Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 4/4/2007

Question
QUESTION: so how do i get over the stress and anxiety of walking up to a random attractive girl in any situation and get to dating her... after that im pretty good i think.... but the stages up until that are really scary and confusing... like how do i know if she's single, if she'll want to talk to me, if im going to come off as "Creepy" or most importantly what to say to show that im interested and how to get her interested in finding out more about me? anyways if u can answer some or all of those that would be great... thank you
John
ANSWER: Hello John!

Actually, that's a very large question! I teach entire seminars (and have them on DVD) that deal with just this topic! I'll try to give you some information, but I strongly urge to you check out my materials for the complete answer.

The very first thing you need is an education. Right now, you're anxious over the approach simply because you don't konw what to do! (Duh!) When you know the right steps and more important WHY they are the right steps, you're not going to fear approaching women ever again. It's that simple.

Let me assure you of this: approaching women is actually a ton of fun! I do it all the time and (if you'll pardon my arrogance) I'm so good at it that I even get numbers from married women! Now, my goal isn't to break up families and I don't date married women, but let me assure you that the methods are so strong that even women with boyfriends and husbands want to shove their numbers into your hands. My "hit rate" is right at 98%. That means that out of 100 approaches, I'll get numbers and more, 98 times. You can do this too!

The keys to the approach are rather simple, but it's not about memorizing a few dumb lines. It's knowing WHY they work in order to be able to adjust them on the fly. Also, knowing where to go (and where NOT to go) to meet women is an important element as are a handful of other things.

You can break the approach down into just a few main elements: It's about knowing:

1) What YOU want
2) Where to find the women that fit what you want
3) How to make the initial approach and "break the ice"
4) How to quickly develop rapport and connection (that is, to touch women deeply and profoundly)
5) How to "close" for numbers, dates or sex
6) How to "convert" from a number to the first date, from the first date to other dates, from dating to sex, from sex to relationships, etc.
7) How to handle issues at varous stages

John, the real problem here is that so few people actually teach this information from their own experience! You know why? Very few actually KNOW it! I can't tell you how many guys simply read a few things and then re-word what they've read and claim ownership of it. Then, when you ask them why something is true, they don't know! As I've said before, it's the WHY that's most important - NOT the "what" at all.

You're on the right path here however. You're asking the right questions, but now you need to make some concerted, directed effort into getting the answers.

What you're going to find is that this "game" is really fun and that you no longer have to worry about anxiety at all. All you need are a few tools.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
President
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Remington Publications
818.334.8826
www.beingaman.com
Publishers of "Being a Man in a Woman's World I & II"


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QUESTION: so u basicly cycled me an ad for your book? how bout a few honest tips like answering #5 "how to close" and if i like ur advice ill definitly buy whatever you're selling? but why dont u convince me by explaining one step in your methods first plz?
ANSWER: Hello again John!

As I said before, that is an extremely large question with many things you have to understand. I can't re-write every page of my books here just for you! Why don't you ask me to give you just a few tips on open-heart surgery or something? Even worse, a few tips (the "whats") doesn't tell you what you really need to know (the "whys"). I'm not here to sell you on my books, CD's and DVD's. If you want to know, go seek them out. If you don't, just keep doing what you're already doing.

Here's the tip for #5: ask. There, does that help? Of course not! It doesn't tell you all the OTHER things you need to know such as the fact that you never "ask" for a number - you TELL her to give you the number. More important it doesn't tell you WHY this is so in order for you to change it up for each case you run into!

John, if all you're looking for is a short, quick non-answer, please be my guest and feel free to ask any other "expert" on this board. When you're ready to really learn how this game is played let me know.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
President
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Remington Publications
818.334.8826
www.beingaman.com
Publishers of "Being a Man in a Woman's World I & II"


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QUESTION: well i did ask a couple of other experts the same question and one did write me about 3 pages of hella good info that i have already put to good use... the thing is ppl are not looking for self help books or Cd's or whatever... they are looking for quick advice to get them back on track... thats all... so you may have many good techniques but you should be able to sum them up and then if needed you can go into greater detail later but what u explain in ur sales pitch doesn't instill any confidence in me at all that you can even get a lady to like u for you... just for who u pretend to be which is not the help im looking for and lets be real... pretending to be someone else is not gonna help anyone... if this is all u know then dont advertise at a dating expert... just as a casual sex expert because u will never get anything more with your approaches.  

Answer
Hello again John!

Thanks for your comments.

No, I'm afraid you're wrong. Most people understand the real value of information and education. When you ask such large, broad questions, it's obvious that you don't have anywhere to start. You are exactly the kind of guy that SHOULD be seeking out this sort of information, but seem to think that everyone else (and their time) exist only for your benefit.

I'm afraid that you're ignorant of the realities. If "just being yourself" really worked, you'd have women all over you! After all, you've just "been yourself" your entire life. The problem is that 99% of the advice I see written here is of this sort - it feels good, but frankly is just wrong. Even worse yet, many simply play to your mistaken belief that all of this is just obvious. Then, they throw out a few "tips" that pander to this and wind up doing further damage - not helping. How do I know this? Simple: I get letters (both private a public) from people almost every day that tell me so!

John, I encourage you to find whatever works for you, but I strongly suggest that you do a little research before you accept any advice from anyone - including me. I don't cheat anyone that comes to me for help by just throwing out a few cheap tips when it's obvious that the person needs greater help; but then, you get what you pay for.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
President
~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.
Remington Publications
818.334.8826
www.beingaman.com
Publishers of "Being a Man in a Woman's World I & II"