| Subject | Date Asked |
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| Honesty. | 11/26/2009 |
Q: Helo, I did research about a year ago about not being a nice guy. Worked OK so far but, I got ...
A: I'm not at all clear on what your issues are. You're "too honest"? Nope - no you're not. Nobody is ...
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| huge crush with girl i cant stop thinking about | 11/19/2009 |
Q: im 15 and usually im the type of guy to get on with his studies and work. i live in england and im ...
A: Your looks have very little to do with your success with girls. On the other hand, if you give away ...
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| ? | 11/15/2009 |
Q: Dr. Neder, I am 20 yrs old and in college. My friends always seem to get girls and go home with ...
A: This is simply a skill like any other. You don't know how the game is played and thus, you have no ...
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| Freshman year, a girl at my University, I want to confirm a few things, seek a bit of aid as well. | 11/14/2009 |
Q: To begin, there has been this girl I've been eyeing for quite a while, I just figured out the body ...
A: Whoa there a minute big guy! What in the HELL do you care if she "knows" you like her??? Wait - ...
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| Atraction | 11/13/2009 |
Q: i really like this girl at school, but how to i get her attracted to me?
A: Hmmm...that's a toughie. How about dressing up like a big box of chocolates? If she likes chocolate, ...
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| girls and rejection | 11/12/2009 |
Q: two questions here, 1:how do you prepare or practice for getting the phone number for 10s and 2:how ...
A: 1) I'll answer this in a minute. 2) Why do you give a shit? Here's the reality: EVERY GIRL has a ...
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| Any chance with her? Sorry for the length. | 11/11/2009 |
Q: Ok, so I was seeing this girl who I really like. It was like love at first site to me. We went on 6 ...
A: Hey John! Yes, a generic email would be fine as long as your communication with her doesn't ...
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| Any chance with her? Sorry for the length. | 11/10/2009 |
Q: Ok, so I was seeing this girl who I really like. It was like love at first site to me. We went on 6 ...
A: a) Yes, the mom can be used to your advantage - possibly. However, I see this working against guys ...
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| Question about approaching women | 11/8/2009 |
Q: I've never being in any relationship for about 2 years now. I know why, but I don't know how to ...
A: You have only a couple of problems here - and both are relatively easy to solve. Let me say this: at ...
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| Consistant Strikeout | 11/4/2009 |
Q: I've always wondered why desirable girls seem to pass me by for the pretty boy types. Here's an ...
A: Glaring at women is necessary for your occupation??? Hmmm...I think I want YOUR job! Let's deal ...
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| I have tried everything, what now? | 11/3/2009 |
Q: first for some prefacing, I will refer the girl as K. And another boy as E. I met K last April. ...
A: Here's the summary of your situation: you want this far more than she does. You're convinced that ...
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| How do I get her to respond - 10,000 miles away? | 11/1/2009 |
Q: I met a girl 5 weeks ago and everything in the world seemed right. Something about her made me feel ...
A: First of all, how are you EVER going to have a "serious relationship" if you and she are 10,000 ...
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| How to get a girl | 11/1/2009 |
Q: I like this girl that is in my grade. We are both in 10th grade which i feel helps alot. The ...
A: Let me get this straight: you were "fine" with her turning you down and you "respected that"??? ...
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| I don't know what to do with my crush | 11/1/2009 |
Q: The thing is that there is this girl i've met since we were in kindergarten.I am in 7 grade ...
A: Why, oh why didn't you move on this when you FIRST had the chance? When you first noticed her ...
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| How do i tell my sister's best friend that I like her? | 10/31/2009 |
Q: I have know her her for about 2 years, she has had no boyfriends, is still a virgin, I don't even ...
A: So if I understand your question, you want to impress her by seeming older than you are. First of ...
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| How do I get this girl to like me again? | 10/30/2009 |
Q: There was this girl who liked me a little while ago. I didn't know her at the time but after a few ...
A: The problem is, she didn't "like you" in the beginning. She simply enjoyed the attention you gave ...
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| How to win the heart of the girl i really like | 10/28/2009 |
Q: I've been in love with this girl in my school for about 8 months already. Initially, she just broke ...
A: Hey Chris! Well, you absolutely don't want to believe what I'm telling you so, sure, go ahead and ...
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| How to win the heart of the girl i really like | 10/26/2009 |
Q: I've been in love with this girl in my school for about 8 months already. Initially, she just broke ...
A: In many ways. Let's just take a look at one example: when you tell a girl how you feel about her, ...
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| How to win the heart of the girl i really like | 10/26/2009 |
Q: I've been in love with this girl in my school for about 8 months already. Initially, she just broke ...
A: No, you no longer have a chance with this girl. You've totally destroyed any chance you might have ...
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| Help Pelase Dortoc | 10/25/2009 |
Q: So heres the story: Im a junior in high school and there is this stunning girl who I know who, if ...
A: First of all, NO WOMAN is "out of your league". She's just a freakin' girl! If you believe she's out ...
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| The first meeting! | 10/21/2009 |
Q: Hope you're fine and thanks again for you respond. Well, you know, some parts of your answer were ...
A: I'm afraid that if you don't copy the original messages, there's no possible way for me to remember ...
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| Playing hard to get | 10/21/2009 |
Q: Dennis, I met this girl, at a Salsa class and we connected instantly. In fact she initiated ...
A: You should respond now. 3-4 days is enough, but 5-7 isn't out of line either. Here's the deal: you ...
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| Question | 10/21/2009 |
Q: Neder. I live in London England and I've discovered over the last few years that women who you'd ...
A: I've "hunted" in almost every large city you can imagine and I never see this sort of reaction. It's ...
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| Playing hard to get | 10/20/2009 |
Q: Dennis, I met this girl, at a Salsa class and we connected instantly. In fact she initiated ...
A: Oh, these sad, ridiculous games women play! All of this is very calculated on her part - and trust ...
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| Hello | 10/20/2009 |
Q: Dennis W. Neder I live in a country that boys and girls are separated from primary school to the end ...
A: You live in a country where that separation hasn't always been the case! What you're asking me is ...
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| Question | 10/20/2009 |
Q: Neder. I live in London England and I've discovered over the last few years that women who you'd ...
A: Why are you waiting for eye contact in order to approach. When you get it, that's great and you ...
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| how to attract women | 10/16/2009 |
Q: I am in my third year in college. Last year, I been briefly talking to my consuelor about sexuality. ...
A: Hey Edward! Yes, you do because if you don't do something today, tomorrow will be exactly the same. ...
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| how to attract women | 10/15/2009 |
Q: I am in my third year in college. Last year, I been briefly talking to my consuelor about sexuality. ...
A: Oh, I see. You don't just lack education, you're also lazy too. You want everything spoon-fed to you ...
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| Girl behavior is a like a sinister mystery novel | 10/15/2009 |
Q: Doc, I have a couple scenarios to run by you. The first was a test, I believe. I was dating this ...
A: First, a couple of points: You don't deal with her depression. She needs to get it handled through ...
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| Girl behavior is a like a sinister mystery novel | 10/15/2009 |
Q: Doc, I have a couple scenarios to run by you. The first was a test, I believe. I was dating this ...
A: I had to laugh at your subject line! Yes, I know that sometimes women seem "sinister". In fact, they ...
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| how to attract women | 10/14/2009 |
Q: I am in my third year in college. Last year, I been briefly talking to my consuelor about sexuality. ...
A: First of all, you need to get over this notion that you're "shy". When people say that they ...
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| girl at school | 10/14/2009 |
Q: So I'm 17, almost 18 and a senior in high school. There is this pretty hot junior girl, apparently ...
A: There are literally hundreds of approaches, but the easiest, and frankly, the best is the "context ...
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| approaching women | 10/14/2009 |
Q: I'm 16 and I've been interested in this girl for quite some time now but we haven't really had much ...
A: Did you read the FAQ's? It talks about a method to approach her call the "context approach". That is ...
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| Messaging tips | 10/13/2009 |
Q: I would just like to ask. How do i know when to text a message to engage a girl in a conversation? ...
A: This one is simple: NEVER, EVER, EVER! You should NEVER use texting to open a conversation with ...
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| girl of your dreams | 10/13/2009 |
Q: i used to hang out with this girl and began to have feelings for her. at an event her ex came up to ...
A: So, if you don't know how she'll deal with things, why are you assuming the worst? Why not assume ...
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| plz help. crush | 10/12/2009 |
Q: "hey im david. im a sophmore in high school and i have a major crush on this girl in my school and i ...
A: No, you wouldn't get laughed at. EVERYONE is afraid of rejection. Your defense is an obvious one: ...
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| approaching women | 10/12/2009 |
Q: I'm 16 and I've been interested in this girl for quite some time now but we haven't really had much ...
A: First of all, at 16, let me say that you're on the right track here. Communication skills are ...
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| The Girl of my Dreams | 10/9/2009 |
Q: I am a junior in highschool and theres this girl in my chemistry class that ive liked since my ...
A: Hell Justin! Ok, so let's analyze this a little deeper: You've been interested in this girl for ...
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| Attracting the perfect gal | 10/8/2009 |
Q: i m in luv with this gal for the past 3 months but i m not sure what she feels about me. We meet ...
A: No, I don't think it will last. Long-distance relationships never work out. There are far too many ...
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| Girl problems | 10/7/2009 |
Q: Ok, me and this girl are really close friends and i really like her but she has a boyfriend in the ...
A: Yes. Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder President ~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~. Remington ...
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| Girl problems | 10/6/2009 |
Q: Ok, me and this girl are really close friends and i really like her but she has a boyfriend in the ...
A: Why did you tell her? In the hopes that she would come back and say, "Oh! Dylan! I feel the same ...
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| Girl problems | 10/6/2009 |
Q: Ok, me and this girl are really close friends and i really like her but she has a boyfriend in the ...
A: Stop being the surrogate boyfriend. In fact, you're just a place-holder until the guy she really ...
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| What can I do? | 10/3/2009 |
Q: There is a young woman in my classes in university, and I have never met someone like her. I know I ...
A: Hey Marcus! At what age? It can happen at any age and depends on the woman. Some never get it. It's ...
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| How to attract the girl i like | 9/26/2009 |
Q: I think you would probably have forgotten me. Here is the link to my previous question. ...
A: Why are you worrying about things that haven't even happened yet? Why are you making up things to be ...
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| I dont know is the have some feeling to me ? | 9/26/2009 |
Q: Sry, Dr, my english is not good, coz i'm a asian. I need ur help. The girl who I met is a white ...
A: First of all, you absolutely HAVE TO get off the texting!!! Texting makes you take all the emotion ...
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| How to attract the girl i like | 9/26/2009 |
Q: I think you would probably have forgotten me. Here is the link to my previous question. ...
A: Unfortunately, it's been removed from the server. Yes, when you get back to her, set the date for ...
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| Girl in Bio Class | 9/26/2009 |
Q: So there is this girl in my biology class, the first few classes it didn't seem that she even ...
A: I think she likes you too, but I don't know what sort of help you are asking for. If you want to ...
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| please i'm fraustrated | 9/25/2009 |
Q: i'm 23yrs old guy and i've been with a lot of girls about 15 girls since i started love(proposing) ...
A: This is a very severe situation. You need to seek counseling right away - don't wait. Your ...
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| Female friend I like who I thought liked me | 9/23/2009 |
Q: I met this lady about 4 months ago and we chatted over the Internet for awhile through e-mail. A ...
A: Seriously? You'd be "happy" to have her friendship if that's all she'll give you? Seriously? Is that ...
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| Girl I like Ignores me | 9/22/2009 |
Q: so it all started like this... There's this girl i like from church and this summer we went to ...
A: Hey Jack! My question to you: why are you worried about things that haven't happened? Stop ...
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| I dont know what to do... | 9/22/2009 |
Q: There is a girl at a school which is next to mine.I fell in love with her i think...Could you please ...
A: That's actually a very huge question! I can't possible give you everything you're going to need ...
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| We go out but she has a distance boyfriend | 9/22/2009 |
Q: This is rather a long question...am 30 n she is 23. I met this girl through my ex-gf, who her ...
A: Hey Athi! Yes. If you go out as "friends" you become friends and women simply don't enter ...
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| how to back my love | 9/21/2009 |
Q: she was married and she is in the border of divorce.i am working abroad and she is in my ...
A: Please stop doing this to yourself. You have focused all your energy on this one rude idiot. What's ...
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| How to get the girl i like | 9/19/2009 |
Q: Well there's this girl i like whom I have been friends with for about eight months.Initailly when i ...
A: Hey Morgan! Your exams are the perfect reason to give her distance right now. She's not going to ...
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| How to get the girl i like | 9/18/2009 |
Q: Well there's this girl i like whom I have been friends with for about eight months.Initailly when i ...
A: The feminine mind is one of the most powerful forces in the universe. In fact, she can do more to ...
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| How to get a girl back u already had.. | 9/17/2009 |
Q: Okay i am currently a senior in high school. I have had the biggest crush on this girl all through ...
A: Here's a reality that women HATE me to tell you guys: women want to be the ones to chase, not to BE ...
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| How to get the girl i like | 9/17/2009 |
Q: Well there's this girl i like whom I have been friends with for about eight months.Initailly when i ...
A: Oh! How often I hear this story - guys that have great chances with great girls only to blow them by ...
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| a girl makes drives me crazy!!!! | 9/16/2009 |
Q: look....she is a very pretty girl,she has some children acts..but i love her sooooooo much,the ...
A: Your question is too vague for anything but a very generic answer: find out what she wants and needs ...
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| how to back my love | 9/15/2009 |
Q: she was married and she is in the border of divorce.i am working abroad and she is in my ...
A: You have two major problems here: 1) You're long-distance, and 2) she's a manipulative and ...
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| Girl I like Ignores me | 9/14/2009 |
Q: so it all started like this... There's this girl i like from church and this summer we went to ...
A: Yes, you still have a chance. I can't tell you how good or bad a chance you have however. It depends ...
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| i like her but does she like me | 9/14/2009 |
Q: hey i have a very difficult situation iam 13 and i know this girl called alex she is very beautiful ...
A: She likes you. If she didn't she wouldn't have told you she wanted to go out with you. Best ...
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| Girl I like Ignores me | 9/14/2009 |
Q: so it all started like this... There's this girl i like from church and this summer we went to ...
A: You think you haven't done anything? My friend, you've committed the cardinal sin (pun intended) of ...
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| We go out but she has a distance boyfriend | 9/11/2009 |
Q: This is rather a long question...am 30 n she is 23. I met this girl through my ex-gf, who her ...
A: First of all, there is no "right time" to tell her about your feelings for her. If you do that, ...
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| girl problems man :( | 9/10/2009 |
Q: ok, plz dont make fun of me for any reason at all, thanks. Im in the 9th grade and i really like ...
A: Don't make fun of you???? I'm not making ANY promises here! You have to step up and take your ...
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| Is there still hope to bring back my love | 9/8/2009 |
Q: I've written to you about two months ago about my girlfriend of more than a year who wanted a ...
A: Here's what's going on: When you told her "no" to the break you gave her real hope about having a ...
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| HEEEELP! | 9/6/2009 |
Q: Hey there Dr. Neder, I'm going to go straight to the point here, iv liked this girl for about a year ...
A: Wait a minute here. If you and she are going out (as in a "date" - NOT "hanging out" - that's what ...
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| What should I do? | 9/3/2009 |
Q: Neder, I'll try my best to explain things in a nutshell for you. I've liked this girl alot at my ...
A: Wow - way to play it cool. In fact, "cold" is a better word. So now, here's what she REALLY knows ...
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| this girl | 9/3/2009 |
Q: today i got this girls number while i was talking 2 her. i was wondering if you could anser a few ...
A: First of all, damn-good job!! You got her digits. I'm very proud of you. I know that doesn't seem ...
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| Propose a girl | 8/29/2009 |
Q: Recently I had a crush on a girl who happens to work in the same company with me.But we are in ...
A: Here's the problem: you went right in for what you wanted (normally a good thing) but had absolutely ...
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| this chick | 8/28/2009 |
Q: hey im a senior in high school and i just talked to this girl a lil bit in class today and i asked ...
A: Writing something generic isn't going to get you many points. I don't know her and I can't tell you ...
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| this girl | 8/24/2009 |
Q: i wanna find a way to talk to her or get her to notice me or something but idk how. most stuff ...
A: What you're asking for is what so many guys ask me for - the sure, magical thing that will make her ...
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| Help | 8/23/2009 |
Q: Hello Im Adam Cavanagh i have had so many relationships but feel so wierd i really like this girl ...
A: So, what you're really asking me is this: "how can I impress this girl so much that she falls in ...
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| I need help | 8/18/2009 |
Q: Neder. My name is Aaron im 25 years of age and ive recently met this girl she is 22 and her name is ...
A: I love the idea that you're trying to conserve energy here by not using any punctuation whatsoever, ...
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| i need sum help and advice, plz help | 8/17/2009 |
Q: hey doc my name is adam, ive been talkin to this girl for about 2 months now. her boyfriend broke up ...
A: Why in the hell would you tell her exactly what you DO NOT want only because you think that's what ...
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| close friend to girlfriend | 8/16/2009 |
Q: I've known this girl for many years (more than 5 years) by now. We have been chatting online since ...
A: You know that you have probably ruined your chances with her, right? All this on-line stuff and ...
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| Giving time and space | 8/12/2009 |
Q: I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for a year. Her parents and sibling like me and my ...
A: Hey Elvin! No, you weren't too harsh with your methodology, but keep in mind that you need to make ...
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| Giving time and space | 8/11/2009 |
Q: I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for a year. Her parents and sibling like me and my ...
A: Your posture? Absolute resolve to get what you want just the way you want it. Thus, you're going to ...
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| hey dr help me out plz | 8/11/2009 |
Q: im in need of ur help doc..im kinda stuck with this woman im beginnin to fall for..she and i both ...
A: You absolutely do not want to leave this in her hands to decide. If you do that, not only will she ...
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| Giving time and space | 8/11/2009 |
Q: I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for a year. Her parents and sibling like me and my ...
A: You're making a classic mistake that many men make. You think that by treating it as a non-issue ...
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| Dating Advice | 8/10/2009 |
Q: Doc, I am very close with a wonderful woman who, like me, is in a long term relationship. We are ...
A: It's unfortunate, but often, what women say and what women do are at odds. I constantly hear women ...
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| How to win the girl i like who has a boyfriend | 8/8/2009 |
Q: I've liked this girl for about 3-4 months already.Initially when i got to know her, she was really ...
A: Hey Bobby! There's only hope for you if you'll do what you have to do; and frankly, I'm not sure ...
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| In the depths of despair against all logic | 8/6/2009 |
Q: Neder. I have unexpectedly fallen incredibly deeply in love with one of my new employees that is ...
A: To be frank; I wouldn't call what you have "beautiful" at all. I'd never wish this on anyone. I'm ...
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| How do I get my ex attracted to me again? | 8/5/2009 |
Q: My ex and I have been separated for almost a year and were together for over 3 years. I ended up ...
A: You haven't given me much to work with here, but I'll give you some generic ideas on what you can ...
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| In the depths of despair against all logic | 8/5/2009 |
Q: Neder. I have unexpectedly fallen incredibly deeply in love with one of my new employees that is ...
A: Frankly, what I fear is that it CAN happen again! In fact, it very well might with many other women ...
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| Q | 7/31/2009 |
Q: I am single 34 years old male. I recently moved from USA to Greece for work, and I will stay working ...
A: If your cousins don't want to give you her number, they aren't going to do it. This concerns me. ...
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| Between a friendship and something more | 7/31/2009 |
Q: I've known this girl for about a year now and I like her a lot. to cut a long story short I've lost ...
A: Let's begin with confidence. Most people mistakenly believe that confidence is something you own. ...
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| ONE WAY LOVE | 7/30/2009 |
Q: how are you doing today? I hope that you are doing well! Well I’m going to get to the point. You see ...
A: I don't know what advice you want to give me. Anything logical I tell you is just going to be a ...
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| How do I get her? | 7/30/2009 |
Q: I'm nineteen and I met this girl of the same age a year back in 2008. She was a waiter and I was a ...
A: Ok, let's deal with this first: you DO NOT "love" this girl. KC, you don't even know her regardless ...
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| I like this girl but don't know what to do pleas help. | 7/24/2009 |
Q: Her parents and my parents are very good friends so I have known her for a little less than a year. ...
A: It'll also be awkward for her if she turns you down. There are a number of problems here. First of ...
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| Woman Help | 7/22/2009 |
Q: Ive just met a girl that im extremely interested in, i dont know if she likes me back, and i dont ...
A: It doesn't matter one lick if she's interested in you or not. You can create interest and ...
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| How to win the girl i like who has a boyfriend | 7/21/2009 |
Q: I've liked this girl for about 3-4 months already.Initially when i got to know her, she was really ...
A: This is a common misconception that most guys carry. They think that they have to be in the girl's ...
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| How to win the girl i like who has a boyfriend | 7/20/2009 |
Q: I've liked this girl for about 3-4 months already.Initially when i got to know her, she was really ...
A: Frankly, you may have totally missed your chance. You needed to move things forward when you had ...
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| I think I found the woman of my dream | 7/20/2009 |
Q: This is my first time writing an email to you, so please excuse me for lack of formality. I have got ...
A: Wow, you're sure giving this woman a lot of power over you. Let me ask you (rhetorically): do you ...
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| Minor help bro | 7/17/2009 |
Q: Im in high school and during the summer Im in camp with this girl. How can I get closer to her. ...
A: First of all, go to camp and have a great time. Make a lot of friends - don't focus all your ...
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| Will she trample her own heart? | 7/17/2009 |
Q: Neder I am a 30-year old male. I think you can help me. After an unsuccessful marriage I have ...
A: Why would you accept such a risk? Here's the problem: you've put all the power into her hands and ...
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| Friend zone | 7/17/2009 |
Q: well first im 16 years old, and i want to figure out how 2 get the woman of my dreams. I knew this ...
A: What makes you think she has you in the friend-zone. Are you two hanging out like friends (instead ...
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| Will she trample her own heart? | 7/16/2009 |
Q: Neder I am a 30-year old male. I think you can help me. After an unsuccessful marriage I have ...
A: Since you're a religious man, let me tell you a story: An old man was at home when it started ...
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| Friends n more | 7/15/2009 |
Q: Well doc, we've bin frendz fr 7 years now...bt we lost touch in the middle for about 3 years. 3 ...
A: You need to absolutely stick by your guns here. You are clear on what you want and you have to avoid ...
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| How do I attrack when I have two kids. | 7/14/2009 |
Q: How do u attrick women when u have two kids, seems like their scared away or only want tell me how ...
A: Dating when you have kids can be something of a challenge. Frankly, it's not as much of a problem ...
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| Attracting | 7/14/2009 |
Q: Sorry 2 disturb u again & again on same matter.Sir,i've already askd abt kissing my girl frnd.1 more ...
A: Hey Soorya! You're trying to use tricks again. Think about this: is that really the sort of ...
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| Attracting | 7/14/2009 |
Q: I love a girl deeply.She too loves me.I'm VERY VERY eager 2 kiss her.But she says everything after ...
A: Exchanging a marriage for sex not only is completely unhealthy but it absolutely never works. Think ...
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| Whats wrong with me? | 7/14/2009 |
Q: Mr. Neder, I am a 24 year old college guy in Alabama. I would consider myself to be in the top 3% of ...
A: Here's the problem: you think that holding a conversation is about impressing a woman. It absolutely ...
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| Attracting | 7/14/2009 |
Q: I love a girl deeply.She too loves me.I'm VERY VERY eager 2 kiss her.But she says everything after ...
A: Huh? She "loves you" but won't kiss you and is only willing to trade marriage for kissing? What ...
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| How can I reveal my feelings to a girl I like without chickening out? | 7/12/2009 |
Q: Hey there. I met a girl a week ago and she is really amazing. I'm a friendly guy, I get along with ...
A: Hmmm....and you think *I* got it wrong? Look David, if you know better what you're doing than me ...
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| A girl i like.. | 7/10/2009 |
Q: Ok, so theres this girl i like. We talk normally and i'm a good friend to her. But a few days ago i ...
A: The very first thing you need to do is end things with this "friend". In fact, he's no friend of ...
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| cheat sheet | 7/10/2009 |
Q: I'm trying to compress some of the concepts you've discussed in BAMII around modalities and ...
A: Unfortunately, your email address was stripped from this message. You'll have to write to me ...
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| does she like me | 7/9/2009 |
Q: i have a friend who lives in a different city 3 hour away but goes to school an hour away and i go ...
A: Nice story. I have absolutely no idea if she likes you. Just because someone asks you if they're ...
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| approach method | 7/8/2009 |
Q: Hey Dr. D I've asked you some questions in the past that worked, you told me about like the ...
A: What you're thinking is that you walk right up to her and ask her for her number - which you won't ...
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| friends or..? | 6/30/2009 |
Q: .my story begin severalyears ago with this girl//at first we became friend,really close one.but then ...
A: I'm afraid I don't read minds. The only one that knows why she wants to go out with you she her. I ...
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| HELP in full | 6/29/2009 |
Q: Advertisement You are here: Experts > People/Relationships > Dating > How to Attract the ...
A: Flowers? Let her earn them. When she does (by being worthy of a gift and I can't possibly tell you ...
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| HELP cont | 6/29/2009 |
Q: and although the advice was helpful as again friday and saturday we ended up not being able to keep ...
A: I get many, many hundreds of these questions every single week and have answered over 30,000 of them ...
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| Getting the one! | 6/29/2009 |
Q: I have fallen for this girl. But I don't think she knows I like her, and I'm not to sure she likes ...
A: The real question is why did you let things become "just friends". It's YOUR job to move this where ...
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| How To Impress a Unknown Girl on Orkut | 6/28/2009 |
Q: I have been to Orkut for over an year now. Most of the friends in my profile are the person whom I ...
A: That is a HUGE question that would take me weeks to answer! There isn't a line or some magic bullet ...
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| Amazing girl | 6/28/2009 |
Q: so I'm taking this girl on a date in a couple weeks. (she is a busy girl) i know her from work. i am ...
A: There is NO girl out of your league Mark. Don't ever let yourself think that. It sets you up to do ...
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| Deprogramming | 6/27/2009 |
Q: Dr. Neder. I'm having a problem finding that deprogramming guide on your website. I desperately ...
A: Hey Dan! No worries. Go to: http://BeingAMan.com and click on Self Help. Next, click on ...
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| She's the girl i want | 6/26/2009 |
Q: Yesterday i was at the mall and i saw the most beautiful girl in my life working in the food court. ...
A: Wow, you have so many mistakes going on here, I don't know where to begin! First of all you have ...
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| HELP | 6/24/2009 |
Q: right introduction out the way, Basically in march of this year i split with my fiancee of three and ...
A: Here's the problem: you're listening to her words and ignoring her actions. Her actions are telling ...
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| How do I approach this girl? | 6/23/2009 |
Q: I have read some of your responses to some of the questions asked here, and I think that you will ...
A: Simple: boldness. Stop using all your own pre-conceived ideas about who she is and what she ...
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| Please help me! | 6/22/2009 |
Q: i met a girl about 3 months back at the university. I came from a breakup in a 5 year relationship ...
A: Who cares what her ex-boyfriend did or didn't do? More to the point, were you right there to see it? ...
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| How do i get the girl of my dreams? | 6/21/2009 |
Q: i feel a little strange doing this but i really need help.I have known this girl for about 5 years ...
A: Ok, let's get this fixed first: you don't love her. You don't even know her. What you're in love ...
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| Please help me! | 6/21/2009 |
Q: i met a girl about 3 months back at the university. I came from a breakup in a 5 year relationship ...
A: Of course she's avoiding you now. What else can she do? She was hoping to find a man (where she ...
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| A female friend | 6/21/2009 |
Q: A friend of mine and I have known each other for about a year, just as friends. We have dated once ...
A: Wait a minute. This is a "mutual friend"? Does this "friend" know you like this girl? How close ...
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| answering machines | 6/19/2009 |
Q: Is it ok to leave a message on a voicemail about setting a date? I get this from time to time... ...
A: First of all, congratulations on reading my books. Most guys come here and expect "progressives". In ...
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| little help | 6/19/2009 |
Q: Neder I just need a little help. I don't really have a problem getting girls. And first off let me ...
A: Women are notoriously good at keeping their real agendas hidden from you. They do this for a number ...
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| atrracting a favorite girl | 6/15/2009 |
Q: i saw this girl in my county,and liked her.i'm a little shy approaching her.my friend knows her and ...
A: First of all, let's be clear here: you don't love her yet. By believing such a thing you also give ...
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| Woman of my dreams | 6/14/2009 |
Q: I met this girl 11 years ago when I was a freshamn in high school never spoke to her.Found her on a ...
A: No, you shouldn't tell her. What do you hope to gain - that she'll tell you that she's in love with ...
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| How do I win the Love of my Life back ? | 6/8/2009 |
Q: Neder, I'm in serious trouble, because I have acted like a total idiot with my women. I have ...
A: You have a number of huge problems going on here. The first problem (and frankly, the biggest) is ...
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| What should I do about this woman? | 6/7/2009 |
Q: I met this woman several months ago and we hit it off very well. It actually felt like we had know ...
A: First, yes, you're getting played. She wants to go out and explore to see what's out there but also ...
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| How to win a girl i like | 6/6/2009 |
Q: my name is Tom. I like this girl in my school. We are good friends and we converse with each other ...
A: Yes, you definitely have to ask her out! It doesn't have to seem awkward at all. Just say, "Hey - ...
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| How to win a girl i like | 6/5/2009 |
Q: my name is Tom. I like this girl in my school. We are good friends and we converse with each other ...
A: Forget trying to screw with her head. That's just going to get you into trouble with her. Instead, ...
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| Technical Questions | 6/5/2009 |
Q: Nedar, I really appreciate your help and every time I asked you a question, I progress and improved ...
A: 1. So, let me get this straight - you want to artificially manipulate the speed of things in this ...
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| The girl of my dreams | 6/4/2009 |
Q: there's this girl name's Kayce, that i'm absolutely in love with. And i'm afraid that i've ruined my ...
A: No, you shouldn't tell her how you feel about her. What you're hoping is that by telling her this ...
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| Powerful words | 6/4/2009 |
Q: i want to know how 2 win a first time girl who u really like a lot.
A: The problem with your question is the very foundation and premise of it. You think there are ...
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| ? | 6/3/2009 |
Q: i like this girl alot but she says she likes me 2 but she likes this other perverted guy what do i ...
A: Become a perverted guy yourself! Estuardo, she's told you she likes you. Why are you worried about ...
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| Magical words , seduce her , communication | 6/2/2009 |
Q: hey Im john and I'm in high school I'm 17 I have big question. So there this girl I like she 17 ...
A: Hey John! Don't tell her that you like her. The reason you want to do that is that you hope she'll ...
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| Trying to figure out this girl | 6/2/2009 |
Q: I've worked at a great company for 7 years, and for the last year, i've become friends with a ...
A: What a minute. How could you have spent all this time with her talking about personal things and not ...
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| Magical words , seduce her , communication | 6/2/2009 |
Q: hey Im john and I'm in high school I'm 17 I have big question. So there this girl I like she 17 ...
A: Actually, you didn't do what I told you because the articles linked to the FAQ's are all free. ...
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| How Do I Start with the Girl I really Like. | 6/1/2009 |
Q: I am really interested in a girl. She is so cute.But the problem is that,I am not getting a chance ...
A: Hold on a second. She works in a pub and you can't start a conversation with her??? Pubs are all ...
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| Magical words , seduce her , communication | 6/1/2009 |
Q: hey Im john and I'm in high school I'm 17 I have big question. So there this girl I like she 17 ...
A: I agree that you need help on your communication skills! Here's exactly the magic you're looking ...
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| need help please | 5/28/2009 |
Q: Neder, there is the girl I'm really starting to like very much. I am 23 and she is 19. We have been ...
A: Didn't I tell you that this was quickly becoming a "friendship"? Ryan, it's too late. Once this ...
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| moving on to try to become friends | 5/26/2009 |
Q: There's this girl i like at my work that i started working with, i asked her out and was told she ...
A: Hey Zendo! It's only worth trying to become her friend if that's all you ever want - or think ...
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| This Girl | 5/23/2009 |
Q: So, had the date all set up for tomorrow night, just got a text from her saying she is going to have ...
A: She cancels via text? What a coward! You understood her rudeness? What sort of coward does that make ...
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| closing and quality women | 5/23/2009 |
Q: hey doc, its jared 19 comin at ya from lil ole west virginia, Doc i have two questions ive noticed ...
A: First, let's deal with the game players. You have no idea how often I have to redirect dumb (and ...
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| This Girl | 5/22/2009 |
Q: so i called and told her i made plans...but she already had plans :( and for the next night :( BUT! ...
A: Good job on setting the date. Read my FAQ's at http://BeingAMan.com, under Self Help about ...
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| Is this girl avoiding me ? | 5/21/2009 |
Q: There is a girl (TOO Shy) at work who's become a friend but i think she may have liked me. The ...
A: Hey Dan! You respond just as you do with any Attention Whore ("AW") - you make delivery of ANY AND ...
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| This girl | 5/21/2009 |
Q: ok so this girl really is that girl of my dreams. My work takes me to different car dealerships all ...
A: Hey Mark! Sounds good. It's a little early and you have a long break (in "girl years") after it, ...
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| This girl | 5/21/2009 |
Q: ok so this girl really is that girl of my dreams. My work takes me to different car dealerships all ...
A: At least you see this in the light in which it's intended. You'd be surprised at how many guys think ...
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| Need help please... | 5/21/2009 |
Q: i really could use a little bit of help, oh who am i kidding i need a whole lot of help. Im 17 right ...
A: You're making a classic mistake with girls. You're trying to entertain them - not engage them. These ...
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| This girl | 5/20/2009 |
Q: ok so this girl really is that girl of my dreams. My work takes me to different car dealerships all ...
A: ...and you don't think you're becoming a nuisance to her now??? Mark! Man! Really??? You're trying ...
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| Okay so now what (continued) | 5/19/2009 |
Q: Wrote you a few weeks back about a woman who I believe to be the girl of my dreams. I am very ...
A: I'm afraid that if you don't include the previous communications, I have to possible way of ...
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| Is this girl avoiding me ? | 5/19/2009 |
Q: There is a girl (TOO Shy) at work who's become a friend but i think she may have liked me. The ...
A: There's nothing so distant as technology. With it, she can make you THINK she's interested while ...
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| confused guy | 5/19/2009 |
Q: Hey, Well, there was this girl that I really liked in my school, I'm a senior and she's a sophmore, ...
A: I think you need to ask her, but before you do, consider this: What's really important about prom ...
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| how do i.... | 5/18/2009 |
Q: Hi my name is Tyler and i was wondering how to get this girl i really like?
A: Go give her father 2 ox, 8 chickens and $22.50. Tyler, really? Go talk to her! Get to know her, ...
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| Is this girl avoiding me ? | 5/18/2009 |
Q: There is a girl (TOO Shy) at work who's become a friend but i think she may have liked me. The ...
A: She's using the texts to keep you away. Kick this game player to the curb and go find someone worthy ...
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| Girl Problems | 5/17/2009 |
Q: Okay, i'm a junior and i have liked this girl for like ever. She's my best friend and i don't want ...
A: Hey Ralph! Go for it! Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder President ...
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| Girl Problems | 5/17/2009 |
Q: Okay, i'm a junior and i have liked this girl for like ever. She's my best friend and i don't want ...
A: You're reading too much into this. If you doubt what I'm say then, the very next time you see her, ...
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| Flirting Signs are loud and clear | 5/17/2009 |
Q: There is a girl I recently met that flirts a lot with me. All the signals are there but when i ...
A: Oh Kevin! EVERY GIRL has a "boyfriend"! Don't you know that? OF COURSE she's going to tell you this ...
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| Girl Problems | 5/15/2009 |
Q: Okay, i'm a junior and i have liked this girl for like ever. She's my best friend and i don't want ...
A: If you've degraded your association with this girl to a friendship, you may not have anything to ...
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| confused about a girl i work with | 5/15/2009 |
Q: There's this girl i like at my work that i started working with, i asked her out and was told she ...
A: Email? Weak, weak, weak! NEVER ask someone out on a first (or second or third) date via email! It ...
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| confused about a girl i work with | 5/14/2009 |
Q: There's this girl i like at my work that i started working with, i asked her out and was told she ...
A: I don't think asking her out was stupid at all. I think accepting that "I'm seeing someone" line ...
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| How do I get her back | 5/13/2009 |
Q: Well I've known this girl for about 2 years I dated her for about a year and we broke up cuase I ...
A: She's not going to break up with him only to have nothing to fall into. If you don't tell her ...
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| Having trouble finding trouble drumming up conversation | 5/12/2009 |
Q: How are you doing Dr.? I've recently purchased and read BAM1, and feel fairly confident in ...
A: You're doing very well here. I'm very proud of you for thinking in terms of "context" for your ...
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| loner | 5/11/2009 |
Q: I am a 30 yr old male. I am a good person but not a people person. I prefer to be quiet and by ...
A: Yes, there's a girl just like you out there. The problem is that people like you are breeding ...
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| kinda confused about this girl i like but she was my best friends crush | 5/11/2009 |
Q: hey doc..I'm going to just be straight about this..i like this girl from grammar school days but my ...
A: Sorry, I don't believe you. Either way, if she won't go on a date with you then kick her to the ...
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| kinda confused about this girl i like but she was my best friends crush | 5/11/2009 |
Q: hey doc..I'm going to just be straight about this..i like this girl from grammar school days but my ...
A: Boy! You sure think I'm dumb! Yeah, right - you got permission from your friend within minutes of ...
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| kinda confused about this girl i like but she was my best friends crush | 5/10/2009 |
Q: hey doc..I'm going to just be straight about this..i like this girl from grammar school days but my ...
A: Ok, I'll be straight with you too: if this is really your friend's crush and he's still connected to ...
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| need help please | 5/8/2009 |
Q: Neder, there is the girl I'm really starting to like very much. I am 23 and she is 19. We have been ...
A: SOOO many mistakes, so little time. Tsk, tsk. Yes, she's interested - or at least, she WAS ...
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| how do find her? | 5/7/2009 |
Q: im 20 years old and i seem to always settle for girls that arent exactly what i want. what i want is ...
A: Frankly, this is all a subtle game. The short answer to your question is that you need to learn to ...
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| Found her, now how to get her... | 5/7/2009 |
Q: I own a small business and have a woman 12 years younger than I working with me. She is a single ...
A: You have to decide whether you want an employee or a girlfriend. It looks like you're not going to ...
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| friend or more? | 5/3/2009 |
Q: ok well i guess i should say first that ive never gone to this extent to find out if a girl likes me ...
A: Why did you give her a chance to cancel on the date by confirming??? You should have confirmed it ...
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| Big women | 5/2/2009 |
Q: Do you have any advice on how I can attract big breasted women for dates? I'm not concerned if they ...
A: Why are you trying to "attract" them in the first place? You don't do that, you BUILD attraction. ...
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| question | 5/1/2009 |
Q: how do you get a girl to like you.
A: You cover yourself in chocolate and wait outside her window singing, "Candy Man". There's not ...
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| this girl i like... | 4/30/2009 |
Q: I just saw this girl I knew in higj school. I haven't seen her in like at least 8 years. Now I saw ...
A: Good job on closing for her number! DO NOT tell her these things! What are you hoping, that she's ...
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| friend or more? | 4/27/2009 |
Q: ok well i guess i should say first that ive never gone to this extent to find out if a girl likes me ...
A: Yes, she likes you as more than a friend. Yes, you have a chance. You need to STOP holding all your ...
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| gettin a girl | 4/26/2009 |
Q:
A: You seem to think that there's a single approach that works for every woman. There isn't. Learning ...
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| Back in my life | 4/23/2009 |
Q: "Hi, So i am currently in grad school. I met a girl in my class almost a year ago now and we became ...
A: Hey Lance! So what are you going to do if she turns you down and won't discuss things with you? ...
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| The Approach | 4/21/2009 |
Q: Hey Doc, Ok, in general I wouldn't say I am bad with women. I am male, 20 years old, 6'2, athletic ...
A: You're making a classic male mistake here. In fact, I've already answered this exact same question ...
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| What should I do now - Follow up | 4/20/2009 |
Q: Hey, my name is Minh. I'm Vietnamese. I am just 15 years-old but you know, human feelings are never ...
A: Hey Minh! Did you bother to read my last response? No, you really don't want to be her friend. ...
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| Back in my life | 4/19/2009 |
Q: "Hi, So i am currently in grad school. I met a girl in my class almost a year ago now and we became ...
A: First of all, DO NOT become her friend! That's just more conciliation and weakness. It's like you're ...
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| How to find a girlfriend | 4/19/2009 |
Q: Where are some of the best places for a shy guy like myself to find a girlfriend to get to know ...
A: Man! Are you going to hate my answer! Well, let's get to it anyway.... Where do you meet women? ...
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| generation gap | 4/19/2009 |
Q: Belove, I'm a 28 year old woman and I've moved in with my parents for just this one month while I ...
A: I think your mother has a problem. I don't know what that is, but my response would have been, "Well ...
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| What are my chances. | 4/19/2009 |
Q: Alright doc, give it to me straight. Im 5'3, about 10 pounds overweight, a minority, pretty dumb ...
A: Your chances are about the same as every other guy - that's the reality. Ray, you are taking what ...
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| What should I do now - Follow up | 4/19/2009 |
Q: Hey, my name is Minh. I'm Vietnamese. I am just 15 years-old but you know, human feelings are never ...
A: Yes, you can get anything you want - but not anybody. Doing that would involve setting goals for ...
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| What should I do now | 4/17/2009 |
Q: Hey, my name is Minh. I'm Vietnamese. I am just 15 years-old but you know, human feelings are never ...
A: In life, you can have anything you want - but not anybody. This girl has told you in words and ...
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| Back in my life | 4/17/2009 |
Q: "Hi, So i am currently in grad school. I met a girl in my class almost a year ago now and we became ...
A: Wait a minute - your friends "broke it off"?? What the hell kind of "friends" are these? More ...
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| i like this girl but im not sure if she likes me | 4/17/2009 |
Q: im 14 and this girl and i have been friends since like kindergarten and im starting to notice her a ...
A: You haven't told me why she said "no". What excuse did she give you? Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. ...
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| hello,tell me what am gonna do with this | 4/15/2009 |
Q: i have just ask her 4just a cup of tea ,i had called her so many times on the phone ,but she is not ...
A: If you call her up and she gives you excuses, yes, she's not interested. Women are notoriously bad ...
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| What should I do? What can I do? | 4/15/2009 |
Q: I met this woman online about 7 months ago. She started out friendly and exciting and it she was ...
A: This is why I constantly tell people to avoid using the internet to meet people. Sure it seems easy ...
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| what should i do? | 4/14/2009 |
Q: i want a girl who is a friend of mine. i know her about 7 years, we went to the same school and we ...
A: Here's the problem you have: you've done absolutely everything in your power to be what you're ...
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| My girl friend | 4/13/2009 |
Q: welll...here goes my subject...hope you can answer it. I have a girl friend in my school who i like ...
A: First of all, let's not tie our hands here. You're using terms like "love" and "too shy". All these ...
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| question | 4/13/2009 |
Q: I was wondering, is it okay to openly ask a woman if she has someone already, or it is better to ...
A: No, it's not ok to openly ask her, unless you do it in a very direct, powerful way built upon an ...
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| Too innocent? | 4/10/2009 |
Q: Hey. I am 17 years old. Graduating high school in June. I never had a girlfriend so far. All my ...
A: Your first problem here is starting them at the friend-level. Once you start this, it NEVER becomes ...
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| Why women love men | 4/7/2009 |
Q: Hey Doc , i have a question that im been thinking about for a long time ,why are women attracted to ...
A: The reason why women see this as weakness is through their own feelings of weakness. They equate ...
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| Bit rusty... | 4/7/2009 |
Q: What's up Doc, My name is Kenny. I live in a small middle class town in the Midwest. I've been ...
A: Sounds good? No, it doesn't sound good! Two years? Why have you wasted two years on just one woman? ...
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| Why women love men | 4/6/2009 |
Q: Hey Doc , i have a question that im been thinking about for a long time ,why are women attracted to ...
A: Some of the questions I get on this board are more of the same and I answer them. Some of them (like ...
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| "Hanging out" vs. going on a "date" vs "Going out" | 4/4/2009 |
Q: Hey Dr., saw a previous post about the trend of "hangin out" verses "dating" and your confusion of ...
A: Actually, my confusion wasn't so much about where it's coming from as why it's continuing. "Hanging ...
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| Why isn't this girl replying ? | 3/31/2009 |
Q: This girl & i have been texting each other lately & things have been going well. We went out as ...
A: Hey Dan! That's great news about her contacting you - you dodged a bullet my brother. I hope you ...
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| Why isn't this girl replying ? | 3/30/2009 |
Q: This girl & i have been texting each other lately & things have been going well. We went out as ...
A: Ok, let's see if I can make this more clear to you: "Hanging out" is what friends do. Guys and ...
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| Why isn't this girl replying ? | 3/30/2009 |
Q: This girl & i have been texting each other lately & things have been going well. We went out as ...
A: No, it's "cos" you're being a pussy by "hanging out" with her instead of being a man and going on a ...
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| want to love someone :) | 3/29/2009 |
Q: I am 27 year old boy I want to do love with a gal in my life b4 my marry but neither my fortune is ...
A: Ok, first mistake you're making: you think that you need to delivery "The Line" to a woman when you ...
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| Help with girl of my dreams | 3/28/2009 |
Q: Alright, here is the deal. I am 32yrs old. The last relationship I had was years ago, and I had my ...
A: I wish you hadn't gone in to tell her you were interested in her. Do you really think she didn't ...
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| Shy girl | 3/26/2009 |
Q: it's me Greg again. I wrote you just a few days ago about this girl I like in my class and you ...
A: No, you don't make her comfortable first. Women don't want to be "comfortable" they want to be ...
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| Old friend | 3/25/2009 |
Q: I had a girlfriend. we split few years back in highschool now we have planned for a meet. well my ...
A: Initially, you know that she's not. She's probably not looking to get laid. She's looking to meet ...
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| Beautiful girl | 3/24/2009 |
Q: Okay now I'm a 23 year old guy and I consider myself okay looking, however I have never had a ...
A: What a lovely excuse -- "old school". Ok, then go back to 1950 and become the friend of some girl ...
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| Beautiful girl | 3/23/2009 |
Q: Okay now I'm a 23 year old guy and I consider myself okay looking, however I have never had a ...
A: You want to be friends first and think that being good looking are your keys to success with women? ...
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| Younger Dating | 3/23/2009 |
Q: i am not an adult i am a freshman in High School, i have been ready to date for a bit now(since year ...
A: What you're really asking me is this: "how do I get this girl to really like me so that she'll do ...
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| Pulling at a party. | 3/22/2009 |
Q: Hey. I was recently at a party and it was there i suddenly realised, I have no idea on how to ...
A: This is another great question! I've had some really terrific questions this morning! Let's get ...
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| Impressing her | 3/16/2009 |
Q: Ok, I'm 19 and my crush is 18. We graduated with eachother last year and we are really good friends. ...
A: Wow! Where do I start with you here? Alex, if there's a mistake - or mistaken belief - you've ...
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| Courage to talk to girls | 3/14/2009 |
Q: I am fifteen and a little bit of a nerd. I am also very shy. I would like to be able to talk to ...
A: Yes, I'd like this for you too. Did you have a question in there somewhere? Ok, I guess that you ...
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| girlfriend | 3/10/2009 |
Q: hey i am 17 years old and there is this girl i like but i cant talk to her because i don't know what ...
A: No, there's not enough context. Alex, I get this question about 4-5 times a week, "What should I ...
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| a little direction | 3/10/2009 |
Q: neder i wrote to you about a week ago about my selfish girlfriend which i have since left and cut ...
A: Do you have a phobia about using periods (.) or something? It sure makes it difficult to know when ...
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| girlfriend | 3/9/2009 |
Q: hey i am 17 years old and there is this girl i like but i cant talk to her because i don't know what ...
A: Although there are many different ways to approach someone the very best (and easiest too) is to use ...
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| how to stop looking desperate | 3/7/2009 |
Q: What's up Doc. I am a 20 year old guy who has never been in a relationship, kissed a girl, or even ...
A: Frankly, I don't recommend that you "stop looking and wait for love to find [you]." That's "feel ...
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| relationship question | 3/3/2009 |
Q: I like this girl at my school but she just out of a long term relationship and she was hurt. But she ...
A: Oh, look at you being the nice, sensitive guy. So, are you her therapist? So what that she's just ...
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| How Can I Talk To Girls My Own Age | 3/2/2009 |
Q: I am having extremely difficult time with talking to girls my age. I am 18 now, but I have always ...
A: First of all, asking questions of a girl is a good way to create closeness between you, but you have ...
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| Writing a good online personal ad | 2/23/2009 |
Q: Neder, How are you? My name is Paul and I reside in Boston, MA. I was checking out single women on ...
A: Do you know where the 3 worst place are to meet women? 1) Bars 2) Clubs 3) Internet There are a ...
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| Does this show disinterest from a girl ? | 2/23/2009 |
Q: I went to a bar club last night cos it was my friend's birthday. Keep in mind this club is over 21's ...
A: First of all, GREAT JOB for going over to these girls and introducing yourself! That's 1/2 the ...
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| How to make him notice me | 2/21/2009 |
Q: Neder, I can't help but feel attracted to this guy 2 classes above me. The problem is that he spends ...
A: First, you find a context-based reason to approach him. Then, you break the ice and connect; giving ...
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| Chick with a boyfriend | 2/19/2009 |
Q: Alright. I've known this chick for probably six months now. I met her when she approached me before ...
A: Ok, you're well on your way. Now you need to turn things up a notch. I'm sure you'll understand ...
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| Chick with a boyfriend | 2/19/2009 |
Q: Alright. I've known this chick for probably six months now. I met her when she approached me before ...
A: There are 3 different (likely) possibilities here: 1) She's really interested in you and is hoping ...
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| Does this show interest ? | 2/16/2009 |
Q: When a girl texts me and says she was thinking of me after a certain amount of time not ...
A: In "what ever way you look at it"? No, I can look at it in many different ways - some about interest ...
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| What do I need to do to change myself? | 2/15/2009 |
Q: I wanted to know what I need to boost my confidence to approach girls for romantic relations. Just ...
A: What do you need to do? Oh, not much. Just change your attitude and belief systems. You have a ton ...
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| Next? | 2/13/2009 |
Q: Here's the situation: I meet a girl at work, she seems to be interested, she blushes, giggles, looks ...
A: Jeez Brad!!! OF COURSE she doesn't respond! You texted her! That's about as dumb/bad a move as there ...
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| how to avoid falling into friend category | 2/13/2009 |
Q: Last semester in the university I met a gal(she happened to be my classmate) we hit it off,we were ...
A: Don't act or treat her like your friend. Go tell her that you and she are going out to get to know ...
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| how to avoid falling into friend category | 2/12/2009 |
Q: Last semester in the university I met a gal(she happened to be my classmate) we hit it off,we were ...
A: You haven't asked a question here and I'm not going to just ponder all the possibilities. I simply ...
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| Advice needed | 2/10/2009 |
Q: my name is Brandon and this is my situation. There is this girl that I like a lot, me and her had a ...
A: Here's my best advice: forget it. Sorry to hit you with that without warming you up first, but the ...
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| girl | 2/7/2009 |
Q:
A: Tell her you're coming to her school, you don't know anyone and would like her help getting to know ...
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| Advice about a Girl | 2/5/2009 |
Q: I'm 18 years old, a freshman in college. My aunt's best friend has a really cute daughter and she's ...
A: Here's the problem you have: you're too far away to make anything happen and all of this going back ...
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| Lacking humor | 2/4/2009 |
Q: I'm sure you're familiar with the belief that a sense of humor is an important tool when attracting ...
A: In fact a sense of humor is ranked #2 in the list of most attractive attributes that women cite. The ...
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| How do i make me atttrating 2 her | 2/4/2009 |
Q: How can i make her like me more than she already does ANSWER: Hello Jesse! I've already talked to ...
A: You're missing the point here. You DON'T impress her. You DON'T try to attract her. These are ways ...
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| How do i make me atttrating 2 her | 2/3/2009 |
Q: How can i make her like me more than she already does
A: I've already talked to her and she can't possibly like you more than she already does. Come on ...
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| My love | 2/2/2009 |
Q: My name is Michael, I really love this girl that i met last year in my physical education class. I ...
A: Ok Romeo. Let's slow down here a little. I don't think you have to change your entire belief system ...
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| i have a friend and i realy like her | 1/30/2009 |
Q: i have this frind ive been frinds with over 3 years and ive grown realy close to her i started ...
A: Yes, you should just invite her out, but that's also the time to kiss her. It's that kiss that turns ...
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| getting an ex back | 1/29/2009 |
Q: my name is jared im 19 years old from west virginia me and my girlfriend well i should say x ...
A: You've got a huge problem here. You can't rebuild the relationship while you're away for 6 months! ...
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| i have a friend and i realy like her | 1/29/2009 |
Q: i have this frind ive been frinds with over 3 years and ive grown realy close to her i started ...
A: If you don't want to risk losing the friendship then do nothing. You'll definitely lose it if you ...
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| So... | 1/27/2009 |
Q: I'm kinda a nerdy guy, but I think I'm handsome and stuff. There is this smokin chick in my biology ...
A: Get into her pants? How do you even know they'll fit you??? Here's your answer: get discover ...
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| Mixed Signals | 1/25/2009 |
Q: I am male 24. I like a girl who works in my company. We dont speak much as she is another ...
A: How in the hell should I know what sort of cute she thinks you are? What's even more important is: ...
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| Question | 1/24/2009 |
Q: Hey, I was just wondering: there is a young woman I quite like; we are in the same classes in school ...
A: There are no hard-and-fast rules about what it could mean. What's important here however isn't what ...
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| How can a man be attracted by lady | 1/24/2009 |
Q: I want to know the things or what a man surposed to do to attract a lady as in for a lady to luv the ...
A: Sorry, that's WAY too large a question to answer via this system! I've written many books on that ...
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| Help. | 1/23/2009 |
Q: i have just spilt up with a girl that i really like, and i know she really likes me, and we spilt up ...
A: I'm afraid her reason isn't the REAL reason. She doesn't believe that she'd be better off alone. She ...
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| question | 1/22/2009 |
Q: sir i hope that u will be well. i am very thanhful to u for very fast reply of previous question and ...
A: Of course you feel hesitation in talking with her. EVERYONE does! You don't want to risk being ...
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| how to attract and make frendship | 1/20/2009 |
Q: how are u. i am a student of university and i like a girl of another department. i want to make a ...
A: No, you don't want to "make a friendship" with her. You want something more. Don't confuse the two. ...
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| Winning over the most perfect girl but, she has a boyfriend | 1/11/2009 |
Q: Hey, I recently got back in touch with a girl that I used to know over 7 years ago. We hung out the ...
A: What the hell Brent??? You TOLD her to give him one more shot? Are you out of your damn mind? You ...
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| I am in love with my best friend | 1/6/2009 |
Q: First of all, my name is Adrian. I'm a senior at lincoln Christian School in Tulsa, Oklahoma. I'm ...
A: I think you better hold your promises of mentioning my name. You're not going to like what you're ...
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| i am damn confused? | 12/27/2008 |
Q: sir, i am jatin from mumbai,india. i don`t know whether i love this girl or not.she is my classmate, ...
A: No, it's not love. It could be infatuation or strong interest, but love is something you develop ...
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| Is she being friendly or does she fancy me? | 12/17/2008 |
Q: work in M&S and there is a girl who i get along with but can't figure out if she likes me or just ...
A: Young girls like EVERYONE. Don't worry about the rumors - they are non-issues. Yes, she likes you. ...
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| Never Satisfied | 12/10/2008 |
Q: Neder, I am a 24 year-old med student and cannot find the right woman. I have been told I'm a ...
A: This is an excellent question! Don't feel alone here at all. Many, many people feel this way. It can ...
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| *-* Time to Turn it UP! *-* | 12/10/2008 |
Q: I like this girl and we've become "frieds" (not the F word I hear you say), anyways we've been ...
A: Here's what you're going to do: First, stop listening to her and reacting to her. When any woman ...
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| known her for a long time | 12/8/2008 |
Q: I've known this certain girl for a long time and we've been loose friends for years. Recently I'd ...
A: Let's start with this: almost ALL relationships are messy (at least if they're worthwhile) - that's ...
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| Doc some direction please... | 12/7/2008 |
Q: I'll try my best to keep it short, yet detailed. Beginning of this year I dated this girl a few ...
A: Girls? Girls? Are you reading this? I sure hope you are. Those of you female geniuses out there that ...
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| How to | 12/5/2008 |
Q: This is Srujan.I'm studying in India.I have a girlfriend.She's so nice n sweet.But the problem with ...
A: No, she didn't "make you do that", you CHOSE to do that. That's a very different thing. Start with ...
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| Does myspace/facebook ever work? | 12/3/2008 |
Q: Dr. Neder, I'm a 22 year old male in a small town. I swear almost every female over 18 is either ...
A: You're going to think that my answer is flippant, but in reality, the answer is: everywhere else! ...
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| Does myspace/facebook ever work? | 12/3/2008 |
Q: Dr. Neder, I'm a 22 year old male in a small town. I swear almost every female over 18 is either ...
A: If you're finding available women on MySpace and Facebook that are around your area, there ARE ...
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| Porn | 12/2/2008 |
Q: I asked for your advice awhile ago about my boyfriend masturbating when I am home and how this upset ...
A: You asked for my advice before and now you're back for more? What are you a masochist or ...
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| Approaching shy woman | 11/28/2008 |
Q: I'm 21 years old and I have a crush on my friend's best friend. She's a very shy woman especially ...
A: The signals you're describing aren't of a shy woman, they are of a woman that isn't interested in ...
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| i need help | 11/24/2008 |
Q: i have a big problem i cant seem to have a decent relationship with women i mean the first lady i ...
A: First of all, you need to understand (and frankly, accept) that when relationships end, you almost ...
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| how do i ask this gril for her number | 11/20/2008 |
Q: Bout a hour later I walked back past her and she asked again if I was sure cause she backed them ...
A: You shouldn't worry about whether a girl feels the same way about you that you do about her. You can ...
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| Relationship | 11/20/2008 |
Q: I am 24 and my wife is 23. We are married for past 2 days.When i simply touch her, kiss her, hug her ...
A: Let me guess, you're Indian and this is an arranged marriage, right? This is only one reason I'm so ...
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| How Attract the woman of my dreams | 11/20/2008 |
Q: Ever since i was a freshman in my high school there was a girl that i really liked and i had crush ...
A: A "crazy chance"?? There's nothing crazy about it! You're not just denying yourself getting to know ...
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| get ex back | 11/18/2008 |
Q: Ok to start out my ex and i had been together just over 5 years, lived together almost 4 and have a ...
A: Yes, and that's exactly the problem! You aren't making your 3-year-old the issue! You can't POSSIBLY ...
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| Once was keen and now I'm on my knees | 11/18/2008 |
Q: I apologize in advance for the length of this question. I am a 21 year old university student, and ...
A: Why should I help you here? Just so that you can continue to abuse this girl? Be absolutely clear ...
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| How do i get this thru to her. | 11/16/2008 |
Q: Ok i been seeing this girl for about 6 months now and i am 19 years old and she is 35 years old i ...
A: I have no idea what you're asking me here. You said that you've been seeing her for 6 months. What ...
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| How to make her feel best in my company | 11/15/2008 |
Q: There is a girl whom i like, she is lively, fun lovin, havin mind like a kid many times and ...
A: This almost sounds like you've been doing the phone thing so long that she has finally lost interest ...
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| get ex back | 11/14/2008 |
Q: Ok to start out my ex and i had been together just over 5 years, lived together almost 4 and have a ...
A: Your letter really pisses me off. Here you two know-it-all's decide to bring a child into this world ...
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| Online Dating? | 11/12/2008 |
Q: Hey Dennis, Just wanted to say I love this site and plan on ordering BAM 1 from your site within ...
A: You're going to LOVE BAM1. It'll really open your eyes about a lot of things in this ...
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| Attracted to girl with a boyfirend | 11/12/2008 |
Q: A few days ago I went out with my sister and her friends to a lounge.When we got there I greeted ...
A: No, it's not "how could you forget" it's "how could you be concerned - even in the least"??? Joel, ...
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| Love solution | 11/11/2008 |
Q: Well i am in love with a girl of different community.due to some reasons i have made a bad ...
A: If she's not talking to you any more, you're not even friends at this point. I think the thing to ...
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| I NEED HELP | 11/11/2008 |
Q: Dennis, I am an Egyptian teenager, 17 years in the American University in Cairo. I am overweight but ...
A: Here's what you do: you stop putting all this pressure on yourself and just enjoy what you're doing ...
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| She has a boyfriend | 11/10/2008 |
Q: Neder, I've read some of your advice and it's been really helpful. I'm in University and there's ...
A: Absolutely. If she and her boyfriend don't see each other often, I'm assuming this is a ...
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| How to make her feel the same | 11/10/2008 |
Q: I am a seventeen year old and and have strong feelings for a girl my age we have been speaking to ...
A: You haven't given me much to go on. Has she TOLD you she's not interested or has she simply been ...
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| I like this chick | 11/9/2008 |
Q: Hey Doc. i have a problem or something like that ima junior in my H.S. and you see i like well i ...
A: So, here you are making all sorts of excuses for why she wouldn't want to get to know you. On the ...
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| how do i regain the interest of an ex-girlfriend | 11/8/2008 |
Q: I have liked this girl for about 3 years and i have gotten to know her pretty well, she attractive, ...
A: What do you mean "will slip". You HAVE slipped into the friend-zone. You've already dated this girl ...
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| shyness! | 11/7/2008 |
Q: Im 33 years old and only had a few relationships in my life. Any women I did date, i really was ...
A: I couldn't be more pleased to hear that you're fed up with the life you've chosen. ("What did that ...
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| Getting an Older Girl. | 11/6/2008 |
Q: My Name is Kirill.. And I've recently met a girl that I feel so much towards.. when I'm with her the ...
A: I agree about your age difference. When you get older, this will make no difference at all, but at ...
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| No confidence | 11/6/2008 |
Q: I am male 24. Although i wont consider myself shy but i do not have confidence to speak with women. ...
A: First of all, great job for not letting your lack of confidence keep you from having what you ...
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| How Can I Tell? | 11/6/2008 |
Q: Neder, Like others, I would like to thank you in advance for taking the time you will to answer my ...
A: I'm afraid she's trying to let you down without actually coming out and saying it. Here's the ...
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| Re: I like her but i need to find out if shes single? | 11/5/2008 |
Q: Ive found myslef besotted with a girl at my uni. We only talk briefly when we see each other in the ...
A: Why in the hell are you worried if she's "with someone"? That's not your problem! What if you're a ...
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| Hook Line and Sinker | 11/4/2008 |
Q: She is very pretty, very smart, class president and recently won first place in a cross country race ...
A: How what? How do you ask her out? Just walk up to her and say, "You know, we should get to know ...
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| What do i say to a girl when i get her number ? | 11/3/2008 |
Q: I am a male teen who's naturally very shy. But today i got a girl's number for the first time. ...
A: GREAT FREAKIN' JOB, DANY!! I'm very proud of you! You didn't let your own shyness prevent you from ...
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| Hook Line and Sinker | 11/3/2008 |
Q: She is very pretty, very smart, class president and recently won first place in a cross country race ...
A: Yes, she likes you. What in the hell are you waiting for? Go get your confidence and ask this girl ...
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| I Love her and don't want to let her go this time. | 10/31/2008 |
Q: I have a similar story as Tony. You see there is this girl I really liked in High School and never ...
A: Let's be clear about the realities here: you liked this girl in high school and the friendship ...
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| Friends Forever | 10/29/2008 |
Q: I heard somewhere that you should not be jus friends otherwise there is less chances of that girl ...
A: What you heard is correct. To learn more about why this is true, go to my website ...
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| Am I being led on? | 10/26/2008 |
Q: My supposed "Best Friend" and I have been teasing, flirting, helping, etc.. each other for 4 years ...
A: This woman is a total and complete Attention Whore ("AW"). These signals are loud-and-clear. She ...
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| LOVE BACK | 10/25/2008 |
Q: I FELL FOR A CO-WORKER,OLDER,WITH CHILDREN.I SHOWED HER LADIES INTERESTED IN ME,LET HER HEAR ...
A: Hey Tony! There's always a chance, but that doesn't necessarily make it a reasonable chance. Your ...
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| LOVE BACK | 10/24/2008 |
Q: I FELL FOR A CO-WORKER,OLDER,WITH CHILDREN.I SHOWED HER LADIES INTERESTED IN ME,LET HER HEAR ...
A: The dumb things: She flirted with someone else and you got jealous. You pulled back when you should ...
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| is she interested | 10/24/2008 |
Q: ok. this is going to sound wierd, but i have recently been talking to this girl who is younger than ...
A: I don't know this girl and I don't read minds. From her saying "hi" to you there's no way for me to ...
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| How to be in control of the relationship | 10/20/2008 |
Q: Neder, I've been reading some of the questions lately and i've found your advice very credible and ...
A: Wait a minute. You call her, you set the dates and you think you're not "in control"? It sounds ...
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| How to Stand Out (Positiviely) to Women | 10/19/2008 |
Q: Hey there Dr. Neder! I have a question for you that seems simple enough, but requires a complex ...
A: Frankly, physical appearance doesn't do very much for you. Certainly not as much as most men ...
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| Would this make a girl's day & | 10/16/2008 |
Q: I see this girl in my gym every now and then, who i think is stunning. If i was to randomly go up to ...
A: First of all, there's nothing rare about this at all. Every honey teenager in town has tried that ...
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| What girls want | 10/16/2008 |
Q: What do girls look for in a guy. How do I get them to notice me? P.S. I'm the shy type
A: To answer your question, let me tell you a story: Socrates was a very learned, knowledgeable, wise ...
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| A dilema | 10/14/2008 |
Q: I would like to thank you in advance for answering my question to the best of your abilities as I am ...
A: Alright then. So ask her out, let her say "no" and move on. Frankly, I'm still not convinced by ...
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| A dilema | 10/14/2008 |
Q: I would like to thank you in advance for answering my question to the best of your abilities as I am ...
A: I'm always deeply concerned with any guy goes for "...even the slightest chance..." because your ...
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| How to attract a girl that already has a serious boyfriend | 10/13/2008 |
Q: My name is Paul. I have known this girl for a few weeks now and she really is a beautiful girl and ...
A: I never said you did hang out everyday - all it takes is once. That's what friends do. Best ...
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| How to attract a girl that already has a serious boyfriend | 10/13/2008 |
Q: My name is Paul. I have known this girl for a few weeks now and she really is a beautiful girl and ...
A: Let's be clear on this: you ARE building a friendship - and absolutely ruining any chance you may ...
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| i screwed up with the girl of my dreams | 10/8/2008 |
Q: as you will probably say i am young, naive and there are plenty other girls in the sea, being of the ...
A: You may be young, but you're 100% of your age! You have a number of lessons to learn from this ...
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| Age Gap, during teenage years... | 10/6/2008 |
Q: My name is Kirill and Im currently 12 years old.. My sister has a friend who is 14 years old, ...
A: As you get older, age differences begin to mean less and less, but I'm in the reality business and ...
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| girl not calling back. | 10/1/2008 |
Q: I am a girl and went out on a date with another girl. We had a great time and she said to call her ...
A: It's entirely possible she did - and does - like you. This is actually pretty common with women. She ...
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| talking to girls; flirting, holding a convo, etc. | 10/1/2008 |
Q: Dr. Neder. My problem is that I don't have a good way to open a conversation with girls. Or, if I ...
A: First of all, yes, you need to get some game. The good news is that this isn't tough to do. It takes ...
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| girl | 9/23/2008 |
Q: Hey Dr. Dennis. I am 17 years old and have a thing with this girl who is 18..she is a senior and i ...
A: Yes, I'm going to help you. First of all, STOP HANGING OUT!!! That's a coward's way out. You don't ...
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| My shyness is taking my life from me. | 9/23/2008 |
Q: i'll try to keep this description as clear as possible, but i really don't think i can explain it in ...
A: Interesting, your English is better than many native speakers! There's a reason why you only meet ...
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| what to talk on my date | 9/22/2008 |
Q: i am 20 and i am from india. i know this girl from past one year. but its been not more than 5 ...
A: If you don't speak much, it's because the people around you (including her) aren't engaging you! If ...
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| advice? | 9/19/2008 |
Q: I have wrote you before but I have some new questions. I have just started college and have some ...
A: That's one HUGE question! I could spend weeks trying to answer it! Art, there's no one or two or ...
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| How do I know if she likes me back? | 9/18/2008 |
Q: I'm a senior in high school, I just got out of a kinda long relationship, b/c I no longer had ...
A: You're wrong, Brad. She's NOT perfect. Don't idealize her and give her all this power over you that ...
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| Need some advice | 9/17/2008 |
Q: So I've gotten to know my best friend pretty well this past year and 2 months now.The thing is i ...
A: Hey James! You're right there (here) with all this "talent" around you and you're worried about ...
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| Need some advice | 9/17/2008 |
Q: So I've gotten to know my best friend pretty well this past year and 2 months now.The thing is i ...
A: There's always "some hope", but the problem is that you will read that and assume that means there's ...
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| Need some advice | 9/17/2008 |
Q: So I've gotten to know my best friend pretty well this past year and 2 months now.The thing is i ...
A: You should have taken it as a complete shutdown - that's exactly what it was. Let me translate some ...
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| How to to get her interest back ? | 9/12/2008 |
Q: "Hi, I would like to say i am a shy man, i had meet a girl in my work we had an eye contact for long ...
A: Yes there is, but it's far, far more intricate than I can possibly go into via these messages. If ...
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| Are girls looking at me becasue i'm ugly ? | 9/10/2008 |
Q: I am male teen 18 and i started college the other day. When i was walking into the entrance, this ...
A: Look - I don't know if you're ugly or not. No, it's extremely unlikely that's the reason these girls ...
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| help | 9/7/2008 |
Q: I am a 45 years old man living in Venezuela, married and with 2 kids. One week ago i travelled to ...
A: I agree with your psychologist. When you give this sort of compliment to a woman you also give away ...
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| How to to get her interest back ? | 9/6/2008 |
Q: "Hi, I would like to say i am a shy man, i had meet a girl in my work we had an eye contact for long ...
A: Attention Whore Alert!!!! This girl (unfortunately) isn't interested in you. She's interested in ...
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| How to initiate contact with my ex | 9/3/2008 |
Q: My ex and I broke up about 3 months ago. She left me for obvious reason, in the beginning of the ...
A: NO, that's not all you want. You want much, much more. What you're really saying is that you're ...
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| whats the deal | 9/1/2008 |
Q: hey dr.neder well theres this girl that i liked or loved for almost 1 or two years now. in late ...
A: So, did you like or love her and for 1 or 2 years??? Unfortunately, you HAVE hit the friend-zone ...
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| the saga continues... | 8/26/2008 |
Q: Dr. Neder, your answers have been so helpful to me in the past and your book is great. Looking ...
A: BAM 2 is going to kick your ass - guaranteed! I'm a little concerned with the comments you made ...
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| love women | 8/26/2008 |
Q: i enjoy sex and i want to meet more women in living here in shreveport louisiana im 31 yrs old so ...
A: Learn the game. Go to http://beingaman.com and http://beingaman.tv. You'll be getting more big ...
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| Next | 8/26/2008 |
Q: I have not dated much and hardly any friendships with females. My last relationship I really was ...
A: I'm actually glad you don't have many friendships with girls. Being a girl's friend when you really ...
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| ugly mean girls | 8/16/2008 |
Q: I am married ant nice looking my husbands friends are so mean to me. he does not get it. i hate it ...
A: Hmm...interesting story. Is that really what you wanted - just to tell someone how mean your ...
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| advice on how to attract females in high school | 8/14/2008 |
Q: hey Doc, I would like to know if you have any advice to attract women while in high school if it ...
A: Actually, yes I do! High school has it's own set of rules that don't directly translate to the rest ...
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| Chakra Balancing for Confidence | 8/13/2008 |
Q: Just curious of your opinion on balancing the 7 chakras to improve confidence, presence, and overall ...
A: The reason why learning "tactics" feels "off" is because you're trying to find techniques - not ...
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| marriage and sex | 8/11/2008 |
Q: In all the long term marriages that you see, which have not ended in divorce, what was the secret? ...
A: You're asking me to do something that nobody has EVER been able to do - define a single set of ...
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| how | 8/7/2008 |
Q: How can I invite a girl I like that has an overly proctive dad over to my house.
A: What are you inviting her over to your house for? If it's a game of Scrabble, then you have no ...
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| getting back my girl | 8/7/2008 |
Q: Me and my girl had been together one month short of two years and I love her with all my heart. She ...
A: Hey Chris! To quote Yoda, "No try. Do!" She told you there was still a chance in order to ease HER ...
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| getting back my girl | 8/7/2008 |
Q: Me and my girl had been together one month short of two years and I love her with all my heart. She ...
A: Yes, I KNOW you want her back. Unfortunately, wanting something so much it hurts won't make it come ...
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| How can i speak to girls if i have low self steem ? | 8/5/2008 |
Q: I'm 18 male teen and i am have sooo low self esteem that it's killing my chances of meeting girls. ...
A: First of all, you're right - you WILL be like this forever if you don't get it handled. The good ...
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| i dont fuckin understand whats happenin here | 8/4/2008 |
Q: since reading the info on your site and just testing the field and learning a bit here and there ive ...
A: Why wasn't the sex your idea? It's your job to move things forward and if you wanted to have sex, ...
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| HELP!! I think I screwed up! | 8/1/2008 |
Q: i need your HELP. This last saturday i went out on a date with an attractive intelligent brunette ...
A: First of all, you should have taken her back to her hotel and made her see stars. You had ALL of the ...
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| How to propose a girl? | 7/27/2008 |
Q: I am student and i live in Saudi Arab and I am from Bangladesh. I like a girl of 2 years younger ...
A: From your first letter I'm guessing that you're about 14-15 years old. If so, you're not yet ready ...
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| spice up the relationship. | 7/27/2008 |
Q: I have a beautiful girlfriend that is 17 years old, im 19 and we've been going out for about almost ...
A: "That far"??? Frankly, that's not far at all - that's where things begin, but I digress... Since I ...
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| Building back a "just be friend" relationship | 7/27/2008 |
Q: I am 16, and I had already asked out a girl I had really liked in 8th grade, and she is just the ...
A: Your "theory" isn't unique at all. EVERY guy thinks exactly this - and every guy fails at it. Sorry ...
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| i need help | 7/22/2008 |
Q: ok well im absolutely in love with this girl and she like me back wee spend time together but she ...
A: 1) Take it slow 2) Get to know each other 3) Start dating other girls right away [important!] Best ...
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| Finding an understanding girl | 7/20/2008 |
Q: I'm a sixteen year old boy. I've been having issues with bonding with, not just women, but other ...
A: Here's the interesting thing about this: what is working against you today is going to be your ...
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| History Repeates | 7/16/2008 |
Q: Dennis, I am tired of being in the situation where i find a girl i actually like, however their ...
A: Sorry for the late reply - my system crashed. What in the hell are you doing waiting??? I just ...
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| ******CONFUSION****** | 7/14/2008 |
Q: Hey Dennis, i am in a very weird situation in wich i have been seeing my ex girlfriend best friend. ...
A: A 5-hour drive? Going out of her way? Uhhh..do you think??? This thing with her going forward and ...
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| What does she means? | 7/8/2008 |
Q: your advice is really detail and helpful. Right now, I have a situation that I like this Korean ...
A: Regrettably, I get so many of these questions everyday - from this board and many other sources - I ...
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| Open relationships | 6/30/2008 |
Q: Hey. I just got your book and am just starting to read it. I need a quick answer on this because ...
A: First of all, congratulations on getting and reading BAM 1. You're going to get quite an education! ...
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| dating and marriage | 6/28/2008 |
Q: For professional women (doctors, lawyers, CEOs etc) can you please tell me what is the best type of ...
A: There are a variety of men that are good choices for these women; other doctors, lawyers CEOs, as ...
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| Fat, Ugly women and pretty girls | 6/28/2008 |
Q: You know, I sit and observe my classmates from time to time. And i notice some things. There are a ...
A: Hey Mike! Man! Aren't you full of ugly-verse-beautiful questions! Let's turn this around; let's ...
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| Fat, Ugly women and pretty girls | 6/27/2008 |
Q: You know, I sit and observe my classmates from time to time. And i notice some things. There are a ...
A: First of all, FUGs learn one key: compensation. Whereas beauties often don't have to work as hard on ...
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| beautiful women dating | 6/26/2008 |
Q: Why is it that really beautiful women with nice personalities and successful careers ... seem to ...
A: Didn't I just answer a question for you? Feel free to combine them into one message in the future. ...
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| Fat, Ugly women and pretty girls | 6/26/2008 |
Q: You know, I sit and observe my classmates from time to time. And i notice some things. There are a ...
A: The reason for it is this: looks are women's currency in the dating world. Men's currency is ...
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| She left me ?? why ? | 6/26/2008 |
Q: Dennis W. Neder. I have been in a great relationship for the last 16 weeks, every thing was great !! ...
A: You equate her not being willing to kiss you with being "independent"? Hmm...well ok, I guess you ...
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| I need ur expertise in answering this question | 6/25/2008 |
Q: My story started when I came to my freind's restaurant and I saw this new girl that works for him ...
A: Here's the problem: you have no game and you've proven to her that you have no game. She was ...
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| getting her back | 6/24/2008 |
Q: is it really true that you should wait thirty days to contact them again. She never said she was ...
A: Huh??? Where is that written?? 30 days? What if she were in dire need of emotional support? Are you ...
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| Why were people looking at me ? | 6/17/2008 |
Q: After 4 weeks of holiday, i went back to school & i noticed that several people (boys and girls) ...
A: Oh, absolutely - all of these people have fallen deeply and madly in love with you. The guys can't ...
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| the horrible love triangle | 6/11/2008 |
Q: i have quiet the situation. there is this girl that i love and her name is Michelle. i first became ...
A: First of all, there's no "love triangle" here at all. They are a couple and you're the odd man out - ...
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| How to propose | 6/9/2008 |
Q: my name is yuvraj.I love one girl but i do'nt know that she loves me or not.Whenever i try to get ...
A: Let me guess, you're from India, right? First off, you don't love this girl. You're INTERESTED in ...
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| hi | 6/8/2008 |
Q: well i have no problems with getting girls but i get ones that come up to me! im an attractive guy ...
A: Don't be ridiculous. You can't memorize a few lines that will work in any situation and expect to ...
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| friends | 6/8/2008 |
Q: Dennis, i used to be realy good friends with this guy joel. him and i started being friends back in ...
A: Wait just a cotton-pickin' minute here. What's really going on? Do you like this guy or not? Are you ...
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| friends | 6/8/2008 |
Q: Dennis, i used to be realy good friends with this guy joel. him and i started being friends back in ...
A: Easy, stop being his friend! As long as you remain his friend, you continue to give him hope that ...
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| advice | 6/7/2008 |
Q: hey dennis. this is not in the right category. but i know you are trained in dealing with many ...
A: First of all, I really appreciate your situation. Having someone so close to you going through this ...
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| need some clarity | 6/7/2008 |
Q: I called her up on this friday but she didnt pick up. Instead she texted me that she was travelling. ...
A: Hey Jimmy! 1) I don't read minds, but she seemed interested from the beginning and is likely ...
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| lonely hot girls | 6/5/2008 |
Q: I've noticed lately that many really pretty girls with nice personalities are single. And they stay ...
A: Here's part of the problem: very few people are really experts at relationships and thus, they rely ...
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| current dating scene | 6/5/2008 |
Q: Dennis, I've noticed lately that the current dating scene for men and women is very sad and bleak. ...
A: Remember, this is a TV show. They build ratings based on controversy and thus, you can't use this as ...
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| lonely hot girls | 6/5/2008 |
Q: I've noticed lately that many really pretty girls with nice personalities are single. And they stay ...
A: This is a really excellent question. I've been looking forward to answering it. I just hope you ...
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| followup | 6/5/2008 |
Q: Sure, I suppose that's a possibility too and if that is your experience it bears out your ...
A: Oh, you again?? First of all, it depends on what you're looking for, what you consider "powerful" ...
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| This could be a real opportunity? | 6/5/2008 |
Q: Theres a girl the same age as me that i like. We new each others personality a bit coz we both had ...
A: You're damn right she got tired of waiting for you! Anthony, what in the hell were you thinking? ...
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| working girls...critique? | 6/2/2008 |
Q: I have a couple questions but the most important one first: Just 10 minutes ago I asked a girl out ...
A: I'm glad you're trying to expand your social sphere. That's exactly how you'll start getting the ...
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| getting weirder by the minute | 6/1/2008 |
Q: Well now the married guy is sending me tons of crazy text messages and following me around campus. ...
A: Hey Julie! Not likely. If this guy is really interested, he's more likely to increase his efforts - ...
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| How to Attract the Woman of Your Dreams | 6/1/2008 |
Q: i know this girl from my childhood and i love her too,but could you tell me how to convince her to ...
A: That's a far too huge, complicated question for me to possibly answer via these messages. If you ...
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| divorces | 5/31/2008 |
Q: why are there so many divorces nowadays i just dont get it? and what is the main cause? thanks :) ...
A: Hey Katrina! Oh! Trust me, I NEVER forget about a woman's sex drive! "...it can be more powerful ...
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| getting weirder by the minute | 5/31/2008 |
Q: Well now the married guy is sending me tons of crazy text messages and following me around campus. ...
A: Strange as it may seem, no, it's not a warning flag by itself. It may turn you off, but in fact, the ...
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| divorces | 5/31/2008 |
Q: why are there so many divorces nowadays i just dont get it? and what is the main cause? thanks :) ...
A: More reality: (I'm just full of reality today!) Marriage benefits women far more than it does men. ...
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| getting weirder by the minute | 5/30/2008 |
Q: Well now the married guy is sending me tons of crazy text messages and following me around campus. ...
A: There are incredible men all over the place - just like there are incredible women all over the ...
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| divorces | 5/30/2008 |
Q: why are there so many divorces nowadays i just dont get it? and what is the main cause? thanks :)
A: Actually, there aren't too many divorces. There are too many marriages. The reality is that people ...
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| You're a peice of shit | 5/28/2008 |
Q: dennis u suck you dont know jack about women and all u do on your website being a man is curse and ...
A: Back for more again, eh? Well, who am I to deny you the abuse you so obviously crave? You see, I'm a ...
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| follow up | 5/28/2008 |
Q: --------------------------I seem to attract A LOT of married men with kids. In fact, that's ALL I ...
A: You know why those beauties lose their guys to otherwise "less desirable" women? Simple: the ...
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| You're a peice of shit | 5/28/2008 |
Q: dennis u suck you dont know jack about women and all u do on your website being a man is curse and ...
A: You're obviously not a mature or educated man so I'll keep this as simple as possible. Feel free to ...
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| HELP!!! | 5/28/2008 |
Q: I have breasts and a penis. I would like to find a girlfriend that has breasts and a penis as well. ...
A: To hell. Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder President ~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~. ...
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| being held | 5/28/2008 |
Q: Dennis its me well i found out that the older guy I was telling you about? he is married with 3 ...
A: Yo! Jaci! I couldn't agree more. The first step is finding him, but the second, far larger step is ...
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| being held | 5/28/2008 |
Q: Dennis its me well i found out that the older guy I was telling you about? he is married with 3 ...
A: Hey Jaci! I don't know you well enough to say. I've never seen you or how you dress or how you act ...
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| being held | 5/28/2008 |
Q: Dennis its me well i found out that the older guy I was telling you about? he is married with 3 ...
A: Let me tell you what psychotic is: 1) Expecting me to remember all the things we talked about with ...
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| beautiful women don't stay single | 5/27/2008 |
Q: I'm of the opinion that opportunities to date many of the most prized women in the dating scene have ...
A: Unfortunately, it depends on the woman. You can't draw a "rule" from your level of attraction to ...
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| Older Man/Younger Woman Question | 5/27/2008 |
Q: I was just reading your response to Sabrina's "Falling for a (somewhat) older man,” I like your ...
A: First let me comment on the meeting with the ex-wife through a story: Many years ago I was dating ...
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| I cant think of a romantic date | 5/27/2008 |
Q: hey how you doin? me, not so good. this girl i like is leaving friday and i want to take her on a ...
A: Hanging out at the lake; and maybe having a picnic can be a very romantic date; and frankly, is a ...
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| too fast but will it last? | 5/25/2008 |
Q: i happen to be the manager of a manager who has this girl (she is 21 and i m 28) in his team and i ...
A: The very best way to do this is to not worry about her reaction because you're not going to "ask" ...
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| being held | 5/25/2008 |
Q: Hey Dennis, Why is it that when a man puts his arms around a woman, it is the BEST feeling in the ...
A: Hey Jaci! Aren't we the curios one this morning?? Since I don't know this guy, I can't say. If it ...
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| being held | 5/25/2008 |
Q: Hey Dennis, Why is it that when a man puts his arms around a woman, it is the BEST feeling in the ...
A: It sounds like a perfect match! I hope this works out for you. Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder ...
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| being held | 5/24/2008 |
Q: Hey Dennis, Why is it that when a man puts his arms around a woman, it is the BEST feeling in the ...
A: First answer: Women crave what is powerful in men. Men by the way have different cravings from ...
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| too fast but will it last? | 5/24/2008 |
Q: i happen to be the manager of a manager who has this girl (she is 21 and i m 28) in his team and i ...
A: Well, you're right about this: it WILL die down if you just let it simmer like you are. You see, ...
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| Reveal Feelings. | 5/22/2008 |
Q: Neder. There's this girl that I really like for the last four months but I haven't told her how I ...
A: DO NOT "reveal your feelings"!!! If you do, you'll never have another chance with this girl ever ...
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| girls | 5/19/2008 |
Q: well I'm the starting Wide reciever for the freshman football team. i play baseball and made the ...
A: No, being shy isn't part of the problem - it's THE problem. Acting shy comes off as insecure to ...
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| the girl of my dreams | 5/19/2008 |
Q: well theres this girl at school that I've known since 7th grade, I'm in 9th now. I've always thought ...
A: Hold on there big fella! You're sure giving this girl one hellofa lot of power over you! "Girl of ...
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| Need your advice | 5/18/2008 |
Q: "So I started dating my BEST friend of six years. She had gone out with a friend of mine in the ...
A: Honestly, I don't think you stand any further chance now. There are a ton of dynamics going on here ...
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| getting a girl to date me | 5/15/2008 |
Q: Ok, here is the problem. Me and this girl have been friends all through high school but since ...
A: I'm going to answer your question, but I want you to stop and think about this for a minute: ...
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| confused | 5/15/2008 |
Q: There's this girl at school, whom all of a sudden became realy freindly to me, always saying hi ...
A: Hey Jeff! If you're more afraid of asking her than of being alone, then be alone the rest of your ...
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| a good friend but more | 5/15/2008 |
Q: I'm 17 and i cant say im real experienced when it comes to girls. I've had a few short ...
A: When do you approach her? A long time ago! Andy, the problem here is that you went for the ...
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| How to make Girl Friend | 5/14/2008 |
Q: i am BPO Industry Employee.and i am from India so i got brown color skin and i am little bit Fat.i ...
A: First of all, is that really what you want from girls - friendship? I don't think so. I think you'd ...
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| confused | 5/13/2008 |
Q: There's this girl at school, whom all of a sudden became realy freindly to me, always saying hi ...
A: You should have closed her - asked for her number or (better) asked her out on a date. Best ...
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| Real Men | 5/13/2008 |
Q: I have been working on putting together a few work shops for women on how to attract the kind of ...
A: Actually, we have just such a group! You can find it here: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/beingaman. ...
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| Real Men | 5/12/2008 |
Q: I have been working on putting together a few work shops for women on how to attract the kind of ...
A: It's particularly heartening to hear that you accept "The Test" for what it is. You'd be surprised ...
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| what should i do? | 5/12/2008 |
Q: my girlfriend of 2 and a half years has recently said she wanted time and space, so i let her. ad ...
A: Yo! Chris! The only answer I have for you is a trite one: time. Well, there *is* another tool I ...
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| what should i do? | 5/12/2008 |
Q: my girlfriend of 2 and a half years has recently said she wanted time and space, so i let her. ad ...
A: Neglect is certainly a bad thing, but not as bad as dumping you by lying you to about being on a ...
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| confused | 5/12/2008 |
Q: There's this girl at school, whom all of a sudden became realy freindly to me, always saying hi ...
A: Yes, I think she had feelings for you and she just got tired and fed-up with waiting for you to do ...
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| what should i do? | 5/10/2008 |
Q: my girlfriend of 2 and a half years has recently said she wanted time and space, so i let her. ad ...
A: What she wanted was a "break", and yes, it was your fault, but not because you didn't want to go ...
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| ask out girl of my dreams | 5/10/2008 |
Q: i'm fat , and i got bad breath.What can i do to ask my friend a.k.a the girl of my dreams out?
A: Start by brushing your teeth, getting in shape and getting your attitude straightened out! Why ...
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| lost love | 5/9/2008 |
Q: I lost the love of my dreams but I want to get back with her. Can you tell me how please? We were ...
A: LOL! Did my ex-wife put you up to this???? She tried to arrange your death and she's mentally ill? ...
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| What should I do.... | 5/8/2008 |
Q: my situation is a bit complex, I am with a girl, I'll call her Caty (and we have been together over ...
A: If you don't want to be disrespectful to Caty then why are you even asking me this question??? Do ...
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| What should I do.... | 5/8/2008 |
Q: my situation is a bit complex, I am with a girl, I'll call her Caty (and we have been together over ...
A: It doesn't sound like you're married to Caty or that you're very committed to her. In fact, I think ...
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| how do i | 5/8/2008 |
Q: Iv noticed recently that iv been slowly attracted to one of my friends im really not sure what to ...
A: Why do you want to make her notice you - so that she'll do your work for you and you won't have to ...
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| the friend zone | 5/5/2008 |
Q: i started to develop feelings for one my best female friend. ive know her for almost 4 years, and ...
A: What should you do? Dump this friend and go find a girlfriend - then, don't become her friend first! ...
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| How long should I wait? | 5/3/2008 |
Q: Here is the situation, I know this girl, we've know each other ever since we were little kids. Her ...
A: Hey Rick! Help you? Help you with what - screwing this up permanently??? You've already done huge ...
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| uhh | 5/2/2008 |
Q: well the question kinda askes itsel dosent it? how can u attrack the woman of ur dreams ? of ya by ...
A: The problem is that it doesn't answer itself! Ty, that's a huge - and misdirected question. What ...
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| I need some advice please..... | 5/2/2008 |
Q: Ok well hear is my story very long, Its been 7 months I been with my girl and it seems now we hit a ...
A: So what do you want? You spent 3/4's of this letter telling me how much you love her and how in love ...
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| end product | 4/29/2008 |
Q: I seem to get lost sometimes after Ive made an approach to a woman chatting about absolutely nothing ...
A: Actually, this is pretty common. The problem either is that you're not building enough rapport and ...
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| Knowing when she is interested | 4/28/2008 |
Q: Hey there. I have been reading your posting and I like what you have to say so i want to get your ...
A: Did you even bother to look at that video or read the FAQ's like I suggested? That's where you're ...
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| sleeze | 4/28/2008 |
Q: Im 27 and just not as successful with women as I think I should be. Ive had some limited success ...
A: There are a number of skills that all guys need to learn. The approach is one of them. Another is ...
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| slow or fast | 4/28/2008 |
Q: well theres this girl and shes one of my freinds and i like her more than a friend and i want her to ...
A: http://beingaman.com/bamtv.asp Watch the video there on Friends. Then, click on Self Help and read ...
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| Knowing when she is interested | 4/28/2008 |
Q: Hey there. I have been reading your posting and I like what you have to say so i want to get your ...
A: First of all, you need to know - you're late - maybe too late now. If you're hanging out with this ...
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| Should i take it slow or what.... | 4/27/2008 |
Q: well theres this girl who wont get off my mind. she is one of my friends but i like her more than a ...
A: I don't get this. Did you go out on a date with her already or not? Is she a "friend" or not? Is ...
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| Finding My Alpha Soulmate | 4/27/2008 |
Q: I don't know if you could help me because I am not a guy looking for a female, but I have been ...
A: You have two issues to deal with here. First of all, the lesbian community is rather small. That ...
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| Finding My Alpha Soulmate | 4/26/2008 |
Q: I don't know if you could help me because I am not a guy looking for a female, but I have been ...
A: Actually, I work with and help just as many women as I do men, so that's not a problem here. Let me ...
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| How can I make this work? | 4/22/2008 |
Q: Dr. Neder I'd like to ask you on how I can simply put, attract a girl I've had my eye on for some ...
A: You're very welcome. As soon as you start talking about "surefire" and "for sure" or anything else ...
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| Are these signs of checkin you out ? | 4/22/2008 |
Q: If i catch a girl looking at me and she instantly looks away, is she checking me out ? Also, if i ...
A: Yeah, she's checkin' you out. The problem is that's not your question. Your question is whether ...
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| should i have went for it? | 4/22/2008 |
Q: hey doc, ive had feelings for this girl for a very long time and it was a beautiful day the other ...
A: I don't know if she wanted it or not. I wasn't there. Why do so many people think I can read minds? ...
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| How can I make this work? | 4/22/2008 |
Q: Dr. Neder I'd like to ask you on how I can simply put, attract a girl I've had my eye on for some ...
A: You avoid the friend-zone by taking control of the relationship, being the leader and directing ...
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| very important | 4/20/2008 |
Q: there is this girl that i like that only see her a few times a day at school. the only time i see ...
A: Ok, so exactly what are you looking for? Are you hoping that she'll just become magically attracted ...
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| very important | 4/19/2008 |
Q: there is this girl that i like that only see her a few times a day at school. the only time i see ...
A: Actually, this approach is very, very simple. The very next time you see her in the hallway walking ...
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| I got 2 questions one about context and the other about your books | 4/18/2008 |
Q: FirstI'm interested in buying one or more of your books..could you tell me which one of your books ...
A: Hey Eric! Sure Eric, I can give you a pick-up line, but didn't we already agree that this wasn't ...
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| I got 2 questions one about context and the other about your books | 4/17/2008 |
Q: FirstI'm interested in buying one or more of your books..could you tell me which one of your books ...
A: That's actually a very large question with tons of considerations to it. I'll leave the books to ...
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| I got 2 questions one about context and the other about your books | 4/17/2008 |
Q: FirstI'm interested in buying one or more of your books..could you tell me which one of your books ...
A: My second book "Being a Man in a Woman's World II" goes into context in great depth including ...
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| Japanese girls | 4/16/2008 |
Q: Yes, I have a question about Japanese girls do they like only whites, or are they open to all races. ...
A: Yes, Japanese girls only like white guys - particularly in Hawaiian shirts. It brings a feel of the ...
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| Is she playing games or hard to get? | 4/15/2008 |
Q: Dr. Neder, I've known that Heather liked me for a long time, but could do nothing about it because ...
A: From what you've told me, I get the impression that the only one intersted here is you. In fact, ...
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| how do i my love back | 4/14/2008 |
Q: hey, i am 15 years old and i am in love with this girl. i know i know everyone tells me that im too ...
A: Simple: treat her like any other athlete there. Don't give her any special attention or anything ...
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| how do i my love back | 4/13/2008 |
Q: hey, i am 15 years old and i am in love with this girl. i know i know everyone tells me that im too ...
A: Why would you respect that? What's wrong with her that she doesn't "feel like dating right now"? Is ...
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| this one girl..... | 4/12/2008 |
Q: so. theres this one girl that goes to my school that i really like. she kinda knows me but not that ...
A: Directly. You just walk up to her, use context as a reason to approach her, small-talk for just a ...
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| this one girl..... | 4/11/2008 |
Q: so. theres this one girl that goes to my school that i really like. she kinda knows me but not that ...
A: Here's the problem with thisit's far too broad to give you a good answer. I can summarize the steps, ...
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| What should I be feeling? What will happen? | 4/10/2008 |
Q: I'm a 21 year old college student and two months ago, I met a girl who is exactly my personality and ...
A: What should you be feeling??? How about loss, hurt, anger, etc., etc.? You aren't the source of ...
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| help my friend please.. | 4/10/2008 |
Q: ok.. i am a 20 yr old female who has a friend that is in need of help in the dating world.. ive ...
A: I'm very proud of your love and consideration for your friend in trying to help him. I'll say this ...
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| dating | 4/10/2008 |
Q: Ok well I've known this girl since 7th grade. I'm in 9th grade so 2 years. We're not that good of ...
A: You don't "ask her" you TELL HER. Your invitation to hang out (which frankly, is a concept I hate!) ...
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| dating | 4/9/2008 |
Q: Ok well I've known this girl since 7th grade. I'm in 9th grade so 2 years. We're not that good of ...
A: Here's the right time to ask her out: RIGHT NOW!!! You've already known this girl for 2 freakin' ...
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| should I change? | 4/8/2008 |
Q: Hey doc I am wondering whether or not I should change the way I am for a girl that I want to be with ...
A: Hey Stephen! Two of them: 1) "Context". This is your reason to approach them and basically is just ...
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| Become the type of guy that girls like | 4/8/2008 |
Q: When I was young, my parents always told me to study hard and thats what the girls like. Do you ...
A: LOL...your parents sure knew how to motivate you! Too bad they didn't know what girls like. Your ...
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| should I change? | 4/7/2008 |
Q: Hey doc I am wondering whether or not I should change the way I am for a girl that I want to be with ...
A: Not necessarily. In fact, she may very well be trying to get you to be more masculine. The real ...
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| should I change? | 4/7/2008 |
Q: Hey doc I am wondering whether or not I should change the way I am for a girl that I want to be with ...
A: ?? Absolutely not. No way. Never. DO NOT change yourself to fit some girl! There are quite a few ...
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| help | 4/7/2008 |
Q: I went to the movies with this girl that I really like and we almost were about to kiss but we got ...
A: First of all, I don't recommend movies or concerts for first dates. You need "face time" in order to ...
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| Me and a girl got way too close too quickly | 4/6/2008 |
Q: It was almost perfect for the first five weeks. We were in a place of love I had never been ...
A: I'm in the honesty/reality business. You're coming from a place of total fantasy. I have to believe ...
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| reserved girl | 4/6/2008 |
Q: There's this girl who's my editor in the school newspaper crew, an open mic hostess who pulled me ...
A: First, you've got to get through that wall. The best way to do that is to get HER talking - if she ...
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| GIrls | 4/6/2008 |
Q: "Hi my name is Aaron and i am 17 years old. basicly there is a girl who is also 17 that i really ...
A: If you and she are really friends, I'm afraid it's game-over. You NEVER want to become friends with ...
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| How to Attract the girl I like | 4/5/2008 |
Q: Dennis. I would like that you help me with this: There is a girl in my class that I really like. I ...
A: First off, you've got to get this outside of school or at least outside of class. Invite her to have ...
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| I made mistakes | 4/4/2008 |
Q: So I'm 21 and I have been dating this girl for 2 years. when we first started dating after about 2-3 ...
A: Frankly, I think you're taking on far too much responsibility for her problems. That's sure a nice, ...
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| tips for an awesome first date | 4/3/2008 |
Q: hey doc, its jarred ive had my eye on this girl for awhile now and i just got my new truck ive ...
A: The best time to ask is always the same: right now. Don't wait on these things. When you're ready - ...
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| help | 4/1/2008 |
Q: man ive got a problem im 18 years old now and in my book im nowhere near as successful with women as ...
A: I'm glad I could help. It's not hard once you have a good understanding of the issues and the tools ...
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| help | 4/1/2008 |
Q: man ive got a problem im 18 years old now and in my book im nowhere near as successful with women as ...
A: This is a really great question, and in fact, you're asking the right question. Most guys ask the ...
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| Some nice lines | 3/30/2008 |
Q: Every night I tell her something like YOU ARE THE SUNSHINE OF MY LIFE, FROM WHERE DID YOU GET THAT ...
A: Let's see here, so you just re-heat some tired old lines from songs and she gets turned on? Holy ...
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| Working on getting my ex back after i pushed her away | 3/29/2008 |
Q: My ex broke up with me after a year and a 2 months, basically i have ended up pushing her away due ...
A: Is there a less-harsh way? Sure, you could beg and plead with her. You can promise that you'll ...
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| questiosn | 3/29/2008 |
Q: i like this girl and we were writing on a napkin to communicate. we were writing sarcastic banter on ...
A: First of all, you don't have sexual tension here - at least any that I can see. What you have here ...
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| Working on getting my ex back after i pushed her away | 3/28/2008 |
Q: My ex broke up with me after a year and a 2 months, basically i have ended up pushing her away due ...
A: Now, here's the real kicker: there *IS* someone better out there. The problem is that if you're ...
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| SHY GIRL! | 3/27/2008 |
Q: my ex girlfriend and my best friends ex girlfriend are best friends and.. my best friends ex girl ...
A: NO, NO, NO!!!! YOU DO ***NOT*** want to become her friend first!!! Don't do that or you'll never, ...
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| being the of her dreams | 3/26/2008 |
Q: I REALLY LIKE R SHALL I SAY LOVED THIS GIRL WE KNOWN EACH OTHER FOR 3 YEAR AND HALF BUT SHE ONLY ...
A: What probabaly seemed like a simple question is actually extremely complicated to answer. You're not ...
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| How long should I wait? | 3/24/2008 |
Q: Here is the situation, I know this girl, we've know each other ever since we were little kids. Her ...
A: As I've already told you - get your buddy to help. This is called "social proof" which means he's ...
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| Adding Women on Myspace | 3/23/2008 |
Q: I have been adding random people that I do not know onto my Myspace. The problem is I don't know ...
A: This is a huge blunder on myspace's part. I much prefer the way it's done on facebook or linkedin ...
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| stepping it up | 3/23/2008 |
Q: I am fifteen and in high school I have known this girl since the fourth grade and have liked her ...
A: It doesn't matter whether she's being flirty with you or not. What matters is what YOU want. ...
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| love proposal | 3/23/2008 |
Q: Respected dennis sir, I am 22 year old final year b.e. student and last year ...
A: You live in India, right? I know because this is the most common question I get from you guys. ...
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| How long should I wait? | 3/23/2008 |
Q: Here is the situation, I know this girl, we've know each other ever since we were little kids. Her ...
A: How long should you wait??? You should NEVER wait! You're already too late. (This is going to turn ...
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| How can i get over this girl ? | 3/20/2008 |
Q: Yesterday i went to a persian new year's festival gathering & i saw 1 girl who was SOO pretty. She ...
A: Happy Norooz! She rejected you because you were a weak coward and asked your friend to approach her ...
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| Ex interest | 3/19/2008 |
Q: I think you give great advice - straight and to the point. I'm wondering how you can tell if your ...
A: No change, although the way to handle this issue is to tell her she's NOT their mother and she ...
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| Ex interest | 3/18/2008 |
Q: I think you give great advice - straight and to the point. I'm wondering how you can tell if your ...
A: First of all, I'm glad you ended the relationship and not the other way around. If this had been ...
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| meeting girls | 3/15/2008 |
Q: im 18 years old and am a senior in high school. i really want to be able to meet girls. how do i do ...
A: You make a decision. What is it you want in your life? Do you want to be alone or do you want to be ...
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| communication issues | 3/3/2008 |
Q: There is this girl that has an attitude/personality of one that is an easy talker, knows her stuff, ...
A: Excellent question! This girl is likely using all sorts of communication tricks and techniques in ...
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| well you see theres this girl | 3/3/2008 |
Q: hey doc i need help, i am a freshman in high school and there is this girl that i like. as of a ...
A: Here's the mistake you're making: thinking that she has to be attracted to you first. That's not the ...
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| dating | 3/2/2008 |
Q: hey, im todd and ive been seeing this girl off and on for like a month or so and i noticed that she ...
A: Why are you waiting for her to do all the work? She doesn't want to kiss you - she wants YOU TO KISS ...
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| please help me!! | 3/2/2008 |
Q: theres been times when I've been able to get her laughing but not able to keep a conversation. i've ...
A: The reason why you're not getting anywhere is that you're not getting the whole story. You're using ...
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| over-sensitive? | 3/1/2008 |
Q: im am finding it tough finding a woman to fall in love with. The thing is I feel the guilt of acting ...
A: Interestingly, you probably don't really know what an Alpha is - few people do. Acting "tough" is ...
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| help my brother | 2/29/2008 |
Q: he likes a girl in his class, He's a total wreck when it comes to girls, but he really likes this ...
A: You shouldn't tell her. That's not how it works. Many guys think that by telling some girl they like ...
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| Falling for an (somewhat) older man | 2/27/2008 |
Q: A month ago I met an amazing man; handsome, in-shape, caring, respectful, educated, and with a ...
A: First of all, what's "wrong" here is believing that you're giving him (or giving into) anything. Sex ...
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| No Girlfriend... No luck... I suck?! | 2/26/2008 |
Q: I am a college student. A freshman. 19 years old. I have never been able to get a real girlfriend ...
A: ...funny subject line! Yes, I have a ton of suggestions. First of all, stop wasting your time ...
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| attitude | 2/26/2008 |
Q: hey dennis, i remember in one of our email conversations when you told me that women are mostly ...
A: Unfortunately, I get so many letters every day that unless you copy the previous email, I just can't ...
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| How to be naughty | 2/25/2008 |
Q: It is true that women are attracted to a naughty playful guy right? Can you give me some ways on ...
A: Actually, you're probably far more creative than you give yourself credit for. Creativity comes in ...
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| Falling for an (somewhat) older man | 2/25/2008 |
Q: A month ago I met an amazing man; handsome, in-shape, caring, respectful, educated, and with a ...
A: Do you get the feeling that he views you as a little girl because he treats you like this or because ...
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| help my brother | 2/25/2008 |
Q: he likes a girl in his class, He's a total wreck when it comes to girls, but he really likes this ...
A: I don't do these "pass-throughs". The reason is that you've translated his situation not as he sees ...
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| I'm in love with this girl, and i want to propose her. | 2/24/2008 |
Q: Sir, This is abhinav, writing from India. I worked in an organisation for 3 months. There i saw a ...
A: I'm very glad that this experience has changed you for the better. Caring for yourself is the first ...
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| getting my bestfriend/girlfriend back | 2/24/2008 |
Q: she used to like me back, we even confessed to each other. The relationship went good, till one day ...
A: Aha! Now, I understand what's going on. You were so happy to be in a relationship with this girl, ...
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| Is it possible that this girl likes me ? | 2/24/2008 |
Q: i went for my training 2day in JD sports (clothes shop) and there were alot of girls. i like this ...
A: You don't know if she likes you and neither do I. You didn't do anything to build attraction here. ...
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| getting my bestfriend/girlfriend back | 2/23/2008 |
Q: she used to like me back, we even confessed to each other. The relationship went good, till one day ...
A: What exactly are the differences for you between being girlfriend/boyfriend and being best friends? ...
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| want help to overcome situation | 2/20/2008 |
Q: i am a self respected person.while talking or nbefore .to a girl one thinling came in my mind ...
A: Is that really what you want with this girl - to have her as a friend? Nothing more? Ok then... ...
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| I dont no how to ask her | 2/20/2008 |
Q: I've gone out with this girl before. I made some mistakes and i know that. I've asked her out ...
A: Wait a minute, let's get something clear here. Asking her out on a date isn't the same thing as ...
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| I need help get a girlfriend | 2/19/2008 |
Q: I'm am a 16 year old that is pretty overweight, at 6"2", 290 pounds and 32% body fat. I'm do play 3 ...
A: The way you look on the outside is a reflection of what you think about on the inside. You're ...
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| want help to overcome situation | 2/18/2008 |
Q: i am a self respected person.while talking or nbefore .to a girl one thinling came in my mind ...
A: I'm sorry, but I have no idea what you're asking me here. You might want to have an English speaker ...
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| neeed your advice | 2/14/2008 |
Q: i m 27 yr old boy i like a girl from 3years i always wanna marry with her....but she does not like ...
A: I hope you really pay attention to what I'm about to tell you. It's going to change your life if you ...
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| I'm in love | 2/14/2008 |
Q: Dr.Dennis, I need help. I tried to contact many people and got no answers. I'm in love, I was dating ...
A: You contacted other experts here on this board and got no answers? Something's very wrong with that ...
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| How do I socially approach a women i'm interested in | 2/12/2008 |
Q: Hey Doc what up...Me and my friends hang out a lot at the mall and in public places and we always ...
A: What up? Everything above eye-level. Tips and techniques? Yep - a ton of them! Here's your ...
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| dream | 2/11/2008 |
Q: Then 3 weeks after my dream my girlfriend told me that her best friend had a dream that she was ...
A: If you want someone to interpret your dreams you may need to go to the clarvoyant's board. I don't ...
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| what should i do | 2/10/2008 |
Q: So i had been dating this girl for about a year. i meet her at a party of one of my friends and i ...
A: Well, I'll say this: you didn't miss a mistake! If there was one there to make, you made it! Here's ...
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| how will she react?? | 2/8/2008 |
Q: hey doc, on your advice on meeting up and kissing her when i see her thats a big step and that will ...
A: Do me a favor and always copy the previous email when you write a follow-up. I get so many questions ...
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| Are nice guys a dying breed? | 2/5/2008 |
Q: My question is do women even want a nice guy anymore? I've been a nice guy all my life. Upbringing ...
A: Actually, this is an excellent question! There's a dichotomy and huge misunderstandings about all of ...
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| whats with this gril an how do i handle it | 2/5/2008 |
Q: i have a question im not sure you have ever had before ive been wanting to date this girl for as ...
A: I'm not convinced that this girl is an AW, but it's definitely possible. It's somewhat important ...
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| My best friend's sister | 2/1/2008 |
Q: Neder. I have kind of a tough situation on my hands. My best friend and I have been best friends ...
A: Hey Colin! First of all, stay away from high-cost V-Day alternatives. You're not trying to buy her ...
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| My best friend's sister | 1/31/2008 |
Q: Neder. I have kind of a tough situation on my hands. My best friend and I have been best friends ...
A: The biggest, best thing you can do to show her you're in control is to BE in control. There isn't ...
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| My best friend's sister | 1/30/2008 |
Q: Neder. I have kind of a tough situation on my hands. My best friend and I have been best friends ...
A: Age is simply a number. It's not the age that's the issue here at all, it's the perception - hers in ...
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| friend at college | 1/30/2008 |
Q: I'm Phil (19). I’ve never had a girlfriend but it’s something I really want and I have very limited ...
A: If she were single you were going out then you should be going out right now. The fact that she ...
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| complicated scenario | 1/29/2008 |
Q: I am completely crushing on this girl I used to go to High school with and I found her on Facebook a ...
A: There's nothing wrong with it as long as this guy isn't a buddy of yours. Here's the reality: the ...
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| How to approach women | 1/28/2008 |
Q: I am in the rotary club and i often socialize. I meet a lot of girls and I want to be the ladies ...
A: It's very likely that you've gotten the reputation of being a ladies man. I know Rotary very well as ...
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| Wondering what to do | 1/28/2008 |
Q: I am not sure what to do. Let me explain the situation (please bear with my long post). Last ...
A: You're way over-thinking all of this. You have her phone number, you have context up the ass (your ...
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| How to turn my best friend to my girlfriend? | 1/23/2008 |
Q: I met a girl four years back in chat, and I changed from being just a chat friend to her best friend ...
A: You're going to have to make a choice here. Do you want a girlfriend or just a buddy? You can't have ...
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| on Luv | 1/19/2008 |
Q: Sir,i like a gal who is my friend's friend. I had exchnge few wrds wid her bt after tht thr is ...
A: She didn't add you as a friend because it was rude of you to assume she should. You're trying tricks ...
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| on Luv | 1/18/2008 |
Q: Sir,i like a gal who is my friend's friend. I had exchnge few wrds wid her bt after tht thr is ...
A: Ask your friend for her information or to help you meet up with her somewhere. Best regards... Dr. ...
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| girls | 1/16/2008 |
Q: i like this popular girl and im not so popular (im in 8th grade so its a big deal) she is the girl i ...
A: That's a pretty dumb idea. Who do you think her friend's are loyal to - you or her? Here's what'll ...
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| girls | 1/15/2008 |
Q: i like this popular girl and im not so popular (im in 8th grade so its a big deal) she is the girl i ...
A: First of all, get over yourself. You don't really even know this girl. All you know is her outward ...
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| younger guy trying to get an older girl | 1/15/2008 |
Q: A girl working at a store that I frequent seems to have a thing for me, she's asked another girl ...
A: If you're going to let age limit you, there's not much I can say. Dating is already a mental game, ...
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| Afraid I won't find it | 1/12/2008 |
Q: Dr. Neder, I am 31 years old and have never really felt anything for any of the women I have dated. ...
A: Man, you're not messed up at all - you're just a little misdirected. Yes, you could do very well ...
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| text maham | 1/9/2008 |
Q: i met this girl from my sister but i only talk to her through texting or maybe some times call her. ...
A: Is she ready for you to ask her out? No, she's probably WAY over that by now! Michael, you're way ...
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| why i cant pick up girls from school | 1/5/2008 |
Q: I am a senior inhigh school. I used to be fat and when i started playing sports and working out, i ...
A: When you've spent most of your life being the fat kid, you're not going to change that attitude ...
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| mind games | 1/1/2008 |
Q: hey dennis, guess what girls can be bitches?.. i have a great question 4 you theres a girl ive been ...
A: Here's the reality: almost any man can create attraction in almost any woman if he has enough game. ...
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| mind games | 1/1/2008 |
Q: hey dennis, guess what girls can be bitches?.. i have a great question 4 you theres a girl ive been ...
A: LOL - Really? Girls can be bitches??? Welcome to lesson #1! Yes, texting you constantly COULD be a ...
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| Love, or Like? | 12/30/2007 |
Q: So theres this girl I know from school; I have actually known her for a while now, and I get the ...
A: First of all, no - you're not in love with her. At the most, you're in lust with her! Don't give her ...
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| How to turn friendship into more... | 12/28/2007 |
Q: Dr. Neder, There's this girl who I grew up with in a small high school where we were all close ...
A: Ok, Rick - where do I start with you? You've got so many different problems here I'm not sure where ...
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| Need some advice | 12/28/2007 |
Q: Yes, There's this girl in my school that i want to talk to but I dont know how to get her attention. ...
A: Why not get one of those big fruit hats and a grass skirt. You'd definitely have her attention then! ...
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| How to get my ex-girlfriend back | 12/28/2007 |
Q: Me and my ex have been on again off again for about a year now,and whenever we're dating it only ...
A: You really haven't told me enough to know why she's doing this (or even if she's the one that breaks ...
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| i need your help please please please | 12/26/2007 |
Q: im mates with this girl that i really really like we were really close mates two years ago and i ...
A: It didn't work then, and it's not going to work now. Isn't it time you tried a new tactic? Being ...
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| Weird Reaction | 12/23/2007 |
Q: Neder, how are you doing, a week ago I approached and started talking to a girl on the way to work. ...
A: First of all, GREAT JOB on doing this approach! You used what I call "context" (the general remarks) ...
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| I am not sure if she was nice to me! | 12/22/2007 |
Q: Hope you are doing great! I have question for you. I went out with this girl last night. We have ...
A: First of all, you did most things right with the check. Here's the reality: today, many women will ...
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| When do i kiss and what do i do | 12/20/2007 |
Q: Hey how you doin? Well theres this girl. me and her are going out. well first off, when we werent ...
A: Why haven't you kissed her before now? Are you looking for a relationship with this girl or just a ...
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| Is girl interested by looking back at me ? | 12/19/2007 |
Q: Today i went into the study area at lunchtime, and there were a crowd of people chatting. When i ...
A: Sure it could possibly, maybe mean she likes you. It could also mean that you remind her of the ...
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| ok now what | 12/11/2007 |
Q: i asked her out on the phone and she said i dont know. and she said theres her x i guess who thinks ...
A: When you write to me, ALWAYS copy the previous messages. I get so many of them every day that I ...
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| i think there might be a chance doc what do i do next | 12/9/2007 |
Q: hey doc, its matt. doc, there has been this girl lisa that ive liked for well over a year now i know ...
A: What I think happened was that she was interested in you at one time a long time ago. She's no ...
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| Negs & Metaframes | 12/7/2007 |
Q: Can u give me half a dozen or so "negs", or whatever u call them, that I can use to girls at my ...
A: Yeah, I can give you a ton of them. I have a bunch of them in my book, "Being a Man in a Woman's ...
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| why i cant pick up girls from school | 12/6/2007 |
Q: I am a senior inhigh school. I used to be fat and when i started playing sports and working out, i ...
A: Why would you want to be "somewhat successful" when you could be massively successful instead??? The ...
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| Dont know what to do next | 12/6/2007 |
Q: Well theres this girl in marching band and I'm in drumline. and we spend some time together, we talk ...
A: When should you ask her out? A long time ago buddy! You may very well be losing your power here! ...
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| What Next? I need your help | 12/6/2007 |
Q: I recently confessed to a girl hoe much I like her..I haven't got an answer from her yet....and I am ...
A: I've received multiple copies of this question. I hope you're not just blasting it to everyone on ...
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| confusion | 12/1/2007 |
Q: My name is Justin and I’m a Freshman in college. I met this girl about 2 weeks into school so I’ve ...
A: You don't think you've falled into the friend-zone? I do! Let's consider a few things here, shall ...
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| Getting a girl i cant get out of my head and making her mine?? | 12/1/2007 |
Q: I met this girl like one month back through a friend well we talk and i think shes interested in me. ...
A: You want to learn how to "convert". You're right on that it's your job to make this happen. Many ...
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| availability vs. attractiveness..... | 12/1/2007 |
Q: More than once I have read and heard about how if you seem "desperate" it somehow causes you to ...
A: No, that is NOT the "way you are". It's the choice you make simply because you haven't learned how ...
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| How Do I Attract A Girl Who Is Currently A Friend? | 11/29/2007 |
Q: Neder, I am a sophomore in Highschool and for the past two months I have enjoyed to company of a ...
A: Here's the problem - you have the girl's own biology working against you. There's going to be some ...
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| Thanks for your advice | 11/28/2007 |
Q: I think i forgot to tell you this. I did ask her out and didnt tell he where we are going and also ...
A: Yes, there's a problem here. The good news is that it's not a huge one and can be easily solved with ...
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| Need some help | 11/26/2007 |
Q: Well i made a big mistake. i got with this girl two summers ago. i met her from my 2 freinds. I ...
A: So, now she's punishing you for hurting her, huh? It's too bad you sent that first letter - and the ...
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| how to propose a girl | 11/25/2007 |
Q: i want to propose a girl but the problem is that she is working with me and i'am not able to tell ...
A: You shouldn't express your feelings to her anyway. That's a coward's way out. It's all about doing ...
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| Dance | 11/25/2007 |
Q: I forgot this part of my previous question. What's a good length of time before a dance to ask a ...
A: First of all, if you're not building something during the next 3 months with her, you're missing the ...
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| dating | 11/24/2007 |
Q: I'm a Sophomore in High School and this girl and I are great friends and she asked me to the school ...
A: Here's the most important secret you're ever going to learn the rest of your life about women: you ...
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| how to propose a girl | 11/23/2007 |
Q: i want to propose a girl but the problem is that she is working with me and i'am not able to tell ...
A: Let's be clear on two points first: 1) What part of the world do you live in? 2) What is it that ...
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| filipino women | 11/20/2007 |
Q: I have been pursing the woman of my dreams for sometime now and apparently she never new of my ...
A: "Filipino women are different"??? Why, do they have penises? ;0 Frankly, I think you've blown it ...
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| My Bitterness is Ruining My Life | 11/19/2007 |
Q: I'm single, in my late 30's, and have a high paying job. I'm healthy, in good shape, and have ...
A: Hypnotherapy can be a very powerful way to change deep-seated habits like this; and let's be clear ...
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| Approaching girls at the gym | 11/19/2007 |
Q: Neder For the past few months I was going to the gym at around 8am. There wasn't any chit chatting ...
A: Exactly right about the long response! It's a great tool to not only learn a lot about the woman, ...
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| dating women | 11/18/2007 |
Q: 1) How can i approach women who are receptionists and i am a delivery boy dropping of a package? ...
A: 1) Just the same way you do it anywhere else. Forget "lines" first off. They don't work. After ...
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| Approaching girls at the gym | 11/18/2007 |
Q: Neder For the past few months I was going to the gym at around 8am. There wasn't any chit chatting ...
A: No, when you're in a competitve dating situation like a gym or a bar, you want to move quickly. ...
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| How to tell let her know im interested | 11/17/2007 |
Q: I recently saw an old schoolmate in college from grade school. She is one of the most beautiful ...
A: First of all - DON'T DO IT!!! Don't try to let her know you're interested. The reasoning behind ...
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| Why does this girl keep annoying me ? | 11/17/2007 |
Q: There is a girl who lately has been making fun of me and i don't know why. Today in class she kept ...
A: Sorry, but I don't read minds. There's no one reason why people do stupid things. In fact, there are ...
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| My friend needs your advice. | 11/17/2007 |
Q: Neder. My name is Mario and I'm interested in asking your expertise,about a friend of mine. His ...
A: I'm afraid I don't do "pass throughs" on these sorts of questions. It's far too difficult for you to ...
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| Is it wrong to like a girl because you want to protect her? | 11/15/2007 |
Q: My name is Sebastian and I am sixteen. In the past there was this girl I liked, and I've liked her ...
A: This isn't about you "coming on too strong" - I don't care what she's told you! That is just pure ...
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| how can i improve with women | 11/15/2007 |
Q: hey doc, love your site and articles there a great help doc i have some problems and i hope you can ...
A: First, thanks for the comments on the site and articles! You're probably going to be surprised to ...
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| Is it wrong to like a girl because you want to protect her? | 11/14/2007 |
Q: My name is Sebastian and I am sixteen. In the past there was this girl I liked, and I've liked her ...
A: Oh! Aren't you the gentleman? You're "letting her" go out with someone else while you're worried ...
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| met the perfect girl but .... | 11/12/2007 |
Q: danced had fun, we dated for a week, small dates, driving, hanging out. Realy hit it off. Problem is ...
A: First of all, there's no such thing as a "rebound relationship". That's just an excuse some people ...
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| what do I say ? | 11/4/2007 |
Q: I recently saw an old lover ( we've been broken up for 6 mths after a 3 year relationship )I saw her ...
A: Hey Kyle! Ignore it. Her sounding put-off is likely just strategy. No, you don't need to script ...
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| Thanks for your advice | 11/4/2007 |
Q: I think i forgot to tell you this. I did ask her out and didnt tell he where we are going and also ...
A: I still think you waited too long. The symptoms of your situation indicate this. It's either that or ...
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| Do girls like boys who try hard or not ? | 11/4/2007 |
Q: In school there is a gorgeous girl who is very shy but gets all the attention from guys (mainly boy ...
A: It's not so much about trying to get her attention as the fact of being different - not like the ...
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| confusing girl | 11/3/2007 |
Q: Hey Dennis read your profile and I think you might be able to help me. Ive had numerous ...
A: You're welcome. Slapping is what I do best! Well, as I said before, you need to give her some ...
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| I am heart broken | 11/3/2007 |
Q: I have been talking to a girl that works in my building, we kind off had that chemistry going. She ...
A: There are 1001 different possibly reasons why she's doing this. You need to ask yourself if you ...
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| Sounds like you could help....... | 11/1/2007 |
Q: I came across your profile on this website and thought you might be able to help me, which would be ...
A: Holy shit Travis! She's 21 years old and has 3 kids and isn't even married to the father???? What is ...
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| I am heart broken | 11/1/2007 |
Q: I have been talking to a girl that works in my building, we kind off had that chemistry going. She ...
A: What likely happened was that she got tired of waiting for you to make something happened and she ...
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| girlfriend... | 10/31/2007 |
Q: I have to most amazing girl. She is my 1st love. I couldnt ask for anything more . But lately she ...
A: First, it's a good idea to try to find out why she's pulling back. It might be that you're getting ...
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| She's my everything | 10/31/2007 |
Q: I told my coworker that I LIKE her. she said why do i like me? I can't answer that qestion. I don't ...
A: Wait a minute here. Are you saying that she's told you she's going to end things if you don't tell ...
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| what do I say ? | 10/30/2007 |
Q: I recently saw an old lover ( we've been broken up for 6 mths after a 3 year relationship )I saw her ...
A: It's best to just "run into her" if you can coordinate that, but a reasonable backup is to call her. ...
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| what do I say ? | 10/30/2007 |
Q: I recently saw an old lover ( we've been broken up for 6 mths after a 3 year relationship )I saw her ...
A: You bet I'll help a brother out! First of all, DO NOT; under any circumstance, apologize for ...
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| I made a huge mistake ..w/ my gf | 10/29/2007 |
Q: I have broken up with a girlfriend , or rather she dumped me because she felt rejected by me ...
A: Hey Tom! I've already told you NOT to send the portrait. Don't reward her bad behavior by giving ...
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| I made a huge mistake ..w/ my gf | 10/29/2007 |
Q: I have broken up with a girlfriend , or rather she dumped me because she felt rejected by me ...
A: How many times are you going to ask me this exact same question? If you don't like my original ...
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| after the break up..... | 10/28/2007 |
Q: my pc restarted by itself. i had written everything out..and it got deleted. so i am just going to ...
A: In almost every case where a women is interested in you but mistreats you, starts to nag you or ...
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| how do I get her back ? | 10/27/2007 |
Q: DR. I recently lost a girlfriend because of a break I suggested , during that time she met someone ...
A: Hey Steve! Yes, I'm absolutely saying that. Consider this: women know they're not going to get you ...
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| how do I get her back ? | 10/27/2007 |
Q: DR. I recently lost a girlfriend because of a break I suggested , during that time she met someone ...
A: First of all, don't punish your son for the problems between you and your ex. Go and have a great ...
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| a special case of liking some one | 10/22/2007 |
Q: I like this girl very much but i dont think she likes me some times she seems to like me likethose ...
A: Here's the reality: you're going to HAVE TO force yourself to go out with other girls if you ever ...
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| love | 10/20/2007 |
Q: My name is mike. well i just turned 19 years old. well anyways there is this girl i used to like but ...
A: Hey! Is it "normal"? I guess it's normal for you! You've got her attention and that's a good thing, ...
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| Why is this girl being mean / cheeky to me ? | 10/19/2007 |
Q: In my lesson, there is this girl who lately ALWAYS teases me, get rly cheeky with me and can be so ...
A: You've blasted this message to me more than once and thus, I'm assuming that you're sending it to ...
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| A girl i like may like me... | 10/13/2007 |
Q: Hey, I have a question about this girl I've been eyeing for the past few months. I've noticed that ...
A: Well, it makes me feel all warm and tingly that you actually picked me to answer your question just ...
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| Dealing with my ex-gf | 10/11/2007 |
Q: Here is a short description to my story with my ex. i have been with her for 2 years. everything was ...
A: Frankly, you'll get a lot more out of NOT sending her that birthday wish than by sending it. If you ...
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| how do i let this girl know that i have feelings for her? | 10/10/2007 |
Q: My name is Skylar and im 15. There is a girl that I really like, but she doesn't know and I'm afraid ...
A: First, relax! Just because it's the first time you've been interested in a girl doesn't make it a ...
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| Hot women | 10/8/2007 |
Q: I was really hoping to find a female in this category to get their input, but it seems to me that ...
A: Hey James! Of course! Just quote me accurately - and often! Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder ...
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| Little help? | 10/8/2007 |
Q: I'm trying to get with this one chick. She moved 3 hours away, but i beleive she expressed interest ...
A: So what's going on here? Do you live in a boy's school and she's the last woman in the world? Tom, ...
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| Dealing with my ex-gf | 10/8/2007 |
Q: Here is a short description to my story with my ex. i have been with her for 2 years. everything was ...
A: Man! You're all over the place here! It's one thing and then the other. It's this and it's that. You ...
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| In college, been friends with girl since middle school, a little confused | 10/8/2007 |
Q: Hey doc, I really like the advice you give and the direct manner you deliver it so I hope you'll ...
A: What are you a mathmatician? "X", "Y", "Z"??? ;) Let's begin with this: whenever a girl tells you ...
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| Hot women | 10/7/2007 |
Q: I was really hoping to find a female in this category to get their input, but it seems to me that ...
A: I like to think about this not as indifference; but as "managed intervention". Let me explain: This ...
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| Hot women | 10/7/2007 |
Q: I was really hoping to find a female in this category to get their input, but it seems to me that ...
A: I know exactly what you're saying here. Yes, it SEEMS like that to us guys because we're looking at ...
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| how to get girls to like me | 10/6/2007 |
Q: im a sohpomore in high school. i want to get girls to like me. theres not really a specific 1 but ...
A: This is both a good and a bad question. Let's start with the bad first, then the good and then the ...
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| friendship | 10/4/2007 |
Q: I am in love with a women who is a friend( for 2 years ), but she has a bf she is going to ...
A: So, what are you going to do then - sit around while she gets married and hope that she comes to ...
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| Damn Video Store Cuties!!! | 10/4/2007 |
Q: Okay, I've run into a cute girl, a nice one too, and wanted so bad to ask her out though without ...
A: You sent this question to me multiple times so I assume you've sent it to every other expert here. ...
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| i need to get this girl! | 10/4/2007 |
Q: Alright, so I've been best friends with this one girl for like a year now. But ever since I first ...
A: You're fucked. Zach, I'm in the "reality business" so let's deal with the realities here, ok? ...
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| Lost :S | 10/2/2007 |
Q: I've 26 and never dated anyone, I'm a nice guy that never gets girls numbers, instead they give me ...
A: Ok, so you've discovered a number of ways that DON'T work to meet and date women. It's probably time ...
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| HELP!!! | 10/1/2007 |
Q: ok my girlfriend thinks i like her old friend...but i dont at all...she wants me to stop talking to ...
A: I don't think you and I agree on exactly what the problem here is. You think it's your fault that ...
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| how do I get her back ? | 9/30/2007 |
Q: DR. I recently lost a girlfriend because of a break I suggested , during that time she met someone ...
A: I want this to be a very painful, life-changing lesson for you. Relationships are fragile things and ...
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| Can I get her Back? | 9/27/2007 |
Q: Okay. I've been dating this girl for almost two years. We've been very close for a long time and I ...
A: My [rhetorical] question for you is this: what exactly is it that you want back? More lying? More ...
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| Is the girl flirting with me ? | 9/26/2007 |
Q: "Today in school, i needed to collect my bag so as i was walking i saw 5 girls coming down the ...
A: Yes, she possibly likes you. It's YOUR job to approach her, not the other way around. Best ...
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| Can't read her | 9/25/2007 |
Q: Dennis W. Neder Here is my problem. I recently moved to the states from Canada, for a good job i ...
A: First off, I don't know what she's thinking any more than you do - in fact, likely less. What I do ...
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| i need to win her back | 9/23/2007 |
Q: a girl i was seeing for about 3 weeks, but we have liked each other for longer has just finished me ...
A: Hold on a second. Christmas and Easter??? Those are many months away and have nothing to do with the ...
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| Approaching the girl | 9/22/2007 |
Q: Neder, I'm trying to approach and meet a girl I see frequently on the way to work in the morning in ...
A: The "best" approach is one that has context. Context is simply what you and she have in common at ...
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| love | 9/21/2007 |
Q: i am an software engg in an mnc in india.in our company cafeteria i noticed one sweet looking and ...
A: You shouldn't have tortured this poor girl!! Prasash, you've totally blown this situation. What am ...
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| how to get a girl to like me | 9/21/2007 |
Q: i need to know how to get a girl to like plz i need help i really like her and she might like me i ...
A: You need to change the way you're thinking here. What you want is to somehow impress her so much ...
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| love | 9/20/2007 |
Q: My name is mike. well i just turned 19 years old. well anyways there is this girl i used to like but ...
A: Let's look at the reality here: you can't prevent her from talking to other guys. She's going to ...
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| help | 9/19/2007 |
Q: well I have this situation im 17 and i kind of still like this girl. We weren't really together but ...
A: First, you need to learn how to read these sorts of signals from women. If she really wanted to just ...
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| An "ex" issue | 9/18/2007 |
Q: I have asked you for an advice around 3 weeks ago and it helped me a lot. I thank you for that and i ...
A: Luka - what the hell??? I have 6 copies of this same question repeated over and over in my mailbox! ...
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| I want my girlfreind back | 9/15/2007 |
Q: it was the bigginng of 10 grade and this girl i liked last year but she whet out with this other guy ...
A: Why would you be ok with being blown off? I sure wouldn't be! The point of going out together isn't ...
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| I need help | 9/13/2007 |
Q: I have loved this one girl for 4 years. One day in march we hooked up and ive been head over heels ...
A: Here's the reason why she's pulled back on you: you've told her in every possible way that you have ...
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| asking a girl out | 9/11/2007 |
Q: there is this girl at my school who i want to ask out really badly but when ever i try to talk to ...
A: The reason you're forgetting what you want to say is that you're trying to use some elaborate ...
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| Approaching Women | 9/11/2007 |
Q: I'm a sophomore in college. I believe I'm a fairly confident guy -- I think I'm attractive, I know ...
A: They eye contact thing can be a very good sign, but not by itself. Guys make this mistake all the ...
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| Telling a women is better? | 9/11/2007 |
Q: Hey Doc i got a couple questions to ask... i've seen a lot of your answers and i gotta say i'm a ...
A: The reason you tell a woman to give you her number rather than ask is done for a couple of reasons: ...
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| I screwed up. Do I still have a chance? | 9/10/2007 |
Q: I've been seeing a girl for three months. We had a connection that neither one felt before. We sepnt ...
A: Unfortunately, the damage began when you first met her. You and she went off on this world-wind ...
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| How do I get this girl | 9/7/2007 |
Q: I'm hoping you can help me. I've been dating a greek girl for the last 8 months. I asked her to ...
A: Frankly, I'd have been a little more harsh with her if this were me. She wrote you that text in an ...
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| Girl Has Boyfriend/Girl New to College---Attractive | 9/7/2007 |
Q: Hey Dr. Neder, My question to you is how will I be able to create an attraction between me and this ...
A: If she's told you no twice, that's a very bad thing! It means that you approached her too early and ...
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| How do I get this girl | 9/6/2007 |
Q: I'm hoping you can help me. I've been dating a greek girl for the last 8 months. I asked her to ...
A: Holy shit Paul! If there was a mistake to make here, you made it. In fact, you even invented some ...
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| How do i get it started? | 9/5/2007 |
Q: Hey, theres a girl that I've liked since I started schools this year, but I just dont know how to ...
A: You're right - that's a terrible idea. Don't do that, you'll just get a "no". Here's why: Have you ...
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| cant get over her | 9/5/2007 |
Q: Well im a 24 year old guy who is a sucker for love..i was with my x for 2 years off and on due to ...
A: If anything the time is going to work to your favor. You're going to need that time to totally ...
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| A problem! | 9/5/2007 |
Q: How can I make her to want a serious relation?...the problem is she never sad she love me,just she ...
A: You've become her "friend", not her boyfriend. Instead of letting her earn you and having value in ...
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| cant get over her | 9/5/2007 |
Q: Well im a 24 year old guy who is a sucker for love..i was with my x for 2 years off and on due to ...
A: What a minute...due to the way SHE felt about you? What about the way YOU felt? Just who is in ...
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| I like this girl, but she has a bf | 9/4/2007 |
Q: I'm 24 and I've never had gf, and I'm seriously starting to panic about it, sometimes I go mad ...
A: I don't know if she's lying or not, but as I said before, boyfriends are never a problem. More ...
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| I like this girl, but she has a bf | 9/4/2007 |
Q: I'm 24 and I've never had gf, and I'm seriously starting to panic about it, sometimes I go mad ...
A: Nor should you tell her that you're interested in her! That's one sure way to kill off any ...
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| the girl i like | 9/4/2007 |
Q: my question is that the girl is interested in me ad wants to be with me but she is scared because ...
A: You can tell her to grow the hell up and stop trying to make you responsible for problems she had in ...
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| this girl | 9/3/2007 |
Q: I am a 16 year old junior in high school and i can't stop thinking about this girl that i went to ...
A: What difference does it make that you haven't talked in a long time? That's exactly the reason you ...
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| love in a disaster | 9/2/2007 |
Q: theres a really nice girl that really love but the thing is, is that my best mate also fancies her ...
A: You should give me more information! First of all, either you or your buddy need to back down. Only ...
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| how to get the girl i love | 9/2/2007 |
Q: I am only 15 years old and i think I'm in love with this girl I've only said about two words to her ...
A: Man! You sure have a lot of problems with some girl you've never even met! Why are you creating all ...
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| last question | 8/31/2007 |
Q: one last question... what is more effective in making a girl like me laughter or romance? specify ...
A: Specify both??? Ok: laughter and romance. I have no clue what you're asking me here, but what ...
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| Approaching a girl in Class | 8/31/2007 |
Q: I had a question about how to approach a particular girl in one of my classes. To start off, I am a ...
A: First of all, I'm glad you're trying to make a move right away. Many guys wait and wait looking for ...
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| becoming friends first ... | 8/30/2007 |
Q: My name is Matt, I'm a freshman in college, and I am 18 years old. I have been talking to another ...
A: Hey Matt! Man - that was a huge miss. You need to push yourself to NEVER miss an opportunity like ...
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| becoming friends first ... | 8/30/2007 |
Q: My name is Matt, I'm a freshman in college, and I am 18 years old. I have been talking to another ...
A: If that's a "thank you", you're very welcome. Actually, it doesn't come off as pushy to women at ...
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| Is she playing games with me? | 8/29/2007 |
Q: I recently asked a girl out that I see at work. I work at a grocery store and she comes in through ...
A: She's avoiding being alone with you. Frankly, I think you should just kick her to the curb and move ...
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| Confused signals from my girl | 8/29/2007 |
Q: Myself and my dream girl are working in the same organization but in different departments. I am the ...
A: Oh John - where do I start with you???? First of all, you must not care very much about your job if ...
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| Getting her back... | 8/28/2007 |
Q: I split with my girlfriend of four years officially last weekend. I say officially, because we'd ...
A: Forget the last week - start thinking in terms of months. Don't return her phone calls, texts and ...
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| Getting her back... | 8/28/2007 |
Q: I split with my girlfriend of four years officially last weekend. I say officially, because we'd ...
A: Wait just one cotton-picking minute here. You're blaming yourself and your WOW addiction, when she's ...
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| what to do or say if she confronts me | 8/23/2007 |
Q: hey dennis, its rob you already know about my situation with lisa that shes using excuses not to be ...
A: No, I'm afraid I don't remember your situation. Sorry, but you should always copy the original ...
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| how do i know if this girl is into me of if she wants something serious? | 8/22/2007 |
Q: Here is the deal: I met this girl at work so one night out of the nowhere she calls me and asks me ...
A: Here's what happened: things were moving along pretty well until you started to pull back. She even ...
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| Girl of my dreams | 8/20/2007 |
Q: My question is about the girl that could possibly be the one for me. So she sends me a message a few ...
A: Let's not confuse the issue here. Her calling you a few times and talking to her over the weekend ...
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| how do i get her then?? | 8/20/2007 |
Q: hey rob, you know your right about the social proof thing but what exactly is social proof?? and ...
A: Yo! Rob! "Social Proof" as used here means that she has no basis for seeing you as anything other ...
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| help | 8/20/2007 |
Q: ive been trying to get a girlfriend for over a year this girl i really really like and care bout ...
A: I'm afraid that you cut your own throat here by becoming her friend first. Is it "game over"? ...
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| 1 night stands | 8/19/2007 |
Q: my name is rob and im 17 i like a girl named lisa but she says shes not ready for a serious ...
A: You're very welcome - I'm glad it helped. Actually, yes, I think it's an excuse. You're happy right ...
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| 1 night stands | 8/19/2007 |
Q: my name is rob and im 17 i like a girl named lisa but she says shes not ready for a serious ...
A: First of all, I have no idea why you're "waiting around" for her, "respecting her" and "being her ...
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| Should I move forward to propose a good friend who is also seeing another guy | 8/17/2007 |
Q: I am Arooj a final year undergraduate student from India studying in Canada. I am interested in one ...
A: I fully understand your point. It SEEMS like getting close to her (as a form of friendship) would be ...
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| Should I move forward to propose a good friend who is also seeing another guy | 8/17/2007 |
Q: I am Arooj a final year undergraduate student from India studying in Canada. I am interested in one ...
A: Other guys - even boyfriends - aren't a barrier to you becoming a boyfriend; however your skill set ...
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| Approach at the beach | 8/13/2007 |
Q: Neder I sent this question to Mr. Beck a few days ago, but I am yet to get an answer so I decided ...
A: I hope you don't EVER do that to a friend again! Even though you got his pseudo-approval after the ...
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| she's always with her friends | 8/11/2007 |
Q: A friend of mine introduced me a girl a few months ago that I was curious to meet because she ...
A: Don't approach her - approach the group. In other words, go talk to the entire group as a whole and ...
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| Approach at the beach | 8/10/2007 |
Q: Neder I sent this question to Mr. Beck a few days ago, but I am yet to get an answer so I decided ...
A: I can't tell you why you don't, but I can tell you that you'd better make a move if you want a ...
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| Dating younger | 8/4/2007 |
Q: I am a 26 year old man looking to know what age group I should look into for dating? I have notice ...
A: Hey James! I'm glad this isn't a private exchange as I think many people will benefit from reading ...
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| Dating younger | 8/4/2007 |
Q: I am a 26 year old man looking to know what age group I should look into for dating? I have notice ...
A: Are you trying to do your thesis on this subject? If so, you stop asking rank amatures and go to ...
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| Dating younger | 8/3/2007 |
Q: I am a 26 year old man looking to know what age group I should look into for dating? I have notice ...
A: I agree with you - women do NOT mature quicker than men. Girls (pre-puberty) do, but not adults, and ...
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| my ex i cant get over | 8/2/2007 |
Q: my ex-girlfriend whom i was with for about two years, she was my high school sweetheart and I love ...
A: Let me let you in on an "immutable" (unchangeable) law of the universe. This law is just as real and ...
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| being a challenge | 7/11/2007 |
Q: neder, one thing ive been hearing alot lately and it seems to make sense is being a challenge with ...
A: Basically that's true. The bust and challenge techniques are pretty involved and require a ton of ...
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| being a challenge | 7/10/2007 |
Q: neder, one thing ive been hearing alot lately and it seems to make sense is being a challenge with ...
A: I know, I know. This whole dating this is crazy! That challenge thing is a little misdirected. Yes, ...
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| keys to eventually getting her | 7/8/2007 |
Q: neder, i wanted to ask you this question because you always seem to give the best advice and what ...
A: Ohhh! Flattery!!! Well then, how can I *not* answer your question??? ;) First of all, don't let ...
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| i like my former teacher | 7/8/2007 |
Q: actually i dont know what to do, i have this former professor of english, we are the same age, 25, ...
A: It appears that you've cross-posted this to other experts. That's considered rude in this circle ...
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| Tricks & Openers | 7/8/2007 |
Q: I pick up women very ofeten and I have good results, but I still want to improve myself and get more ...
A: Great question - thanks for asking! First of all, I *never* use pick-up lines and neither should ...
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| What do i do? | 7/5/2007 |
Q: Firstly thanks for helping me out on this one. Ok I'm usually good at making attraction with women ...
A: He's not going to win her over before she gets back. That sort of "in your face" tactic is something ...
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| More romance, less clown | 6/28/2007 |
Q: Hey, Dr. Neder. I have lots of trouble getting into relationships; the problem isn't that I am ...
A: I believe you're right - this *is* due to your excessive nervousness. You're wrong on one important ...
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| how to get ex girl back | 6/28/2007 |
Q: I've dated a few girls throughout high school. But there is this one girl that I loved so much. I ...
A: Let's be clear on exactly what this is: it's not that you are in love with this girl from high ...
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| An "ex" issue | 6/22/2007 |
Q: I have asked you for an advice around 3 weeks ago and it helped me a lot. I thank you for that and i ...
A: If she contacts you before this, just be cordial and somewhat nice on the phone (or whereever) but ...
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| An "ex" issue | 6/19/2007 |
Q: I have asked you for an advice around 3 weeks ago and it helped me a lot. I thank you for that and i ...
A: You're very welcome. I'm glad I could help. Yes, time is definitely on your side here. I suggest ...
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| I told her I loved her | 6/12/2007 |
Q: When I was a sophomore in high school, me and this girl had 2 classes together. She is really smart, ...
A: You're very welcome. The right time to tell you that you love her is when she says it to you first. ...
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| I told her I loved her | 6/12/2007 |
Q: When I was a sophomore in high school, me and this girl had 2 classes together. She is really smart, ...
A: Let's start with a dose of reality here first. This is a very "young" relationship, and the fact is, ...
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| i cant believe ive met this girl | 6/10/2007 |
Q: i have met this increidbly amazing girl the other week and straight away we was attracted to each ...
A: No, I'd avoid calling her every day. That's far too often - even if you really, really want to! You ...
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| be friends or leave | 6/9/2007 |
Q: I have a question myself. A year ago I met a beautiful girl in a gym. I showed her how to do one of ...
A: Go to my website (http://beingaman.com) and click on BAM TV. From there, take a look at the short ...
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| girl calling | 6/9/2007 |
Q: I have a weird relationship with a girl with a boyfriend. she calls me whenever he isn't around, ...
A: Are you and she at least playing kissy-face? Is there a physical relationship? If not, you're only ...
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| Long time no see | 6/6/2007 |
Q: This is a story about a relationship that may never happen. There is this girl in my grade that is ...
A: Those questions weren't lame. This is a life-long learning process and everyone has to start at the ...
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| Asking a girl out | 6/5/2007 |
Q: There is this girl I really like, but A) Im not sure if she likes me, shes certainly friendly and ...
A: Hey Dennis! It doesn't matter if she's seeing someone else or not. Let me ask you: what if you ...
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| Asking a girl out | 6/5/2007 |
Q: There is this girl I really like, but A) Im not sure if she likes me, shes certainly friendly and ...
A: Here's what's also not going to work: trying to get a script or "progressive" where you continue to ...
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| Asking a girl out | 6/4/2007 |
Q: There is this girl I really like, but A) Im not sure if she likes me, shes certainly friendly and ...
A: A) It doesn't matter if she likes you too. You can create interest in women. B) You're also ...
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| im confused about this woman | 5/30/2007 |
Q: I met and have been somewhat seeing this woman for a few months now. The reason I say somewhat ...
A: Here's something you absolutely need to understand about women - almost every one of them are ...
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| give me answer soon and carefully | 5/27/2007 |
Q: "hi . thanks for ur time . i hope u are psycho or at least you have enough information to help me ...
A: Yo! Afshin! Ah, no, I'm a man. Have you even looked at my expert bio??? If that guy in the picture ...
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| I want to get my ex back | 5/27/2007 |
Q: Im sure you sir can give me an advice few if any people can. I have been with this girl for 8 and a ...
A: Here's what you shouldn't do - just about everything you've done so far! Worse yet, you haven't done ...
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| Work romance | 5/26/2007 |
Q: Dr. Neder, I AM NOT CROSS POSTING but the advice I got from another expert here just seems like ...
A: I agree with a few things Aaron has said, but disagree with quite a bit. I'm writing about an issue ...
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| give me answer soon and carefully | 5/25/2007 |
Q: "hi . thanks for ur time . i hope u are psycho or at least you have enough information to help me ...
A: If you start dating the friend, you'll never have a shot at the primary target - trust me. What do ...
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| give me answer soon and carefully | 5/25/2007 |
Q: "hi . thanks for ur time . i hope u are psycho or at least you have enough information to help me ...
A: The fact that you're really interested in this girl is messing with your head. You want to make sure ...
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| Coming back just as a friend? | 5/24/2007 |
Q: Dr. Neder, About 5 months ago i started telling a girl i felt alot for her, and all the sudden just ...
A: Hey Cameron! Herein lies a great deal of the problem. You've built her up in your mind so far that ...
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| Coming back just as a friend? | 5/23/2007 |
Q: Dr. Neder, About 5 months ago i started telling a girl i felt alot for her, and all the sudden just ...
A: When you give someone else all your power, it's up to them how you feel. That's also not good - you ...
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| follow up | 5/23/2007 |
Q: Hmmm...guess we won't know unless he give me some more clues as to what kind of person he is. Maybe ...
A: Yo! Ana! ..or how 'bout, "Forget the budget and just kiss me you big dope!" Best regards... Dr. ...
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| follow up | 5/23/2007 |
Q: Hmmm...guess we won't know unless he give me some more clues as to what kind of person he is. Maybe ...
A: Hey Ana! I'll guarrantee this: if you say that, you'll DEFINITELY get an answer! Best regards.. ...
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| Coming back just as a friend? | 5/23/2007 |
Q: Dr. Neder, About 5 months ago i started telling a girl i felt alot for her, and all the sudden just ...
A: No, if you stick it out, you'll NEVER have another shot at her. Period. Game over. This is why she ...
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| How do I get her back? | 5/23/2007 |
Q: Recently my girlfriend broke it off with me. Her reasons being 1-She wants time for herself, to do ...
A: Let's be clear on something: did you break up (that is, you're no longer boyfriend/girlfriend) or ...
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| follow up | 5/22/2007 |
Q: Hmmm...guess we won't know unless he give me some more clues as to what kind of person he is. Maybe ...
A: Hey Ana! Well, I don't know how pretty you are - maybe it's just a down-payment!!! Best regards.. ...
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| very important | 5/22/2007 |
Q: Its a long story. Heres the short version. This girl from England,18, came here in Feb and I like ...
A: I'm afraid I don't get the sense that she's quite as interested in you as you are of her, but ...
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| help me dude i realy am desperate | 5/22/2007 |
Q: i met this girl online a few weeks back.i chatted with her for a week then i had developed this ...
A: I'll email a response to you. Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder President ...
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| Desperately need help! | 5/21/2007 |
Q: Neder, if you could help me out I'd greatly appreciate it. Ok so here's the situation: I know a ...
A: Now wait a minute AJ - let's slow things down here! No, this girl isn't the "girl of your dreams". ...
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| How do I get her back? | 5/20/2007 |
Q: Recently my girlfriend broke it off with me. Her reasons being 1-She wants time for herself, to do ...
A: Frankly, I don't put a lot of weight on the excuses she's given you. I think there's much more to ...
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| One year age gap (the bad kind) | 5/20/2007 |
Q: I also asked Aaron, but if you guys don't mind, I'd like to see what both of you have to say. I'm ...
A: Tyler, it's considered rude to "cross-post" these questions. I serously doubt that Aaron and I would ...
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| is love selfish | 5/19/2007 |
Q: I proposed a girl but she rejected me. Now she is in another school but still I love her. She is so ...
A: Hey! I don't know what you mean by "selfish", but here's something you absolutely, positively know: ...
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| how to ask her phone number or her email, so we could hang out | 5/19/2007 |
Q: ok Dr. Dennis. I'm julio I'm 17 years old. I like to go to the mall every weekend and I see this ...
A: As I said, there's a ton that goes into a good (effective) approach. The numbers, situation, ...
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| Girl at School | 5/18/2007 |
Q: Neder, There is a girl at my school who has always loved me until this year. We have been really ...
A: First of all, go read my FAQ's on my website: http://beingaman.com, under "self help". You need to ...
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| her friend is ma enemy so he try 2 push back ma love.., | 5/18/2007 |
Q: i am loving a girl she is not loving me her friend is my friend but not really [i and he has a cold ...
A: Friends can be powerful allies or enemies. It appears that he has greater influence over the girl ...
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| just a dought 4 ma friend | 5/18/2007 |
Q: I proposed a girl but she rejected me. Now she is in another school but still I love her. She is so ...
A: Hey Dalbin! Then don't force to her say no! Instead, tease her along. Work on building rapport and ...
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| iam not beautful but she is like angel | 5/17/2007 |
Q: I proposed a girl but she rejected me. Now she is in another school but still I love her. She is so ...
A: The (many) letters I get from India always have the same 3-4 issues, and all of them are based in a ...
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| iam not beautful but she is like angel | 5/17/2007 |
Q: I proposed a girl but she rejected me. Now she is in another school but still I love her. She is so ...
A: No - your looks are not the reason. It's more likely that she just isn't attracted to you for other ...
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| Not Giving up | 5/17/2007 |
Q: I've been dating my girlfriend for just about a year but recently we have broken up. But we decided ...
A: First of all, you DON'T make her realize this by being around her and giving her everything she had ...
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| What if your fat | 5/16/2007 |
Q: I really like this girl at my school but am sort of on the fat side and I asked her out a year ago ...
A: You're very welcome. The only reason this doesn't "help much" is that it requires that you change ...
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| how to ask her phone number or her email, so we could hang out | 5/16/2007 |
Q: ok Dr. Dennis. I'm julio I'm 17 years old. I like to go to the mall every weekend and I see this ...
A: I teach guys a little thing I call "context". This is your reason to approach her. In context, you ...
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| girl | 5/15/2007 |
Q: Im a junior at school and Im good friends with a a girl I like. Since i got to know her im starting ...
A: First of all, be aware that being her "friend" may kill off any chance of romance with her. ...
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| How can I get the girl I like? | 5/14/2007 |
Q: Neder, I am a 16 year old boy from Norway in my last year at junior high, and I have a real big ...
A: No, looks are not important for a girl. Looks are important for YOU (as a guy) and guys constantly ...
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| What if your fat | 5/14/2007 |
Q: I really like this girl at my school but am sort of on the fat side and I asked her out a year ago ...
A: Here's the reality: as long as you're not grossly overweight, being heavy has almost nothing to do ...
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| my relationship and our | 5/13/2007 |
Q: Dr. Neder, Recently last week my girlfriend of 1 year told me that we should take a "break" because ...
A: Great news - and great job. I'm glad to hear that you're moving on and even have some new prospects ...
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| What is going on? | 5/12/2007 |
Q: I appreciate any help you can give me. There is a girl at my work who I like, and she knows that I ...
A: Hey Joe! Frankly, that's pretty important information that you didn't give me originaly. This ...
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| my relationship and our "break" | 5/11/2007 |
Q: Dr. Neder, Recently last week my girlfriend of 1 year told me that we should take a "break" because ...
A: If you're writing hoping that I'll make you feel better, I'm afraid you'd better stop reading this ...
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| need help | 5/11/2007 |
Q: i am nithin..i think u remember me well..now iam going out with one girl...i told her that i want to ...
A: No, just like before, you don't have a chance with her. You and she are buddies and that's all ...
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| Going Through Hell | 5/11/2007 |
Q: My fiancé just left me about a week ago she says she needs to find her self and figure out what she ...
A: The very first thing you should do is to stop taking so much responsiblity for her bad behavior! ...
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| What is going on? | 5/10/2007 |
Q: I appreciate any help you can give me. There is a girl at my work who I like, and she knows that I ...
A: Yes, it appeared that she was interested but you and she just became buddies and she fell off the ...
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| Sex with the girl I love | 5/9/2007 |
Q: I've been dating this girl for about 6 months now and she is a virgin who has had a previous long ...
A: Honestly? This woman's views on sex are pretty screwed up! What exactly is so precious about her ...
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| Too much like a brother. | 5/8/2007 |
Q: I've known this girl for a long time, because I've been good friends with her brother for seven or ...
A: Here's the best thing you can do to try to win her back: start dating other girls right away. Part ...
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| I got lost in the signals | 5/6/2007 |
Q: Alright well i met this girl about 2 weeks n a half ago roughly, we started hangin out on like the ...
A: Yes, she likes you. What does this poor girl have to do to get you to move things forward here?? ...
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| I rly like this girl but i think she likes someboyd else. | 4/30/2007 |
Q: ok, dis al started wen a tiny rumour went around linkin me with dis girl called becky.so in college ...
A: U spel reel gud! U shud b a riter! Wat r u doen waztin ur tim in coluge? N fac ur so smart y r u ...
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| anal sex | 4/29/2007 |
Q: I wanna fuck my girl (4 months) in the pooper but don't know how to ask. i have stuck a finger up ...
A: Women aren't stereos. You can't just twist a few knobs and stick your finges in a few holes and have ...
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| Timeframe | 4/28/2007 |
Q: When a man and a woman start seeing each other regularly and not dating other people, and they have ...
A: Hey Ana! As I've said before, very few men will fall in love with you - that is "really REALLY" ...
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| Timeframe | 4/27/2007 |
Q: When a man and a woman start seeing each other regularly and not dating other people, and they have ...
A: Yo! Ana! As I've said thousands of times, virginity is highly overrated. Best regards... Dr. ...
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| Timeframe | 4/26/2007 |
Q: When a man and a woman start seeing each other regularly and not dating other people, and they have ...
A: Hey Ana! Yes, most guys would want to have sex and he's no different. Unfortunately, there's no way ...
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| Timeframe | 4/26/2007 |
Q: When a man and a woman start seeing each other regularly and not dating other people, and they have ...
A: There is a timeframe - but not a specific one. Every man is different and I recommend that men set ...
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| followup | 4/25/2007 |
Q: I'm baaaaaaack! Anyway I was going to ask u this. Ok my ex boyfriend broke up with me a few weeks ...
A: Whoops! Another, "Can you please read his mind for me?" question. Answer: no, I can't. It was a ...
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| Timeframe | 4/25/2007 |
Q: When a man and a woman start seeing each other regularly and not dating other people, and they have ...
A: You're right - it's different for every couple, but in VERY general terms, most couples start having ...
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| hmm | 4/24/2007 |
Q: I was dating this guy for a while and he was really loving and affectionate. We recently started ...
A: Hey Analise! It could be any of 1,001 things. I'm afraid I don't speculate on these things as there ...
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| hmm | 4/23/2007 |
Q: I was dating this guy for a while and he was really loving and affectionate. We recently started ...
A: This isn't a "break" - it's a break-up. He's just too much the coward to say this. Best regards... ...
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| hmm | 4/23/2007 |
Q: I was dating this guy for a while and he was really loving and affectionate. We recently started ...
A: I don't know why he broke up with you. If he really has no testicles at all (removed or whatever), ...
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| hearborken | 4/18/2007 |
Q: ok this all started at the beginning of last feburary. my friend/guitar player introduced me to his ...
A: I'm sorry to hear that you're "hearborken"! If she won't talk to you about the issues, what do you ...
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| Getting back together | 4/17/2007 |
Q: I am 18 and in high school. I had a girlfriend of the same age then she broke up with me. This ...
A: Hey Steve! In other words, if you try to call whatever it is that you have now a "relationship"; ...
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| Getting back together | 4/17/2007 |
Q: I am 18 and in high school. I had a girlfriend of the same age then she broke up with me. This ...
A: Hey I have an idea, why don't you just write her a check and cut out all the middle men instead??? ...
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| ?? | 4/17/2007 |
Q: i had a question and was wondering if u could anwser it for me..Would u say if a female was really ...
A: FirstYes, I can answer it for you. SecondMaybe, it depends on many things. Best regards... Dr. ...
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| Follow Up | 4/16/2007 |
Q: Then how come back in the 1940s and 1950s people would date for five years, be entirely committed to ...
A: The real question is this: where are you getting your information from? People had sex in the 40's ...
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| trouble with the one | 4/14/2007 |
Q: First off im 16 and dont go to a regular high school. I go to Charter school so i see about 20 kids ...
A: You're likely making a classic mistake here and that's why it's so difficult for you to ask her out. ...
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| cheating girl | 4/14/2007 |
Q: hey i found this new girl shes in college right now she said she is goin to move over here when she ...
A: "Your girl"? Has this girl moved local to you and have you established a relationship with her or ...
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| How do I ask her out | 4/13/2007 |
Q: There is this girl that i am friends with and i really like her and i don't know what I should say ...
A: You need to start by reading my FAQ's on my website at: http://beingaman.com. Then, click on "Self ...
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| A number of problems with girls | 4/12/2007 |
Q: There is this girl that I like. I only see her in the morning. I tried to ask her to the cotillion ...
A: Boy! Are you going to be sorry! Seth, I get this question all the time and years ago, I used to ...
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| What the bloody fucking hell?!? | 4/12/2007 |
Q: I have sent this question to a few other experts but they seemed to be maxed out unfortuantely. I ...
A: How do you know he's not gay? Just because he's not actively dating other men right now doesn't mean ...
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| A number of problems with girls | 4/12/2007 |
Q: There is this girl that I like. I only see her in the morning. I tried to ask her to the cotillion ...
A: This is a problem you absolutely need to get solved. Every guy has it by the way - don't think for a ...
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| getting back together after a breakup | 4/11/2007 |
Q: If someone has broken up with you in the past for whatever circumstance, and that someone treated ...
A: I guess your answer is simply this: what do you want, a business deal or a relationship? In this ...
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| Complex woman | 4/8/2007 |
Q: Ok ill start from the beginning.. I never really knew this girl too well she was my sisters friend ...
A: Frankly, I think you're giving away everything she wants without getting anything you want! If you ...
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| How to win my ex girlfriends heart! | 4/5/2007 |
Q: I have dated this girl 15 yrs ago. We really have a great chemestry together that is hard to find. ...
A: There's a little rule I teach my students. When a woman you're with starts pulling back emotionally, ...
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| how do i get over the initial meeting anxiety? | 4/4/2007 |
Q: so how do i get over the stress and anxiety of walking up to a random attractive girl in any ...
A: No, I'm afraid you're wrong. Most people understand the real value of information and education. ...
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| how do i get over the initial meeting anxiety? | 4/3/2007 |
Q: so how do i get over the stress and anxiety of walking up to a random attractive girl in any ...
A: As I said before, that is an extremely large question with many things you have to understand. I ...
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| would i get rejected ? | 4/3/2007 |
Q: 1 day in a science class, a girl kept saying how smart i look & asked howcome im looking so smart. ...
A: I think you may be trying to read clues into everything you see. It doesn't necessarily mean she ...
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| she wants it to end | 4/3/2007 |
Q: me and my girlfriend met at work, we didn't hit off right away but i was always attracted to her, as ...
A: Ah...another long-distance relationship ("LDR") tragedy! David, I can't tell you how often I hear ...
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| older women | 4/3/2007 |
Q: I work with a lady that is 41 I’m 31 she flirts with me a lot. Recently we started working out ...
A: First of all, it sounds like you haven't even kissed her yet. What may very well be happening is ...
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| how do i get over the initial meeting anxiety? | 4/2/2007 |
Q: so how do i get over the stress and anxiety of walking up to a random attractive girl in any ...
A: Actually, that's a very large question! I teach entire seminars (and have them on DVD) that deal ...
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| is she being friendly or does she fancy me? | 3/31/2007 |
Q: a girl i know in maths repeatingly kept sayin how smart i look and asked howcome i look so smart, ...
A: A compliment from a girl often (but not always) means that there MIGHT BE some SLIGHT interest, but ...
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| a question about friendship | 3/30/2007 |
Q: Hey whats up my name is Juan and im 15 years old. Well I just had a question about the hole friend ...
A: With the numbers of letters I get everyday from readers, it's impossible to keep them separated in ...
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| need help | 3/28/2007 |
Q: .i am nithin.these days i am try to find a credit card to download your lessons,cause i dont have a ...
A: Forget this woman - you've already blown it totally! Nithin, this is just getting freaky-weird now! ...
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| will she leave | 3/28/2007 |
Q: I got involved with a woman a year ago who was engaged to be married. the wedding due to ...
A: If I were to get into her head, I'd bet she's thinking, "I wish both of these guys were rolled up ...
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| How do I attract women? | 3/28/2007 |
Q: Hey I was wondering. How do I attract women?
A: Short, and sweet question. The problem is, the answer is loooooooooong!!! You hear all sorts of ads ...
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| Help me, Please | 3/27/2007 |
Q: This is a story about a relationship that may never happen. There is this girl in my grade that is ...
A: As far as what to do - as I said before, just keep it simple. Go have a soda or take a walk ...
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| commitment phobes | 3/25/2007 |
Q: How do you deal with a commitment phobic man? The man I love is wonderful to me and treats me ...
A: You mean *A* man since we're all commitment-phobic to one degree or another! First off, realize ...
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| Help me, Please | 3/25/2007 |
Q: This is a story about a relationship that may never happen. There is this girl in my grade that is ...
A: First of all, STOP!!! - No - you don't "love" her - you don't even know her. By giving her this ...
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| dating someone iI like | 3/24/2007 |
Q: Hey Dr. Neder. I just wanted to know if it is bad thing to treat a girl too well/spoiling her when I ...
A: Hey Allen! It's far worse to mistreat a woman you're dating, but in fact, you don't want to ...
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| "Need a break" | 3/24/2007 |
Q: Ok what the hell does "I need a break" or "I need space" mean? I always thought it meant a breakup, ...
A: There are two types of "breaks". The first is a formal process agreed on by both people in a ...
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| Its me again | 3/22/2007 |
Q: I have to admit that in a way you read my mind and my fears and I think that your advise might ...
A: Yo! Diana! "Clear and concise"? I was going for "vague and redundant". Here's the fact: you can ...
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| Its me again | 3/22/2007 |
Q: I have to admit that in a way you read my mind and my fears and I think that your advise might ...
A: You're very welcome. Actually, I would never presume that you wanted just a one-night stand with ...
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| Problem | 3/22/2007 |
Q: recently I told one of my best friends that I love her. She told me that she considers me only as a ...
A: I'm sorry to tell you this: as far as being "afraid" of losing her as a friend, you already have. ...
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| Does he want me back? | 3/22/2007 |
Q: My boyfriend of 4 months was very loving, kind, gentle, and respectful, and very passionate. We were ...
A: Gee...let me consult my crystal ball here....hmmmm...I seeing something....let me look ...
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| getting her back: pls help me | 3/20/2007 |
Q: My girlfriend of 6 months broke up with me, telling me we need to become friends to re-evaluate the ...
A: Hey Tony! You're very welcome. There's a possibility that your paths could cross again, but it's a ...
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| girl of my dreams | 3/20/2007 |
Q: my question is there is a girl in which everyday i saw her she made me feel great i always thought ...
A: Is that *really* all you want - just for her to notice you? You don't want anything else, like to ...
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| need help | 3/20/2007 |
Q: i think you remember me..did you remember that british girl working with me in a school as a ...
A: DO NOT give her that gift!!!! Why would you give someone something so huge to someone you barely ...
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| getting her back: pls help me | 3/20/2007 |
Q: My girlfriend of 6 months broke up with me, telling me we need to become friends to re-evaluate the ...
A: "Hey Doc! I tortured the crap out of this poor girl, spied on her, verbally abused her and just kept ...
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| Bestfriend to Girlfriend | 3/18/2007 |
Q: My name is Roger and I'm 15 years old. I have liked my best friend on and off for about a year; she ...
A: First of all, you need to understand something here: just because YOU are attracted to looks doesn't ...
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| what to do | 3/17/2007 |
Q: I was dating this guy for a couple months. We were really happy together, laughed every moment we ...
A: You're welcome. No, I don't know why he'd dump you out of the blue as I don't read minds. I could ...
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| what to do | 3/17/2007 |
Q: I was dating this guy for a couple months. We were really happy together, laughed every moment we ...
A: First of all, you absolutely DO NOT want to be his "friend". This is contrary to your goals (as I ...
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| amylee | 3/17/2007 |
Q: doc, ive been in a relationship (was) in a relationship for 4 years i love this girl with everything ...
A: Hey Chris! So, what are you looking for then, a magic spell or something? If she's adamant about ...
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| How to ask her out. | 3/17/2007 |
Q: I am a 37 year old man. I am married, but my wife was crippled in a car accident 3 years ago. She ...
A: Actually, this is pretty simple. Just tell her you'd like to get to know her better over a drink one ...
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| amylee | 3/16/2007 |
Q: doc, ive been in a relationship (was) in a relationship for 4 years i love this girl with everything ...
A: Nobody's perfect...especially ME!! Your spelling is great, but your ability to convey a message is ...
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| amylee | 3/14/2007 |
Q: doc, ive been in a relationship (was) in a relationship for 4 years i love this girl with everything ...
A: Wow! That was the LONGEST single sentence I've ever seen! I had to take a deep breath to read it all ...
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| getting back together or not? | 3/10/2007 |
Q: My boyfriend and I work together but not in the same department. He told me about a month ago that ...
A: I don't know. You know him far better than I do and I just never learned to read minds! Asking you ...
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| Hi, me again. | 3/9/2007 |
Q: Would it be possible not to rush the kiss so soon? I don't want to come on too strong, I'm pretty ...
A: Hey Beowolf! The reason why you don't want to kiss her is that you're afraid of how she'll react. ...
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| Hi, me again. | 3/9/2007 |
Q: Dennis W. Neder, it's me Beowolf again. I've followed most of your advice, I've had atleast 3 girls ...
A: The best way to stay out of the "friend zone" is to never get there from the very beginning. That ...
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| questions | 3/7/2007 |
Q: Ok that answer definitely helped me. Well so I have a question, let me pertain this to my own life. ...
A: I'm afraid I don't read minds in order to tell you why he took that break, but it seems like sex was ...
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| questions | 3/7/2007 |
Q: I've gotta question for you. About how long generally is it expected that when a couple starts ...
A: There is no general rule about when to have sex, other than when the time is "right". Likewise, ...
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| how to approach to this girl | 3/2/2007 |
Q: D.W.N This is paul walker.last year i saw a girl in my class(She's 16 & am 14), she attended ...
A: In an entire month, you couldn't find a chance to say "hello"? You're not trying very hard! First ...
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| A little situation | 2/27/2007 |
Q: What if they break up? Should I then give it sometime and then try to attract the girl? If that ...
A: No, you should forget this girl. She's off-limits to you unless you break up the friendship first. ...
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| need help | 2/26/2007 |
Q: i think you remember me.last saturday someone send me a sms mistakenly that they are in a club..i ...
A: Sure, she's a nice girl you know absolutely nothing about! You've exchanged a few SMS's. Big deal! ...
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| How to restore a relationship | 2/25/2007 |
Q: I am a 43 years old widowed man from the capital Managua (Nicaragua). While visiting a new friend ...
A: Frankly, no. She's not worth the effort. She was hanging out with you mostly because of the money ...
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| Getting my girl back | 2/25/2007 |
Q: I dated a girl in college for almost 20 months. When we broke up because of distance, I was ...
A: First of all, you absolutely MUST be local to her. Don't try to rebuild a relationship ...
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| Defense Mechanism | 2/24/2007 |
Q: "I believe some people used to do this thing {defense mechanism} to hide their true feelings.Like a ...
A: Let's see here. What you're asking is for me to write out every work of all of my books, e-books, ...
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| Bestfriend | 2/23/2007 |
Q: .How should i tell to my Bestfriend that i like her,knowing she seems to be in love with one of my ...
A: If I actually gave you these "lines" I wouldn't be doing my job! A line is going to get you ...
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| A liitle lost | 2/18/2007 |
Q: I agree with what you said. I am not one for LDR either, I am hoping she will return with me. That ...
A: An(other) important key about women is this: they often "speak outloud" their thought processes. ...
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| A liitle lost | 2/18/2007 |
Q: ok, my cousin asked if her friend could stay with me for 4 weeks while on a holiday visiting the ...
A: First off you have a pretty severe problem here - the distance. Let me tell you: long-distance ...
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| what do i do? | 2/15/2007 |
Q: ok i started talking with this gir like almost two moths ago in party, i havent never talked to her ...
A: First of all, this all happened over Valentine's Day and that has an impact. This day is very unique ...
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| dating | 2/13/2007 |
Q: hey Dennis! Dennis this is the girl of my dreams, rembema that she is a church girl, and if you ...
A: Oh, I see: "Love conqueres all!" "All for love!" "Love will find a way!" Yes, I've heard all the ...
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| dating | 2/12/2007 |
Q: I went to a trip to Atlanta ga.and met this 25 year old girl,we starter talking getting know each ...
A: Man - this whole thing stinks like a diaper pail! You have nothing but problems here and you want me ...
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| meaning | 2/12/2007 |
Q: I have been dating my boyfriend for a couple months, I think I love him but I don't know how he ...
A: I have no idea how you draw the parallels between his comment and long-term interest! That's quite a ...
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| what do I do | 2/11/2007 |
Q: I did what you said and she still wants nothen to do with me so what else can i do to get her ...
A: Hey Levi! Well, let's see - you can shave your head and have her name tattooed on it, or maybe you ...
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| what do I do | 2/11/2007 |
Q: the girl that was dancing with my friend was my girlfriend not her sisterI lost the girl of my ...
A: So, why did you tell me you were "mean to her sister" and then tell me it happened when you saw ...
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| what do I do | 2/10/2007 |
Q: I lost the girl of my dreams because she said i was mean to her sister.I was at a dance and I saw my ...
A: First of all, what business is it of yours if your girlfriend's sister dances with some guy? Why ...
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| help | 2/7/2007 |
Q: Dr Dennis W. Nedar I am a 19 year old guy whose going to be pushing 20 in July. And I just feel so ...
A: Hey Be! Thanks for the rating. What are you talking about, the other experts shut you down??? Ok, ...
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| How should I re-approach this girl I like | 2/7/2007 |
Q: I am 15, in tenth grade, and a bit shy about approaching girls and such..u know the drill lol! ok ...
A: This story is so convoluted I have no idea what is going on here! Ok, no matter. Let's look at what ...
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| Ex - Girlfriend | 2/6/2007 |
Q: I'm 19 and been dating this girl for 2 1/2 years. It was beautiful. It was the best thing that ever ...
A: There are three things you need to do: 1) You need to tell her that you're sorry that her ...
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| she want's me or just freind | 2/6/2007 |
Q: This girl is very special to me but there's a problem, her roommate want's me very bad. But I'm not ...
A: Ahh...the "unspoken rule". These girls have bonded together against you. Yes, this girl wants to ...
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| stubborn brain and heart | 2/4/2007 |
Q: Interesting -- I read the article, and the introduction actually had me in tears because I felt like ...
A: Hey Rob! Oh, sorry about that - if you were expecting a "pat answer", I failed you! How about ...
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| stubborn brain and heart | 2/4/2007 |
Q: OK, I don't know that this is the right category, but I couldn't find one that seemed right, so I'll ...
A: First off, don't be hard on yourself about all of this. Women are experts at this game and we guys ...
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| need help | 2/3/2007 |
Q: i am working asa cleaner in a school after my uni. there is a british girl working with ...
A: No, it's a very, VERY bad move. In fact, you have a bunch of bad moves going on here. Be honest ...
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| winning back my girl | 2/2/2007 |
Q: 2 days after you worte to me. my girlfriend and I disagreed on an action that I took. its a very ...
A: It sounds like what she wants is for you to chase her, but not because she wants to be caught. She ...
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| Relationships | 2/2/2007 |
Q: Me and my ex have been broken up for three months now. we have one daughter together and she is now ...
A: If you've read anything else I've written before, you know that I'm no moralist, but your chance to ...
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| not sure | 1/30/2007 |
Q: I have been dating this guy for a month or so. When we first met he told me that he does not talk to ...
A: If you and he are sleeping together, then I think you can ask him about the marks on his back. This ...
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| i luv this girl | 1/27/2007 |
Q: I need some help. I am a muslim. the girl that i like is also muslim. we have been talking for a ...
A: This is a great question! It's really more about communication skills than being Muslim and the ...
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| I need sex | 1/26/2007 |
Q: I am 18 years old and a high school senior. My girlfriend is also 18 and a senior. We have been ...
A: Dr. Dennis says: "Don't be a hater - be a masturbator!" Here's some reality: 1) You can't make a ...
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| Girlfriend playing new games | 1/24/2007 |
Q: Neder, Hope you are well. Just wanted to say your advice worked like a charm. So the girlfriend and ...
A: This girl is a real game player! She's all about manipulation and is constantly challenging you to ...
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| you are moving to fast | 1/22/2007 |
Q: no serious means not marriage... serious means relationship wise...yeah i think she know i like ...
A: Trust me - she wants a relationship. This is pre-wired into her simply by her being a woman. It has ...
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| relationship | 1/21/2007 |
Q: how do i recognise a good woman.?
A: You're a man of few words I see! That's a skill I hope to learn some day. Here's the easiest (and ...
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| love problems | 1/21/2007 |
Q: january 21 2007 good day! im Darwin and I feel so insecure because of my figure. Im a chubby guy and ...
A: Darwin, DO NOT SEND HER FLOWERS ON V-DAY!!!! In fact, stop all of this texting right now - it's ...
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| you are moving to fast | 1/20/2007 |
Q: i know her for 3 months now....i do not know if she likes me...she never had a boyfriend till now,i ...
A: As I said in my first message, yes, I think she likes you. Do you honestly think she doesn't know ...
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| you are moving to fast | 1/19/2007 |
Q: ok i got what your saying...... but going for a date is too forward thinking.... first i have to ...
A: Yes, I know the MOST INTERESTING topics to discuss with her: HER! Don't make the mistake of ...
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| Thanks for the advice - Girlfriend still playing games | 1/17/2007 |
Q: Neder, So I wanted to follow up with my last post on 1/13/2007. I've taken your advice and will ...
A: She may act like she wants to control the relationship, but as with all women - this is an act only. ...
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| Should I be leaving messages? | 1/15/2007 |
Q: In all fairness, I suppose I should have mentioned that this woman is someone I grew up with; we ...
A: My apologies for the assumption. The symptoms are very common in Internet dating and since you ...
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| Should I be leaving messages? | 1/15/2007 |
Q: My question concerns phone etiquette...... I've been communicating with a particular woman on and ...
A: What an impossible situation you have here! Ok, this appears to be an Internet dating situation and ...
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| Girlfriend playing games | 1/13/2007 |
Q: Neder, I read some of your posts and your advice is sound. I just recently hooked up with a girl ...
A: I'm afraid you believe wrong. When the relationship begins, that's also when the mind-games ...
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| Confused about where this is going | 1/12/2007 |
Q: I met this girl online about a month ago, we exchanged IM screenames and started chatting, the ...
A: Obviously I can't read her mind, but it appears that she has a couple of other guys hanging around ...
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| i need her again in my life | 1/11/2007 |
Q: DOC I'VE BEEN IN ALOT OF PAIN AND TROUBLES SINCE THE LOVE OF MY LIFE LEFT ME! SHE LEFT ME ABOUT 5 ...
A: I know this is all tough, but you're going to get through it. Trust me. Best regards... Dr. Dennis ...
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| don't know what to do, and where to turn to | 1/10/2007 |
Q: ------------------------------------------- I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 18 YEARS MY MARRIAGE IS GOING ...
A: I've already answered this question for you. See below. Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder ...
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| i nned her again in my life | 1/10/2007 |
Q: DOC I'VE BEEN IN ALOT OF PAIN AND TROUBLES SINCE THE LOVE OF MY LIFE LEFT ME! SHE LEFT ME ABOUT 5 ...
A: Yes, you're doing a number of things to hurt yourself here. You didn't say what specifically broke ...
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| Bad Crush | 1/9/2007 |
Q: I am a guy in my early twenties involved in a long term relationship of about 5 years. Our ...
A: "Committed relationships" are where a couple is together because they agree that they're going to ...
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| commintment | 1/9/2007 |
Q: How can I do or say to my girlfriend to further our relationship even though the kids do not like ...
A: I think you and she need to sit down with the kids and have a talk. Explain that while you're not ...
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| how to prpose | 1/8/2007 |
Q: hello sir i am in 12 class and the girl i like studies with me at the tution center i like her from ...
A: I suggest that you DON'T tell her that you like her OR become her friend! You don't want her as a ...
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| My Ex (go figure huh) | 1/8/2007 |
Q: My ex and I only dated for a month and a half and I broke it off because she said she needed her ...
A: This situation is totally screwed up! Let me answer your question, but I have an opinion on all of ...
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| Confused on whether she wants me or not | 1/8/2007 |
Q: I met a girl at work through a friend when we were drinking at her place. We had a great time and ...
A: Why is she the only one that gets to decide what you have - or don't have? Aren't your goals just as ...
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| Get The Girl of my Dreams | 1/6/2007 |
Q: Dr. Neder, I appreciate the advice immensely. But I must admit, I am not completely sure of what ...
A: No worries. I know this is a little "against the grain". We as men are taught that we need to be ...
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| Get The Girl of my Dreams | 1/5/2007 |
Q: My name is John. This is kind of awkward, but I'm desperate for help, so I'll do my best. I have ...
A: You seem to have a severe case of "one-itis"; the condition where you are convinced that only one ...
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| how do i win my x back | 1/5/2007 |
Q: i was with my ex for 5 years, we were engaged and because of argumentative differences we broke up. ...
A: The first thing you need to do is to be clear on what you broke up over. A simple argument is rarely ...
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| I love her, but not ready for marriage | 1/4/2007 |
Q: Dr. Neder, I am a 20 year old man. I have been with my girlfriend almost 2 years, she is 19. We ...
A: DO NOT get married just to have sex!!! That'll be the biggest mistake you'll ever have made. Here's ...
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| How to ask a girl to go out with her? | 1/4/2007 |
Q: Hello my name is Bob and my question to you is "how do I ask out a girl I like in a safe and ...
A: Let's analyze this question a little, shall we? What you're really asking me is, "How do I ask a ...
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| I don't get it... | 1/2/2007 |
Q: Well, I'm not sure whether my question falls into the right category but I'll ask anyway. Before ...
A: Boy, this girl must be a saint! I don't know of many women that would go this long and still ...
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| How to attract ?? | 1/2/2007 |
Q: There Is a Girl In my Tutions, Sometimes she watches me, We do not talk to each other as we have ...
A: What you're really asking me is how to make HER do all your work for you. Sahil, that doesn't work. ...
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| How can I win the girl I have fallen for? | 1/2/2007 |
Q: Alright.. I met this girl about 2 years ago and we hit it off real well since day one... problem ...
A: Let me answer your questions first, and then I'll follow-up with some very important information ...
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| about a friend | 1/1/2007 |
Q: i have a female friend. we have been friends for a long time. we do things together but i want a ...
A: First, please accept my apology for the late reply. My system has been down over the holiday. Man! ...
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| Whats a good way to ask her out?? | 12/31/2006 |
Q: Well theres this girl that I really like. Every time I see her in the hallways we always say hi. ...
A: First, sorry for the late reply. I've had system-down problems over the holidays and am only now ...
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| Am I being led on? | 12/29/2006 |
Q: "Hello, I have been with the same girl since Aug 2004. A little over 1 year ago, I cheated on her ...
A: Yes, I think you're being led on. This is a very common scenario that women use - they claim they ...
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| Older woman | 12/26/2006 |
Q: One last question, should I pursue her and ask her out or should i let her ask me to go out?Thanks a ...
A: Yo! John! The age difference has nothing to do with whom pursues whom. It's your job as the man to ...
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| When to kiss | 12/26/2006 |
Q: I'm in the 5th grade I have a Girlfreind we have been going out for about 2years. I'm a lil shy ...
A: When should you kiss her? About 2 years ago. What are you waiting for? This isn't a big deal - it's ...
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| how to attract the most beautful of women | 12/26/2006 |
Q: My name is Matt and I am in the Navy. I was just dropping by to ask a serious question about how to ...
A: Abso-freakin'-lutely!!!! Your looks have almost nothing whatsoever to do with the women that you ...
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| Older woman | 12/25/2006 |
Q: All I want out of this is sex but I don't know if I should just give her the cold shoulder ...
A: You're very welcome. I don't think you want to take either extreme. It's better to walk the line ...
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| How can I win this woman | 12/25/2006 |
Q: Dr. Neder, How dare you judge me or my faith. You don't know me! You call me a coward, but you ...
A: You fucking ignorant hypocrite! Who exactly is "judging" whom here? While I can't deny being a ...
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| How can I win this woman | 12/23/2006 |
Q: I have been dating a very sweet lady from church for about 9 months. We have never kissed except for ...
A: I always hate hearing this. What an incredible mistake it is to avoid sex before marriage out of ...
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| Older woman | 12/23/2006 |
Q: there is a woman at my job who I am sort of going out with. I am 25 and she is 41. She is still ...
A: Right now, she's playing with you. In effect, she's using you to explore her new (or soon-to-be) ...
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| Win back my ex | 12/21/2006 |
Q: I have been seeing a girl off and on for almost the past 3 years. We originally met at a bar and ...
A: What in the hell??? Let's see here, you have no interest in this girl for over a year, get into a ...
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| make a girl friend | 12/19/2006 |
Q: i aminternational student.and i am from srilanka so i got brown colour skin.i studing in ...
A: Your attitude has far more to do with your success your jobs or the color of your skin. It's ...
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| DID I DO RIGHT ? | 12/17/2006 |
Q: I walked into a car dealer and this stunning Japanese 30 year old saleswoman , accosted me in a more ...
A: First of all, don't be hard on yourself about this attraction. Many people carry guilt because they ...
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| how to make the girl i love accept my proposals | 12/13/2006 |
Q: i have been proposing this girl for the past two years and she always says no. but she is the only ...
A: First of all, you're never going to get through a brick wall. As long as you honestly believe that ...
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| How to make a girl want to kiss ya | 12/12/2006 |
Q: Alright theres this girl who I see three times a week. I really like her, and I really want to kiss ...
A: So, what you really want is to get her to do all your work for you. You want some magic spell or ...
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| How to proceed? | 12/10/2006 |
Q: Hey. I met this girl when I changed schools, she is my classmate. At first I didn't like her at ...
A: I fear this is going to end very badly for you. No, I don't need to ask you any questions, I see ...
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| The Attraction | 12/8/2006 |
Q: Neder, i asked a question to your earlier about this same girl. I have been thinking a lot about the ...
A: I'm afraid that I get so many letters everyday I can't tell one from another! It helps to copy the ...
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| conversation | 12/8/2006 |
Q: i meet an old class mate of mine,she is that kind of cool gal,and i don know what have to talk to ...
A: The trick to communications is to realize what everyone is interested in: themselves. I'm always ...
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| broke up with the woman of my dreams. | 12/7/2006 |
Q: Well i've been dating this beautiful woman for about 10 months now. We went to the same college and ...
A: Distance. George, I have to tell you a very important fact: long-distance relationships NEVER, EVER ...
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| I want my ex back | 11/29/2006 |
Q: Hey again, i think im being annoying now lol. I found out why she broke up with me, just not because ...
A: Yo! Anthony! Stick with the plan. It's the best, most direct way to go. As far as your friend, he ...
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| getting back my old love | 11/29/2006 |
Q: neder, my name is jared im 16 years old and since middle school this girl brittany and i have been ...
A: You can't - she never had those feelings in the first place. You became her friend. That's where it ...
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| I want my ex back | 11/29/2006 |
Q: hey again, i did exactly what you told me, i asked her out on a walk, (havent went yet) and now she ...
A: Hey Anthony! All of this is a good thing! If she thinks that you're going to try to convince her to ...
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| My almost but not yet girlfriend | 11/27/2006 |
Q: Three years ago I left school and I really fancied a girl, three years later she has not left my ...
A: First of all, forget the clues. Not only is there a possibility that these can be missed - or ...
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| getting back with my ex-girlfriend | 11/27/2006 |
Q: my girlfriend and i were ddating about a 1 1/2. We broke up about a week ago,because we did not ...
A: I don't know why she wrote to you to tell you that she had another boyfriend other than to hurt you. ...
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| I want my ex back | 11/25/2006 |
Q: but heres another problem sorry. alright i tried asking her out to the movies as mates, but she said ...
A: You asked her out on a date - seeing a movie! That's why she turned you down, not the money. She ...
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| I want my ex back | 11/25/2006 |
Q: im 14 years old, and have just got dumped by my ex-girlfriend, she dumped me in computing class and ...
A: First of all, if you're having some issues, I'd hope that she'd be more understanding of all of ...
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| Do I have a chance? | 11/22/2006 |
Q: Dr. Dennis how are you? thanks for the advice you gave me on a previous question. I need advice on ...
A: I see this is the exact same question you've asked other experts here. You even gave me the exact ...
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| I absolutly have to win her back! | 11/20/2006 |
Q: I'm afraid I do not completely understand. You say find my inner asshole. She told me that is why ...
A: With women, you're always better off ignoring their words and watching their actions. Sure, she TOLD ...
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| I absolutly have to win her back! | 11/20/2006 |
Q: Dr. Neder, I was in love. I was engaged. I was selfish. I dated a beautiful, smart, and kind ...
A: Let's analyze this a little, shall we? When you were a controlling, selfish jerk, she kept giving ...
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| Stalemate | 11/17/2006 |
Q: i recently met this girl through my friends girlfriend, and we have gone on double dates with them ...
A: Perhaps seeing you is the little "push" she needs to break up with her boyfriend? It sounds like ...
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| neighbor | 11/16/2006 |
Q: hey doc, so here's my problem: I'm still young, and raging with hormones like you might have ...
A: I've got the perfect technique for the perfect situation here. As you said, she "...thinks quite a ...
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| ex back | 11/15/2006 |
Q: Your advice was fantastic!!, i feel quite bad now cos i kind of got my revenge this morning... I ...
A: You have absolutely nothing to feel badly about. This situation was created by HER, NOT YOU. She can ...
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| ex back | 11/14/2006 |
Q: I read one of your replies to a question and thought your response was excellent, please could you ...
A: Here's something she's not telling you: she has lost interest, but just isn't mature enough to tell ...
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| I need help. | 11/13/2006 |
Q: Your question about what to do then is something I'd have to figure out. All i know is that i would ...
A: Actually, that question was rhetorical - there is no answer of what to do next. I've told you what ...
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| dating advice | 11/12/2006 |
Q: I just met a woman and we have started dating and i am not sure what to say to her she is 20 and i ...
A: So, you believe that God doesn't want you to kiss??? Greg, don't inflict your guesses on her! If ...
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| I am (or was) his dream - need advice PLEASE | 11/12/2006 |
Q: Dr. Dennis I am a 34 year old woman who is insanely attracted (you could even say devoted) to a 56 ...
A: First - to any guy that's reading this, I strongly urge you to NOT use this as an example what to - ...
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| How to attract and have a relationship with a woman | 11/12/2006 |
Q: I have also purchased the book Being a Man in a Womans World. From the book quite a few things have ...
A: Good job on getting BAM. That first book is going to give you informnation that I can't possibly ...
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| I need help. | 11/11/2006 |
Q: Dr.Neder I desperately need your help. Granted I'm rather young, soon turning 18, but I need advice ...
A: Well, I'll give you an answer, but you're not going to like it very much. It's obvious from your ...
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| Woman of my dreams | 11/9/2006 |
Q: Well according to what she has told me, she is about to get divorced and lose her daughter because ...
A: Yo! Erik! You might want to read my website about the problems with dating single mothers: ...
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| Woman of my dreams | 11/8/2006 |
Q: Well I invited her to lunch and we went with the friend I told you about and now she is selling me ...
A: I'm not sure what the daughter has to do with all of this, but if she's hot, why not? Best ...
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| Woman of my dreams | 11/7/2006 |
Q: I have a question. From what you tell me this is a sure thing, but like today I was giving her a ...
A: Don't worry about this at all. It's something of a "mini-challenge". I normally handle this with ...
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| hey | 11/7/2006 |
Q: My ex girlfriend is thinking about going back out with me.. We had been dating for almost 2 years... ...
A: Ok, I'll help you, but first consider this: why did you break up in the first place? What caused the ...
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| Woman of my dreams | 11/6/2006 |
Q: do you think I should buy her some flowers? Or would that make me look too desperate? Or would it be ...
A: When asking a follow-up question, please copy the original message or use the follow-up feature. I ...
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| How to attract and have a relationship with a woman | 11/2/2006 |
Q: I quess what im trying to find out is how I should go about trying to attract a women and to ...
A: [Note: this is a necessarily long letter, but your question is broad. I hope you read it all the way ...
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| Boyfriend Conflict | 11/1/2006 |
Q: Neder, I recently asked you a question about a woman that is interested in me and that i im ...
A: No, you shouldn't talk to her on-line to ask her to go out with you. You should do that in person, ...
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| help again | 11/1/2006 |
Q: right where to start there is this girl that I've liked for ages and she knew it she then told me ...
A: Simple. Take it away from her. Explain that you aren't her "friend" because you already have enough ...
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| Is she just another woman? | 11/1/2006 |
Q: So here's the deal (I'll try to make it short and sweet). I'm 27 and I just moved back to my ...
A: I'm going to answer your questions, but first, have you considered the issue of the distance? This ...
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| The First Big Move | 10/30/2006 |
Q: Neder I have a really big question that has been lingering on my mind form some time, so i thought ...
A: Well, you may not being pushy and killing off any potential relationship with her, but it's dying a ...
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| I'm Lost | 10/30/2006 |
Q: Neder My situation is very unique and complex to me but probably not to you. Here goes. Keep in ...
A: Frankly, I don't know where to begin with you! "...what have I don't wrong?" My question is: what ...
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| Question about a girl | 10/29/2006 |
Q: So I did what you said and this is how it turned out. I said: "So the prison was interesting you ...
A: No, you didn't do what I said. You asked her instead of telling her what you wanted. If there was ...
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| how to make a girl want to kiss you | 10/28/2006 |
Q: there is dis girl that we go out a lot together,its been a months now and she told me dat she love ...
A: It's your job (as the man) to make this first move. It's not hers and trust me, she knows it. ...
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| my girl doesnt answer me anymore | 10/26/2006 |
Q: sorry sir for language! thanks i dont have any in-person access to her just phone ! i mean cant go ...
A: Hey Deej! If you can't meet this girl in person, then what do you have - nothing! Relationships ...
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| help | 10/26/2006 |
Q: My girlfriend and I recently took a break in our relationship... A few days ago things were going ...
A: You didn't mention why you took the break in the first place, but this may have something to do with ...
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| my girl doesnt answer me anymore | 10/26/2006 |
Q: in a party i overdosed with whiskey in front of my gf i dont know what i did wrong but i did my best ...
A: If it's been a full 3 weeks with no response, forget the IM's, email, etc. Go see her in person. ...
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| relationship advice | 10/24/2006 |
Q: My girlfriend and I have been talking about marraige and all that after we graduate from college in ...
A: Actually, this is a good idea for BOTH of you! You're just about to begin the greatest period of ...
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| I must win her back | 10/24/2006 |
Q: What sparked this was an argument about our future. Specifically marriage. She asked me why I never ...
A: Sure - if you totally break off all contact for more than a couple of months, she's going to ...
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| Moving Past E-Mail & IM | 10/23/2006 |
Q: I have been IMing and e-mailing with a woman for quite a few months now. She seems like an amazing ...
A: Hold on a moment. You had plans to meet, she didn't show, and you still are in contact with her? ...
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| I must win her back | 10/20/2006 |
Q: Dennis Neder. Here is my situation... My girlfriend of 2 years recently broke up with me. The ...
A: Simple answer: get scarce. Let's examine this situation a little closer. Why do you think that she ...
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| i dont noe what to do!! | 10/19/2006 |
Q: alright im sorry if my question is long but i wanna get the best answer i can possibly get so here ...
A: What a bitch! She asks your friend to have you call her (reasonable - you should have done this ...
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| How to get the girl im after | 10/18/2006 |
Q: ...that seems like very good advice. The only problem im running into is i rarely ever see her. That ...
A: Patience works to your advantage here. If you seem like you're very busy (dating other women) she's ...
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| Rejection | 10/18/2006 |
Q: Neder, I am a 24 year old guy that honestly has never really had a serious relationship, I ...
A: Man! Do I talk to a lot of guys in your exact situation or what? These are great guys - they're good ...
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| Asking out a friend | 10/17/2006 |
Q: Yeah there is this girl I have known for the last 2 years. We aren't best friends but we are still ...
A: You have to make a decision. Either you want a friend and don't want to risk changing things or you ...
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| the perfect girl for me | 10/16/2006 |
Q: but i'm kinda of a coward, and i've tried talking to her but i ran out things to talk about and so i ...
A: Don't try to talk to her - get HER to do the talking for you. All you need to do is ask "open ended ...
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| why am i such a failure with girls | 10/16/2006 |
Q: , ive sure you have seen plenty of them anyways my name is jared and im 16 years old and i want a ...
A: First of all, you're not a "failure". You just haven't learned how the game is played and you're ...
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| the perfect girl for me | 10/13/2006 |
Q: I like this girl in school but shes a senior and i'm a junior. i want to atleast get her to talk to ...
A: Ah, you're looking to impress her, right? WRONG! You absolutely DO NOT try to impress a woman and ...
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| my ex-girlfriend | 10/13/2006 |
Q: "What you do at this point has much more influence than her feelings. If you get them weight, you're ...
A: Andy! I'm not sure what you don't understand about my previous emails: 1) Start dating other women ...
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| my ex-girlfriend | 10/12/2006 |
Q: She is very pissed off as i said, but had so much love and in the uni environment emotions fly, but ...
A: Some couples do, and some don't. There are many factors involved and it's impossible to say whether ...
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| she want us to be just friends | 10/12/2006 |
Q: i never asked her about her boy,she mentioned it ,telling me that they were not serious.so what ...
A: First, you need to go great my FAQ's at my website: http://beingaman.com and click on "Self Help". ...
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| my ex-girlfriend | 10/11/2006 |
Q: yes i understand, but i havent been following her about, it was simply her sister who had called me ...
A: Hey Andy! Just as I said before: start paying attention to and dating other women at the club. ...
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| my ex-girlfriend | 10/11/2006 |
Q: hey, cheers for the advice, except 20mins ago she found out that i had spoken to her mum and dad ...
A: I guess the real question is: do you love her enough to do what you SHOULD do for her? My response ...
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| my ex-girlfriend | 10/11/2006 |
Q: we broke up 2weeks ago, after a year and i love her so much, she hasnt been single since she was 14, ...
A: You need to give her that challenge her mom said she needs: I strongly urge you to start dating some ...
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| my girl doesnt answer me anymore | 10/9/2006 |
Q: so you dont agree with me that i think she was trying to get to know me?that now she thinks im ...
A: No, in fact, I can't say either way! As I mentioned earlier, I don't read people's minds so I can't ...
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| my girl doesnt answer me anymore | 10/8/2006 |
Q: and i think what i did was a littile turn off (who knows maybe big turn off) so thats why she doesnt ...
A: That's fine, but it makes no difference. You still want to proceed by getting scarce. This is ...
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| my girl doesnt answer me anymore | 10/7/2006 |
Q: in a party i overdosed with whiskey in front of my gf i dont know what i did wrong but i did my best ...
A: Stop calling and IM'ing her! Further, stop apologizing to her already! I don't know why she's doing ...
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| A boy who needs a step in the right direction | 10/6/2006 |
Q: {I'm not very confident about talking about this) I've seen this girl. I can't really get her out ...
A: Yes, I do have some tips for you! Here's the most important one first: DO NOT try to impress her! ...
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| Woman interested?? | 10/5/2006 |
Q: I need some tips....I met this gal (for the first time) during a gathering at my place...while ...
A: Wouldn't it be great if women would just come right out and say what they wanted - or didn't? It ...
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| How to get a girl that is going out with someone else. | 10/5/2006 |
Q: ------------------------- I'm not her friend yet. I was asking what to do. So what should I do, ...
A: Then what exactly do you expect me to get from "...and we've become pretty good friends.."??? It ...
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| How to get a girl that is going out with someone else. | 10/4/2006 |
Q: I met this girl, and we've become pretty good friends. The probelm is that she has been dating a ...
A: You're making a HUGE mistake here. You think that by being her "Friend" that when she breaks up with ...
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| What do I do? | 10/4/2006 |
Q: So I'm just a little stuck on something here, don't know if this makes me a bad person or what not ...
A: I can't tell you how many times I've met women where I wished one's personality was in the other's ...
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| Approaching a lady | 10/3/2006 |
Q: How can i build my confidence with ladies? I don't know how to conversate with them
A: There's a mistake most guys have - that confidence is something you "own". It's not. It's something ...
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| Just a Friend or possibly more?? | 10/1/2006 |
Q: I met a girl a couple months ago and we kissed and cuddled for a few hours. I tried get more ...
A: I don't think her original intention was to be "friends", but that's exactly where it is now. This ...
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| new girl | 9/30/2006 |
Q: hey i found this new girl shes in college right now she said she is goin to move over here when she ...
A: Wait until she moves and start building up your chops in the meantime by dating other women. Then, ...
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| How do I get to know her better? | 9/30/2006 |
Q: I'm Dave. Im in 11th grade, and recently I've met a girl who I think would be perfect for me. We are ...
A: Women separate guys into two categories: those that they date and "friends". If your goal is to ...
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| Will I seem over anxious?? | 9/29/2006 |
Q: Is it possible I've misinterpreted any of the signals I thought that I received? It's not like this ...
A: Sure, it's absolutely possible. Women are experts at keeping their real feelings hidden from us ...
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| Will I seem over anxious?? | 9/29/2006 |
Q: Last weekend (a Sunday), I ran into a woman I went to grade school, junior high, and high school ...
A: I'd trust your gut here. If you call her now while she's away, you're going to look to agressive. ...
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| Relationship with my female boss | 9/29/2006 |
Q: Ok, I got it. It's very stupid to pursue this older woman/boss fantasy. I like my job, I love my ...
A: MM! You're absolutely right! I did miss that - my apologies. The first step is to prevent this ...
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| my ex | 9/27/2006 |
Q: every time i try to talk to her she does not want to talk i know she still loves me but its her bf ...
A: No, you're ASSUMING that she still loves you because you still love her. Don't make assumptions - if ...
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| winning back my girl | 9/27/2006 |
Q: Dennis W. Neder I think i should move on pluse in Russia there many butiful girls and geneva....What ...
A: HELL NO! Don't send her the car! You don't owe her anything at this point, and you'll just feel like ...
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| Relationship with my female boss | 9/27/2006 |
Q: I started working at this new company a year ago as an entry level staff. My wife also works at this ...
A: MM! Dude, are YOU walking the line of fire here or what???? What the hell are you thinking? You ...
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| my ex | 9/27/2006 |
Q: i went out with this girl when i was 16 after we broke up we lost contact but we now she has a bf ...
A: You tell her (don't ASK her) to clear up her Friday night (or whenever) and that you and she are ...
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| more like a lack of dating... | 9/26/2006 |
Q: ..well first let me start out by saying that I am only fourteen...which I know sounds like young and ...
A: I'd sure like to know what you define as "normal". Personally, I've never met ANYONE that was ...
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| winning back my girl | 9/26/2006 |
Q: Dennis W i have a problem i was going out with a girl in geneva Switzerland for 3 years we were ...
A: Frankly, there's almost no chance of winning her back. She's right about the long-distance ...
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| Pursuing an old flame? | 9/26/2006 |
Q: About seven years ago, I dated this girl casually for a couple of weeks. I met her through a mutual ...
A: I tell guys this fact all the time: it's easier to steal someone else's girlfriend than to keep one ...
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| How to attract a guy you like | 9/26/2006 |
Q: Neder, Thank you very much for your advice, but it isn't a celebrity, lol. It's a regular person. ...
A: Well, you know what they say - if you want good answers, be able to ask good questions! I don't ...
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| The girl of my DREAMS | 9/22/2006 |
Q: I am a 15 year old and I really like this girl a lot. We talk sometimes, sometimes say hello, and ...
A: By "attract her" do you mean make her so interested in you that she does all your work for you? Not ...
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| How to get her to like me | 9/21/2006 |
Q: Ok well there is this new girl and she likes me and i like her. So i was talking to one of her ...
A: I think I've already answered this question for you. Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder ...
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| How to get her to like me | 9/20/2006 |
Q: ok im a freshman at my highschool and there is this new girl and she is really pretty and nice. So ...
A: You want to be the first guy to break the ice here. If your friend does this first, you're likely to ...
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| an older girl | 9/18/2006 |
Q: I'm 21 years old. This girl that I've been talking to is turning 28 pretty soon, actually turning 28 ...
A: First of all, the age issue isn't an issue at all. It's all in how you handle it. I'd suggest that ...
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| How do i know | 9/16/2006 |
Q: Theres this chick that i know that goes 2 my church and she sends me mixed signals..and im not sure ...
A: Well, you can simply ask her - then you'll know, right? What's that you say? You're afraid that she ...
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| how do i get a girl to like me | 9/15/2006 |
Q: how do i get a girl to like me i cant seem to get a girl to like me.is no tmy look or my job.i think ...
A: This is a mistake I see a lot of guys making - trying to impress women so that they "like them." On ...
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| Black girl | 9/13/2006 |
Q: the problem is that she never tells me thnk you. A friend of mine told me that I should cultivate ...
A: Simple: she's enjoying what she's getting. That doesn't make her feel obligated to give you want YOU ...
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| Black girl | 9/13/2006 |
Q: I am a white man living in venezuela married with two children. In the factory I work in there is a ...
A: If you're not getting any interest signals from this woman what are you doing wasting your ...
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| Dream Women | 9/12/2006 |
Q: Well , I just recently got out of a relationship that lasted 11months and it was very much full of ...
A: First of all, I have no idea why you'd tolerate this sort of abuse. Why do you even take her phone ...
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| I really like this girl | 9/10/2006 |
Q: . well im a freshman in highschool and ive liked this girl at my church 4 about a year she goes 2 my ...
A: First of all, you absolutely need to go read my FAQ's here: http://beingaman.com and then click on ...
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| rings and finters | 9/10/2006 |
Q: There This is not a question directly relate to attracting woman. But I'm curious. First,I'm not ...
A: Unfortunately, I can't explain all the "options" - there are just far too many of them! Let me give ...
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| Approaching her... | 9/7/2006 |
Q: I'm a freshman in college and I noticed this girl sitting in my "Freshman Orientation" Class. My ...
A: You're pointing out a very important point about confidence, but in fact, it's the wrong one! Let ...
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| Women and Sex | 9/6/2006 |
Q: ..my name is Jason and I'm 18 years old. My question is concerning a women and my friend, John. I ...
A: Whenever possible, it's better to work this out beforehand, but in this case you tried and he just ...
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| Homecoming | 9/3/2006 |
Q: I am wondering what kind of things i can do to ask my girl friend to homecomming in a romantic way ...
A: First of all, if you're trying to knock her off her chair with something incredible, I suggest you ...
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| Approaching a girl and asking her out. | 9/3/2006 |
Q: Hey I want to ask this girl out and everytime I see her I chickin out. Se is so beautiful and I have ...
A: To begin, here's what you don't do: you don't wait around until everything is "perfect" because ...
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| first date | 9/2/2006 |
Q: and if i just ask her to the movies and we go r we then considered in a relationship or do i still ...
A: Going to the movies isn't a good first, second or third date. Here's why: you need some "face time" ...
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| asking him out | 9/1/2006 |
Q: theres a new kid at our skool and hes really cute. ive never dated a "popular" boy before, but i ...
A: If you're that scared of rejection, don't do anything - let some other girl that isn't approach him ...
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| Read to know. | 8/30/2006 |
Q: I am Afif have read almost all the questions placed on ypur site think that you are quite helpful so ...
A: Yes, SOME women notice a man's neck, shoulders and palms and some notice other things. This is ...
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| did i ruin my chances??? | 8/30/2006 |
Q: sir, a great looking girl is now in my neighbourhood, what a stupid thing was that i went to her ...
A: Let's see, if I understand what you've said here, you met this girl, stalked, tortured and terrified ...
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| I want to be with this girl.. | 8/26/2006 |
Q: I've had a job as a courier for a few months at my local hospital and my job involves delivering ...
A: There are a lot of complex issues here and I strongly urge you to check out my website for lots of ...
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| i think i love her | 8/26/2006 |
Q: look im 15 im not the best lookin and im a little heavy (just a little not alot) ok i went out wit ...
A: Your looks have very little to do with your success with women. Just because looks are important to ...
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| How to know | 8/26/2006 |
Q: 1. I want to know how can you judge a woman interested in you? 2. I know a girl since last 3 years. ...
A: I'm not a "madam", I'm a "sir", but I'll answer your question anyway! 1) To be honest, this is ...
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