Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 12/20/2007

Question
Hey how you doin? Well theres this girl. me and her are going out. well first off, when we werent going out we talked and laughed and stofe. but when we started it all got ultra serious and stuff. now its hard to get her to talk and i dont know whats goin on. yea we talk but not as we use to ya know. the other day i came from behind her and wrapped my arms around her,, and she laid her head back. i was gonna shoot in for a kiss but.... nope wasnt right i guess. and now shes leaving to texas for now for sometime and i really wanted to kiss her before she left. what should i do when she comes back. she'll be back a couple days before new years i think. how would i shoot in for the right kiss?

Answer
Hello Jordan!

Why haven't you kissed her before now? Are you looking for a relationship with this girl or just a friendship? The difference is the kiss!

Frankly, you should have done this a long time ago. I actually teach my students one way to accomplish this (and to move the relationship forward) is to use the "opening kiss".

This is a great technique and works like this:

The very first moment you see her after a day or so, walk right up to her, don't say a word, take her gently by the shoulders and pull her slightly off-balance. Then, gently kiss her on the lips. Make it dry (no tongue!) and let it linger just a little too long. Then, set her up-right again and go on like nothing happened.

Not only would this knock her socks off, but her head would be spinning! Further, you'll have gotten the first kiss out of the way and be moving towards more than just a friendship.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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