Expert: PracticalHappiness.com - 1/8/2007

Question
I am 41 she is 33 with 2 children each from our previous marriages.

I think I lost respect for reasons unknows, she simply stopped being
interested in my points of view. since she left, i have begged her to com back
and try and resolve the problems she fet in our marriage, to the point she
even laughed at me when i got upset.
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-----Question-----
I met a lovely woman 4 years ago, we dated and she left in all, 3 times, I
begged her to come back each time and we eventually married. We were
inseperable. She has now left again, blaming me again, totally, listing little
things I do that annoy her. She also said I didn't get on well enough with her
2 children from her first marriage, there were some problems, but not major.
Somehow she has lost respect for me and does't seem to appreciate
everything we had. I met her last week by chance and I broke down in front of
her (not helped.) Is there a way I can get her to see me in a new light and save
our mariage. If not, waht is the best way to show her what she has thrown
away and what she is missing. I love her so so much and wish we could just
talk our problems through but she appears uninterested in this and is
pushing for divorce.
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Hey, Jack. Thanks for your question, and I am sorry about the situation.
Before I can answer this question, I need a little more details:

1. How old are you and how old is she?  

2. What exact things you think you were doing that made her lose respect in
you?  

Thanks, and I look forward to following up.

Arkady Itkin
www.PracticalHappiness.com

Answer
Hey, Jack. I am sorry to say this, but it sounds like you are better off to move on. The reality is that YOU CANNOT CONVINCE A WOMAN INTO WANTING TO BE WITH YOU. Sometimes women lose respect and attraction for guys because these men become passive, overly agreeable, overly accommodating, don't take charge, and otherwise less masculine. Sometimes, attraction of a woman fades away for other reasons that are not always possible to explain.  

In any even, try to convince a woman to want to be with you is pointless and makes a man even less attractive. I am sorry to sound so harsh, but this is just the reality of the dynamics of attraction.  

Start focusing on other things in your life and other women. I know it's easier said than done, but with time and effort, you will handle it and liberate yourself from pain.  

Sincerely,

Arkady Itkin
www.PracticalHappiness.com