frankly, the biggest) is ... | |
| What should I do about this woman? | 6/7/2009 |
| Q: I met this woman several months ago and we hit it off very well. It actually felt like we had know ... A: First, yes, you're getting played. She wants to go out and explore to see what's out there but also ... | |
| How to win a girl i like | 6/6/2009 |
| Q: my name is Tom. I like this girl in my school. We are good friends and we converse with each other ... A: Yes, you definitely have to ask her out! It doesn't have to seem awkward at all. Just say, "Hey - ... | |
| How to win a girl i like | 6/5/2009 |
| Q: my name is Tom. I like this girl in my school. We are good friends and we converse with each other ... A: Forget trying to screw with her head. That's just going to get you into trouble with her. Instead, ... | |
| Technical Questions | 6/5/2009 |
| Q: Nedar, I really appreciate your help and every time I asked you a question, I progress and improved ... A: 1. So, let me get this straight - you want to artificially manipulate the speed of things in this ... | |
| The girl of my dreams | 6/4/2009 |
| Q: there's this girl name's Kayce, that i'm absolutely in love with. And i'm afraid that i've ruined my ... A: No, you shouldn't tell her how you feel about her. What you're hoping is that by telling her this ... | |
| Powerful words | 6/4/2009 |
| Q: i want to know how 2 win a first time girl who u really like a lot. A: The problem with your question is the very foundation and premise of it. You think there are ... | |
| ? | 6/3/2009 |
| Q: i like this girl alot but she says she likes me 2 but she likes this other perverted guy what do i ... A: Become a perverted guy yourself! Estuardo, she's told you she likes you. Why are you worried about ... | |
| Magical words , seduce her , communication | 6/2/2009 |
| Q: hey Im john and I'm in high school I'm 17 I have big question. So there this girl I like she 17 ... A: Hey John! Don't tell her that you like her. The reason you want to do that is that you hope she'll ... | |
| Trying to figure out this girl | 6/2/2009 |
| Q: I've worked at a great company for 7 years, and for the last year, i've become friends with a ... A: What a minute. How could you have spent all this time with her talking about personal things and not ... | |
| Magical words , seduce her , communication | 6/2/2009 |
| Q: hey Im john and I'm in high school I'm 17 I have big question. So there this girl I like she 17 ... A: Actually, you didn't do what I told you because the articles linked to the FAQ's are all free. ... | |
| How Do I Start with the Girl I really Like. | 6/1/2009 |
| Q: I am really interested in a girl. She is so cute.But the problem is that,I am not getting a chance ... A: Hold on a second. She works in a pub and you can't start a conversation with her??? Pubs are all ... | |
| Magical words , seduce her , communication | 6/1/2009 |
| Q: hey Im john and I'm in high school I'm 17 I have big question. So there this girl I like she 17 ... A: I agree that you need help on your communication skills! Here's exactly the magic you're looking ... | |
| need help please | 5/28/2009 |
| Q: Neder, there is the girl I'm really starting to like very much. I am 23 and she is 19. We have been ... A: Didn't I tell you that this was quickly becoming a "friendship"? Ryan, it's too late. Once this ... | |
| moving on to try to become friends | 5/26/2009 |
| Q: There's this girl i like at my work that i started working with, i asked her out and was told she ... A: Hey Zendo! It's only worth trying to become her friend if that's all you ever want - or think ... | |
| This Girl | 5/23/2009 |
| Q: So, had the date all set up for tomorrow night, just got a text from her saying she is going to have ... A: She cancels via text? What a coward! You understood her rudeness? What sort of coward does that make ... | |
| closing and quality women | 5/23/2009 |
| Q: hey doc, its jared 19 comin at ya from lil ole west virginia, Doc i have two questions ive noticed ... A: First, let's deal with the game players. You have no idea how often I have to redirect dumb (and ... | |
| This Girl | 5/22/2009 |
| Q: so i called and told her i made plans...but she already had plans :( and for the next night :( BUT! ... A: Good job on setting the date. Read my FAQ's at http://BeingAMan.com, under Self Help about ... | |
| Is this girl avoiding me ? | 5/21/2009 |
| Q: There is a girl (TOO Shy) at work who's become a friend but i think she may have liked me. The ... A: Hey Dan! You respond just as you do with any Attention Whore ("AW") - you make delivery of ANY AND ... | |
| This girl | 5/21/2009 |
| Q: ok so this girl really is that girl of my dreams. My work takes me to different car dealerships all ... A: Hey Mark! Sounds good. It's a little early and you have a long break (in "girl years") after it, ... | |
| This girl | 5/21/2009 |
| Q: ok so this girl really is that girl of my dreams. My work takes me to different car dealerships all ... A: At least you see this in the light in which it's intended. You'd be surprised at how many guys think ... | |
| Need help please... | 5/21/2009 |
| Q: i really could use a little bit of help, oh who am i kidding i need a whole lot of help. Im 17 right ... A: You're making a classic mistake with girls. You're trying to entertain them - not engage them. These ... | |
| This girl | 5/20/2009 |
| Q: ok so this girl really is that girl of my dreams. My work takes me to different car dealerships all ... A: ...and you don't think you're becoming a nuisance to her now??? Mark! Man! Really??? You're trying ... | |
| Okay so now what (continued) | 5/19/2009 |
| Q: Wrote you a few weeks back about a woman who I believe to be the girl of my dreams. I am very ... A: I'm afraid that if you don't include the previous communications, I have to possible way of ... | |
| Is this girl avoiding me ? | 5/19/2009 |
| Q: There is a girl (TOO Shy) at work who's become a friend but i think she may have liked me. The ... A: There's nothing so distant as technology. With it, she can make you THINK she's interested while ... | |
| confused guy | 5/19/2009 |
| Q: Hey, Well, there was this girl that I really liked in my school, I'm a senior and she's a sophmore, ... A: I think you need to ask her, but before you do, consider this: What's really important about prom ... | |
| how do i.... | 5/18/2009 |
| Q: Hi my name is Tyler and i was wondering how to get this girl i really like? A: Go give her father 2 ox, 8 chickens and $22.50. Tyler, really? Go talk to her! Get to know her, ... | |
| Is this girl avoiding me ? | 5/18/2009 |
| Q: There is a girl (TOO Shy) at work who's become a friend but i think she may have liked me. The ... A: She's using the texts to keep you away. Kick this game player to the curb and go find someone worthy ... | |
| Girl Problems | 5/17/2009 |
| Q: Okay, i'm a junior and i have liked this girl for like ever. She's my best friend and i don't want ... A: Hey Ralph! Go for it! Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder President ... | |
| Girl Problems | 5/17/2009 |
| Q: Okay, i'm a junior and i have liked this girl for like ever. She's my best friend and i don't want ... A: You're reading too much into this. If you doubt what I'm say then, the very next time you see her, ... | |
| Flirting Signs are loud and clear | 5/17/2009 |
| Q: There is a girl I recently met that flirts a lot with me. All the signals are there but when i ... A: Oh Kevin! EVERY GIRL has a "boyfriend"! Don't you know that? OF COURSE she's going to tell you this ... | |
| Girl Problems | 5/15/2009 |
| Q: Okay, i'm a junior and i have liked this girl for like ever. She's my best friend and i don't want ... A: If you've degraded your association with this girl to a friendship, you may not have anything to ... | |
| confused about a girl i work with | 5/15/2009 |
| Q: There's this girl i like at my work that i started working with, i asked her out and was told she ... A: Email? Weak, weak, weak! NEVER ask someone out on a first (or second or third) date via email! It ... | |
| confused about a girl i work with | 5/14/2009 |
| Q: There's this girl i like at my work that i started working with, i asked her out and was told she ... A: I don't think asking her out was stupid at all. I think accepting that "I'm seeing someone" line ... | |
| How do I get her back | 5/13/2009 |
| Q: Well I've known this girl for about 2 years I dated her for about a year and we broke up cuase I ... A: She's not going to break up with him only to have nothing to fall into. If you don't tell her ... | |
| Having trouble finding trouble drumming up conversation | 5/12/2009 |
| Q: How are you doing Dr.? I've recently purchased and read BAM1, and feel fairly confident in ... A: You're doing very well here. I'm very proud of you for thinking in terms of "context" for your ... | |
| loner | 5/11/2009 |
| Q: I am a 30 yr old male. I am a good person but not a people person. I prefer to be quiet and by ... A: Yes, there's a girl just like you out there. The problem is that people like you are breeding ... | |
| kinda confused about this girl i like but she was my best friends crush | 5/11/2009 |
| Q: hey doc..I'm going to just be straight about this..i like this girl from grammar school days but my ... A: Sorry, I don't believe you. Either way, if she won't go on a date with you then kick her to the ... | |
| kinda confused about this girl i like but she was my best friends crush | 5/11/2009 |
| Q: hey doc..I'm going to just be straight about this..i like this girl from grammar school days but my ... A: Boy! You sure think I'm dumb! Yeah, right - you got permission from your friend within minutes of ... | |
| kinda confused about this girl i like but she was my best friends crush | 5/10/2009 |
| Q: hey doc..I'm going to just be straight about this..i like this girl from grammar school days but my ... A: Ok, I'll be straight with you too: if this is really your friend's crush and he's still connected to ... | |
| need help please | 5/8/2009 |
| Q: Neder, there is the girl I'm really starting to like very much. I am 23 and she is 19. We have been ... A: SOOO many mistakes, so little time. Tsk, tsk. Yes, she's interested - or at least, she WAS ... | |
| how do find her? | 5/7/2009 |
| Q: im 20 years old and i seem to always settle for girls that arent exactly what i want. what i want is ... A: Frankly, this is all a subtle game. The short answer to your question is that you need to learn to ... | |
| Found her, now how to get her... | 5/7/2009 |
| Q: I own a small business and have a woman 12 years younger than I working with me. She is a single ... A: You have to decide whether you want an employee or a girlfriend. It looks like you're not going to ... | |
| friend or more? | 5/3/2009 |
| Q: ok well i guess i should say first that ive never gone to this extent to find out if a girl likes me ... A: Why did you give her a chance to cancel on the date by confirming??? You should have confirmed it ... | |
| Big women | 5/2/2009 |
| Q: Do you have any advice on how I can attract big breasted women for dates? I'm not concerned if they ... A: Why are you trying to "attract" them in the first place? You don't do that, you BUILD attraction. ... | |
| question | 5/1/2009 |
| Q: how do you get a girl to like you. A: You cover yourself in chocolate and wait outside her window singing, "Candy Man". There's not ... | |
| this girl i like... | 4/30/2009 |
| Q: I just saw this girl I knew in higj school. I haven't seen her in like at least 8 years. Now I saw ... A: Good job on closing for her number! DO NOT tell her these things! What are you hoping, that she's ... | |
| friend or more? | 4/27/2009 |
| Q: ok well i guess i should say first that ive never gone to this extent to find out if a girl likes me ... A: Yes, she likes you as more than a friend. Yes, you have a chance. You need to STOP holding all your ... | |
| gettin a girl | 4/26/2009 |
| Q: A: You seem to think that there's a single approach that works for every woman. There isn't. Learning ... | |
| Back in my life | 4/23/2009 |
| Q: "Hi, So i am currently in grad school. I met a girl in my class almost a year ago now and we became ... A: Hey Lance! So what are you going to do if she turns you down and won't discuss things with you? ... | |
| The Approach | 4/21/2009 |
| Q: Hey Doc, Ok, in general I wouldn't say I am bad with women. I am male, 20 years old, 6'2, athletic ... A: You're making a classic male mistake here. In fact, I've already answered this exact same question ... | |
| What should I do now - Follow up | 4/20/2009 |
| Q: Hey, my name is Minh. I'm Vietnamese. I am just 15 years-old but you know, human feelings are never ... A: Hey Minh! Did you bother to read my last response? No, you really don't want to be her friend. ... | |
| Back in my life | 4/19/2009 |
| Q: "Hi, So i am currently in grad school. I met a girl in my class almost a year ago now and we became ... A: First of all, DO NOT become her friend! That's just more conciliation and weakness. It's like you're ... | |
| How to find a girlfriend | 4/19/2009 |
| Q: Where are some of the best places for a shy guy like myself to find a girlfriend to get to know ... A: Man! Are you going to hate my answer! Well, let's get to it anyway.... Where do you meet women? ... | |
| generation gap | 4/19/2009 |
| Q: Belove, I'm a 28 year old woman and I've moved in with my parents for just this one month while I ... A: I think your mother has a problem. I don't know what that is, but my response would have been, "Well ... | |
| What are my chances. | 4/19/2009 |
| Q: Alright doc, give it to me straight. Im 5'3, about 10 pounds overweight, a minority, pretty dumb ... A: Your chances are about the same as every other guy - that's the reality. Ray, you are taking what ... | |
| What should I do now - Follow up | 4/19/2009 |
| Q: Hey, my name is Minh. I'm Vietnamese. I am just 15 years-old but you know, human feelings are never ... A: Yes, you can get anything you want - but not anybody. Doing that would involve setting goals for ... | |
| What should I do now | 4/17/2009 |
| Q: Hey, my name is Minh. I'm Vietnamese. I am just 15 years-old but you know, human feelings are never ... A: In life, you can have anything you want - but not anybody. This girl has told you in words and ... | |
| Back in my life | 4/17/2009 |
| Q: "Hi, So i am currently in grad school. I met a girl in my class almost a year ago now and we became ... A: Wait a minute - your friends "broke it off"?? What the hell kind of "friends" are these? More ... | |
| i like this girl but im not sure if she likes me | 4/17/2009 |
| Q: im 14 and this girl and i have been friends since like kindergarten and im starting to notice her a ... A: You haven't told me why she said "no". What excuse did she give you? Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. ... | |
| hello,tell me what am gonna do with this | 4/15/2009 |
| Q: i have just ask her 4just a cup of tea ,i had called her so many times on the phone ,but she is not ... A: If you call her up and she gives you excuses, yes, she's not interested. Women are notoriously bad ... | |
| What should I do? What can I do? | 4/15/2009 |
| Q: I met this woman online about 7 months ago. She started out friendly and exciting and it she was ... A: This is why I constantly tell people to avoid using the internet to meet people. Sure it seems easy ... | |
| what should i do? | 4/14/2009 |
| Q: i want a girl who is a friend of mine. i know her about 7 years, we went to the same school and we ... A: Here's the problem you have: you've done absolutely everything in your power to be what you're ... | |
| My girl friend | 4/13/2009 |
| Q: welll...here goes my subject...hope you can answer it. I have a girl friend in my school who i like ... A: First of all, let's not tie our hands here. You're using terms like "love" and "too shy". All these ... | |
| question | 4/13/2009 |
| Q: I was wondering, is it okay to openly ask a woman if she has someone already, or it is better to ... A: No, it's not ok to openly ask her, unless you do it in a very direct, powerful way built upon an ... | |
| Too innocent? | 4/10/2009 |
| Q: Hey. I am 17 years old. Graduating high school in June. I never had a girlfriend so far. All my ... A: Your first problem here is starting them at the friend-level. Once you start this, it NEVER becomes ... | |
| Why women love men | 4/7/2009 |
| Q: Hey Doc , i have a question that im been thinking about for a long time ,why are women attracted to ... A: The reason why women see this as weakness is through their own feelings of weakness. They equate ... | |
| Bit rusty... | 4/7/2009 |
| Q: What's up Doc, My name is Kenny. I live in a small middle class town in the Midwest. I've been ... A: Sounds good? No, it doesn't sound good! Two years? Why have you wasted two years on just one woman? ... | |
| Why women love men | 4/6/2009 |
| Q: Hey Doc , i have a question that im been thinking about for a long time ,why are women attracted to ... A: Some of the questions I get on this board are more of the same and I answer them. Some of them (like ... | |
| "Hanging out" vs. going on a "date" vs "Going out" | 4/4/2009 |
| Q: Hey Dr., saw a previous post about the trend of "hangin out" verses "dating" and your confusion of ... A: Actually, my confusion wasn't so much about where it's coming from as why it's continuing. "Hanging ... | |
| Why isn't this girl replying ? | 3/31/2009 |
| Q: This girl & i have been texting each other lately & things have been going well. We went out as ... A: Hey Dan! That's great news about her contacting you - you dodged a bullet my brother. I hope you ... | |
| Why isn't this girl replying ? | 3/30/2009 |
| Q: This girl & i have been texting each other lately & things have been going well. We went out as ... A: Ok, let's see if I can make this more clear to you: "Hanging out" is what friends do. Guys and ... | |
| Why isn't this girl replying ? | 3/30/2009 |
| Q: This girl & i have been texting each other lately & things have been going well. We went out as ... A: No, it's "cos" you're being a pussy by "hanging out" with her instead of being a man and going on a ... | |
| want to love someone :) | 3/29/2009 |
| Q: I am 27 year old boy I want to do love with a gal in my life b4 my marry but neither my fortune is ... A: Ok, first mistake you're making: you think that you need to delivery "The Line" to a woman when you ... | |
| Help with girl of my dreams | 3/28/2009 |
| Q: Alright, here is the deal. I am 32yrs old. The last relationship I had was years ago, and I had my ... A: I wish you hadn't gone in to tell her you were interested in her. Do you really think she didn't ... | |
| Shy girl | 3/26/2009 |
| Q: it's me Greg again. I wrote you just a few days ago about this girl I like in my class and you ... A: No, you don't make her comfortable first. Women don't want to be "comfortable" they want to be ... | |
| Old friend | 3/25/2009 |
| Q: I had a girlfriend. we split few years back in highschool now we have planned for a meet. well my ... A: Initially, you know that she's not. She's probably not looking to get laid. She's looking to meet ... | |
| Beautiful girl | 3/24/2009 |
| Q: Okay now I'm a 23 year old guy and I consider myself okay looking, however I have never had a ... A: What a lovely excuse -- "old school". Ok, then go back to 1950 and become the friend of some girl ... | |
| Beautiful girl | 3/23/2009 |
| Q: Okay now I'm a 23 year old guy and I consider myself okay looking, however I have never had a ... A: You want to be friends first and think that being good looking are your keys to success with women? ... | |
| Younger Dating | 3/23/2009 |
| Q: i am not an adult i am a freshman in High School, i have been ready to date for a bit now(since year ... A: What you're really asking me is this: "how do I get this girl to really like me so that she'll do ... | |
| Pulling at a party. | 3/22/2009 |
| Q: Hey. I was recently at a party and it was there i suddenly realised, I have no idea on how to ... A: This is another great question! I've had some really terrific questions this morning! Let's get ... | |
| Impressing her | 3/16/2009 |
| Q: Ok, I'm 19 and my crush is 18. We graduated with eachother last year and we are really good friends. ... A: Wow! Where do I start with you here? Alex, if there's a mistake - or mistaken belief - you've ... | |
| Courage to talk to girls | 3/14/2009 |
| Q: I am fifteen and a little bit of a nerd. I am also very shy. I would like to be able to talk to ... A: Yes, I'd like this for you too. Did you have a question in there somewhere? Ok, I guess that you ... | |
| girlfriend | 3/10/2009 |
| Q: hey i am 17 years old and there is this girl i like but i cant talk to her because i don't know what ... A: No, there's not enough context. Alex, I get this question about 4-5 times a week, "What should I ... | |
| a little direction | 3/10/2009 |
| Q: neder i wrote to you about a week ago about my selfish girlfriend which i have since left and cut ... A: Do you have a phobia about using periods (.) or something? It sure makes it difficult to know when ... | |
| girlfriend | 3/9/2009 |
| Q: hey i am 17 years old and there is this girl i like but i cant talk to her because i don't know what ... A: Although there are many different ways to approach someone the very best (and easiest too) is to use ... | |
| how to stop looking desperate | 3/7/2009 |
| Q: What's up Doc. I am a 20 year old guy who has never been in a relationship, kissed a girl, or even ... A: Frankly, I don't recommend that you "stop looking and wait for love to find [you]." That's "feel ... | |
| relationship question | 3/3/2009 |
| Q: I like this girl at my school but she just out of a long term relationship and she was hurt. But she ... A: Oh, look at you being the nice, sensitive guy. So, are you her therapist? So what that she's just ... | |
| How Can I Talk To Girls My Own Age | 3/2/2009 |
| Q: I am having extremely difficult time with talking to girls my age. I am 18 now, but I have always ... A: First of all, asking questions of a girl is a good way to create closeness between you, but you have ... | |
| Writing a good online personal ad | 2/23/2009 |
| Q: Neder, How are you? My name is Paul and I reside in Boston, MA. I was checking out single women on ... A: Do you know where the 3 worst place are to meet women? 1) Bars 2) Clubs 3) Internet There are a ... | |
| Does this show disinterest from a girl ? | 2/23/2009 |
| Q: I went to a bar club last night cos it was my friend's birthday. Keep in mind this club is over 21's ... A: First of all, GREAT JOB for going over to these girls and introducing yourself! That's 1/2 the ... | |
| How to make him notice me | 2/21/2009 |
| Q: Neder, I can't help but feel attracted to this guy 2 classes above me. The problem is that he spends ... A: First, you find a context-based reason to approach him. Then, you break the ice and connect; giving ... | |
| Chick with a boyfriend | 2/19/2009 |
| Q: Alright. I've known this chick for probably six months now. I met her when she approached me before ... A: Ok, you're well on your way. Now you need to turn things up a notch. I'm sure you'll understand ... | |
| Chick with a boyfriend | 2/19/2009 |
| Q: Alright. I've known this chick for probably six months now. I met her when she approached me before ... A: There are 3 different (likely) possibilities here: 1) She's really interested in you and is hoping ... | |
| Does this show interest ? | 2/16/2009 |
| Q: When a girl texts me and says she was thinking of me after a certain amount of time not ... A: In "what ever way you look at it"? No, I can look at it in many different ways - some about interest ... | |
| What do I need to do to change myself? | 2/15/2009 |
| Q: I wanted to know what I need to boost my confidence to approach girls for romantic relations. Just ... A: What do you need to do? Oh, not much. Just change your attitude and belief systems. You have a ton ... | |
| Next? | 2/13/2009 |
| Q: Here's the situation: I meet a girl at work, she seems to be interested, she blushes, giggles, looks ... A: Jeez Brad!!! OF COURSE she doesn't respond! You texted her! That's about as dumb/bad a move as there ... | |
| how to avoid falling into friend category | 2/13/2009 |
| Q: Last semester in the university I met a gal(she happened to be my classmate) we hit it off,we were ... A: Don't act or treat her like your friend. Go tell her that you and she are going out to get to know ... | |
| how to avoid falling into friend category | 2/12/2009 |
| Q: Last semester in the university I met a gal(she happened to be my classmate) we hit it off,we were ... A: You haven't asked a question here and I'm not going to just ponder all the possibilities. I simply ... | |
| Advice needed | 2/10/2009 |
| Q: my name is Brandon and this is my situation. There is this girl that I like a lot, me and her had a ... A: Here's my best advice: forget it. Sorry to hit you with that without warming you up first, but the ... | |
| girl | 2/7/2009 |
| Q: A: Tell her you're coming to her school, you don't know anyone and would like her help getting to know ... | |
| Advice about a Girl | 2/5/2009 |
| Q: I'm 18 years old, a freshman in college. My aunt's best friend has a really cute daughter and she's ... A: Here's the problem you have: you're too far away to make anything happen and all of this going back ... | |
| Lacking humor | 2/4/2009 |
| Q: I'm sure you're familiar with the belief that a sense of humor is an important tool when attracting ... A: In fact a sense of humor is ranked #2 in the list of most attractive attributes that women cite. The ... | |
| How do i make me atttrating 2 her | 2/4/2009 |
| Q: How can i make her like me more than she already does ANSWER: Hello Jesse! I've already talked to ... A: You're missing the point here. You DON'T impress her. You DON'T try to attract her. These are ways ... | |
| How do i make me atttrating 2 her | 2/3/2009 |
| Q: How can i make her like me more than she already does A: I've already talked to her and she can't possibly like you more than she already does. Come on ... | |
| My love | 2/2/2009 |
| Q: My name is Michael, I really love this girl that i met last year in my physical education class. I ... A: Ok Romeo. Let's slow down here a little. I don't think you have to change your entire belief system ... | |
| i have a friend and i realy like her | 1/30/2009 |
| Q: i have this frind ive been frinds with over 3 years and ive grown realy close to her i started ... A: Yes, you should just invite her out, but that's also the time to kiss her. It's that kiss that turns ... | |
| getting an ex back | 1/29/2009 |
| Q: my name is jared im 19 years old from west virginia me and my girlfriend well i should say x ... A: You've got a huge problem here. You can't rebuild the relationship while you're away for 6 months! ... | |
| i have a friend and i realy like her | 1/29/2009 |
| Q: i have this frind ive been frinds with over 3 years and ive grown realy close to her i started ... A: If you don't want to risk losing the friendship then do nothing. You'll definitely lose it if you ... | |
| So... | 1/27/2009 |
| Q: I'm kinda a nerdy guy, but I think I'm handsome and stuff. There is this smokin chick in my biology ... A: Get into her pants? How do you even know they'll fit you??? Here's your answer: get discover ... | |
| Mixed Signals | 1/25/2009 |
| Q: I am male 24. I like a girl who works in my company. We dont speak much as she is another ... A: How in the hell should I know what sort of cute she thinks you are? What's even more important is: ... | |
| Question | 1/24/2009 |
| Q: Hey, I was just wondering: there is a young woman I quite like; we are in the same classes in school ... A: There are no hard-and-fast rules about what it could mean. What's important here however isn't what ... | |
| How can a man be attracted by lady | 1/24/2009 |
| Q: I want to know the things or what a man surposed to do to attract a lady as in for a lady to luv the ... A: Sorry, that's WAY too large a question to answer via this system! I've written many books on that ... | |
| Help. | 1/23/2009 |
| Q: i have just spilt up with a girl that i really like, and i know she really likes me, and we spilt up ... A: I'm afraid her reason isn't the REAL reason. She doesn't believe that she'd be better off alone. She ... | |
| question | 1/22/2009 |
| Q: sir i hope that u will be well. i am very thanhful to u for very fast reply of previous question and ... A: Of course you feel hesitation in talking with her. EVERYONE does! You don't want to risk being ... | |
| how to attract and make frendship | 1/20/2009 |
| Q: how are u. i am a student of university and i like a girl of another department. i want to make a ... A: No, you don't want to "make a friendship" with her. You want something more. Don't confuse the two. ... | |
| Winning over the most perfect girl but, she has a boyfriend | 1/11/2009 |
| Q: Hey, I recently got back in touch with a girl that I used to know over 7 years ago. We hung out the ... A: What the hell Brent??? You TOLD her to give him one more shot? Are you out of your damn mind? You ... | |
| I am in love with my best friend | 1/6/2009 |
| Q: First of all, my name is Adrian. I'm a senior at lincoln Christian School in Tulsa, Oklahoma. I'm ... A: I think you better hold your promises of mentioning my name. You're not going to like what you're ... | |
| i am damn confused? | 12/27/2008 |
| Q: sir, i am jatin from mumbai,india. i don`t know whether i love this girl or not.she is my classmate, ... A: No, it's not love. It could be infatuation or strong interest, but love is something you develop ... | |
| Is she being friendly or does she fancy me? | 12/17/2008 |
| Q: work in M&S and there is a girl who i get along with but can't figure out if she likes me or just ... A: Young girls like EVERYONE. Don't worry about the rumors - they are non-issues. Yes, she likes you. ... | |
| Never Satisfied | 12/10/2008 |
| Q: Neder, I am a 24 year-old med student and cannot find the right woman. I have been told I'm a ... A: This is an excellent question! Don't feel alone here at all. Many, many people feel this way. It can ... | |
| *-* Time to Turn it UP! *-* | 12/10/2008 |
| Q: I like this girl and we've become "frieds" (not the F word I hear you say), anyways we've been ... A: Here's what you're going to do: First, stop listening to her and reacting to her. When any woman ... | |
| known her for a long time | 12/8/2008 |
| Q: I've known this certain girl for a long time and we've been loose friends for years. Recently I'd ... A: Let's start with this: almost ALL relationships are messy (at least if they're worthwhile) - that's ... | |
| Doc some direction please... | 12/7/2008 |
| Q: I'll try my best to keep it short, yet detailed. Beginning of this year I dated this girl a few ... A: Girls? Girls? Are you reading this? I sure hope you are. Those of you female geniuses out there that ... | |
| How to | 12/5/2008 |
| Q: This is Srujan.I'm studying in India.I have a girlfriend.She's so nice n sweet.But the problem with ... A: No, she didn't "make you do that", you CHOSE to do that. That's a very different thing. Start with ... | |
| Does myspace/facebook ever work? | 12/3/2008 |
| Q: Dr. Neder, I'm a 22 year old male in a small town. I swear almost every female over 18 is either ... A: You're going to think that my answer is flippant, but in reality, the answer is: everywhere else! ... | |
| Does myspace/facebook ever work? | 12/3/2008 |
| Q: Dr. Neder, I'm a 22 year old male in a small town. I swear almost every female over 18 is either ... A: If you're finding available women on MySpace and Facebook that are around your area, there ARE ... | |
| Porn | 12/2/2008 |
| Q: I asked for your advice awhile ago about my boyfriend masturbating when I am home and how this upset ... A: You asked for my advice before and now you're back for more? What are you a masochist or ... | |
| Approaching shy woman | 11/28/2008 |
| Q: I'm 21 years old and I have a crush on my friend's best friend. She's a very shy woman especially ... A: The signals you're describing aren't of a shy woman, they are of a woman that isn't interested in ... | |
| i need help | 11/24/2008 |
| Q: i have a big problem i cant seem to have a decent relationship with women i mean the first lady i ... A: First of all, you need to understand (and frankly, accept) that when relationships end, you almost ... | |
| how do i ask this gril for her number | 11/20/2008 |
| Q: Bout a hour later I walked back past her and she asked again if I was sure cause she backed them ... A: You shouldn't worry about whether a girl feels the same way about you that you do about her. You can ... | |
| Relationship | 11/20/2008 |
| Q: I am 24 and my wife is 23. We are married for past 2 days.When i simply touch her, kiss her, hug her ... A: Let me guess, you're Indian and this is an arranged marriage, right? This is only one reason I'm so ... | |
| How Attract the woman of my dreams | 11/20/2008 |
| Q: Ever since i was a freshman in my high school there was a girl that i really liked and i had crush ... A: A "crazy chance"?? There's nothing crazy about it! You're not just denying yourself getting to know ... | |
| get ex back | 11/18/2008 |
| Q: Ok to start out my ex and i had been together just over 5 years, lived together almost 4 and have a ... A: Yes, and that's exactly the problem! You aren't making your 3-year-old the issue! You can't POSSIBLY ... | |
| Once was keen and now I'm on my knees | 11/18/2008 |
| Q: I apologize in advance for the length of this question. I am a 21 year old university student, and ... A: Why should I help you here? Just so that you can continue to abuse this girl? Be absolutely clear ... | |
| How do i get this thru to her. | 11/16/2008 |
| Q: Ok i been seeing this girl for about 6 months now and i am 19 years old and she is 35 years old i ... A: I have no idea what you're asking me here. You said that you've been seeing her for 6 months. What ... | |
| How to make her feel best in my company | 11/15/2008 |
| Q: There is a girl whom i like, she is lively, fun lovin, havin mind like a kid many times and ... A: This almost sounds like you've been doing the phone thing so long that she has finally lost interest ... | |
| get ex back | 11/14/2008 |
| Q: Ok to start out my ex and i had been together just over 5 years, lived together almost 4 and have a ... A: Your letter really pisses me off. Here you two know-it-all's decide to bring a child into this world ... | |
| Online Dating? | 11/12/2008 |
| Q: Hey Dennis, Just wanted to say I love this site and plan on ordering BAM 1 from your site within ... A: You're going to LOVE BAM1. It'll really open your eyes about a lot of things in this ... | |
| Attracted to girl with a boyfirend | 11/12/2008 |
| Q: A few days ago I went out with my sister and her friends to a lounge.When we got there I greeted ... A: No, it's not "how could you forget" it's "how could you be concerned - even in the least"??? Joel, ... | |
| Love solution | 11/11/2008 |
| Q: Well i am in love with a girl of different community.due to some reasons i have made a bad ... A: If she's not talking to you any more, you're not even friends at this point. I think the thing to ... | |
| I NEED HELP | 11/11/2008 |
| Q: Dennis, I am an Egyptian teenager, 17 years in the American University in Cairo. I am overweight but ... A: Here's what you do: you stop putting all this pressure on yourself and just enjoy what you're doing ... | |
| She has a boyfriend | 11/10/2008 |
| Q: Neder, I've read some of your advice and it's been really helpful. I'm in University and there's ... A: Absolutely. If she and her boyfriend don't see each other often, I'm assuming this is a ... | |
| How to make her feel the same | 11/10/2008 |
| Q: I am a seventeen year old and and have strong feelings for a girl my age we have been speaking to ... A: You haven't given me much to go on. Has she TOLD you she's not interested or has she simply been ... | |
| I like this chick | 11/9/2008 |
| Q: Hey Doc. i have a problem or something like that ima junior in my H.S. and you see i like well i ... A: So, here you are making all sorts of excuses for why she wouldn't want to get to know you. On the ... | |
| how do i regain the interest of an ex-girlfriend | 11/8/2008 |
| Q: I have liked this girl for about 3 years and i have gotten to know her pretty well, she attractive, ... A: What do you mean "will slip". You HAVE slipped into the friend-zone. You've already dated this girl ... | |
| shyness! | 11/7/2008 |
| Q: Im 33 years old and only had a few relationships in my life. Any women I did date, i really was ... A: I couldn't be more pleased to hear that you're fed up with the life you've chosen. ("What did that ... | |
| Getting an Older Girl. | 11/6/2008 |
| Q: My Name is Kirill.. And I've recently met a girl that I feel so much towards.. when I'm with her the ... A: I agree about your age difference. When you get older, this will make no difference at all, but at ... | |
| No confidence | 11/6/2008 |
| Q: I am male 24. Although i wont consider myself shy but i do not have confidence to speak with women. ... A: First of all, great job for not letting your lack of confidence keep you from having what you ... | |
| How Can I Tell? | 11/6/2008 |
| Q: Neder, Like others, I would like to thank you in advance for taking the time you will to answer my ... A: I'm afraid she's trying to let you down without actually coming out and saying it. Here's the ... | |
| Re: I like her but i need to find out if shes single? | 11/5/2008 |
| Q: Ive found myslef besotted with a girl at my uni. We only talk briefly when we see each other in the ... A: Why in the hell are you worried if she's "with someone"? That's not your problem! What if you're a ... | |
| Hook Line and Sinker | 11/4/2008 |
| Q: She is very pretty, very smart, class president and recently won first place in a cross country race ... A: How what? How do you ask her out? Just walk up to her and say, "You know, we should get to know ... | |
| What do i say to a girl when i get her number ? | 11/3/2008 |
| Q: I am a male teen who's naturally very shy. But today i got a girl's number for the first time. ... A: GREAT FREAKIN' JOB, DANY!! I'm very proud of you! You didn't let your own shyness prevent you from ... | |
| Hook Line and Sinker | 11/3/2008 |
| Q: She is very pretty, very smart, class president and recently won first place in a cross country race ... A: Yes, she likes you. What in the hell are you waiting for? Go get your confidence and ask this girl ... | |
| I Love her and don't want to let her go this time. | 10/31/2008 |
| Q: I have a similar story as Tony. You see there is this girl I really liked in High School and never ... A: Let's be clear about the realities here: you liked this girl in high school and the friendship ... | |
| Friends Forever | 10/29/2008 |
| Q: I heard somewhere that you should not be jus friends otherwise there is less chances of that girl ... A: What you heard is correct. To learn more about why this is true, go to my website ... | |
| Am I being led on? | 10/26/2008 |
| Q: My supposed "Best Friend" and I have been teasing, flirting, helping, etc.. each other for 4 years ... A: This woman is a total and complete Attention Whore ("AW"). These signals are loud-and-clear. She ... | |
| LOVE BACK | 10/25/2008 |
| Q: I FELL FOR A CO-WORKER,OLDER,WITH CHILDREN.I SHOWED HER LADIES INTERESTED IN ME,LET HER HEAR ... A: Hey Tony! There's always a chance, but that doesn't necessarily make it a reasonable chance. Your ... | |
| LOVE BACK | 10/24/2008 |
| Q: I FELL FOR A CO-WORKER,OLDER,WITH CHILDREN.I SHOWED HER LADIES INTERESTED IN ME,LET HER HEAR ... A: The dumb things: She flirted with someone else and you got jealous. You pulled back when you should ... | |
| is she interested | 10/24/2008 |
| Q: ok. this is going to sound wierd, but i have recently been talking to this girl who is younger than ... A: I don't know this girl and I don't read minds. From her saying "hi" to you there's no way for me to ... | |
| How to be in control of the relationship | 10/20/2008 |
| Q: Neder, I've been reading some of the questions lately and i've found your advice very credible and ... A: Wait a minute. You call her, you set the dates and you think you're not "in control"? It sounds ... | |
| How to Stand Out (Positiviely) to Women | 10/19/2008 |
| Q: Hey there Dr. Neder! I have a question for you that seems simple enough, but requires a complex ... A: Frankly, physical appearance doesn't do very much for you. Certainly not as much as most men ... | |
| Would this make a girl's day & | 10/16/2008 |
| Q: I see this girl in my gym every now and then, who i think is stunning. If i was to randomly go up to ... A: First of all, there's nothing rare about this at all. Every honey teenager in town has tried that ... | |
| What girls want | 10/16/2008 |
| Q: What do girls look for in a guy. How do I get them to notice me? P.S. I'm the shy type A: To answer your question, let me tell you a story: Socrates was a very learned, knowledgeable, wise ... | |
| A dilema | 10/14/2008 |
| Q: I would like to thank you in advance for answering my question to the best of your abilities as I am ... A: Alright then. So ask her out, let her say "no" and move on. Frankly, I'm still not convinced by ... | |
| A dilema | 10/14/2008 |
| Q: I would like to thank you in advance for answering my question to the best of your abilities as I am ... A: I'm always deeply concerned with any guy goes for "...even the slightest chance..." because your ... | |
| How to attract a girl that already has a serious boyfriend | 10/13/2008 |
| Q: My name is Paul. I have known this girl for a few weeks now and she really is a beautiful girl and ... A: I never said you did hang out everyday - all it takes is once. That's what friends do. Best ... | |
| How to attract a girl that already has a serious boyfriend | 10/13/2008 |
| Q: My name is Paul. I have known this girl for a few weeks now and she really is a beautiful girl and ... A: Let's be clear on this: you ARE building a friendship - and absolutely ruining any chance you may ... | |
| i screwed up with the girl of my dreams | 10/8/2008 |
| Q: as you will probably say i am young, naive and there are plenty other girls in the sea, being of the ... A: You may be young, but you're 100% of your age! You have a number of lessons to learn from this ... | |
| Age Gap, during teenage years... | 10/6/2008 |
| Q: My name is Kirill and Im currently 12 years old.. My sister has a friend who is 14 years old, ... A: As you get older, age differences begin to mean less and less, but I'm in the reality business and ... | |
| girl not calling back. | 10/1/2008 |
| Q: I am a girl and went out on a date with another girl. We had a great time and she said to call her ... A: It's entirely possible she did - and does - like you. This is actually pretty common with women. She ... | |
| talking to girls; flirting, holding a convo, etc. | 10/1/2008 |
| Q: Dr. Neder. My problem is that I don't have a good way to open a conversation with girls. Or, if I ... A: First of all, yes, you need to get some game. The good news is that this isn't tough to do. It takes ... | |
| girl | 9/23/2008 |
| Q: Hey Dr. Dennis. I am 17 years old and have a thing with this girl who is 18..she is a senior and i ... A: Yes, I'm going to help you. First of all, STOP HANGING OUT!!! That's a coward's way out. You don't ... | |
| My shyness is taking my life from me. | 9/23/2008 |
| Q: i'll try to keep this description as clear as possible, but i really don't think i can explain it in ... A: Interesting, your English is better than many native speakers! There's a reason why you only meet ... | |
| what to talk on my date | 9/22/2008 |
| Q: i am 20 and i am from india. i know this girl from past one year. but its been not more than 5 ... A: If you don't speak much, it's because the people around you (including her) aren't engaging you! If ... | |
| advice? | 9/19/2008 |
| Q: I have wrote you before but I have some new questions. I have just started college and have some ... A: That's one HUGE question! I could spend weeks trying to answer it! Art, there's no one or two or ... | |
| How do I know if she likes me back? | 9/18/2008 |
| Q: I'm a senior in high school, I just got out of a kinda long relationship, b/c I no longer had ... A: You're wrong, Brad. She's NOT perfect. Don't idealize her and give her all this power over you that ... | |
| Need some advice | 9/17/2008 |
| Q: So I've gotten to know my best friend pretty well this past year and 2 months now.The thing is i ... A: Hey James! You're right there (here) with all this "talent" around you and you're worried about ... | |
| Need some advice | 9/17/2008 |
| Q: So I've gotten to know my best friend pretty well this past year and 2 months now.The thing is i ... A: There's always "some hope", but the problem is that you will read that and assume that means there's ... | |
| Need some advice | 9/17/2008 |
| Q: So I've gotten to know my best friend pretty well this past year and 2 months now.The thing is i ... A: You should have taken it as a complete shutdown - that's exactly what it was. Let me translate some ... | |
| How to to get her interest back ? | 9/12/2008 |
| Q: "Hi, I would like to say i am a shy man, i had meet a girl in my work we had an eye contact for long ... A: Yes there is, but it's far, far more intricate than I can possibly go into via these messages. If ... | |
| Are girls looking at me becasue i'm ugly ? | 9/10/2008 |
| Q: I am male teen 18 and i started college the other day. When i was walking into the entrance, this ... A: Look - I don't know if you're ugly or not. No, it's extremely unlikely that's the reason these girls ... | |
| help | 9/7/2008 |
| Q: I am a 45 years old man living in Venezuela, married and with 2 kids. One week ago i travelled to ... A: I agree with your psychologist. When you give this sort of compliment to a woman you also give away ... | |
| How to to get her interest back ? | 9/6/2008 |
| Q: "Hi, I would like to say i am a shy man, i had meet a girl in my work we had an eye contact for long ... A: Attention Whore Alert!!!! This girl (unfortunately) isn't interested in you. She's interested in ... | |
| How to initiate contact with my ex | 9/3/2008 |
| Q: My ex and I broke up about 3 months ago. She left me for obvious reason, in the beginning of the ... A: NO, that's not all you want. You want much, much more. What you're really saying is that you're ... | |
| whats the deal | 9/1/2008 |
| Q: hey dr.neder well theres this girl that i liked or loved for almost 1 or two years now. in late ... A: So, did you like or love her and for 1 or 2 years??? Unfortunately, you HAVE hit the friend-zone ... | |
| the saga continues... | 8/26/2008 |
| Q: Dr. Neder, your answers have been so helpful to me in the past and your book is great. Looking ... A: BAM 2 is going to kick your ass - guaranteed! I'm a little concerned with the comments you made ... | |
| love women | 8/26/2008 |
| Q: i enjoy sex and i want to meet more women in living here in shreveport louisiana im 31 yrs old so ... A: Learn the game. Go to http://beingaman.com and http://beingaman.tv. You'll be getting more big ... | |
| Next | 8/26/2008 |
| Q: I have not dated much and hardly any friendships with females. My last relationship I really was ... A: I'm actually glad you don't have many friendships with girls. Being a girl's friend when you really ... | |
| ugly mean girls | 8/16/2008 |
| Q: I am married ant nice looking my husbands friends are so mean to me. he does not get it. i hate it ... A: Hmm...interesting story. Is that really what you wanted - just to tell someone how mean your ... | |
| advice on how to attract females in high school | 8/14/2008 |
| Q: hey Doc, I would like to know if you have any advice to attract women while in high school if it ... A: Actually, yes I do! High school has it's own set of rules that don't directly translate to the rest ... | |
| Chakra Balancing for Confidence | 8/13/2008 |
| Q: Just curious of your opinion on balancing the 7 chakras to improve confidence, presence, and overall ... A: The reason why learning "tactics" feels "off" is because you're trying to find techniques - not ... | |
| marriage and sex | 8/11/2008 |
| Q: In all the long term marriages that you see, which have not ended in divorce, what was the secret? ... A: You're asking me to do something that nobody has EVER been able to do - define a single set of ... | |
| how | 8/7/2008 |
| Q: How can I invite a girl I like that has an overly proctive dad over to my house. A: What are you inviting her over to your house for? If it's a game of Scrabble, then you have no ... | |
| getting back my girl | 8/7/2008 |
| Q: Me and my girl had been together one month short of two years and I love her with all my heart. She ... A: Hey Chris! To quote Yoda, "No try. Do!" She told you there was still a chance in order to ease HER ... | |
| getting back my girl | 8/7/2008 |
| Q: Me and my girl had been together one month short of two years and I love her with all my heart. She ... A: Yes, I KNOW you want her back. Unfortunately, wanting something so much it hurts won't make it come ... | |
| How can i speak to girls if i have low self steem ? | 8/5/2008 |
| Q: I'm 18 male teen and i am have sooo low self esteem that it's killing my chances of meeting girls. ... A: First of all, you're right - you WILL be like this forever if you don't get it handled. The good ... | |
| i dont fuckin understand whats happenin here | 8/4/2008 |
| Q: since reading the info on your site and just testing the field and learning a bit here and there ive ... A: Why wasn't the sex your idea? It's your job to move things forward and if you wanted to have sex, ... | |
| HELP!! I think I screwed up! | 8/1/2008 |
| Q: i need your HELP. This last saturday i went out on a date with an attractive intelligent brunette ... A: First of all, you should have taken her back to her hotel and made her see stars. You had ALL of the ... | |
| How to propose a girl? | 7/27/2008 |
| Q: I am student and i live in Saudi Arab and I am from Bangladesh. I like a girl of 2 years younger ... A: From your first letter I'm guessing that you're about 14-15 years old. If so, you're not yet ready ... | |
| spice up the relationship. | 7/27/2008 |
| Q: I have a beautiful girlfriend that is 17 years old, im 19 and we've been going out for about almost ... A: "That far"??? Frankly, that's not far at all - that's where things begin, but I digress... Since I ... | |
| Building back a "just be friend" relationship | 7/27/2008 |
| Q: I am 16, and I had already asked out a girl I had really liked in 8th grade, and she is just the ... A: Your "theory" isn't unique at all. EVERY guy thinks exactly this - and every guy fails at it. Sorry ... | |
| i need help | 7/22/2008 |
| Q: ok well im absolutely in love with this girl and she like me back wee spend time together but she ... A: 1) Take it slow 2) Get to know each other 3) Start dating other girls right away [important!] Best ... | |
| Finding an understanding girl | 7/20/2008 |
| Q: I'm a sixteen year old boy. I've been having issues with bonding with, not just women, but other ... A: Here's the interesting thing about this: what is working against you today is going to be your ... | |
| History Repeates | 7/16/2008 |
| Q: Dennis, I am tired of being in the situation where i find a girl i actually like, however their ... A: Sorry for the late reply - my system crashed. What in the hell are you doing waiting??? I just ... | |
| ******CONFUSION****** | 7/14/2008 |
| Q: Hey Dennis, i am in a very weird situation in wich i have been seeing my ex girlfriend best friend. ... A: A 5-hour drive? Going out of her way? Uhhh..do you think??? This thing with her going forward and ... | |
| What does she means? | 7/8/2008 |
| Q: your advice is really detail and helpful. Right now, I have a situation that I like this Korean ... A: Regrettably, I get so many of these questions everyday - from this board and many other sources - I ... | |
| Open relationships | 6/30/2008 |
| Q: Hey. I just got your book and am just starting to read it. I need a quick answer on this because ... A: First of all, congratulations on getting and reading BAM 1. You're going to get quite an education! ... | |
| dating and marriage | 6/28/2008 |
| Q: For professional women (doctors, lawyers, CEOs etc) can you please tell me what is the best type of ... A: There are a variety of men that are good choices for these women; other doctors, lawyers CEOs, as ... | |
| Fat, Ugly women and pretty girls | 6/28/2008 |
| Q: You know, I sit and observe my classmates from time to time. And i notice some things. There are a ... A: Hey Mike! Man! Aren't you full of ugly-verse-beautiful questions! Let's turn this around; let's ... | |
| Fat, Ugly women and pretty girls | 6/27/2008 |
| Q: You know, I sit and observe my classmates from time to time. And i notice some things. There are a ... A: First of all, FUGs learn one key: compensation. Whereas beauties often don't have to work as hard on ... | |
| beautiful women dating | 6/26/2008 |
| Q: Why is it that really beautiful women with nice personalities and successful careers ... seem to ... A: Didn't I just answer a question for you? Feel free to combine them into one message in the future. ... | |
| Fat, Ugly women and pretty girls | 6/26/2008 |
| Q: You know, I sit and observe my classmates from time to time. And i notice some things. There are a ... A: The reason for it is this: looks are women's currency in the dating world. Men's currency is ... | |
| She left me ?? why ? | 6/26/2008 |
| Q: Dennis W. Neder. I have been in a great relationship for the last 16 weeks, every thing was great !! ... A: You equate her not being willing to kiss you with being "independent"? Hmm...well ok, I guess you ... | |
| I need ur expertise in answering this question | 6/25/2008 |
| Q: My story started when I came to my freind's restaurant and I saw this new girl that works for him ... A: Here's the problem: you have no game and you've proven to her that you have no game. She was ... | |
| getting her back | 6/24/2008 |
| Q: is it really true that you should wait thirty days to contact them again. She never said she was ... A: Huh??? Where is that written?? 30 days? What if she were in dire need of emotional support? Are you ... | |
| Why were people looking at me ? | 6/17/2008 |
| Q: After 4 weeks of holiday, i went back to school & i noticed that several people (boys and girls) ... A: Oh, absolutely - all of these people have fallen deeply and madly in love with you. The guys can't ... | |
| the horrible love triangle | 6/11/2008 |
| Q: i have quiet the situation. there is this girl that i love and her name is Michelle. i first became ... A: First of all, there's no "love triangle" here at all. They are a couple and you're the odd man out - ... | |
| How to propose | 6/9/2008 |
| Q: my name is yuvraj.I love one girl but i do'nt know that she loves me or not.Whenever i try to get ... A: Let me guess, you're from India, right? First off, you don't love this girl. You're INTERESTED in ... | |
| hi | 6/8/2008 |
| Q: well i have no problems with getting girls but i get ones that come up to me! im an attractive guy ... A: Don't be ridiculous. You can't memorize a few lines that will work in any situation and expect to ... | |
| friends | 6/8/2008 |
| Q: Dennis, i used to be realy good friends with this guy joel. him and i started being friends back in ... A: Wait just a cotton-pickin' minute here. What's really going on? Do you like this guy or not? Are you ... | |
| friends | 6/8/2008 |
| Q: Dennis, i used to be realy good friends with this guy joel. him and i started being friends back in ... A: Easy, stop being his friend! As long as you remain his friend, you continue to give him hope that ... | |
| advice | 6/7/2008 |
| Q: hey dennis. this is not in the right category. but i know you are trained in dealing with many ... A: First of all, I really appreciate your situation. Having someone so close to you going through this ... | |
| need some clarity | 6/7/2008 |
| Q: I called her up on this friday but she didnt pick up. Instead she texted me that she was travelling. ... A: Hey Jimmy! 1) I don't read minds, but she seemed interested from the beginning and is likely ... | |
| lonely hot girls | 6/5/2008 |
| Q: I've noticed lately that many really pretty girls with nice personalities are single. And they stay ... A: Here's part of the problem: very few people are really experts at relationships and thus, they rely ... | |
| current dating scene | 6/5/2008 |
| Q: Dennis, I've noticed lately that the current dating scene for men and women is very sad and bleak. ... A: Remember, this is a TV show. They build ratings based on controversy and thus, you can't use this as ... | |
| lonely hot girls | 6/5/2008 |
| Q: I've noticed lately that many really pretty girls with nice personalities are single. And they stay ... A: This is a really excellent question. I've been looking forward to answering it. I just hope you ... | |
| followup | 6/5/2008 |
| Q: Sure, I suppose that's a possibility too and if that is your experience it bears out your ... A: Oh, you again?? First of all, it depends on what you're looking for, what you consider "powerful" ... | |
| This could be a real opportunity? | 6/5/2008 |
| Q: Theres a girl the same age as me that i like. We new each others personality a bit coz we both had ... A: You're damn right she got tired of waiting for you! Anthony, what in the hell were you thinking? ... | |
| working girls...critique? | 6/2/2008 |
| Q: I have a couple questions but the most important one first: Just 10 minutes ago I asked a girl out ... A: I'm glad you're trying to expand your social sphere. That's exactly how you'll start getting the ... | |
| getting weirder by the minute | 6/1/2008 |
| Q: Well now the married guy is sending me tons of crazy text messages and following me around campus. ... A: Hey Julie! Not likely. If this guy is really interested, he's more likely to increase his efforts - ... | |
| How to Attract the Woman of Your Dreams | 6/1/2008 |
| Q: i know this girl from my childhood and i love her too,but could you tell me how to convince her to ... A: That's a far too huge, complicated question for me to possibly answer via these messages. If you ... | |
| divorces | 5/31/2008 |
| Q: why are there so many divorces nowadays i just dont get it? and what is the main cause? thanks :) ... A: Hey Katrina! Oh! Trust me, I NEVER forget about a woman's sex drive! "...it can be more powerful ... | |
| getting weirder by the minute | 5/31/2008 |
| Q: Well now the married guy is sending me tons of crazy text messages and following me around campus. ... A: Strange as it may seem, no, it's not a warning flag by itself. It may turn you off, but in fact, the ... | |
| divorces | 5/31/2008 |
| Q: why are there so many divorces nowadays i just dont get it? and what is the main cause? thanks :) ... A: More reality: (I'm just full of reality today!) Marriage benefits women far more than it does men. ... | |
| getting weirder by the minute | 5/30/2008 |
| Q: Well now the married guy is sending me tons of crazy text messages and following me around campus. ... A: There are incredible men all over the place - just like there are incredible women all over the ... | |
| divorces | 5/30/2008 |
| Q: why are there so many divorces nowadays i just dont get it? and what is the main cause? thanks :) A: Actually, there aren't too many divorces. There are too many marriages. The reality is that people ... | |
| You're a peice of shit | 5/28/2008 |
| Q: dennis u suck you dont know jack about women and all u do on your website being a man is curse and ... A: Back for more again, eh? Well, who am I to deny you the abuse you so obviously crave? You see, I'm a ... | |
| follow up | 5/28/2008 |
| Q: --------------------------I seem to attract A LOT of married men with kids. In fact, that's ALL I ... A: You know why those beauties lose their guys to otherwise "less desirable" women? Simple: the ... | |
| You're a peice of shit | 5/28/2008 |
| Q: dennis u suck you dont know jack about women and all u do on your website being a man is curse and ... A: You're obviously not a mature or educated man so I'll keep this as simple as possible. Feel free to ... | |
| HELP!!! | 5/28/2008 |
| Q: I have breasts and a penis. I would like to find a girlfriend that has breasts and a penis as well. ... A: To hell. Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder President ~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~. ... | |
| being held | 5/28/2008 |
| Q: Dennis its me well i found out that the older guy I was telling you about? he is married with 3 ... A: Yo! Jaci! I couldn't agree more. The first step is finding him, but the second, far larger step is ... | |
| being held | 5/28/2008 |
| Q: Dennis its me well i found out that the older guy I was telling you about? he is married with 3 ... A: Hey Jaci! I don't know you well enough to say. I've never seen you or how you dress or how you act ... | |
| being held | 5/28/2008 |
| Q: Dennis its me well i found out that the older guy I was telling you about? he is married with 3 ... A: Let me tell you what psychotic is: 1) Expecting me to remember all the things we talked about with ... | |
| beautiful women don't stay single | 5/27/2008 |
| Q: I'm of the opinion that opportunities to date many of the most prized women in the dating scene have ... A: Unfortunately, it depends on the woman. You can't draw a "rule" from your level of attraction to ... | |
| Older Man/Younger Woman Question | 5/27/2008 |
| Q: I was just reading your response to Sabrina's "Falling for a (somewhat) older man,” I like your ... A: First let me comment on the meeting with the ex-wife through a story: Many years ago I was dating ... | |
| I cant think of a romantic date | 5/27/2008 |
| Q: hey how you doin? me, not so good. this girl i like is leaving friday and i want to take her on a ... A: Hanging out at the lake; and maybe having a picnic can be a very romantic date; and frankly, is a ... | |
| too fast but will it last? | 5/25/2008 |
| Q: i happen to be the manager of a manager who has this girl (she is 21 and i m 28) in his team and i ... A: The very best way to do this is to not worry about her reaction because you're not going to "ask" ... | |
| being held | 5/25/2008 |
| Q: Hey Dennis, Why is it that when a man puts his arms around a woman, it is the BEST feeling in the ... A: Hey Jaci! Aren't we the curios one this morning?? Since I don't know this guy, I can't say. If it ... | |
| being held | 5/25/2008 |
| Q: Hey Dennis, Why is it that when a man puts his arms around a woman, it is the BEST feeling in the ... A: It sounds like a perfect match! I hope this works out for you. Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder ... | |
| being held | 5/24/2008 |
| Q: Hey Dennis, Why is it that when a man puts his arms around a woman, it is the BEST feeling in the ... A: First answer: Women crave what is powerful in men. Men by the way have different cravings from ... | |
| too fast but will it last? | 5/24/2008 |
| Q: i happen to be the manager of a manager who has this girl (she is 21 and i m 28) in his team and i ... A: Well, you're right about this: it WILL die down if you just let it simmer like you are. You see, ... | |
| Reveal Feelings. | 5/22/2008 |
| Q: Neder. There's this girl that I really like for the last four months but I haven't told her how I ... A: DO NOT "reveal your feelings"!!! If you do, you'll never have another chance with this girl ever ... | |
| girls | 5/19/2008 |
| Q: well I'm the starting Wide reciever for the freshman football team. i play baseball and made the ... A: No, being shy isn't part of the problem - it's THE problem. Acting shy comes off as insecure to ... | |
| the girl of my dreams | 5/19/2008 |
| Q: well theres this girl at school that I've known since 7th grade, I'm in 9th now. I've always thought ... A: Hold on there big fella! You're sure giving this girl one hellofa lot of power over you! "Girl of ... | |
| Need your advice | 5/18/2008 |
| Q: "So I started dating my BEST friend of six years. She had gone out with a friend of mine in the ... A: Honestly, I don't think you stand any further chance now. There are a ton of dynamics going on here ... | |
| getting a girl to date me | 5/15/2008 |
| Q: Ok, here is the problem. Me and this girl have been friends all through high school but since ... A: I'm going to answer your question, but I want you to stop and think about this for a minute: ... | |
| confused | 5/15/2008 |
| Q: There's this girl at school, whom all of a sudden became realy freindly to me, always saying hi ... A: Hey Jeff! If you're more afraid of asking her than of being alone, then be alone the rest of your ... | |
| a good friend but more | 5/15/2008 |
| Q: I'm 17 and i cant say im real experienced when it comes to girls. I've had a few short ... A: When do you approach her? A long time ago! Andy, the problem here is that you went for the ... | |
| How to make Girl Friend | 5/14/2008 |
| Q: i am BPO Industry Employee.and i am from India so i got brown color skin and i am little bit Fat.i ... A: First of all, is that really what you want from girls - friendship? I don't think so. I think you'd ... | |
| confused | 5/13/2008 |
| Q: There's this girl at school, whom all of a sudden became realy freindly to me, always saying hi ... A: You should have closed her - asked for her number or (better) asked her out on a date. Best ... | |
| Real Men | 5/13/2008 |
| Q: I have been working on putting together a few work shops for women on how to attract the kind of ... A: Actually, we have just such a group! You can find it here: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/beingaman. ... | |
| Real Men | 5/12/2008 |
| Q: I have been working on putting together a few work shops for women on how to attract the kind of ... A: It's particularly heartening to hear that you accept "The Test" for what it is. You'd be surprised ... | |
| what should i do? | 5/12/2008 |
| Q: my girlfriend of 2 and a half years has recently said she wanted time and space, so i let her. ad ... A: Yo! Chris! The only answer I have for you is a trite one: time. Well, there *is* another tool I ... | |
| what should i do? | 5/12/2008 |
| Q: my girlfriend of 2 and a half years has recently said she wanted time and space, so i let her. ad ... A: Neglect is certainly a bad thing, but not as bad as dumping you by lying you to about being on a ... | |
| confused | 5/12/2008 |
| Q: There's this girl at school, whom all of a sudden became realy freindly to me, always saying hi ... A: Yes, I think she had feelings for you and she just got tired and fed-up with waiting for you to do ... | |
| what should i do? | 5/10/2008 |
| Q: my girlfriend of 2 and a half years has recently said she wanted time and space, so i let her. ad ... A: What she wanted was a "break", and yes, it was your fault, but not because you didn't want to go ... | |
| ask out girl of my dreams | 5/10/2008 |
| Q: i'm fat , and i got bad breath.What can i do to ask my friend a.k.a the girl of my dreams out? A: Start by brushing your teeth, getting in shape and getting your attitude straightened out! Why ... | |
| lost love | 5/9/2008 |
| Q: I lost the love of my dreams but I want to get back with her. Can you tell me how please? We were ... A: LOL! Did my ex-wife put you up to this???? She tried to arrange your death and she's mentally ill? ... | |
| What should I do.... | 5/8/2008 |
| Q: my situation is a bit complex, I am with a girl, I'll call her Caty (and we have been together over ... A: If you don't want to be disrespectful to Caty then why are you even asking me this question??? Do ... | |
| What should I do.... | 5/8/2008 |
| Q: my situation is a bit complex, I am with a girl, I'll call her Caty (and we have been together over ... A: It doesn't sound like you're married to Caty or that you're very committed to her. In fact, I think ... | |
| how do i | 5/8/2008 |
| Q: Iv noticed recently that iv been slowly attracted to one of my friends im really not sure what to ... A: Why do you want to make her notice you - so that she'll do your work for you and you won't have to ... | |
| the friend zone | 5/5/2008 |
| Q: i started to develop feelings for one my best female friend. ive know her for almost 4 years, and ... A: What should you do? Dump this friend and go find a girlfriend - then, don't become her friend first! ... | |
| How long should I wait? | 5/3/2008 |
| Q: Here is the situation, I know this girl, we've know each other ever since we were little kids. Her ... A: Hey Rick! Help you? Help you with what - screwing this up permanently??? You've already done huge ... | |
| uhh | 5/2/2008 |
| Q: well the question kinda askes itsel dosent it? how can u attrack the woman of ur dreams ? of ya by ... A: The problem is that it doesn't answer itself! Ty, that's a huge - and misdirected question. What ... | |
| I need some advice please..... | 5/2/2008 |
| Q: Ok well hear is my story very long, Its been 7 months I been with my girl and it seems now we hit a ... A: So what do you want? You spent 3/4's of this letter telling me how much you love her and how in love ... | |
| end product | 4/29/2008 |
| Q: I seem to get lost sometimes after Ive made an approach to a woman chatting about absolutely nothing ... A: Actually, this is pretty common. The problem either is that you're not building enough rapport and ... | |
| Knowing when she is interested | 4/28/2008 |
| Q: Hey there. I have been reading your posting and I like what you have to say so i want to get your ... A: Did you even bother to look at that video or read the FAQ's like I suggested? That's where you're ... | |
| sleeze | 4/28/2008 |
| Q: Im 27 and just not as successful with women as I think I should be. Ive had some limited success ... A: There are a number of skills that all guys need to learn. The approach is one of them. Another is ... | |
| slow or fast | 4/28/2008 |
| Q: well theres this girl and shes one of my freinds and i like her more than a friend and i want her to ... A: http://beingaman.com/bamtv.asp Watch the video there on Friends. Then, click on Self Help and read ... | |
| Knowing when she is interested | 4/28/2008 |
| Q: Hey there. I have been reading your posting and I like what you have to say so i want to get your ... A: First of all, you need to know - you're late - maybe too late now. If you're hanging out with this ... | |
| Should i take it slow or what.... | 4/27/2008 |
| Q: well theres this girl who wont get off my mind. she is one of my friends but i like her more than a ... A: I don't get this. Did you go out on a date with her already or not? Is she a "friend" or not? Is ... | |
| Finding My Alpha Soulmate | 4/27/2008 |
| Q: I don't know if you could help me because I am not a guy looking for a female, but I have been ... A: You have two issues to deal with here. First of all, the lesbian community is rather small. That ... | |
| Finding My Alpha Soulmate | 4/26/2008 |
| Q: I don't know if you could help me because I am not a guy looking for a female, but I have been ... A: Actually, I work with and help just as many women as I do men, so that's not a problem here. Let me ... | |
| How can I make this work? | 4/22/2008 |
| Q: Dr. Neder I'd like to ask you on how I can simply put, attract a girl I've had my eye on for some ... A: You're very welcome. As soon as you start talking about "surefire" and "for sure" or anything else ... | |
| Are these signs of checkin you out ? | 4/22/2008 |
| Q: If i catch a girl looking at me and she instantly looks away, is she checking me out ? Also, if i ... A: Yeah, she's checkin' you out. The problem is that's not your question. Your question is whether ... | |
| should i have went for it? | 4/22/2008 |
| Q: hey doc, ive had feelings for this girl for a very long time and it was a beautiful day the other ... A: I don't know if she wanted it or not. I wasn't there. Why do so many people think I can read minds? ... | |
| How can I make this work? | 4/22/2008 |
| Q: Dr. Neder I'd like to ask you on how I can simply put, attract a girl I've had my eye on for some ... A: You avoid the friend-zone by taking control of the relationship, being the leader and directing ... | |
| very important | 4/20/2008 |
| Q: there is this girl that i like that only see her a few times a day at school. the only time i see ... A: Ok, so exactly what are you looking for? Are you hoping that she'll just become magically attracted ... | |
| very important | 4/19/2008 |
| Q: there is this girl that i like that only see her a few times a day at school. the only time i see ... A: Actually, this approach is very, very simple. The very next time you see her in the hallway walking ... | |
| I got 2 questions one about context and the other about your books | 4/18/2008 |
| Q: FirstI'm interested in buying one or more of your books..could you tell me which one of your books ... A: Hey Eric! Sure Eric, I can give you a pick-up line, but didn't we already agree that this wasn't ... | |
| I got 2 questions one about context and the other about your books | 4/17/2008 |
| Q: FirstI'm interested in buying one or more of your books..could you tell me which one of your books ... A: That's actually a very large question with tons of considerations to it. I'll leave the books to ... | |
| I got 2 questions one about context and the other about your books | 4/17/2008 |
| Q: FirstI'm interested in buying one or more of your books..could you tell me which one of your books ... A: My second book "Being a Man in a Woman's World II" goes into context in great depth including ... | |
| Japanese girls | 4/16/2008 |
| Q: Yes, I have a question about Japanese girls do they like only whites, or are they open to all races. ... A: Yes, Japanese girls only like white guys - particularly in Hawaiian shirts. It brings a feel of the ... | |
| Is she playing games or hard to get? | 4/15/2008 |
| Q: Dr. Neder, I've known that Heather liked me for a long time, but could do nothing about it because ... A: From what you've told me, I get the impression that the only one intersted here is you. In fact, ... | |
| how do i my love back | 4/14/2008 |
| Q: hey, i am 15 years old and i am in love with this girl. i know i know everyone tells me that im too ... A: Simple: treat her like any other athlete there. Don't give her any special attention or anything ... | |
| how do i my love back | 4/13/2008 |
| Q: hey, i am 15 years old and i am in love with this girl. i know i know everyone tells me that im too ... A: Why would you respect that? What's wrong with her that she doesn't "feel like dating right now"? Is ... | |
| this one girl..... | 4/12/2008 |
| Q: so. theres this one girl that goes to my school that i really like. she kinda knows me but not that ... A: Directly. You just walk up to her, use context as a reason to approach her, small-talk for just a ... | |
| this one girl..... | 4/11/2008 |
| Q: so. theres this one girl that goes to my school that i really like. she kinda knows me but not that ... A: Here's the problem with thisit's far too broad to give you a good answer. I can summarize the steps, ... | |
| What should I be feeling? What will happen? | 4/10/2008 |
| Q: I'm a 21 year old college student and two months ago, I met a girl who is exactly my personality and ... A: What should you be feeling??? How about loss, hurt, anger, etc., etc.? You aren't the source of ... | |
| help my friend please.. | 4/10/2008 |
| Q: ok.. i am a 20 yr old female who has a friend that is in need of help in the dating world.. ive ... A: I'm very proud of your love and consideration for your friend in trying to help him. I'll say this ... | |
| dating | 4/10/2008 |
| Q: Ok well I've known this girl since 7th grade. I'm in 9th grade so 2 years. We're not that good of ... A: You don't "ask her" you TELL HER. Your invitation to hang out (which frankly, is a concept I hate!) ... | |
| dating | 4/9/2008 |
| Q: Ok well I've known this girl since 7th grade. I'm in 9th grade so 2 years. We're not that good of ... A: Here's the right time to ask her out: RIGHT NOW!!! You've already known this girl for 2 freakin' ... | |
| should I change? | 4/8/2008 |
| Q: Hey doc I am wondering whether or not I should change the way I am for a girl that I want to be with ... A: Hey Stephen! Two of them: 1) "Context". This is your reason to approach them and basically is just ... | |
| Become the type of guy that girls like | 4/8/2008 |
| Q: When I was young, my parents always told me to study hard and thats what the girls like. Do you ... A: LOL...your parents sure knew how to motivate you! Too bad they didn't know what girls like. Your ... | |
| should I change? | 4/7/2008 |
| Q: Hey doc I am wondering whether or not I should change the way I am for a girl that I want to be with ... A: Not necessarily. In fact, she may very well be trying to get you to be more masculine. The real ... | |
| should I change? | 4/7/2008 |
| Q: Hey doc I am wondering whether or not I should change the way I am for a girl that I want to be with ... A: ?? Absolutely not. No way. Never. DO NOT change yourself to fit some girl! There are quite a few ... | |
| help | 4/7/2008 |
| Q: I went to the movies with this girl that I really like and we almost were about to kiss but we got ... A: First of all, I don't recommend movies or concerts for first dates. You need "face time" in order to ... | |
| Me and a girl got way too close too quickly | 4/6/2008 |
| Q: It was almost perfect for the first five weeks. We were in a place of love I had never been ... A: I'm in the honesty/reality business. You're coming from a place of total fantasy. I have to believe ... | |
| reserved girl | 4/6/2008 |
| Q: There's this girl who's my editor in the school newspaper crew, an open mic hostess who pulled me ... A: First, you've got to get through that wall. The best way to do that is to get HER talking - if she ... | |
| GIrls | 4/6/2008 |
| Q: "Hi my name is Aaron and i am 17 years old. basicly there is a girl who is also 17 that i really ... A: If you and she are really friends, I'm afraid it's game-over. You NEVER want to become friends with ... | |
| How to Attract the girl I like | 4/5/2008 |
| Q: Dennis. I would like that you help me with this: There is a girl in my class that I really like. I ... A: First off, you've got to get this outside of school or at least outside of class. Invite her to have ... | |
| I made mistakes | 4/4/2008 |
| Q: So I'm 21 and I have been dating this girl for 2 years. when we first started dating after about 2-3 ... A: Frankly, I think you're taking on far too much responsibility for her problems. That's sure a nice, ... | |
| tips for an awesome first date | 4/3/2008 |
| Q: hey doc, its jarred ive had my eye on this girl for awhile now and i just got my new truck ive ... A: The best time to ask is always the same: right now. Don't wait on these things. When you're ready - ... | |
| help | 4/1/2008 |
| Q: man ive got a problem im 18 years old now and in my book im nowhere near as successful with women as ... A: I'm glad I could help. It's not hard once you have a good understanding of the issues and the tools ... | |
| help | 4/1/2008 |
| Q: man ive got a problem im 18 years old now and in my book im nowhere near as successful with women as ... A: This is a really great question, and in fact, you're asking the right question. Most guys ask the ... | |
| Some nice lines | 3/30/2008 |
| Q: Every night I tell her something like YOU ARE THE SUNSHINE OF MY LIFE, FROM WHERE DID YOU GET THAT ... A: Let's see here, so you just re-heat some tired old lines from songs and she gets turned on? Holy ... | |
| Working on getting my ex back after i pushed her away | 3/29/2008 |
| Q: My ex broke up with me after a year and a 2 months, basically i have ended up pushing her away due ... A: Is there a less-harsh way? Sure, you could beg and plead with her. You can promise that you'll ... | |
| questiosn | 3/29/2008 |
| Q: i like this girl and we were writing on a napkin to communicate. we were writing sarcastic banter on ... A: First of all, you don't have sexual tension here - at least any that I can see. What you have here ... | |
| Working on getting my ex back after i pushed her away | 3/28/2008 |
| Q: My ex broke up with me after a year and a 2 months, basically i have ended up pushing her away due ... A: Now, here's the real kicker: there *IS* someone better out there. The problem is that if you're ... | |
| SHY GIRL! | 3/27/2008 |
| Q: my ex girlfriend and my best friends ex girlfriend are best friends and.. my best friends ex girl ... A: NO, NO, NO!!!! YOU DO ***NOT*** want to become her friend first!!! Don't do that or you'll never, ... | |
| being the of her dreams | 3/26/2008 |
| Q: I REALLY LIKE R SHALL I SAY LOVED THIS GIRL WE KNOWN EACH OTHER FOR 3 YEAR AND HALF BUT SHE ONLY ... A: What probabaly seemed like a simple question is actually extremely complicated to answer. You're not ... | |
| How long should I wait? | 3/24/2008 |
| Q: Here is the situation, I know this girl, we've know each other ever since we were little kids. Her ... A: As I've already told you - get your buddy to help. This is called "social proof" which means he's ... | |
| Adding Women on Myspace | 3/23/2008 |
| Q: I have been adding random people that I do not know onto my Myspace. The problem is I don't know ... A: This is a huge blunder on myspace's part. I much prefer the way it's done on facebook or linkedin ... | |
| stepping it up | 3/23/2008 |
| Q: I am fifteen and in high school I have known this girl since the fourth grade and have liked her ... A: It doesn't matter whether she's being flirty with you or not. What matters is what YOU want. ... | |
| love proposal | 3/23/2008 |
| Q: Respected dennis sir, I am 22 year old final year b.e. student and last year ... A: You live in India, right? I know because this is the most common question I get from you guys. ... | |
| How long should I wait? | 3/23/2008 |
| Q: Here is the situation, I know this girl, we've know each other ever since we were little kids. Her ... A: How long should you wait??? You should NEVER wait! You're already too late. (This is going to turn ... | |
| How can i get over this girl ? | 3/20/2008 |
| Q: Yesterday i went to a persian new year's festival gathering & i saw 1 girl who was SOO pretty. She ... A: Happy Norooz! She rejected you because you were a weak coward and asked your friend to approach her ... | |
| Ex interest | 3/19/2008 |
| Q: I think you give great advice - straight and to the point. I'm wondering how you can tell if your ... A: No change, although the way to handle this issue is to tell her she's NOT their mother and she ... | |
| Ex interest | 3/18/2008 |
| Q: I think you give great advice - straight and to the point. I'm wondering how you can tell if your ... A: First of all, I'm glad you ended the relationship and not the other way around. If this had been ... | |
| meeting girls | 3/15/2008 |
| Q: im 18 years old and am a senior in high school. i really want to be able to meet girls. how do i do ... A: You make a decision. What is it you want in your life? Do you want to be alone or do you want to be ... | |
| communication issues | 3/3/2008 |
| Q: There is this girl that has an attitude/personality of one that is an easy talker, knows her stuff, ... A: Excellent question! This girl is likely using all sorts of communication tricks and techniques in ... | |
| well you see theres this girl | 3/3/2008 |
| Q: hey doc i need help, i am a freshman in high school and there is this girl that i like. as of a ... A: Here's the mistake you're making: thinking that she has to be attracted to you first. That's not the ... | |
| dating | 3/2/2008 |
| Q: hey, im todd and ive been seeing this girl off and on for like a month or so and i noticed that she ... A: Why are you waiting for her to do all the work? She doesn't want to kiss you - she wants YOU TO KISS ... | |
| please help me!! | 3/2/2008 |
| Q: theres been times when I've been able to get her laughing but not able to keep a conversation. i've ... A: The reason why you're not getting anywhere is that you're not getting the whole story. You're using ... | |
| over-sensitive? | 3/1/2008 |
| Q: im am finding it tough finding a woman to fall in love with. The thing is I feel the guilt of acting ... A: Interestingly, you probably don't really know what an Alpha is - few people do. Acting "tough" is ... | |
| help my brother | 2/29/2008 |
| Q: he likes a girl in his class, He's a total wreck when it comes to girls, but he really likes this ... A: You shouldn't tell her. That's not how it works. Many guys think that by telling some girl they like ... | |
| Falling for an (somewhat) older man | 2/27/2008 |
| Q: A month ago I met an amazing man; handsome, in-shape, caring, respectful, educated, and with a ... A: First of all, what's "wrong" here is believing that you're giving him (or giving into) anything. Sex ... | |
| No Girlfriend... No luck... I suck?! | 2/26/2008 |
| Q: I am a college student. A freshman. 19 years old. I have never been able to get a real girlfriend ... A: ...funny subject line! Yes, I have a ton of suggestions. First of all, stop wasting your time ... | |
| attitude | 2/26/2008 |
| Q: hey dennis, i remember in one of our email conversations when you told me that women are mostly ... A: Unfortunately, I get so many letters every day that unless you copy the previous email, I just can't ... | |
| How to be naughty | 2/25/2008 |
| Q: It is true that women are attracted to a naughty playful guy right? Can you give me some ways on ... A: Actually, you're probably far more creative than you give yourself credit for. Creativity comes in ... | |
| Falling for an (somewhat) older man | 2/25/2008 |
| Q: A month ago I met an amazing man; handsome, in-shape, caring, respectful, educated, and with a ... A: Do you get the feeling that he views you as a little girl because he treats you like this or because ... | |
| help my brother | 2/25/2008 |
| Q: he likes a girl in his class, He's a total wreck when it comes to girls, but he really likes this ... A: I don't do these "pass-throughs". The reason is that you've translated his situation not as he sees ... | |
| I'm in love with this girl, and i want to propose her. | 2/24/2008 |
| Q: Sir, This is abhinav, writing from India. I worked in an organisation for 3 months. There i saw a ... A: I'm very glad that this experience has changed you for the better. Caring for yourself is the first ... | |
| getting my bestfriend/girlfriend back | 2/24/2008 |
| Q: she used to like me back, we even confessed to each other. The relationship went good, till one day ... A: Aha! Now, I understand what's going on. You were so happy to be in a relationship with this girl, ... | |
| Is it possible that this girl likes me ? | 2/24/2008 |
| Q: i went for my training 2day in JD sports (clothes shop) and there were alot of girls. i like this ... A: You don't know if she likes you and neither do I. You didn't do anything to build attraction here. ... | |
| getting my bestfriend/girlfriend back | 2/23/2008 |
| Q: she used to like me back, we even confessed to each other. The relationship went good, till one day ... A: What exactly are the differences for you between being girlfriend/boyfriend and being best friends? ... | |
| want help to overcome situation | 2/20/2008 |
| Q: i am a self respected person.while talking or nbefore .to a girl one thinling came in my mind ... A: Is that really what you want with this girl - to have her as a friend? Nothing more? Ok then... ... | |
| I dont no how to ask her | 2/20/2008 |
| Q: I've gone out with this girl before. I made some mistakes and i know that. I've asked her out ... A: Wait a minute, let's get something clear here. Asking her out on a date isn't the same thing as ... | |
| I need help get a girlfriend | 2/19/2008 |
| Q: I'm am a 16 year old that is pretty overweight, at 6"2", 290 pounds and 32% body fat. I'm do play 3 ... A: The way you look on the outside is a reflection of what you think about on the inside. You're ... | |
| want help to overcome situation | 2/18/2008 |
| Q: i am a self respected person.while talking or nbefore .to a girl one thinling came in my mind ... A: I'm sorry, but I have no idea what you're asking me here. You might want to have an English speaker ... | |
| neeed your advice | 2/14/2008 |
| Q: i m 27 yr old boy i like a girl from 3years i always wanna marry with her....but she does not like ... A: I hope you really pay attention to what I'm about to tell you. It's going to change your life if you ... | |
| I'm in love | 2/14/2008 |
| Q: Dr.Dennis, I need help. I tried to contact many people and got no answers. I'm in love, I was dating ... A: You contacted other experts here on this board and got no answers? Something's very wrong with that ... | |
| How do I socially approach a women i'm interested in | 2/12/2008 |
| Q: Hey Doc what up...Me and my friends hang out a lot at the mall and in public places and we always ... A: What up? Everything above eye-level. Tips and techniques? Yep - a ton of them! Here's your ... | |
| dream | 2/11/2008 |
| Q: Then 3 weeks after my dream my girlfriend told me that her best friend had a dream that she was ... A: If you want someone to interpret your dreams you may need to go to the clarvoyant's board. I don't ... | |
| what should i do | 2/10/2008 |
| Q: So i had been dating this girl for about a year. i meet her at a party of one of my friends and i ... A: Well, I'll say this: you didn't miss a mistake! If there was one there to make, you made it! Here's ... | |
| how will she react?? | 2/8/2008 |
| Q: hey doc, on your advice on meeting up and kissing her when i see her thats a big step and that will ... A: Do me a favor and always copy the previous email when you write a follow-up. I get so many questions ... | |
| Are nice guys a dying breed? | 2/5/2008 |
| Q: My question is do women even want a nice guy anymore? I've been a nice guy all my life. Upbringing ... A: Actually, this is an excellent question! There's a dichotomy and huge misunderstandings about all of ... | |
| whats with this gril an how do i handle it | 2/5/2008 |
| Q: i have a question im not sure you have ever had before ive been wanting to date this girl for as ... A: I'm not convinced that this girl is an AW, but it's definitely possible. It's somewhat important ... | |
| My best friend's sister | 2/1/2008 |
| Q: Neder. I have kind of a tough situation on my hands. My best friend and I have been best friends ... A: Hey Colin! First of all, stay away from high-cost V-Day alternatives. You're not trying to buy her ... | |
| My best friend's sister | 1/31/2008 |
| Q: Neder. I have kind of a tough situation on my hands. My best friend and I have been best friends ... A: The biggest, best thing you can do to show her you're in control is to BE in control. There isn't ... | |
| My best friend's sister | 1/30/2008 |
| Q: Neder. I have kind of a tough situation on my hands. My best friend and I have been best friends ... A: Age is simply a number. It's not the age that's the issue here at all, it's the perception - hers in ... | |
| friend at college | 1/30/2008 |
| Q: I'm Phil (19). I’ve never had a girlfriend but it’s something I really want and I have very limited ... A: If she were single you were going out then you should be going out right now. The fact that she ... | |
| complicated scenario | 1/29/2008 |
| Q: I am completely crushing on this girl I used to go to High school with and I found her on Facebook a ... A: There's nothing wrong with it as long as this guy isn't a buddy of yours. Here's the reality: the ... | |
| How to approach women | 1/28/2008 |
| Q: I am in the rotary club and i often socialize. I meet a lot of girls and I want to be the ladies ... A: It's very likely that you've gotten the reputation of being a ladies man. I know Rotary very well as ... | |
| Wondering what to do | 1/28/2008 |
| Q: I am not sure what to do. Let me explain the situation (please bear with my long post). Last ... A: You're way over-thinking all of this. You have her phone number, you have context up the ass (your ... | |
| How to turn my best friend to my girlfriend? | 1/23/2008 |
| Q: I met a girl four years back in chat, and I changed from being just a chat friend to her best friend ... A: You're going to have to make a choice here. Do you want a girlfriend or just a buddy? You can't have ... | |
| on Luv | 1/19/2008 |
| Q: Sir,i like a gal who is my friend's friend. I had exchnge few wrds wid her bt after tht thr is ... A: She didn't add you as a friend because it was rude of you to assume she should. You're trying tricks ... | |
| on Luv | 1/18/2008 |
| Q: Sir,i like a gal who is my friend's friend. I had exchnge few wrds wid her bt after tht thr is ... A: Ask your friend for her information or to help you meet up with her somewhere. Best regards... Dr. ... | |
| girls | 1/16/2008 |
| Q: i like this popular girl and im not so popular (im in 8th grade so its a big deal) she is the girl i ... A: That's a pretty dumb idea. Who do you think her friend's are loyal to - you or her? Here's what'll ... | |
| girls | 1/15/2008 |
| Q: i like this popular girl and im not so popular (im in 8th grade so its a big deal) she is the girl i ... A: First of all, get over yourself. You don't really even know this girl. All you know is her outward ... | |
| younger guy trying to get an older girl | 1/15/2008 |
| Q: A girl working at a store that I frequent seems to have a thing for me, she's asked another girl ... A: If you're going to let age limit you, there's not much I can say. Dating is already a mental game, ... | |
| Afraid I won't find it | 1/12/2008 |
| Q: Dr. Neder, I am 31 years old and have never really felt anything for any of the women I have dated. ... A: Man, you're not messed up at all - you're just a little misdirected. Yes, you could do very well ... | |
| text maham | 1/9/2008 |
| Q: i met this girl from my sister but i only talk to her through texting or maybe some times call her. ... A: Is she ready for you to ask her out? No, she's probably WAY over that by now! Michael, you're way ... | |
| why i cant pick up girls from school | 1/5/2008 |
| Q: I am a senior inhigh school. I used to be fat and when i started playing sports and working out, i ... A: When you've spent most of your life being the fat kid, you're not going to change that attitude ... | |
| mind games | 1/1/2008 |
| Q: hey dennis, guess what girls can be bitches?.. i have a great question 4 you theres a girl ive been ... A: Here's the reality: almost any man can create attraction in almost any woman if he has enough game. ... | |
| mind games | 1/1/2008 |
| Q: hey dennis, guess what girls can be bitches?.. i have a great question 4 you theres a girl ive been ... A: LOL - Really? Girls can be bitches??? Welcome to lesson #1! Yes, texting you constantly COULD be a ... | |
| Love, or Like? | 12/30/2007 |
| Q: So theres this girl I know from school; I have actually known her for a while now, and I get the ... A: First of all, no - you're not in love with her. At the most, you're in lust with her! Don't give her ... | |
| How to turn friendship into more... | 12/28/2007 |
| Q: Dr. Neder, There's this girl who I grew up with in a small high school where we were all close ... A: Ok, Rick - where do I start with you? You've got so many different problems here I'm not sure where ... | |
| Need some advice | 12/28/2007 |
| Q: Yes, There's this girl in my school that i want to talk to but I dont know how to get her attention. ... A: Why not get one of those big fruit hats and a grass skirt. You'd definitely have her attention then! ... | |
| How to get my ex-girlfriend back | 12/28/2007 |
| Q: Me and my ex have been on again off again for about a year now,and whenever we're dating it only ... A: You really haven't told me enough to know why she's doing this (or even if she's the one that breaks ... | |
| i need your help please please please | 12/26/2007 |
| Q: im mates with this girl that i really really like we were really close mates two years ago and i ... A: It didn't work then, and it's not going to work now. Isn't it time you tried a new tactic? Being ... | |
| Weird Reaction | 12/23/2007 |
| Q: Neder, how are you doing, a week ago I approached and started talking to a girl on the way to work. ... A: First of all, GREAT JOB on doing this approach! You used what I call "context" (the general remarks) ... | |
| I am not sure if she was nice to me! | 12/22/2007 |
| Q: Hope you are doing great! I have question for you. I went out with this girl last night. We have ... A: First of all, you did most things right with the check. Here's the reality: today, many women will ... | |
| When do i kiss and what do i do | 12/20/2007 |
| Q: Hey how you doin? Well theres this girl. me and her are going out. well first off, when we werent ... A: Why haven't you kissed her before now? Are you looking for a relationship with this girl or just a ... | |
| Is girl interested by looking back at me ? | 12/19/2007 |
| Q: Today i went into the study area at lunchtime, and there were a crowd of people chatting. When i ... A: Sure it could possibly, maybe mean she likes you. It could also mean that you remind her of the ... | |
| ok now what | 12/11/2007 |
| Q: i asked her out on the phone and she said i dont know. and she said theres her x i guess who thinks ... A: When you write to me, ALWAYS copy the previous messages. I get so many of them every day that I ... | |
| i think there might be a chance doc what do i do next | 12/9/2007 |
| Q: hey doc, its matt. doc, there has been this girl lisa that ive liked for well over a year now i know ... A: What I think happened was that she was interested in you at one time a long time ago. She's no ... | |
| Negs & Metaframes | 12/7/2007 |
| Q: Can u give me half a dozen or so "negs", or whatever u call them, that I can use to girls at my ... A: Yeah, I can give you a ton of them. I have a bunch of them in my book, "Being a Man in a Woman's ... | |
| why i cant pick up girls from school | 12/6/2007 |
| Q: I am a senior inhigh school. I used to be fat and when i started playing sports and working out, i ... A: Why would you want to be "somewhat successful" when you could be massively successful instead??? The ... | |
| Dont know what to do next | 12/6/2007 |
| Q: Well theres this girl in marching band and I'm in drumline. and we spend some time together, we talk ... A: When should you ask her out? A long time ago buddy! You may very well be losing your power here! ... | |
| What Next? I need your help | 12/6/2007 |
| Q: I recently confessed to a girl hoe much I like her..I haven't got an answer from her yet....and I am ... A: I've received multiple copies of this question. I hope you're not just blasting it to everyone on ... | |
| confusion | 12/1/2007 |
| Q: My name is Justin and I’m a Freshman in college. I met this girl about 2 weeks into school so I’ve ... A: You don't think you've falled into the friend-zone? I do! Let's consider a few things here, shall ... | |
| Getting a girl i cant get out of my head and making her mine?? | 12/1/2007 |
| Q: I met this girl like one month back through a friend well we talk and i think shes interested in me. ... A: You want to learn how to "convert". You're right on that it's your job to make this happen. Many ... | |
| availability vs. attractiveness..... | 12/1/2007 |
| Q: More than once I have read and heard about how if you seem "desperate" it somehow causes you to ... A: No, that is NOT the "way you are". It's the choice you make simply because you haven't learned how ... | |
| How Do I Attract A Girl Who Is Currently A Friend? | 11/29/2007 |
| Q: Neder, I am a sophomore in Highschool and for the past two months I have enjoyed to company of a ... A: Here's the problem - you have the girl's own biology working against you. There's going to be some ... | |
| Thanks for your advice | 11/28/2007 |
| Q: I think i forgot to tell you this. I did ask her out and didnt tell he where we are going and also ... A: Yes, there's a problem here. The good news is that it's not a huge one and can be easily solved with ... | |
| Need some help | 11/26/2007 |
| Q: Well i made a big mistake. i got with this girl two summers ago. i met her from my 2 freinds. I ... A: So, now she's punishing you for hurting her, huh? It's too bad you sent that first letter - and the ... | |
| how to propose a girl | 11/25/2007 |
| Q: i want to propose a girl but the problem is that she is working with me and i'am not able to tell ... A: You shouldn't express your feelings to her anyway. That's a coward's way out. It's all about doing ... | |
| Dance | 11/25/2007 |
| Q: I forgot this part of my previous question. What's a good length of time before a dance to ask a ... A: First of all, if you're not building something during the next 3 months with her, you're missing the ... | |
| dating | 11/24/2007 |
| Q: I'm a Sophomore in High School and this girl and I are great friends and she asked me to the school ... A: Here's the most important secret you're ever going to learn the rest of your life about women: you ... | |
| how to propose a girl | 11/23/2007 |
| Q: i want to propose a girl but the problem is that she is working with me and i'am not able to tell ... A: Let's be clear on two points first: 1) What part of the world do you live in? 2) What is it that ... | |
| filipino women | 11/20/2007 |
| Q: I have been pursing the woman of my dreams for sometime now and apparently she never new of my ... A: "Filipino women are different"??? Why, do they have penises? ;0 Frankly, I think you've blown it ... | |
| My Bitterness is Ruining My Life | 11/19/2007 |
| Q: I'm single, in my late 30's, and have a high paying job. I'm healthy, in good shape, and have ... A: Hypnotherapy can be a very powerful way to change deep-seated habits like this; and let's be clear ... | |
| Approaching girls at the gym | 11/19/2007 |
| Q: Neder For the past few months I was going to the gym at around 8am. There wasn't any chit chatting ... A: Exactly right about the long response! It's a great tool to not only learn a lot about the woman, ... | |
| dating women | 11/18/2007 |
| Q: 1) How can i approach women who are receptionists and i am a delivery boy dropping of a package? ... A: 1) Just the same way you do it anywhere else. Forget "lines" first off. They don't work. After ... | |
| Approaching girls at the gym | 11/18/2007 |
| Q: Neder For the past few months I was going to the gym at around 8am. There wasn't any chit chatting ... A: No, when you're in a competitve dating situation like a gym or a bar, you want to move quickly. ... | |
| How to tell let her know im interested | 11/17/2007 |
| Q: I recently saw an old schoolmate in college from grade school. She is one of the most beautiful ... A: First of all - DON'T DO IT!!! Don't try to let her know you're interested. The reasoning behind ... | |
| Why does this girl keep annoying me ? | 11/17/2007 |
| Q: There is a girl who lately has been making fun of me and i don't know why. Today in class she kept ... A: Sorry, but I don't read minds. There's no one reason why people do stupid things. In fact, there are ... | |
| My friend needs your advice. | 11/17/2007 |
| Q: Neder. My name is Mario and I'm interested in asking your expertise,about a friend of mine. His ... A: I'm afraid I don't do "pass throughs" on these sorts of questions. It's far too difficult for you to ... | |
| Is it wrong to like a girl because you want to protect her? | 11/15/2007 |
| Q: My name is Sebastian and I am sixteen. In the past there was this girl I liked, and I've liked her ... A: This isn't about you "coming on too strong" - I don't care what she's told you! That is just pure ... | |
| how can i improve with women | 11/15/2007 |
| Q: hey doc, love your site and articles there a great help doc i have some problems and i hope you can ... A: First, thanks for the comments on the site and articles! You're probably going to be surprised to ... | |
| Is it wrong to like a girl because you want to protect her? | 11/14/2007 |
| Q: My name is Sebastian and I am sixteen. In the past there was this girl I liked, and I've liked her ... A: Oh! Aren't you the gentleman? You're "letting her" go out with someone else while you're worried ... | |
| met the perfect girl but .... | 11/12/2007 |
| Q: danced had fun, we dated for a week, small dates, driving, hanging out. Realy hit it off. Problem is ... A: First of all, there's no such thing as a "rebound relationship". That's just an excuse some people ... | |
| what do I say ? | 11/4/2007 |
| Q: I recently saw an old lover ( we've been broken up for 6 mths after a 3 year relationship )I saw her ... A: Hey Kyle! Ignore it. Her sounding put-off is likely just strategy. No, you don't need to script ... | |
| Thanks for your advice | 11/4/2007 |
| Q: I think i forgot to tell you this. I did ask her out and didnt tell he where we are going and also ... A: I still think you waited too long. The symptoms of your situation indicate this. It's either that or ... | |
| Do girls like boys who try hard or not ? | 11/4/2007 |
| Q: In school there is a gorgeous girl who is very shy but gets all the attention from guys (mainly boy ... A: It's not so much about trying to get her attention as the fact of being different - not like the ... | |
| confusing girl | 11/3/2007 |
| Q: Hey Dennis read your profile and I think you might be able to help me. Ive had numerous ... A: You're welcome. Slapping is what I do best! Well, as I said before, you need to give her some ... | |
| I am heart broken | 11/3/2007 |
| Q: I have been talking to a girl that works in my building, we kind off had that chemistry going. She ... A: There are 1001 different possibly reasons why she's doing this. You need to ask yourself if you ... | |
| Sounds like you could help....... | 11/1/2007 |
| Q: I came across your profile on this website and thought you might be able to help me, which would be ... A: Holy shit Travis! She's 21 years old and has 3 kids and isn't even married to the father???? What is ... | |
| I am heart broken | 11/1/2007 |
| Q: I have been talking to a girl that works in my building, we kind off had that chemistry going. She ... A: What likely happened was that she got tired of waiting for you to make something happened and she ... | |
| girlfriend... | 10/31/2007 |
| Q: I have to most amazing girl. She is my 1st love. I couldnt ask for anything more . But lately she ... A: First, it's a good idea to try to find out why she's pulling back. It might be that you're getting ... | |
| She's my everything | 10/31/2007 |
| Q: I told my coworker that I LIKE her. she said why do i like me? I can't answer that qestion. I don't ... A: Wait a minute here. Are you saying that she's told you she's going to end things if you don't tell ... | |
| what do I say ? | 10/30/2007 |
| Q: I recently saw an old lover ( we've been broken up for 6 mths after a 3 year relationship )I saw her ... A: It's best to just "run into her" if you can coordinate that, but a reasonable backup is to call her. ... | |
| what do I say ? | 10/30/2007 |
| Q: I recently saw an old lover ( we've been broken up for 6 mths after a 3 year relationship )I saw her ... A: You bet I'll help a brother out! First of all, DO NOT; under any circumstance, apologize for ... | |
| I made a huge mistake ..w/ my gf | 10/29/2007 |
| Q: I have broken up with a girlfriend , or rather she dumped me because she felt rejected by me ... A: Hey Tom! I've already told you NOT to send the portrait. Don't reward her bad behavior by giving ... | |
| I made a huge mistake ..w/ my gf | 10/29/2007 |
| Q: I have broken up with a girlfriend , or rather she dumped me because she felt rejected by me ... A: How many times are you going to ask me this exact same question? If you don't like my original ... | |
| after the break up..... | 10/28/2007 |
| Q: my pc restarted by itself. i had written everything out..and it got deleted. so i am just going to ... A: In almost every case where a women is interested in you but mistreats you, starts to nag you or ... | |
| how do I get her back ? | 10/27/2007 |
| Q: DR. I recently lost a girlfriend because of a break I suggested , during that time she met someone ... A: Hey Steve! Yes, I'm absolutely saying that. Consider this: women know they're not going to get you ... | |
| how do I get her back ? | 10/27/2007 |
| Q: DR. I recently lost a girlfriend because of a break I suggested , during that time she met someone ... A: First of all, don't punish your son for the problems between you and your ex. Go and have a great ... | |
| a special case of liking some one | 10/22/2007 |
| Q: I like this girl very much but i dont think she likes me some times she seems to like me likethose ... A: Here's the reality: you're going to HAVE TO force yourself to go out with other girls if you ever ... | |
| love | 10/20/2007 |
| Q: My name is mike. well i just turned 19 years old. well anyways there is this girl i used to like but ... A: Hey! Is it "normal"? I guess it's normal for you! You've got her attention and that's a good thing, ... | |
| Why is this girl being mean / cheeky to me ? | 10/19/2007 |
| Q: In my lesson, there is this girl who lately ALWAYS teases me, get rly cheeky with me and can be so ... A: You've blasted this message to me more than once and thus, I'm assuming that you're sending it to ... | |
| A girl i like may like me... | 10/13/2007 |
| Q: Hey, I have a question about this girl I've been eyeing for the past few months. I've noticed that ... A: Well, it makes me feel all warm and tingly that you actually picked me to answer your question just ... | |
| Dealing with my ex-gf | 10/11/2007 |
| Q: Here is a short description to my story with my ex. i have been with her for 2 years. everything was ... A: Frankly, you'll get a lot more out of NOT sending her that birthday wish than by sending it. If you ... | |
| how do i let this girl know that i have feelings for her? | 10/10/2007 |
| Q: My name is Skylar and im 15. There is a girl that I really like, but she doesn't know and I'm afraid ... A: First, relax! Just because it's the first time you've been interested in a girl doesn't make it a ... | |
| Hot women | 10/8/2007 |
| Q: I was really hoping to find a female in this category to get their input, but it seems to me that ... A: Hey James! Of course! Just quote me accurately - and often! Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder ... | |
| Little help? | 10/8/2007 |
| Q: I'm trying to get with this one chick. She moved 3 hours away, but i beleive she expressed interest ... A: So what's going on here? Do you live in a boy's school and she's the last woman in the world? Tom, ... | |
| Dealing with my ex-gf | 10/8/2007 |
| Q: Here is a short description to my story with my ex. i have been with her for 2 years. everything was ... A: Man! You're all over the place here! It's one thing and then the other. It's this and it's that. You ... | |
| In college, been friends with girl since middle school, a little confused | 10/8/2007 |
| Q: Hey doc, I really like the advice you give and the direct manner you deliver it so I hope you'll ... A: What are you a mathmatician? "X", "Y", "Z"??? ;) Let's begin with this: whenever a girl tells you ... | |
| Hot women | 10/7/2007 |
| Q: I was really hoping to find a female in this category to get their input, but it seems to me that ... A: I like to think about this not as indifference; but as "managed intervention". Let me explain: This ... | |
| Hot women | 10/7/2007 |
| Q: I was really hoping to find a female in this category to get their input, but it seems to me that ... A: I know exactly what you're saying here. Yes, it SEEMS like that to us guys because we're looking at ... | |
| how to get girls to like me | 10/6/2007 |
| Q: im a sohpomore in high school. i want to get girls to like me. theres not really a specific 1 but ... A: This is both a good and a bad question. Let's start with the bad first, then the good and then the ... | |
| friendship | 10/4/2007 |
| Q: I am in love with a women who is a friend( for 2 years ), but she has a bf she is going to ... A: So, what are you going to do then - sit around while she gets married and hope that she comes to ... | |
| Damn Video Store Cuties!!! | 10/4/2007 |
| Q: Okay, I've run into a cute girl, a nice one too, and wanted so bad to ask her out though without ... A: You sent this question to me multiple times so I assume you've sent it to every other expert here. ... | |
| i need to get this girl! | 10/4/2007 |
| Q: Alright, so I've been best friends with this one girl for like a year now. But ever since I first ... A: You're fucked. Zach, I'm in the "reality business" so let's deal with the realities here, ok? ... | |
| Lost :S | 10/2/2007 |
| Q: I've 26 and never dated anyone, I'm a nice guy that never gets girls numbers, instead they give me ... A: Ok, so you've discovered a number of ways that DON'T work to meet and date women. It's probably time ... | |
| HELP!!! | 10/1/2007 |
| Q: ok my girlfriend thinks i like her old friend...but i dont at all...she wants me to stop talking to ... A: I don't think you and I agree on exactly what the problem here is. You think it's your fault that ... | |
| how do I get her back ? | 9/30/2007 |
| Q: DR. I recently lost a girlfriend because of a break I suggested , during that time she met someone ... A: I want this to be a very painful, life-changing lesson for you. Relationships are fragile things and ... | |
| Can I get her Back? | 9/27/2007 |
| Q: Okay. I've been dating this girl for almost two years. We've been very close for a long time and I ... A: My [rhetorical] question for you is this: what exactly is it that you want back? More lying? More ... | |
| Is the girl flirting with me ? | 9/26/2007 |
| Q: "Today in school, i needed to collect my bag so as i was walking i saw 5 girls coming down the ... A: Yes, she possibly likes you. It's YOUR job to approach her, not the other way around. Best ... | |
| Can't read her | 9/25/2007 |
| Q: Dennis W. Neder Here is my problem. I recently moved to the states from Canada, for a good job i ... A: First off, I don't know what she's thinking any more than you do - in fact, likely less. What I do ... | |
| i need to win her back | 9/23/2007 |
| Q: a girl i was seeing for about 3 weeks, but we have liked each other for longer has just finished me ... A: Hold on a second. Christmas and Easter??? Those are many months away and have nothing to do with the ... | |
| Approaching the girl | 9/22/2007 |
| Q: Neder, I'm trying to approach and meet a girl I see frequently on the way to work in the morning in ... A: The "best" approach is one that has context. Context is simply what you and she have in common at ... | |
| love | 9/21/2007 |
| Q: i am an software engg in an mnc in india.in our company cafeteria i noticed one sweet looking and ... A: You shouldn't have tortured this poor girl!! Prasash, you've totally blown this situation. What am ... | |
| how to get a girl to like me | 9/21/2007 |
| Q: i need to know how to get a girl to like plz i need help i really like her and she might like me i ... A: You need to change the way you're thinking here. What you want is to somehow impress her so much ... | |
| love | 9/20/2007 |
| Q: My name is mike. well i just turned 19 years old. well anyways there is this girl i used to like but ... A: Let's look at the reality here: you can't prevent her from talking to other guys. She's going to ... | |
| help | 9/19/2007 |
| Q: well I have this situation im 17 and i kind of still like this girl. We weren't really together but ... A: First, you need to learn how to read these sorts of signals from women. If she really wanted to just ... | |
| An "ex" issue | 9/18/2007 |
| Q: I have asked you for an advice around 3 weeks ago and it helped me a lot. I thank you for that and i ... A: Luka - what the hell??? I have 6 copies of this same question repeated over and over in my mailbox! ... | |
| I want my girlfreind back | 9/15/2007 |
| Q: it was the bigginng of 10 grade and this girl i liked last year but she whet out with this other guy ... A: Why would you be ok with being blown off? I sure wouldn't be! The point of going out together isn't ... | |
| I need help | 9/13/2007 |
| Q: I have loved this one girl for 4 years. One day in march we hooked up and ive been head over heels ... A: Here's the reason why she's pulled back on you: you've told her in every possible way that you have ... | |
| asking a girl out | 9/11/2007 |
| Q: there is this girl at my school who i want to ask out really badly but when ever i try to talk to ... A: The reason you're forgetting what you want to say is that you're trying to use some elaborate ... | |
| Approaching Women | 9/11/2007 |
| Q: I'm a sophomore in college. I believe I'm a fairly confident guy -- I think I'm attractive, I know ... A: They eye contact thing can be a very good sign, but not by itself. Guys make this mistake all the ... | |
| Telling a women is better? | 9/11/2007 |
| Q: Hey Doc i got a couple questions to ask... i've seen a lot of your answers and i gotta say i'm a ... A: The reason you tell a woman to give you her number rather than ask is done for a couple of reasons: ... | |
| I screwed up. Do I still have a chance? | 9/10/2007 |
| Q: I've been seeing a girl for three months. We had a connection that neither one felt before. We sepnt ... A: Unfortunately, the damage began when you first met her. You and she went off on this world-wind ... | |
| How do I get this girl | 9/7/2007 |
| Q: I'm hoping you can help me. I've been dating a greek girl for the last 8 months. I asked her to ... A: Frankly, I'd have been a little more harsh with her if this were me. She wrote you that text in an ... | |
| Girl Has Boyfriend/Girl New to College---Attractive | 9/7/2007 |
| Q: Hey Dr. Neder, My question to you is how will I be able to create an attraction between me and this ... A: If she's told you no twice, that's a very bad thing! It means that you approached her too early and ... | |
| How do I get this girl | 9/6/2007 |
| Q: I'm hoping you can help me. I've been dating a greek girl for the last 8 months. I asked her to ... A: Holy shit Paul! If there was a mistake to make here, you made it. In fact, you even invented some ... | |
| How do i get it started? | 9/5/2007 |
| Q: Hey, theres a girl that I've liked since I started schools this year, but I just dont know how to ... A: You're right - that's a terrible idea. Don't do that, you'll just get a "no". Here's why: Have you ... | |
| cant get over her | 9/5/2007 |
| Q: Well im a 24 year old guy who is a sucker for love..i was with my x for 2 years off and on due to ... A: If anything the time is going to work to your favor. You're going to need that time to totally ... | |
| A problem! | 9/5/2007 |
| Q: How can I make her to want a serious relation?...the problem is she never sad she love me,just she ... A: You've become her "friend", not her boyfriend. Instead of letting her earn you and having value in ... | |
| cant get over her | 9/5/2007 |
| Q: Well im a 24 year old guy who is a sucker for love..i was with my x for 2 years off and on due to ... A: What a minute...due to the way SHE felt about you? What about the way YOU felt? Just who is in ... | |
| I like this girl, but she has a bf | 9/4/2007 |
| Q: I'm 24 and I've never had gf, and I'm seriously starting to panic about it, sometimes I go mad ... A: I don't know if she's lying or not, but as I said before, boyfriends are never a problem. More ... | |
| I like this girl, but she has a bf | 9/4/2007 |
| Q: I'm 24 and I've never had gf, and I'm seriously starting to panic about it, sometimes I go mad ... A: Nor should you tell her that you're interested in her! That's one sure way to kill off any ... | |
| the girl i like | 9/4/2007 |
| Q: my question is that the girl is interested in me ad wants to be with me but she is scared because ... A: You can tell her to grow the hell up and stop trying to make you responsible for problems she had in ... | |
| this girl | 9/3/2007 |
| Q: I am a 16 year old junior in high school and i can't stop thinking about this girl that i went to ... A: What difference does it make that you haven't talked in a long time? That's exactly the reason you ... | |
| love in a disaster | 9/2/2007 |
| Q: theres a really nice girl that really love but the thing is, is that my best mate also fancies her ... A: You should give me more information! First of all, either you or your buddy need to back down. Only ... | |
| how to get the girl i love | 9/2/2007 |
| Q: I am only 15 years old and i think I'm in love with this girl I've only said about two words to her ... A: Man! You sure have a lot of problems with some girl you've never even met! Why are you creating all ... | |
| last question | 8/31/2007 |
| Q: one last question... what is more effective in making a girl like me laughter or romance? specify ... A: Specify both??? Ok: laughter and romance. I have no clue what you're asking me here, but what ... | |
| Approaching a girl in Class | 8/31/2007 |
| Q: I had a question about how to approach a particular girl in one of my classes. To start off, I am a ... A: First of all, I'm glad you're trying to make a move right away. Many guys wait and wait looking for ... | |
| becoming friends first ... | 8/30/2007 |
| Q: My name is Matt, I'm a freshman in college, and I am 18 years old. I have been talking to another ... A: Hey Matt! Man - that was a huge miss. You need to push yourself to NEVER miss an opportunity like ... | |
| becoming friends first ... | 8/30/2007 |
| Q: My name is Matt, I'm a freshman in college, and I am 18 years old. I have been talking to another ... A: If that's a "thank you", you're very welcome. Actually, it doesn't come off as pushy to women at ... | |
| Is she playing games with me? | 8/29/2007 |
| Q: I recently asked a girl out that I see at work. I work at a grocery store and she comes in through ... A: She's avoiding being alone with you. Frankly, I think you should just kick her to the curb and move ... | |
| Confused signals from my girl | 8/29/2007 |
| Q: Myself and my dream girl are working in the same organization but in different departments. I am the ... A: Oh John - where do I start with you???? First of all, you must not care very much about your job if ... | |
| Getting her back... | 8/28/2007 |
| Q: I split with my girlfriend of four years officially last weekend. I say officially, because we'd ... A: Forget the last week - start thinking in terms of months. Don't return her phone calls, texts and ... | |
| Getting her back... | 8/28/2007 |
| Q: I split with my girlfriend of four years officially last weekend. I say officially, because we'd ... A: Wait just one cotton-picking minute here. You're blaming yourself and your WOW addiction, when she's ... | |
| what to do or say if she confronts me | 8/23/2007 |
| Q: hey dennis, its rob you already know about my situation with lisa that shes using excuses not to be ... A: No, I'm afraid I don't remember your situation. Sorry, but you should always copy the original ... | |
| how do i know if this girl is into me of if she wants something serious? | 8/22/2007 |
| Q: Here is the deal: I met this girl at work so one night out of the nowhere she calls me and asks me ... A: Here's what happened: things were moving along pretty well until you started to pull back. She even ... | |
| Girl of my dreams | 8/20/2007 |
| Q: My question is about the girl that could possibly be the one for me. So she sends me a message a few ... A: Let's not confuse the issue here. Her calling you a few times and talking to her over the weekend ... | |
| how do i get her then?? | 8/20/2007 |
| Q: hey rob, you know your right about the social proof thing but what exactly is social proof?? and ... A: Yo! Rob! "Social Proof" as used here means that she has no basis for seeing you as anything other ... | |
| help | 8/20/2007 |
| Q: ive been trying to get a girlfriend for over a year this girl i really really like and care bout ... A: I'm afraid that you cut your own throat here by becoming her friend first. Is it "game over"? ... | |
| 1 night stands | 8/19/2007 |
| Q: my name is rob and im 17 i like a girl named lisa but she says shes not ready for a serious ... A: You're very welcome - I'm glad it helped. Actually, yes, I think it's an excuse. You're happy right ... | |
| 1 night stands | 8/19/2007 |
| Q: my name is rob and im 17 i like a girl named lisa but she says shes not ready for a serious ... A: First of all, I have no idea why you're "waiting around" for her, "respecting her" and "being her ... | |
| Should I move forward to propose a good friend who is also seeing another guy | 8/17/2007 |
| Q: I am Arooj a final year undergraduate student from India studying in Canada. I am interested in one ... A: I fully understand your point. It SEEMS like getting close to her (as a form of friendship) would be ... | |
| Should I move forward to propose a good friend who is also seeing another guy | 8/17/2007 |
| Q: I am Arooj a final year undergraduate student from India studying in Canada. I am interested in one ... A: Other guys - even boyfriends - aren't a barrier to you becoming a boyfriend; however your skill set ... | |
| Approach at the beach | 8/13/2007 |
| Q: Neder I sent this question to Mr. Beck a few days ago, but I am yet to get an answer so I decided ... A: I hope you don't EVER do that to a friend again! Even though you got his pseudo-approval after the ... | |
| she's always with her friends | 8/11/2007 |
| Q: A friend of mine introduced me a girl a few months ago that I was curious to meet because she ... A: Don't approach her - approach the group. In other words, go talk to the entire group as a whole and ... | |
| Approach at the beach | 8/10/2007 |
| Q: Neder I sent this question to Mr. Beck a few days ago, but I am yet to get an answer so I decided ... A: I can't tell you why you don't, but I can tell you that you'd better make a move if you want a ... | |
| Dating younger | 8/4/2007 |
| Q: I am a 26 year old man looking to know what age group I should look into for dating? I have notice ... A: Hey James! I'm glad this isn't a private exchange as I think many people will benefit from reading ... | |
| Dating younger | 8/4/2007 |
| Q: I am a 26 year old man looking to know what age group I should look into for dating? I have notice ... A: Are you trying to do your thesis on this subject? If so, you stop asking rank amatures and go to ... | |
| Dating younger | 8/3/2007 |
| Q: I am a 26 year old man looking to know what age group I should look into for dating? I have notice ... A: I agree with you - women do NOT mature quicker than men. Girls (pre-puberty) do, but not adults, and ... | |
| my ex i cant get over | 8/2/2007 |
| Q: my ex-girlfriend whom i was with for about two years, she was my high school sweetheart and I love ... A: Let me let you in on an "immutable" (unchangeable) law of the universe. This law is just as real and ... | |
| being a challenge | 7/11/2007 |
| Q: neder, one thing ive been hearing alot lately and it seems to make sense is being a challenge with ... A: Basically that's true. The bust and challenge techniques are pretty involved and require a ton of ... | |
| being a challenge | 7/10/2007 |
| Q: neder, one thing ive been hearing alot lately and it seems to make sense is being a challenge with ... A: I know, I know. This whole dating this is crazy! That challenge thing is a little misdirected. Yes, ... | |
| keys to eventually getting her | 7/8/2007 |
| Q: neder, i wanted to ask you this question because you always seem to give the best advice and what ... A: Ohhh! Flattery!!! Well then, how can I *not* answer your question??? ;) First of all, don't let ... | |
| i like my former teacher | 7/8/2007 |
| Q: actually i dont know what to do, i have this former professor of english, we are the same age, 25, ... A: It appears that you've cross-posted this to other experts. That's considered rude in this circle ... | |
| Tricks & Openers | 7/8/2007 |
| Q: I pick up women very ofeten and I have good results, but I still want to improve myself and get more ... A: Great question - thanks for asking! First of all, I *never* use pick-up lines and neither should ... | |
| What do i do? | 7/5/2007 |
| Q: Firstly thanks for helping me out on this one. Ok I'm usually good at making attraction with women ... A: He's not going to win her over before she gets back. That sort of "in your face" tactic is something ... | |
| More romance, less clown | 6/28/2007 |
| Q: Hey, Dr. Neder. I have lots of trouble getting into relationships; the problem isn't that I am ... A: I believe you're right - this *is* due to your excessive nervousness. You're wrong on one important ... | |
| how to get ex girl back | 6/28/2007 |
| Q: I've dated a few girls throughout high school. But there is this one girl that I loved so much. I ... A: Let's be clear on exactly what this is: it's not that you are in love with this girl from high ... | |
| An "ex" issue | 6/22/2007 |
| Q: I have asked you for an advice around 3 weeks ago and it helped me a lot. I thank you for that and i ... A: If she contacts you before this, just be cordial and somewhat nice on the phone (or whereever) but ... | |
| An "ex" issue | 6/19/2007 |
| Q: I have asked you for an advice around 3 weeks ago and it helped me a lot. I thank you for that and i ... A: You're very welcome. I'm glad I could help. Yes, time is definitely on your side here. I suggest ... | |
| I told her I loved her | 6/12/2007 |
| Q: When I was a sophomore in high school, me and this girl had 2 classes together. She is really smart, ... A: You're very welcome. The right time to tell you that you love her is when she says it to you first. ... | |
| I told her I loved her | 6/12/2007 |
| Q: When I was a sophomore in high school, me and this girl had 2 classes together. She is really smart, ... A: Let's start with a dose of reality here first. This is a very "young" relationship, and the fact is, ... | |
| i cant believe ive met this girl | 6/10/2007 |
| Q: i have met this increidbly amazing girl the other week and straight away we was attracted to each ... A: No, I'd avoid calling her every day. That's far too often - even if you really, really want to! You ... | |
| be friends or leave | 6/9/2007 |
| Q: I have a question myself. A year ago I met a beautiful girl in a gym. I showed her how to do one of ... A: Go to my website (http://beingaman.com) and click on BAM TV. From there, take a look at the short ... | |
| girl calling | 6/9/2007 |
| Q: I have a weird relationship with a girl with a boyfriend. she calls me whenever he isn't around, ... A: Are you and she at least playing kissy-face? Is there a physical relationship? If not, you're only ... | |
| Long time no see | 6/6/2007 |
| Q: This is a story about a relationship that may never happen. There is this girl in my grade that is ... A: Those questions weren't lame. This is a life-long learning process and everyone has to start at the ... | |
| Asking a girl out | 6/5/2007 |
| Q: There is this girl I really like, but A) Im not sure if she likes me, shes certainly friendly and ... A: Hey Dennis! It doesn't matter if she's seeing someone else or not. Let me ask you: what if you ... | |
| Asking a girl out | 6/5/2007 |
| Q: There is this girl I really like, but A) Im not sure if she likes me, shes certainly friendly and ... A: Here's what's also not going to work: trying to get a script or "progressive" where you continue to ... | |
| Asking a girl out | 6/4/2007 |
| Q: There is this girl I really like, but A) Im not sure if she likes me, shes certainly friendly and ... A: A) It doesn't matter if she likes you too. You can create interest in women. B) You're also ... | |
| im confused about this woman | 5/30/2007 |
| Q: I met and have been somewhat seeing this woman for a few months now. The reason I say somewhat ... A: Here's something you absolutely need to understand about women - almost every one of them are ... | |
| give me answer soon and carefully | 5/27/2007 |
| Q: "hi . thanks for ur time . i hope u are psycho or at least you have enough information to help me ... A: Yo! Afshin! Ah, no, I'm a man. Have you even looked at my expert bio??? If that guy in the picture ... | |
| I want to get my ex back | 5/27/2007 |
| Q: Im sure you sir can give me an advice few if any people can. I have been with this girl for 8 and a ... A: Here's what you shouldn't do - just about everything you've done so far! Worse yet, you haven't done ... | |
| Work romance | 5/26/2007 |
| Q: Dr. Neder, I AM NOT CROSS POSTING but the advice I got from another expert here just seems like ... A: I agree with a few things Aaron has said, but disagree with quite a bit. I'm writing about an issue ... | |
| give me answer soon and carefully | 5/25/2007 |
| Q: "hi . thanks for ur time . i hope u are psycho or at least you have enough information to help me ... A: If you start dating the friend, you'll never have a shot at the primary target - trust me. What do ... | |
| give me answer soon and carefully | 5/25/2007 |
| Q: "hi . thanks for ur time . i hope u are psycho or at least you have enough information to help me ... A: The fact that you're really interested in this girl is messing with your head. You want to make sure ... | |
| Coming back just as a friend? | 5/24/2007 |
| Q: Dr. Neder, About 5 months ago i started telling a girl i felt alot for her, and all the sudden just ... A: Hey Cameron! Herein lies a great deal of the problem. You've built her up in your mind so far that ... | |
| Coming back just as a friend? | 5/23/2007 |
| Q: Dr. Neder, About 5 months ago i started telling a girl i felt alot for her, and all the sudden just ... A: When you give someone else all your power, it's up to them how you feel. That's also not good - you ... | |
| follow up | 5/23/2007 |
| Q: Hmmm...guess we won't know unless he give me some more clues as to what kind of person he is. Maybe ... A: Yo! Ana! ..or how 'bout, "Forget the budget and just kiss me you big dope!" Best regards... Dr. ... | |
| follow up | 5/23/2007 |
| Q: Hmmm...guess we won't know unless he give me some more clues as to what kind of person he is. Maybe ... A: Hey Ana! I'll guarrantee this: if you say that, you'll DEFINITELY get an answer! Best regards.. ... | |
| Coming back just as a friend? | 5/23/2007 |
| Q: Dr. Neder, About 5 months ago i started telling a girl i felt alot for her, and all the sudden just ... A: No, if you stick it out, you'll NEVER have another shot at her. Period. Game over. This is why she ... | |
| How do I get her back? | 5/23/2007 |
| Q: Recently my girlfriend broke it off with me. Her reasons being 1-She wants time for herself, to do ... A: Let's be clear on something: did you break up (that is, you're no longer boyfriend/girlfriend) or ... | |
| follow up | 5/22/2007 |
| Q: Hmmm...guess we won't know unless he give me some more clues as to what kind of person he is. Maybe ... A: Hey Ana! Well, I don't know how pretty you are - maybe it's just a down-payment!!! Best regards.. ... | |
| very important | 5/22/2007 |
| Q: Its a long story. Heres the short version. This girl from England,18, came here in Feb and I like ... A: I'm afraid I don't get the sense that she's quite as interested in you as you are of her, but ... | |
| help me dude i realy am desperate | 5/22/2007 |
| Q: i met this girl online a few weeks back.i chatted with her for a week then i had developed this ... A: I'll email a response to you. Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder President ... | |
| Desperately need help! | 5/21/2007 |
| Q: Neder, if you could help me out I'd greatly appreciate it. Ok so here's the situation: I know a ... A: Now wait a minute AJ - let's slow things down here! No, this girl isn't the "girl of your dreams". ... | |
| How do I get her back? | 5/20/2007 |
| Q: Recently my girlfriend broke it off with me. Her reasons being 1-She wants time for herself, to do ... A: Frankly, I don't put a lot of weight on the excuses she's given you. I think there's much more to ... | |
| One year age gap (the bad kind) | 5/20/2007 |
| Q: I also asked Aaron, but if you guys don't mind, I'd like to see what both of you have to say. I'm ... A: Tyler, it's considered rude to "cross-post" these questions. I serously doubt that Aaron and I would ... | |
| is love selfish | 5/19/2007 |
| Q: I proposed a girl but she rejected me. Now she is in another school but still I love her. She is so ... A: Hey! I don't know what you mean by "selfish", but here's something you absolutely, positively know: ... | |
| how to ask her phone number or her email, so we could hang out | 5/19/2007 |
| Q: ok Dr. Dennis. I'm julio I'm 17 years old. I like to go to the mall every weekend and I see this ... A: As I said, there's a ton that goes into a good (effective) approach. The numbers, situation, ... | |
| Girl at School | 5/18/2007 |
| Q: Neder, There is a girl at my school who has always loved me until this year. We have been really ... A: First of all, go read my FAQ's on my website: http://beingaman.com, under "self help". You need to ... | |
| her friend is ma enemy so he try 2 push back ma love.., | 5/18/2007 |
| Q: i am loving a girl she is not loving me her friend is my friend but not really [i and he has a cold ... A: Friends can be powerful allies or enemies. It appears that he has greater influence over the girl ... | |
| just a dought 4 ma friend | 5/18/2007 |
| Q: I proposed a girl but she rejected me. Now she is in another school but still I love her. She is so ... A: Hey Dalbin! Then don't force to her say no! Instead, tease her along. Work on building rapport and ... | |
| iam not beautful but she is like angel | 5/17/2007 |
| Q: I proposed a girl but she rejected me. Now she is in another school but still I love her. She is so ... A: The (many) letters I get from India always have the same 3-4 issues, and all of them are based in a ... | |
| iam not beautful but she is like angel | 5/17/2007 |
| Q: I proposed a girl but she rejected me. Now she is in another school but still I love her. She is so ... A: No - your looks are not the reason. It's more likely that she just isn't attracted to you for other ... | |
| Not Giving up | 5/17/2007 |
| Q: I've been dating my girlfriend for just about a year but recently we have broken up. But we decided ... A: First of all, you DON'T make her realize this by being around her and giving her everything she had ... | |
| What if your fat | 5/16/2007 |
| Q: I really like this girl at my school but am sort of on the fat side and I asked her out a year ago ... A: You're very welcome. The only reason this doesn't "help much" is that it requires that you change ... | |
| how to ask her phone number or her email, so we could hang out | 5/16/2007 |
| Q: ok Dr. Dennis. I'm julio I'm 17 years old. I like to go to the mall every weekend and I see this ... A: I teach guys a little thing I call "context". This is your reason to approach her. In context, you ... | |
| girl | 5/15/2007 |
| Q: Im a junior at school and Im good friends with a a girl I like. Since i got to know her im starting ... A: First of all, be aware that being her "friend" may kill off any chance of romance with her. ... | |
| How can I get the girl I like? | 5/14/2007 |
| Q: Neder, I am a 16 year old boy from Norway in my last year at junior high, and I have a real big ... A: No, looks are not important for a girl. Looks are important for YOU (as a guy) and guys constantly ... | |
| What if your fat | 5/14/2007 |
| Q: I really like this girl at my school but am sort of on the fat side and I asked her out a year ago ... A: Here's the reality: as long as you're not grossly overweight, being heavy has almost nothing to do ... | |
| my relationship and our | 5/13/2007 |
| Q: Dr. Neder, Recently last week my girlfriend of 1 year told me that we should take a "break" because ... A: Great news - and great job. I'm glad to hear that you're moving on and even have some new prospects ... | |
| What is going on? | 5/12/2007 |
| Q: I appreciate any help you can give me. There is a girl at my work who I like, and she knows that I ... A: Hey Joe! Frankly, that's pretty important information that you didn't give me originaly. This ... | |
| my relationship and our "break" | 5/11/2007 |
| Q: Dr. Neder, Recently last week my girlfriend of 1 year told me that we should take a "break" because ... A: If you're writing hoping that I'll make you feel better, I'm afraid you'd better stop reading this ... | |
| need help | 5/11/2007 |
| Q: i am nithin..i think u remember me well..now iam going out with one girl...i told her that i want to ... A: No, just like before, you don't have a chance with her. You and she are buddies and that's all ... | |
| Going Through Hell | 5/11/2007 |
| Q: My fiancé just left me about a week ago she says she needs to find her self and figure out what she ... A: The very first thing you should do is to stop taking so much responsiblity for her bad behavior! ... | |
| What is going on? | 5/10/2007 |
| Q: I appreciate any help you can give me. There is a girl at my work who I like, and she knows that I ... A: Yes, it appeared that she was interested but you and she just became buddies and she fell off the ... | |
| Sex with the girl I love | 5/9/2007 |
| Q: I've been dating this girl for about 6 months now and she is a virgin who has had a previous long ... A: Honestly? This woman's views on sex are pretty screwed up! What exactly is so precious about her ... | |
| Too much like a brother. | 5/8/2007 |
| Q: I've known this girl for a long time, because I've been good friends with her brother for seven or ... A: Here's the best thing you can do to try to win her back: start dating other girls right away. Part ... | |
| I got lost in the signals | 5/6/2007 |
| Q: Alright well i met this girl about 2 weeks n a half ago roughly, we started hangin out on like the ... A: Yes, she likes you. What does this poor girl have to do to get you to move things forward here?? ... | |
| I rly like this girl but i think she likes someboyd else. | 4/30/2007 |
| Q: ok, dis al started wen a tiny rumour went around linkin me with dis girl called becky.so in college ... A: U spel reel gud! U shud b a riter! Wat r u doen waztin ur tim in coluge? N fac ur so smart y r u ... | |
| anal sex | 4/29/2007 |
| Q: I wanna fuck my girl (4 months) in the pooper but don't know how to ask. i have stuck a finger up ... A: Women aren't stereos. You can't just twist a few knobs and stick your finges in a few holes and have ... | |
| Timeframe | 4/28/2007 |
| Q: When a man and a woman start seeing each other regularly and not dating other people, and they have ... A: Hey Ana! As I've said before, very few men will fall in love with you - that is "really REALLY" ... | |
| Timeframe | 4/27/2007 |
| Q: When a man and a woman start seeing each other regularly and not dating other people, and they have ... A: Yo! Ana! As I've said thousands of times, virginity is highly overrated. Best regards... Dr. ... | |
| Timeframe | 4/26/2007 |
| Q: When a man and a woman start seeing each other regularly and not dating other people, and they have ... A: Hey Ana! Yes, most guys would want to have sex and he's no different. Unfortunately, there's no way ... | |
| Timeframe | 4/26/2007 |
| Q: When a man and a woman start seeing each other regularly and not dating other people, and they have ... A: There is a timeframe - but not a specific one. Every man is different and I recommend that men set ... | |
| followup | 4/25/2007 |
| Q: I'm baaaaaaack! Anyway I was going to ask u this. Ok my ex boyfriend broke up with me a few weeks ... A: Whoops! Another, "Can you please read his mind for me?" question. Answer: no, I can't. It was a ... | |
| Timeframe | 4/25/2007 |
| Q: When a man and a woman start seeing each other regularly and not dating other people, and they have ... A: You're right - it's different for every couple, but in VERY general terms, most couples start having ... | |
| hmm | 4/24/2007 |
| Q: I was dating this guy for a while and he was really loving and affectionate. We recently started ... A: Hey Analise! It could be any of 1,001 things. I'm afraid I don't speculate on these things as there ... | |
| hmm | 4/23/2007 |
| Q: I was dating this guy for a while and he was really loving and affectionate. We recently started ... A: This isn't a "break" - it's a break-up. He's just too much the coward to say this. Best regards... ... | |
| hmm | 4/23/2007 |
| Q: I was dating this guy for a while and he was really loving and affectionate. We recently started ... A: I don't know why he broke up with you. If he really has no testicles at all (removed or whatever), ... | |
| hearborken | 4/18/2007 |
| Q: ok this all started at the beginning of last feburary. my friend/guitar player introduced me to his ... A: I'm sorry to hear that you're "hearborken"! If she won't talk to you about the issues, what do you ... | |
| Getting back together | 4/17/2007 |
| Q: I am 18 and in high school. I had a girlfriend of the same age then she broke up with me. This ... A: Hey Steve! In other words, if you try to call whatever it is that you have now a "relationship"; ... | |
| Getting back together | 4/17/2007 |
| Q: I am 18 and in high school. I had a girlfriend of the same age then she broke up with me. This ... A: Hey I have an idea, why don't you just write her a check and cut out all the middle men instead??? ... | |
| ?? | 4/17/2007 |
| Q: i had a question and was wondering if u could anwser it for me..Would u say if a female was really ... A: FirstYes, I can answer it for you. SecondMaybe, it depends on many things. Best regards... Dr. ... | |
| Follow Up | 4/16/2007 |
| Q: Then how come back in the 1940s and 1950s people would date for five years, be entirely committed to ... A: The real question is this: where are you getting your information from? People had sex in the 40's ... | |
| trouble with the one | 4/14/2007 |
| Q: First off im 16 and dont go to a regular high school. I go to Charter school so i see about 20 kids ... A: You're likely making a classic mistake here and that's why it's so difficult for you to ask her out. ... | |
| cheating girl | 4/14/2007 |
| Q: hey i found this new girl shes in college right now she said she is goin to move over here when she ... A: "Your girl"? Has this girl moved local to you and have you established a relationship with her or ... | |
| How do I ask her out | 4/13/2007 |
| Q: There is this girl that i am friends with and i really like her and i don't know what I should say ... A: You need to start by reading my FAQ's on my website at: http://beingaman.com. Then, click on "Self ... | |
| A number of problems with girls | 4/12/2007 |
| Q: There is this girl that I like. I only see her in the morning. I tried to ask her to the cotillion ... A: Boy! Are you going to be sorry! Seth, I get this question all the time and years ago, I used to ... | |
| What the bloody fucking hell?!? | 4/12/2007 |
| Q: I have sent this question to a few other experts but they seemed to be maxed out unfortuantely. I ... A: How do you know he's not gay? Just because he's not actively dating other men right now doesn't mean ... | |
| A number of problems with girls | 4/12/2007 |
| Q: There is this girl that I like. I only see her in the morning. I tried to ask her to the cotillion ... A: This is a problem you absolutely need to get solved. Every guy has it by the way - don't think for a ... | |
| getting back together after a breakup | 4/11/2007 |
| Q: If someone has broken up with you in the past for whatever circumstance, and that someone treated ... A: I guess your answer is simply this: what do you want, a business deal or a relationship? In this ... | |
| Complex woman | 4/8/2007 |
| Q: Ok ill start from the beginning.. I never really knew this girl too well she was my sisters friend ... A: Frankly, I think you're giving away everything she wants without getting anything you want! If you ... | |
| How to win my ex girlfriends heart! | 4/5/2007 |
| Q: I have dated this girl 15 yrs ago. We really have a great chemestry together that is hard to find. ... A: There's a little rule I teach my students. When a woman you're with starts pulling back emotionally, ... | |
| how do i get over the initial meeting anxiety? | 4/4/2007 |
| Q: so how do i get over the stress and anxiety of walking up to a random attractive girl in any ... A: No, I'm afraid you're wrong. Most people understand the real value of information and education. ... | |
| how do i get over the initial meeting anxiety? | 4/3/2007 |
| Q: so how do i get over the stress and anxiety of walking up to a random attractive girl in any ... A: As I said before, that is an extremely large question with many things you have to understand. I ... | |
| would i get rejected ? | 4/3/2007 |
| Q: 1 day in a science class, a girl kept saying how smart i look & asked howcome im looking so smart. ... A: I think you may be trying to read clues into everything you see. It doesn't necessarily mean she ... | |
| she wants it to end | 4/3/2007 |
| Q: me and my girlfriend met at work, we didn't hit off right away but i was always attracted to her, as ... A: Ah...another long-distance relationship ("LDR") tragedy! David, I can't tell you how often I hear ... | |
| older women | 4/3/2007 |
| Q: I work with a lady that is 41 I’m 31 she flirts with me a lot. Recently we started working out ... A: First of all, it sounds like you haven't even kissed her yet. What may very well be happening is ... | |
| how do i get over the initial meeting anxiety? | 4/2/2007 |
| Q: so how do i get over the stress and anxiety of walking up to a random attractive girl in any ... A: Actually, that's a very large question! I teach entire seminars (and have them on DVD) that deal ... | |
| is she being friendly or does she fancy me? | 3/31/2007 |
| Q: a girl i know in maths repeatingly kept sayin how smart i look and asked howcome i look so smart, ... A: A compliment from a girl often (but not always) means that there MIGHT BE some SLIGHT interest, but ... | |
| a question about friendship | 3/30/2007 |
| Q: Hey whats up my name is Juan and im 15 years old. Well I just had a question about the hole friend ... A: With the numbers of letters I get everyday from readers, it's impossible to keep them separated in ... | |
| need help | 3/28/2007 |
| Q: .i am nithin.these days i am try to find a credit card to download your lessons,cause i dont have a ... A: Forget this woman - you've already blown it totally! Nithin, this is just getting freaky-weird now! ... | |
| will she leave | 3/28/2007 |
| Q: I got involved with a woman a year ago who was engaged to be married. the wedding due to ... A: If I were to get into her head, I'd bet she's thinking, "I wish both of these guys were rolled up ... | |
| How do I attract women? | 3/28/2007 |
| Q: Hey I was wondering. How do I attract women? A: Short, and sweet question. The problem is, the answer is loooooooooong!!! You hear all sorts of ads ... | |
| Help me, Please | 3/27/2007 |
| Q: This is a story about a relationship that may never happen. There is this girl in my grade that is ... A: As far as what to do - as I said before, just keep it simple. Go have a soda or take a walk ... | |
| commitment phobes | 3/25/2007 |
| Q: How do you deal with a commitment phobic man? The man I love is wonderful to me and treats me ... A: You mean *A* man since we're all commitment-phobic to one degree or another! First off, realize ... | |
| Help me, Please | 3/25/2007 |
| Q: This is a story about a relationship that may never happen. There is this girl in my grade that is ... A: First of all, STOP!!! - No - you don't "love" her - you don't even know her. By giving her this ... | |
| dating someone iI like | 3/24/2007 |
| Q: Hey Dr. Neder. I just wanted to know if it is bad thing to treat a girl too well/spoiling her when I ... A: Hey Allen! It's far worse to mistreat a woman you're dating, but in fact, you don't want to ... | |
| "Need a break" | 3/24/2007 |
| Q: Ok what the hell does "I need a break" or "I need space" mean? I always thought it meant a breakup, ... A: There are two types of "breaks". The first is a formal process agreed on by both people in a ... | |
| Its me again | 3/22/2007 |
| Q: I have to admit that in a way you read my mind and my fears and I think that your advise might ... A: Yo! Diana! "Clear and concise"? I was going for "vague and redundant". Here's the fact: you can ... | |
| Its me again | 3/22/2007 |
| Q: I have to admit that in a way you read my mind and my fears and I think that your advise might ... A: You're very welcome. Actually, I would never presume that you wanted just a one-night stand with ... | |
| Problem | 3/22/2007 |
| Q: recently I told one of my best friends that I love her. She told me that she considers me only as a ... A: I'm sorry to tell you this: as far as being "afraid" of losing her as a friend, you already have. ... | |
| Does he want me back? | 3/22/2007 |
| Q: My boyfriend of 4 months was very loving, kind, gentle, and respectful, and very passionate. We were ... A: Gee...let me consult my crystal ball here....hmmmm...I seeing something....let me look ... | |
| getting her back: pls help me | 3/20/2007 |
| Q: My girlfriend of 6 months broke up with me, telling me we need to become friends to re-evaluate the ... A: Hey Tony! You're very welcome. There's a possibility that your paths could cross again, but it's a ... | |
| girl of my dreams | 3/20/2007 |
| Q: my question is there is a girl in which everyday i saw her she made me feel great i always thought ... A: Is that *really* all you want - just for her to notice you? You don't want anything else, like to ... | |
| need help | 3/20/2007 |
| Q: i think you remember me..did you remember that british girl working with me in a school as a ... A: DO NOT give her that gift!!!! Why would you give someone something so huge to someone you barely ... | |
| getting her back: pls help me | 3/20/2007 |
| Q: My girlfriend of 6 months broke up with me, telling me we need to become friends to re-evaluate the ... A: "Hey Doc! I tortured the crap out of this poor girl, spied on her, verbally abused her and just kept ... | |
| Bestfriend to Girlfriend | 3/18/2007 |
| Q: My name is Roger and I'm 15 years old. I have liked my best friend on and off for about a year; she ... A: First of all, you need to understand something here: just because YOU are attracted to looks doesn't ... | |
| what to do | 3/17/2007 |
| Q: I was dating this guy for a couple months. We were really happy together, laughed every moment we ... A: You're welcome. No, I don't know why he'd dump you out of the blue as I don't read minds. I could ... | |
| what to do | 3/17/2007 |
| Q: I was dating this guy for a couple months. We were really happy together, laughed every moment we ... A: First of all, you absolutely DO NOT want to be his "friend". This is contrary to your goals (as I ... | |
| amylee | 3/17/2007 |
| Q: doc, ive been in a relationship (was) in a relationship for 4 years i love this girl with everything ... A: Hey Chris! So, what are you looking for then, a magic spell or something? If she's adamant about ... | |
| How to ask her out. | 3/17/2007 |
| Q: I am a 37 year old man. I am married, but my wife was crippled in a car accident 3 years ago. She ... A: Actually, this is pretty simple. Just tell her you'd like to get to know her better over a drink one ... | |
| amylee | 3/16/2007 |
| Q: doc, ive been in a relationship (was) in a relationship for 4 years i love this girl with everything ... A: Nobody's perfect...especially ME!! Your spelling is great, but your ability to convey a message is ... | |
| amylee | 3/14/2007 |
| Q: doc, ive been in a relationship (was) in a relationship for 4 years i love this girl with everything ... A: Wow! That was the LONGEST single sentence I've ever seen! I had to take a deep breath to read it all ... | |
| getting back together or not? | 3/10/2007 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I work together but not in the same department. He told me about a month ago that ... A: I don't know. You know him far better than I do and I just never learned to read minds! Asking you ... | |
| Hi, me again. | 3/9/2007 |
| Q: Would it be possible not to rush the kiss so soon? I don't want to come on too strong, I'm pretty ... A: Hey Beowolf! The reason why you don't want to kiss her is that you're afraid of how she'll react. ... | |
| Hi, me again. | 3/9/2007 |
| Q: Dennis W. Neder, it's me Beowolf again. I've followed most of your advice, I've had atleast 3 girls ... A: The best way to stay out of the "friend zone" is to never get there from the very beginning. That ... | |
| questions | 3/7/2007 |
| Q: Ok that answer definitely helped me. Well so I have a question, let me pertain this to my own life. ... A: I'm afraid I don't read minds in order to tell you why he took that break, but it seems like sex was ... | |
| questions | 3/7/2007 |
| Q: I've gotta question for you. About how long generally is it expected that when a couple starts ... A: There is no general rule about when to have sex, other than when the time is "right". Likewise, ... | |
| how to approach to this girl | 3/2/2007 |
| Q: D.W.N This is paul walker.last year i saw a girl in my class(She's 16 & am 14), she attended ... A: In an entire month, you couldn't find a chance to say "hello"? You're not trying very hard! First ... | |
| A little situation | 2/27/2007 |
| Q: What if they break up? Should I then give it sometime and then try to attract the girl? If that ... A: No, you should forget this girl. She's off-limits to you unless you break up the friendship first. ... | |
| need help | 2/26/2007 |
| Q: i think you remember me.last saturday someone send me a sms mistakenly that they are in a club..i ... A: Sure, she's a nice girl you know absolutely nothing about! You've exchanged a few SMS's. Big deal! ... | |
| How to restore a relationship | 2/25/2007 |
| Q: I am a 43 years old widowed man from the capital Managua (Nicaragua). While visiting a new friend ... A: Frankly, no. She's not worth the effort. She was hanging out with you mostly because of the money ... | |
| Getting my girl back | 2/25/2007 |
| Q: I dated a girl in college for almost 20 months. When we broke up because of distance, I was ... A: First of all, you absolutely MUST be local to her. Don't try to rebuild a relationship ... | |
| Defense Mechanism | 2/24/2007 |
| Q: "I believe some people used to do this thing {defense mechanism} to hide their true feelings.Like a ... A: Let's see here. What you're asking is for me to write out every work of all of my books, e-books, ... | |
| Bestfriend | 2/23/2007 |
| Q: .How should i tell to my Bestfriend that i like her,knowing she seems to be in love with one of my ... A: If I actually gave you these "lines" I wouldn't be doing my job! A line is going to get you ... | |
| A liitle lost | 2/18/2007 |
| Q: I agree with what you said. I am not one for LDR either, I am hoping she will return with me. That ... A: An(other) important key about women is this: they often "speak outloud" their thought processes. ... | |
| A liitle lost | 2/18/2007 |
| Q: ok, my cousin asked if her friend could stay with me for 4 weeks while on a holiday visiting the ... A: First off you have a pretty severe problem here - the distance. Let me tell you: long-distance ... | |
| what do i do? | 2/15/2007 |
| Q: ok i started talking with this gir like almost two moths ago in party, i havent never talked to her ... A: First of all, this all happened over Valentine's Day and that has an impact. This day is very unique ... | |
| dating | 2/13/2007 |
| Q: hey Dennis! Dennis this is the girl of my dreams, rembema that she is a church girl, and if you ... A: Oh, I see: "Love conqueres all!" "All for love!" "Love will find a way!" Yes, I've heard all the ... | |
| dating | 2/12/2007 |
| Q: I went to a trip to Atlanta ga.and met this 25 year old girl,we starter talking getting know each ... A: Man - this whole thing stinks like a diaper pail! You have nothing but problems here and you want me ... | |
| meaning | 2/12/2007 |
| Q: I have been dating my boyfriend for a couple months, I think I love him but I don't know how he ... A: I have no idea how you draw the parallels between his comment and long-term interest! That's quite a ... | |
| what do I do | 2/11/2007 |
| Q: I did what you said and she still wants nothen to do with me so what else can i do to get her ... A: Hey Levi! Well, let's see - you can shave your head and have her name tattooed on it, or maybe you ... | |
| what do I do | 2/11/2007 |
| Q: the girl that was dancing with my friend was my girlfriend not her sisterI lost the girl of my ... A: So, why did you tell me you were "mean to her sister" and then tell me it happened when you saw ... | |
| what do I do | 2/10/2007 |
| Q: I lost the girl of my dreams because she said i was mean to her sister.I was at a dance and I saw my ... A: First of all, what business is it of yours if your girlfriend's sister dances with some guy? Why ... | |
| help | 2/7/2007 |
| Q: Dr Dennis W. Nedar I am a 19 year old guy whose going to be pushing 20 in July. And I just feel so ... A: Hey Be! Thanks for the rating. What are you talking about, the other experts shut you down??? Ok, ... | |
| How should I re-approach this girl I like | 2/7/2007 |
| Q: I am 15, in tenth grade, and a bit shy about approaching girls and such..u know the drill lol! ok ... A: This story is so convoluted I have no idea what is going on here! Ok, no matter. Let's look at what ... | |
| Ex - Girlfriend | 2/6/2007 |
| Q: I'm 19 and been dating this girl for 2 1/2 years. It was beautiful. It was the best thing that ever ... A: There are three things you need to do: 1) You need to tell her that you're sorry that her ... | |
| she want's me or just freind | 2/6/2007 |
| Q: This girl is very special to me but there's a problem, her roommate want's me very bad. But I'm not ... A: Ahh...the "unspoken rule". These girls have bonded together against you. Yes, this girl wants to ... | |
| stubborn brain and heart | 2/4/2007 |
| Q: Interesting -- I read the article, and the introduction actually had me in tears because I felt like ... A: Hey Rob! Oh, sorry about that - if you were expecting a "pat answer", I failed you! How about ... | |
| stubborn brain and heart | 2/4/2007 |
| Q: OK, I don't know that this is the right category, but I couldn't find one that seemed right, so I'll ... A: First off, don't be hard on yourself about all of this. Women are experts at this game and we guys ... | |
| need help | 2/3/2007 |
| Q: i am working asa cleaner in a school after my uni. there is a british girl working with ... A: No, it's a very, VERY bad move. In fact, you have a bunch of bad moves going on here. Be honest ... | |
| winning back my girl | 2/2/2007 |
| Q: 2 days after you worte to me. my girlfriend and I disagreed on an action that I took. its a very ... A: It sounds like what she wants is for you to chase her, but not because she wants to be caught. She ... | |
| Relationships | 2/2/2007 |
| Q: Me and my ex have been broken up for three months now. we have one daughter together and she is now ... A: If you've read anything else I've written before, you know that I'm no moralist, but your chance to ... | |
| not sure | 1/30/2007 |
| Q: I have been dating this guy for a month or so. When we first met he told me that he does not talk to ... A: If you and he are sleeping together, then I think you can ask him about the marks on his back. This ... | |
| i luv this girl | 1/27/2007 |
| Q: I need some help. I am a muslim. the girl that i like is also muslim. we have been talking for a ... A: This is a great question! It's really more about communication skills than being Muslim and the ... | |
| I need sex | 1/26/2007 |
| Q: I am 18 years old and a high school senior. My girlfriend is also 18 and a senior. We have been ... A: Dr. Dennis says: "Don't be a hater - be a masturbator!" Here's some reality: 1) You can't make a ... | |
| Girlfriend playing new games | 1/24/2007 |
| Q: Neder, Hope you are well. Just wanted to say your advice worked like a charm. So the girlfriend and ... A: This girl is a real game player! She's all about manipulation and is constantly challenging you to ... | |
| you are moving to fast | 1/22/2007 |
| Q: no serious means not marriage... serious means relationship wise...yeah i think she know i like ... A: Trust me - she wants a relationship. This is pre-wired into her simply by her being a woman. It has ... | |
| relationship | 1/21/2007 |
| Q: how do i recognise a good woman.? A: You're a man of few words I see! That's a skill I hope to learn some day. Here's the easiest (and ... | |
| love problems | 1/21/2007 |
| Q: january 21 2007 good day! im Darwin and I feel so insecure because of my figure. Im a chubby guy and ... A: Darwin, DO NOT SEND HER FLOWERS ON V-DAY!!!! In fact, stop all of this texting right now - it's ... | |
| you are moving to fast | 1/20/2007 |
| Q: i know her for 3 months now....i do not know if she likes me...she never had a boyfriend till now,i ... A: As I said in my first message, yes, I think she likes you. Do you honestly think she doesn't know ... | |
| you are moving to fast | 1/19/2007 |
| Q: ok i got what your saying...... but going for a date is too forward thinking.... first i have to ... A: Yes, I know the MOST INTERESTING topics to discuss with her: HER! Don't make the mistake of ... | |
| Thanks for the advice - Girlfriend still playing games | 1/17/2007 |
| Q: Neder, So I wanted to follow up with my last post on 1/13/2007. I've taken your advice and will ... A: She may act like she wants to control the relationship, but as with all women - this is an act only. ... | |
| Should I be leaving messages? | 1/15/2007 |
| Q: In all fairness, I suppose I should have mentioned that this woman is someone I grew up with; we ... A: My apologies for the assumption. The symptoms are very common in Internet dating and since you ... | |
| Should I be leaving messages? | 1/15/2007 |
| Q: My question concerns phone etiquette...... I've been communicating with a particular woman on and ... A: What an impossible situation you have here! Ok, this appears to be an Internet dating situation and ... | |
| Girlfriend playing games | 1/13/2007 |
| Q: Neder, I read some of your posts and your advice is sound. I just recently hooked up with a girl ... A: I'm afraid you believe wrong. When the relationship begins, that's also when the mind-games ... | |
| Confused about where this is going | 1/12/2007 |
| Q: I met this girl online about a month ago, we exchanged IM screenames and started chatting, the ... A: Obviously I can't read her mind, but it appears that she has a couple of other guys hanging around ... | |
| i need her again in my life | 1/11/2007 |
| Q: DOC I'VE BEEN IN ALOT OF PAIN AND TROUBLES SINCE THE LOVE OF MY LIFE LEFT ME! SHE LEFT ME ABOUT 5 ... A: I know this is all tough, but you're going to get through it. Trust me. Best regards... Dr. Dennis ... | |
| don't know what to do, and where to turn to | 1/10/2007 |
| Q: ------------------------------------------- I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 18 YEARS MY MARRIAGE IS GOING ... A: I've already answered this question for you. See below. Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder ... | |
| i nned her again in my life | 1/10/2007 |
| Q: DOC I'VE BEEN IN ALOT OF PAIN AND TROUBLES SINCE THE LOVE OF MY LIFE LEFT ME! SHE LEFT ME ABOUT 5 ... A: Yes, you're doing a number of things to hurt yourself here. You didn't say what specifically broke ... | |
| Bad Crush | 1/9/2007 |
| Q: I am a guy in my early twenties involved in a long term relationship of about 5 years. Our ... A: "Committed relationships" are where a couple is together because they agree that they're going to ... | |
| commintment | 1/9/2007 |
| Q: How can I do or say to my girlfriend to further our relationship even though the kids do not like ... A: I think you and she need to sit down with the kids and have a talk. Explain that while you're not ... | |
| how to prpose | 1/8/2007 |
| Q: hello sir i am in 12 class and the girl i like studies with me at the tution center i like her from ... A: I suggest that you DON'T tell her that you like her OR become her friend! You don't want her as a ... | |
| My Ex (go figure huh) | 1/8/2007 |
| Q: My ex and I only dated for a month and a half and I broke it off because she said she needed her ... A: This situation is totally screwed up! Let me answer your question, but I have an opinion on all of ... | |
| Confused on whether she wants me or not | 1/8/2007 |
| Q: I met a girl at work through a friend when we were drinking at her place. We had a great time and ... A: Why is she the only one that gets to decide what you have - or don't have? Aren't your goals just as ... | |
| Get The Girl of my Dreams | 1/6/2007 |
| Q: Dr. Neder, I appreciate the advice immensely. But I must admit, I am not completely sure of what ... A: No worries. I know this is a little "against the grain". We as men are taught that we need to be ... | |
| Get The Girl of my Dreams | 1/5/2007 |
| Q: My name is John. This is kind of awkward, but I'm desperate for help, so I'll do my best. I have ... A: You seem to have a severe case of "one-itis"; the condition where you are convinced that only one ... | |
| how do i win my x back | 1/5/2007 |
| Q: i was with my ex for 5 years, we were engaged and because of argumentative differences we broke up. ... A: The first thing you need to do is to be clear on what you broke up over. A simple argument is rarely ... | |
| I love her, but not ready for marriage | 1/4/2007 |
| Q: Dr. Neder, I am a 20 year old man. I have been with my girlfriend almost 2 years, she is 19. We ... A: DO NOT get married just to have sex!!! That'll be the biggest mistake you'll ever have made. Here's ... | |
| How to ask a girl to go out with her? | 1/4/2007 |
| Q: Hello my name is Bob and my question to you is "how do I ask out a girl I like in a safe and ... A: Let's analyze this question a little, shall we? What you're really asking me is, "How do I ask a ... | |
| I don't get it... | 1/2/2007 |
| Q: Well, I'm not sure whether my question falls into the right category but I'll ask anyway. Before ... A: Boy, this girl must be a saint! I don't know of many women that would go this long and still ... | |
| How to attract ?? | 1/2/2007 |
| Q: There Is a Girl In my Tutions, Sometimes she watches me, We do not talk to each other as we have ... A: What you're really asking me is how to make HER do all your work for you. Sahil, that doesn't work. ... | |
| How can I win the girl I have fallen for? | 1/2/2007 |
| Q: Alright.. I met this girl about 2 years ago and we hit it off real well since day one... problem ... A: Let me answer your questions first, and then I'll follow-up with some very important information ... | |
| about a friend | 1/1/2007 |
| Q: i have a female friend. we have been friends for a long time. we do things together but i want a ... A: First, please accept my apology for the late reply. My system has been down over the holiday. Man! ... | |
| Whats a good way to ask her out?? | 12/31/2006 |
| Q: Well theres this girl that I really like. Every time I see her in the hallways we always say hi. ... A: First, sorry for the late reply. I've had system-down problems over the holidays and am only now ... | |
| Am I being led on? | 12/29/2006 |
| Q: "Hello, I have been with the same girl since Aug 2004. A little over 1 year ago, I cheated on her ... A: Yes, I think you're being led on. This is a very common scenario that women use - they claim they ... | |
| Older woman | 12/26/2006 |
| Q: One last question, should I pursue her and ask her out or should i let her ask me to go out?Thanks a ... A: Yo! John! The age difference has nothing to do with whom pursues whom. It's your job as the man to ... | |
| When to kiss | 12/26/2006 |
| Q: I'm in the 5th grade I have a Girlfreind we have been going out for about 2years. I'm a lil shy ... A: When should you kiss her? About 2 years ago. What are you waiting for? This isn't a big deal - it's ... | |
| how to attract the most beautful of women | 12/26/2006 |
| Q: My name is Matt and I am in the Navy. I was just dropping by to ask a serious question about how to ... A: Abso-freakin'-lutely!!!! Your looks have almost nothing whatsoever to do with the women that you ... | |
| Older woman | 12/25/2006 |
| Q: All I want out of this is sex but I don't know if I should just give her the cold shoulder ... A: You're very welcome. I don't think you want to take either extreme. It's better to walk the line ... | |
| How can I win this woman | 12/25/2006 |
| Q: Dr. Neder, How dare you judge me or my faith. You don't know me! You call me a coward, but you ... A: You fucking ignorant hypocrite! Who exactly is "judging" whom here? While I can't deny being a ... | |
| How can I win this woman | 12/23/2006 |
| Q: I have been dating a very sweet lady from church for about 9 months. We have never kissed except for ... A: I always hate hearing this. What an incredible mistake it is to avoid sex before marriage out of ... | |
| Older woman | 12/23/2006 |
| Q: there is a woman at my job who I am sort of going out with. I am 25 and she is 41. She is still ... A: Right now, she's playing with you. In effect, she's using you to explore her new (or soon-to-be) ... | |
| Win back my ex | 12/21/2006 |
| Q: I have been seeing a girl off and on for almost the past 3 years. We originally met at a bar and ... A: What in the hell??? Let's see here, you have no interest in this girl for over a year, get into a ... | |
| make a girl friend | 12/19/2006 |
| Q: i aminternational student.and i am from srilanka so i got brown colour skin.i studing in ... A: Your attitude has far more to do with your success your jobs or the color of your skin. It's ... | |
| DID I DO RIGHT ? | 12/17/2006 |
| Q: I walked into a car dealer and this stunning Japanese 30 year old saleswoman , accosted me in a more ... A: First of all, don't be hard on yourself about this attraction. Many people carry guilt because they ... | |
| how to make the girl i love accept my proposals | 12/13/2006 |
| Q: i have been proposing this girl for the past two years and she always says no. but she is the only ... A: First of all, you're never going to get through a brick wall. As long as you honestly believe that ... | |
| How to make a girl want to kiss ya | 12/12/2006 |
| Q: Alright theres this girl who I see three times a week. I really like her, and I really want to kiss ... A: So, what you really want is to get her to do all your work for you. You want some magic spell or ... | |
| How to proceed? | 12/10/2006 |
| Q: Hey. I met this girl when I changed schools, she is my classmate. At first I didn't like her at ... A: I fear this is going to end very badly for you. No, I don't need to ask you any questions, I see ... | |
| The Attraction | 12/8/2006 |
| Q: Neder, i asked a question to your earlier about this same girl. I have been thinking a lot about the ... A: I'm afraid that I get so many letters everyday I can't tell one from another! It helps to copy the ... | |
| conversation | 12/8/2006 |
| Q: i meet an old class mate of mine,she is that kind of cool gal,and i don know what have to talk to ... A: The trick to communications is to realize what everyone is interested in: themselves. I'm always ... | |
| broke up with the woman of my dreams. | 12/7/2006 |
| Q: Well i've been dating this beautiful woman for about 10 months now. We went to the same college and ... A: Distance. George, I have to tell you a very important fact: long-distance relationships NEVER, EVER ... | |
| I want my ex back | 11/29/2006 |
| Q: Hey again, i think im being annoying now lol. I found out why she broke up with me, just not because ... A: Yo! Anthony! Stick with the plan. It's the best, most direct way to go. As far as your friend, he ... | |
| getting back my old love | 11/29/2006 |
| Q: neder, my name is jared im 16 years old and since middle school this girl brittany and i have been ... A: You can't - she never had those feelings in the first place. You became her friend. That's where it ... | |
| I want my ex back | 11/29/2006 |
| Q: hey again, i did exactly what you told me, i asked her out on a walk, (havent went yet) and now she ... A: Hey Anthony! All of this is a good thing! If she thinks that you're going to try to convince her to ... | |
| My almost but not yet girlfriend | 11/27/2006 |
| Q: Three years ago I left school and I really fancied a girl, three years later she has not left my ... A: First of all, forget the clues. Not only is there a possibility that these can be missed - or ... | |
| getting back with my ex-girlfriend | 11/27/2006 |
| Q: my girlfriend and i were ddating about a 1 1/2. We broke up about a week ago,because we did not ... A: I don't know why she wrote to you to tell you that she had another boyfriend other than to hurt you. ... | |
| I want my ex back | 11/25/2006 |
| Q: but heres another problem sorry. alright i tried asking her out to the movies as mates, but she said ... A: You asked her out on a date - seeing a movie! That's why she turned you down, not the money. She ... | |
| I want my ex back | 11/25/2006 |
| Q: im 14 years old, and have just got dumped by my ex-girlfriend, she dumped me in computing class and ... A: First of all, if you're having some issues, I'd hope that she'd be more understanding of all of ... | |
| Do I have a chance? | 11/22/2006 |
| Q: Dr. Dennis how are you? thanks for the advice you gave me on a previous question. I need advice on ... A: I see this is the exact same question you've asked other experts here. You even gave me the exact ... | |
| I absolutly have to win her back! | 11/20/2006 |
| Q: I'm afraid I do not completely understand. You say find my inner asshole. She told me that is why ... A: With women, you're always better off ignoring their words and watching their actions. Sure, she TOLD ... | |
| I absolutly have to win her back! | 11/20/2006 |
| Q: Dr. Neder, I was in love. I was engaged. I was selfish. I dated a beautiful, smart, and kind ... A: Let's analyze this a little, shall we? When you were a controlling, selfish jerk, she kept giving ... | |
| Stalemate | 11/17/2006 |
| Q: i recently met this girl through my friends girlfriend, and we have gone on double dates with them ... A: Perhaps seeing you is the little "push" she needs to break up with her boyfriend? It sounds like ... | |
| neighbor | 11/16/2006 |
| Q: hey doc, so here's my problem: I'm still young, and raging with hormones like you might have ... A: I've got the perfect technique for the perfect situation here. As you said, she "...thinks quite a ... | |
| ex back | 11/15/2006 |
| Q: Your advice was fantastic!!, i feel quite bad now cos i kind of got my revenge this morning... I ... A: You have absolutely nothing to feel badly about. This situation was created by HER, NOT YOU. She can ... | |
| ex back | 11/14/2006 |
| Q: I read one of your replies to a question and thought your response was excellent, please could you ... A: Here's something she's not telling you: she has lost interest, but just isn't mature enough to tell ... | |
| I need help. | 11/13/2006 |
| Q: Your question about what to do then is something I'd have to figure out. All i know is that i would ... A: Actually, that question was rhetorical - there is no answer of what to do next. I've told you what ... | |
| dating advice | 11/12/2006 |
| Q: I just met a woman and we have started dating and i am not sure what to say to her she is 20 and i ... A: So, you believe that God doesn't want you to kiss??? Greg, don't inflict your guesses on her! If ... | |
| I am (or was) his dream - need advice PLEASE | 11/12/2006 |
| Q: Dr. Dennis I am a 34 year old woman who is insanely attracted (you could even say devoted) to a 56 ... A: First - to any guy that's reading this, I strongly urge you to NOT use this as an example what to - ... | |
| How to attract and have a relationship with a woman | 11/12/2006 |
| Q: I have also purchased the book Being a Man in a Womans World. From the book quite a few things have ... A: Good job on getting BAM. That first book is going to give you informnation that I can't possibly ... | |
| I need help. | 11/11/2006 |
| Q: Dr.Neder I desperately need your help. Granted I'm rather young, soon turning 18, but I need advice ... A: Well, I'll give you an answer, but you're not going to like it very much. It's obvious from your ... | |
| Woman of my dreams | 11/9/2006 |
| Q: Well according to what she has told me, she is about to get divorced and lose her daughter because ... A: Yo! Erik! You might want to read my website about the problems with dating single mothers: ... | |
| Woman of my dreams | 11/8/2006 |
| Q: Well I invited her to lunch and we went with the friend I told you about and now she is selling me ... A: I'm not sure what the daughter has to do with all of this, but if she's hot, why not? Best ... | |
| Woman of my dreams | 11/7/2006 |
| Q: I have a question. From what you tell me this is a sure thing, but like today I was giving her a ... A: Don't worry about this at all. It's something of a "mini-challenge". I normally handle this with ... | |
| hey | 11/7/2006 |
| Q: My ex girlfriend is thinking about going back out with me.. We had been dating for almost 2 years... ... A: Ok, I'll help you, but first consider this: why did you break up in the first place? What caused the ... | |
| Woman of my dreams | 11/6/2006 |
| Q: do you think I should buy her some flowers? Or would that make me look too desperate? Or would it be ... A: When asking a follow-up question, please copy the original message or use the follow-up feature. I ... | |
| How to attract and have a relationship with a woman | 11/2/2006 |
| Q: I quess what im trying to find out is how I should go about trying to attract a women and to ... A: [Note: this is a necessarily long letter, but your question is broad. I hope you read it all the way ... | |
| Boyfriend Conflict | 11/1/2006 |
| Q: Neder, I recently asked you a question about a woman that is interested in me and that i im ... A: No, you shouldn't talk to her on-line to ask her to go out with you. You should do that in person, ... | |
| help again | 11/1/2006 |
| Q: right where to start there is this girl that I've liked for ages and she knew it she then told me ... A: Simple. Take it away from her. Explain that you aren't her "friend" because you already have enough ... | |
| Is she just another woman? | 11/1/2006 |
| Q: So here's the deal (I'll try to make it short and sweet). I'm 27 and I just moved back to my ... A: I'm going to answer your questions, but first, have you considered the issue of the distance? This ... | |
| The First Big Move | 10/30/2006 |
| Q: Neder I have a really big question that has been lingering on my mind form some time, so i thought ... A: Well, you may not being pushy and killing off any potential relationship with her, but it's dying a ... | |
| I'm Lost | 10/30/2006 |
| Q: Neder My situation is very unique and complex to me but probably not to you. Here goes. Keep in ... A: Frankly, I don't know where to begin with you! "...what have I don't wrong?" My question is: what ... | |
| Question about a girl | 10/29/2006 |
| Q: So I did what you said and this is how it turned out. I said: "So the prison was interesting you ... A: No, you didn't do what I said. You asked her instead of telling her what you wanted. If there was ... | |
| how to make a girl want to kiss you | 10/28/2006 |
| Q: there is dis girl that we go out a lot together,its been a months now and she told me dat she love ... A: It's your job (as the man) to make this first move. It's not hers and trust me, she knows it. ... | |
| my girl doesnt answer me anymore | 10/26/2006 |
| Q: sorry sir for language! thanks i dont have any in-person access to her just phone ! i mean cant go ... A: Hey Deej! If you can't meet this girl in person, then what do you have - nothing! Relationships ... | |
| help | 10/26/2006 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I recently took a break in our relationship... A few days ago things were going ... A: You didn't mention why you took the break in the first place, but this may have something to do with ... | |
| my girl doesnt answer me anymore | 10/26/2006 |
| Q: in a party i overdosed with whiskey in front of my gf i dont know what i did wrong but i did my best ... A: If it's been a full 3 weeks with no response, forget the IM's, email, etc. Go see her in person. ... | |
| relationship advice | 10/24/2006 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I have been talking about marraige and all that after we graduate from college in ... A: Actually, this is a good idea for BOTH of you! You're just about to begin the greatest period of ... | |
| I must win her back | 10/24/2006 |
| Q: What sparked this was an argument about our future. Specifically marriage. She asked me why I never ... A: Sure - if you totally break off all contact for more than a couple of months, she's going to ... | |
| Moving Past E-Mail & IM | 10/23/2006 |
| Q: I have been IMing and e-mailing with a woman for quite a few months now. She seems like an amazing ... A: Hold on a moment. You had plans to meet, she didn't show, and you still are in contact with her? ... | |
| I must win her back | 10/20/2006 |
| Q: Dennis Neder. Here is my situation... My girlfriend of 2 years recently broke up with me. The ... A: Simple answer: get scarce. Let's examine this situation a little closer. Why do you think that she ... | |
| i dont noe what to do!! | 10/19/2006 |
| Q: alright im sorry if my question is long but i wanna get the best answer i can possibly get so here ... A: What a bitch! She asks your friend to have you call her (reasonable - you should have done this ... | |
| How to get the girl im after | 10/18/2006 |
| Q: ...that seems like very good advice. The only problem im running into is i rarely ever see her. That ... A: Patience works to your advantage here. If you seem like you're very busy (dating other women) she's ... | |
| Rejection | 10/18/2006 |
| Q: Neder, I am a 24 year old guy that honestly has never really had a serious relationship, I ... A: Man! Do I talk to a lot of guys in your exact situation or what? These are great guys - they're good ... | |
| Asking out a friend | 10/17/2006 |
| Q: Yeah there is this girl I have known for the last 2 years. We aren't best friends but we are still ... A: You have to make a decision. Either you want a friend and don't want to risk changing things or you ... | |
| the perfect girl for me | 10/16/2006 |
| Q: but i'm kinda of a coward, and i've tried talking to her but i ran out things to talk about and so i ... A: Don't try to talk to her - get HER to do the talking for you. All you need to do is ask "open ended ... | |
| why am i such a failure with girls | 10/16/2006 |
| Q: , ive sure you have seen plenty of them anyways my name is jared and im 16 years old and i want a ... A: First of all, you're not a "failure". You just haven't learned how the game is played and you're ... | |
| the perfect girl for me | 10/13/2006 |
| Q: I like this girl in school but shes a senior and i'm a junior. i want to atleast get her to talk to ... A: Ah, you're looking to impress her, right? WRONG! You absolutely DO NOT try to impress a woman and ... | |
| my ex-girlfriend | 10/13/2006 |
| Q: "What you do at this point has much more influence than her feelings. If you get them weight, you're ... A: Andy! I'm not sure what you don't understand about my previous emails: 1) Start dating other women ... | |
| my ex-girlfriend | 10/12/2006 |
| Q: She is very pissed off as i said, but had so much love and in the uni environment emotions fly, but ... A: Some couples do, and some don't. There are many factors involved and it's impossible to say whether ... | |
| she want us to be just friends | 10/12/2006 |
| Q: i never asked her about her boy,she mentioned it ,telling me that they were not serious.so what ... A: First, you need to go great my FAQ's at my website: http://beingaman.com and click on "Self Help". ... | |
| my ex-girlfriend | 10/11/2006 |
| Q: yes i understand, but i havent been following her about, it was simply her sister who had called me ... A: Hey Andy! Just as I said before: start paying attention to and dating other women at the club. ... | |
| my ex-girlfriend | 10/11/2006 |
| Q: hey, cheers for the advice, except 20mins ago she found out that i had spoken to her mum and dad ... A: I guess the real question is: do you love her enough to do what you SHOULD do for her? My response ... | |
| my ex-girlfriend | 10/11/2006 |
| Q: we broke up 2weeks ago, after a year and i love her so much, she hasnt been single since she was 14, ... A: You need to give her that challenge her mom said she needs: I strongly urge you to start dating some ... | |
| my girl doesnt answer me anymore | 10/9/2006 |
| Q: so you dont agree with me that i think she was trying to get to know me?that now she thinks im ... A: No, in fact, I can't say either way! As I mentioned earlier, I don't read people's minds so I can't ... | |
| my girl doesnt answer me anymore | 10/8/2006 |
| Q: and i think what i did was a littile turn off (who knows maybe big turn off) so thats why she doesnt ... A: That's fine, but it makes no difference. You still want to proceed by getting scarce. This is ... | |
| my girl doesnt answer me anymore | 10/7/2006 |
| Q: in a party i overdosed with whiskey in front of my gf i dont know what i did wrong but i did my best ... A: Stop calling and IM'ing her! Further, stop apologizing to her already! I don't know why she's doing ... | |
| A boy who needs a step in the right direction | 10/6/2006 |
| Q: {I'm not very confident about talking about this) I've seen this girl. I can't really get her out ... A: Yes, I do have some tips for you! Here's the most important one first: DO NOT try to impress her! ... | |
| Woman interested?? | 10/5/2006 |
| Q: I need some tips....I met this gal (for the first time) during a gathering at my place...while ... A: Wouldn't it be great if women would just come right out and say what they wanted - or didn't? It ... | |
| How to get a girl that is going out with someone else. | 10/5/2006 |
| Q: ------------------------- I'm not her friend yet. I was asking what to do. So what should I do, ... A: Then what exactly do you expect me to get from "...and we've become pretty good friends.."??? It ... | |
| How to get a girl that is going out with someone else. | 10/4/2006 |
| Q: I met this girl, and we've become pretty good friends. The probelm is that she has been dating a ... A: You're making a HUGE mistake here. You think that by being her "Friend" that when she breaks up with ... | |
| What do I do? | 10/4/2006 |
| Q: So I'm just a little stuck on something here, don't know if this makes me a bad person or what not ... A: I can't tell you how many times I've met women where I wished one's personality was in the other's ... | |
| Approaching a lady | 10/3/2006 |
| Q: How can i build my confidence with ladies? I don't know how to conversate with them A: There's a mistake most guys have - that confidence is something you "own". It's not. It's something ... | |
| Just a Friend or possibly more?? | 10/1/2006 |
| Q: I met a girl a couple months ago and we kissed and cuddled for a few hours. I tried get more ... A: I don't think her original intention was to be "friends", but that's exactly where it is now. This ... | |
| new girl | 9/30/2006 |
| Q: hey i found this new girl shes in college right now she said she is goin to move over here when she ... A: Wait until she moves and start building up your chops in the meantime by dating other women. Then, ... | |
| How do I get to know her better? | 9/30/2006 |
| Q: I'm Dave. Im in 11th grade, and recently I've met a girl who I think would be perfect for me. We are ... A: Women separate guys into two categories: those that they date and "friends". If your goal is to ... | |
| Will I seem over anxious?? | 9/29/2006 |
| Q: Is it possible I've misinterpreted any of the signals I thought that I received? It's not like this ... A: Sure, it's absolutely possible. Women are experts at keeping their real feelings hidden from us ... | |
| Will I seem over anxious?? | 9/29/2006 |
| Q: Last weekend (a Sunday), I ran into a woman I went to grade school, junior high, and high school ... A: I'd trust your gut here. If you call her now while she's away, you're going to look to agressive. ... | |
| Relationship with my female boss | 9/29/2006 |
| Q: Ok, I got it. It's very stupid to pursue this older woman/boss fantasy. I like my job, I love my ... A: MM! You're absolutely right! I did miss that - my apologies. The first step is to prevent this ... | |
| my ex | 9/27/2006 |
| Q: every time i try to talk to her she does not want to talk i know she still loves me but its her bf ... A: No, you're ASSUMING that she still loves you because you still love her. Don't make assumptions - if ... | |
| winning back my girl | 9/27/2006 |
| Q: Dennis W. Neder I think i should move on pluse in Russia there many butiful girls and geneva....What ... A: HELL NO! Don't send her the car! You don't owe her anything at this point, and you'll just feel like ... | |
| Relationship with my female boss | 9/27/2006 |
| Q: I started working at this new company a year ago as an entry level staff. My wife also works at this ... A: MM! Dude, are YOU walking the line of fire here or what???? What the hell are you thinking? You ... | |
| my ex | 9/27/2006 |
| Q: i went out with this girl when i was 16 after we broke up we lost contact but we now she has a bf ... A: You tell her (don't ASK her) to clear up her Friday night (or whenever) and that you and she are ... | |
| more like a lack of dating... | 9/26/2006 |
| Q: ..well first let me start out by saying that I am only fourteen...which I know sounds like young and ... A: I'd sure like to know what you define as "normal". Personally, I've never met ANYONE that was ... | |
| winning back my girl | 9/26/2006 |
| Q: Dennis W i have a problem i was going out with a girl in geneva Switzerland for 3 years we were ... A: Frankly, there's almost no chance of winning her back. She's right about the long-distance ... | |
| Pursuing an old flame? | 9/26/2006 |
| Q: About seven years ago, I dated this girl casually for a couple of weeks. I met her through a mutual ... A: I tell guys this fact all the time: it's easier to steal someone else's girlfriend than to keep one ... | |
| How to attract a guy you like | 9/26/2006 |
| Q: Neder, Thank you very much for your advice, but it isn't a celebrity, lol. It's a regular person. ... A: Well, you know what they say - if you want good answers, be able to ask good questions! I don't ... | |
| The girl of my DREAMS | 9/22/2006 |
| Q: I am a 15 year old and I really like this girl a lot. We talk sometimes, sometimes say hello, and ... A: By "attract her" do you mean make her so interested in you that she does all your work for you? Not ... | |
| How to get her to like me | 9/21/2006 |
| Q: Ok well there is this new girl and she likes me and i like her. So i was talking to one of her ... A: I think I've already answered this question for you. Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder ... | |
| How to get her to like me | 9/20/2006 |
| Q: ok im a freshman at my highschool and there is this new girl and she is really pretty and nice. So ... A: You want to be the first guy to break the ice here. If your friend does this first, you're likely to ... | |
| an older girl | 9/18/2006 |
| Q: I'm 21 years old. This girl that I've been talking to is turning 28 pretty soon, actually turning 28 ... A: First of all, the age issue isn't an issue at all. It's all in how you handle it. I'd suggest that ... | |
| How do i know | 9/16/2006 |
| Q: Theres this chick that i know that goes 2 my church and she sends me mixed signals..and im not sure ... A: Well, you can simply ask her - then you'll know, right? What's that you say? You're afraid that she ... | |
| how do i get a girl to like me | 9/15/2006 |
| Q: how do i get a girl to like me i cant seem to get a girl to like me.is no tmy look or my job.i think ... A: This is a mistake I see a lot of guys making - trying to impress women so that they "like them." On ... | |
| Black girl | 9/13/2006 |
| Q: the problem is that she never tells me thnk you. A friend of mine told me that I should cultivate ... A: Simple: she's enjoying what she's getting. That doesn't make her feel obligated to give you want YOU ... | |
| Black girl | 9/13/2006 |
| Q: I am a white man living in venezuela married with two children. In the factory I work in there is a ... A: If you're not getting any interest signals from this woman what are you doing wasting your ... | |
| Dream Women | 9/12/2006 |
| Q: Well , I just recently got out of a relationship that lasted 11months and it was very much full of ... A: First of all, I have no idea why you'd tolerate this sort of abuse. Why do you even take her phone ... | |
| I really like this girl | 9/10/2006 |
| Q: . well im a freshman in highschool and ive liked this girl at my church 4 about a year she goes 2 my ... A: First of all, you absolutely need to go read my FAQ's here: http://beingaman.com and then click on ... | |
| rings and finters | 9/10/2006 |
| Q: There This is not a question directly relate to attracting woman. But I'm curious. First,I'm not ... A: Unfortunately, I can't explain all the "options" - there are just far too many of them! Let me give ... | |
| Approaching her... | 9/7/2006 |
| Q: I'm a freshman in college and I noticed this girl sitting in my "Freshman Orientation" Class. My ... A: You're pointing out a very important point about confidence, but in fact, it's the wrong one! Let ... | |
| Women and Sex | 9/6/2006 |
| Q: ..my name is Jason and I'm 18 years old. My question is concerning a women and my friend, John. I ... A: Whenever possible, it's better to work this out beforehand, but in this case you tried and he just ... | |
| Homecoming | 9/3/2006 |
| Q: I am wondering what kind of things i can do to ask my girl friend to homecomming in a romantic way ... A: First of all, if you're trying to knock her off her chair with something incredible, I suggest you ... | |
| Approaching a girl and asking her out. | 9/3/2006 |
| Q: Hey I want to ask this girl out and everytime I see her I chickin out. Se is so beautiful and I have ... A: To begin, here's what you don't do: you don't wait around until everything is "perfect" because ... | |
| first date | 9/2/2006 |
| Q: and if i just ask her to the movies and we go r we then considered in a relationship or do i still ... A: Going to the movies isn't a good first, second or third date. Here's why: you need some "face time" ... | |
| asking him out | 9/1/2006 |
| Q: theres a new kid at our skool and hes really cute. ive never dated a "popular" boy before, but i ... A: If you're that scared of rejection, don't do anything - let some other girl that isn't approach him ... | |
| Read to know. | 8/30/2006 |
| Q: I am Afif have read almost all the questions placed on ypur site think that you are quite helpful so ... A: Yes, SOME women notice a man's neck, shoulders and palms and some notice other things. This is ... | |
| did i ruin my chances??? | 8/30/2006 |
| Q: sir, a great looking girl is now in my neighbourhood, what a stupid thing was that i went to her ... A: Let's see, if I understand what you've said here, you met this girl, stalked, tortured and terrified ... | |
| I want to be with this girl.. | 8/26/2006 |
| Q: I've had a job as a courier for a few months at my local hospital and my job involves delivering ... A: There are a lot of complex issues here and I strongly urge you to check out my website for lots of ... | |
| i think i love her | 8/26/2006 |
| Q: look im 15 im not the best lookin and im a little heavy (just a little not alot) ok i went out wit ... A: Your looks have very little to do with your success with women. Just because looks are important to ... | |
| How to know | 8/26/2006 |
| Q: 1. I want to know how can you judge a woman interested in you? 2. I know a girl since last 3 years. ... A: I'm not a "madam", I'm a "sir", but I'll answer your question anyway! 1) To be honest, this is ... | |
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I am the author of the books "Being a Man in a Woman`s World I & II" and "1001 Places and Techniques to Meet Great Women" and 11 others. I`ve spent the last 20 years studying the art and science of every aspect of relationships, dating and sex, and have answered over 30,000 letters from readers from all over the world. I'm able to answer literally any question regarding dating, finding and approaching women, sex, getting phone numbers, setting dates, what to do on dates, how to set them (and make sure she shows), dealing with dating problems, conversion from dates to relationships, etc. Check my website at: http://beingaman.com for much more. If your question is particularly sensitive you can email me privately and securely at: dwneder@beingaman.com.
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