Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 2/27/2007

Question
What if they break up? Should I then give it sometime and then try to attract the girl?

If that happens how can I attract her? Or if that doesn't happen how can I attract another girl that I like?

Basically how can I attract a girl?
-------------------------------------------
The text above is a follow-up to ...

-----Question-----
Well I've liked this girl for about 3 months now. The thing is that I don't think she likes me. She is dating one of my friends and the moment and I don't want to do anything to stop my friendship with her boyfriend or cause a hate thing.

How can I attract her so she could come out of the relationship or maybe not even come out, but like me more than her boyfriend?
Were pretty good friends and we talk a lot, I try not to show that I like her. Her boyfriend says that she likes me more than she likes him, I find this hard to believe but I think the relationship with her boyfriend is more physical than anything. However their isn't anything wrong with the boyfriend.

Doc, I just wanna know how can I attract her?
-----Answer-----
Hello James!

Wait a minute. This guy is your "friend" and you're scamming on his girlfriend??? What in the hell kind of "friend" are you? Not a very good one if you ask me.

James, women are a dime-a-dozen. Trust me. Don't harm your friendships over some girl. Your buddies are far more important than girls are - if you take care of them. That means that you've got his back and he'll have yours. If you break down that trust you'll never have male friends watching out for you.

You'll have your male friends for life and they'll understand everything you're going through. They'll be there for you when you really need them, but not if they think you're going to go after their girlfriends. Worse yet, once your other buddies get the idea that you're a low-life, they'll avoid you too.

Seriously, go find another girl that your friends aren't dating. If they're your friends, you owe them this, trust me.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
President
~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.
Remington Publications
818.334.8826
www.beingaman.com
Publishers of "Being a Man in a Woman's World I & II"  

Answer
Hello again James!

No, you should forget this girl. She's off-limits to you unless you break up the friendship first.

Your question about "how to attract a girl" is far too broad to answer here. I've written 2 books (and am working on a 3rd), recorded CD's, DVD's written over 500 articles on it and continue to produce more material on this question. There's no way I can reproduce all of that for you right here!

James, I strongly urge you to read the books! If you want to really learn how to "attract women" (which, in fact, you DO NOT do!) then, get some education behind you. It's actually very easy once you understand how women think and feel - and your place in their world.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
President
~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.
Remington Publications
818.334.8826
www.beingaman.com
Publishers of "Being a Man in a Woman's World I & II"