Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 9/16/2006

Question
Theres this chick that i know that goes 2 my church and she sends me mixed signals..and im not sure if she likes me or not
im a freshman in highschool and i want 2 know how can i find out if she likes me or not

Answer
Hello Jak!

Well, you can simply ask her - then you'll know, right? What's that you say? You're afraid that she may not tell you the truth, or that you may not believe her answer?

You see, women are experts at hiding their real feelings; not that they always do this intentionally. Many just send such subtle signals that it's difficult for us guys to figure them out!

What you're asking for is a sure-fire way of knowing without question whether a girl is interested in you or not, and thereby not taking any risks if you ask her out. That, my friend, is not reality! There are always risks in any aspect of dating and relationships.

Here's the good news: it often doesn't matter whether she's interested in you or not! You can actually generate that interest simply by learning how this game is played.

Here's what I recommend: go talk to her. Don't ask her if she likes you, just tell her that you want to get to know her better and to give you her phone number. Then, you can call her one day and the two of you can get together.

What you're doing here is "interviewing her" to find out if she's really someone that YOU'D be interested in - not the other way around! Do you see how this works? In effect, it takes almost all the pressure off of you.

Then, when you get together with her, find out what she's all about. Ask her about herself, her beliefs, her feelings, her goals, her past, etc. Then, if you like what you hear, you can set up a second date.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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